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End of the Road

15 Nov

We make millions of decisions as we go through our lives.  Every decision has a result and takes us somewhere.  Sometimes those destinations and consequences are exactly what we’re hoping for, and other times we may end up somewhere we don’t want to be.  It’s sometimes easy to see where the road before us is headed and may be obvious which way we should go.  But roads aren’t always straight and where they lead may be difficult to see from the beginning.  We can objectively look at them and try to discern where they are headed to make the best choice going forward.  If we’re in a hurry to decide or feel pressure to choose we may begin forward without taking the time we need to be sure of where we’re going.  If we’re angry and impetuous we might choose a direction without thought and end up somewhere we never wanted to go.  Every decision has a result and we are accountable for every destination we reach.  What we do today may have an intense impact on what we face tomorrow.  It’s important to take the time we need to evaluate all the options before us and make sure we choose roads that will take us where we really want to go.  All our dreams can come true if we plan for them and prepare the way forward.  If we’re not getting closer to the goals we desire we can change our course and redirect the way forward.  We are in control of our lives and every choice we make designs the lives we have.  It’s all up to us and with careful thought we can go anywhere we desire and make all our dreams come true.

We all face times of conflict when situations don’t go well and we may feel angry or upset.  If we act in ways that bring disharmony, the ramifications of our behavior may impact the days ahead.  If we are rude and mean to those around us we may find ourselves alone when we need support.  If we are manipulative and dishonest others will learn they cannot trust us, and it may be difficult to build relationships.  We can do things that bring us loneliness and sorrow, or companionship and happiness.  Everything we do has a consequence and if we’re careful and thoughtful those consequences will be exactly what we’re hoping for.

The decisions of those around us may impact our lives unexpectedly.  Someone near us may make a choice that brings problems to everyone around them.  We interact with others but can only control the decisions we make.  If we must endure negative consequences because of situations out of our control we can walk through them with confidence staying true to our personal values.  We can clear the way forward step by step and adjust our trajectory toward the direction we want to go.

Today if you’re dealing with complications from decisions you’ve made in the past and are unhappy with where you are, take the time you need to determine how to move forward.  Decide where you want to go and make decisions that will take you closer as you move ahead.  Every destination is reachable and you can do anything you desire.  Create the life you want the most and you’ll find every happiness you seek.  You can accomplish anything.  Go forward with confidence and clarity, and you’ll reach every goal.

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Being the Lion

30 Oct

“Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear.”  Mark Twain

We will face all kinds of obstacles and problems as we navigate through our lives.  We might face a time when what lies before us is daunting, intimidating, or even terrifying, and we may be unsure we can move forward.  Fear is a natural response when we don’t know what will happen or the situation is out of our control and yet has power over us.  It is not a weakness but a tool to help us understand our situation clearly.  It warns us and alerts us to possible dangers ahead, and we can use it to courageously find the way forward.  Nobody will get through their lives without experiencing fear from time to time.  It’s normal and natural and we can take control when it comes.  Stepping back from the situation and seeing it objectively will help us understand where we are and discern our options moving forward.  Courage is always there deep within us and we can access it, use it, and embrace it to help us walk through anything that comes.  No matter how frightening the situation, there is an answer.  There is a resolution to every problem we face.  We can take a breath, look at where we are and assess the best way forward.  Taking time to think will enable us to employ the courage deep within us and help us find our way.  There isn’t anything we can’t do and no problem too intense for us resolve.  We are braver than we think we are and have everything we need to overcome anything.  We can use fear to teach us and guide us, and then do what is needed to take the next step.

If we try to keep our lives small and limit our exposure to others things may be more predictable but that will not keep us from facing difficult times.  There will always be other people coming in and out of our lives, influencing what happens by their decisions.  We can only control what we do and it’s impossible to totally eliminate the influence of others in our lives.  When that influence brings uncertainty and fear, we can still step forward and do what is best for us.  We are always in control and nothing will keep us in place.

If we suffer from panic and worry we may believe we cannot overcome very difficult situations.  What we think will impact how we act.  We can be confident enough to understand that no matter what comes to us we have everything we need to find our way through.  There really is no situation too difficult or complex for us to unravel and overcome.  We have enough wisdom and courage to do anything.  Nothing is too strong or difficult for us to figure out.  We can be courageous and find the success we seek

Today if you’re in a situation that is intimidating and difficult and you aren’t sure you can manage it, call on the courage deep within you.  You already possess everything you need to succeed and there is nothing too complex for you to overcome.  Be confident.  You are wise and strong.  Go forward with certainty that you will win.  Success is there for you and you will reach it.

Owning It

26 Sep

Nobody is perfect and although we try to get things exactly right, sometimes we falter. There are a million reasons why our plans may go awry and many of them may be out of our control. When things go wrong and we don’t want to look foolish, we may look for someone or something else to blame. We can blame anything we desire for what went wrong but nothing will ever change the truth. If we’ve made an error, and our best laid plans have failed and the whole thing went up in smoke, we own it. Blaming everyone else will never solve the issue and pushing the responsibility off will never change what happened. Things sometimes go wrong and we stumble. It happens to us all and when it does, the best we can do is step up and take responsibility for our actions. There isn’t anything so disastrous we can’t face and find a way around. When we own our actions, even when they blow up in our faces, those around us will learn they can trust us to be truthful and honest. Facing our lives as they are and continuing to move forward will bring us greater confidence and clarity. We are strong and capable and if we fall we can get right back up again. Life is filled with challenges and problems. We have everything we need to find the best answers and continue on. Success is always available to us and we will find our way to it.

Nobody can read the future and know everything that will happen ahead of time. If we plan well and do everything we can to ensure a good outcome, and still things don’t work out, we can try again. We have unlimited chances for most things we face in life. There is rarely only one time we can make a decision for any challenge or issue we’re facing. If the first choice doesn’t work, we can choose again. If there is a timing issue, or we need more information, or something out of our control changes unexpectedly and things go awry we can alter our course going forward. We are resilient and intelligent enough to find another path ahead until we reach the desired goal.

It’s okay to make mistakes. They don’t mean we can’t choose well or succeed. We make decisions based on information available to us at the time. If we don’t have all the facts or there are complications of which we are unaware, we might choose a path that fails. But failing does not mean the end of the journey. It’s just a detour we can navigate around. There are endless bumps and complications in life but no matter what we face we can see our way around it and reach our destination. There is nothing too strong for us to overcome or powerful enough to stop us. We will continue on and succeed.

Today if your plans have fallen apart and nothing has worked out like you anticipated, instead of blaming others find another way ahead. There are endless roads to every destination. Look at all your options and choose the best way forward. There isn’t anything you can’t do. You know where you want to go. Chart a new course and begin again. Success is always there for you and you have everything you need to achieve it.

Looking Closely

7 Jun

In our lives when things go wrong sometimes it’s because of the decisions of others or circumstances that evolve we can’t control. Sometimes it’s because we’re in the wrong place at the wrong time and sometimes it’s because of decisions we’ve made that have brought hardship to us. When we’re struggling and unhappy we may look for someone or something outside ourselves to blame but it’s important to also look closely at our personal decisions and see if they had an impact on our situation. There are always many influences around us that may coax us into making choices that take us away from where we want to be. Those choices may bring us hardship and discomfort. We own our lives and can make them any way we want them and every decision we make can either take us to the goals we seek and bring us happiness or push us further away down a road we don’t want to travel. When we’re on the wrong road we may feel unhappy and unsettled but it’s always in our power to change course and align our way forward to where we most want to go. We all experience hardship from time to time and when it comes it’s important to look closely at why we’re struggling. If we need to change direction we can. If we need to change our focus we can. We deserve every happiness and we can have it if we choose the paths that are best for us personally and what we truly want.

It’s easy to coast through our lives and simply do what others expect of us, ignoring our personal desires and get through our days with minimal effort. We can live in a dream state for as long as we wish, going through the motions and acting like we’re happy. True happiness doesn’t just come to us. We must work for it and direct our lives toward it. It requires us to determine what we really want and then do what is needed to gain it. We already know what we want most and have everything we need to achieve it. If we apply ourselves to gaining our personal goals we can do amazing things and reach every destination we desire.

Lots of people have lots of ideas about how life should be lived. We all have personal opinions about how things should be done and where we should go. If we allow others to choose our paths going forward we will get the lives they design for us and not the lives we want for ourselves. It’s impossible to be truly happy living someone else’s version of our lives. We have all the wisdom and confidence we need to choose what is best for us and determine our personal destiny. We know ourselves perfectly and can decide what we want to do and where we want to go. When we take control of our decisions we can accomplish every goal we set out to achieve and find real and lasting success.

Today if you’ve been going along with what others feel is best for you, think about what you want most in your life. Look at your choices closely and decide how you want to go forward. Be yourself and choose your own way. Your life will be exactly how you want it and you will find real and lasting happiness.

Making the Cut

22 May

When we’re trying to move forward to accomplish something we really want to achieve we may face many obstacles.  As they come, others may say we aren’t smart enough, strong enough, wise enough or frankly just not good enough to get through.  When we don’t move forward the way we think we should we may feel they are right.  We can push forward toward any dream we want but there may be times when things stand in our way.  We never know the whole story when we’re starting out.  There are few journeys without complications, detours, setbacks or problems.  If they are continuous we may feel we can’t do it, we can’t make the cut and get to the prize.  Life is filled with uncertainty.  Things change constantly.  People get involved who may complicate the road forward and we may tire of pressing through problems.  If we let the complications become personal we may believe we are failures and can’t win and if our confidence is compromised we may be convinced.  The way to a happy life is doing the things that mean the most to us.  We’ve proven again and again that we can achieve what we desire.  We can find our way around any problem we face and with enough determination we can achieve anything.  We always make the cut when we persevere.  We have everything we need to succeed and nothing can stop us from getting to the goal.

Some people aren’t interested in learning new things, don’t want to advance down the road and are content staying in the same place.  If we have someone like that in our lives they may discourage us from trying.  They may say it’s too hard and we should be happy where we are.  They may even try to do things to keep us from moving forward.  We can hear their advice and then do what is best for us.  We own our lives and are in control of where they go and what we do.  Taking control and doing what we want most will bring us happiness and satisfaction.

Some roads have a lot of bumps and detours.  The higher the hill the harder it is to climb.  If we are striving for greatness the path may be complicated and difficult but we can navigate it with persistence and patience.  There is no road that can’t be traveled.  We always have everything we need to succeed.  Each step we take forward will take us closer to the prize.  It doesn’t matter how hard it is to get there or how long it takes.  What matters is that we continue forward until we reach it.  We are more capable and stronger than we think we are and we can do anything we desire.  There is nothing out of reach.

Today if you’ve been pushing hard toward a goal you want to reach and it seems everything is standing in your way, keep looking ahead.  Focus on the path forward and continue moving closer to your destination.  Complications are there to show what doesn’t work and you will find your way.  Persevere and you will find success.  There isn’t anything you can’t do.  You are amazing, capable and strong, and worth more than you can imagine.  Keep going.  You will win.

Finding David

28 Apr

We’ve probably all heard the story of David and Goliath. David was a normal sized man who came up against Goliath, a mean and vicious giant. Goliath tried to kill David and if were only a matter of size and strength would have succeeded. But David was skilled with a slingshot and in the midst of being pursued, sent a rock sailing through the air that hit Goliath in the head and killed him. When we think about this story we may marvel at David’s ability to keep his wits about him while being chased by a murdering giant, and being able to steady himself enough to make the shot that saved his life. While it’s unlikely we will ever be in the same sort of circumstance, we may face times in our lives when we feel we are being pursued or overtaken by something far bigger than we are that is threatening and making us afraid and unsure. It might a person who has power over us or a situation we can’t control. Whatever the threat, we may feel it’s too big for us to overcome. No matter what the issue or how powerful the other players are, we always have choices about what we will do. We can run and hide if we decide the fight is too strong but hiding from our problems will never solve them. We can pretend the issue isn’t a big deal and look the other way, but ignoring issues doesn’t solve them either. In the end, the only way to address whatever is disturbing our peace is to face it head on. Like David, we have to stop and turn around, and look right at the head of the problem. There isn’t any issue too hard for us to face and solve. We have enough courage and wisdom to manage anything that comes. We can find the David within us, face our problems, consider our options and find the way forward that brings us success.

There are some people who want to control others and situations. They need to have the final say, they demand their way be honored and they want to be in charge of where things are going. When we must work with them we may find it hard to be heard and if we push against them, they may aggressively constrict our efforts and exert pressure upon us. If we strongly believe in our views we may struggle with them before decisions are reached. Although it may be uncomfortable to disagree, our opinions are valuable and we deserve to be heard. We can state our case and press for what is important. We have all the strength and courage we need to proceed and win.

We may face a painful situation where we have little or no control over the outcome. If there is nothing we can do to mitigate the problem we may need to simply endure. It’s hard to wait through hard times when we have no control. But even as we wait we can exercise the courage to be still, and the wisdom to listen. If our only option is to endure well, we can still choose the best course forward and succeed.

Today if you’re facing a threatening situation and you feel apprehensive, find the David within you. You have all the courage you need to face anything you must. Reach for it and be strong. You are secure and capable. Look ahead, aim high, and push forward. There is nothing too big for you to overcome.

True Competition

25 Apr

There are all kinds of ways to compare ourselves to the world. We can determine how we measure up to performance standards we admire, notions of beauty we desire, levels of success we strive for and thousands of other ideas. Although we may compare ourselves with others, our true competition is within ourselves. It doesn’t matter what anyone else achieves, how much they acquire, or what they define as success. We are the ones who determine what success is in our lives. If we emulate someone else’s achievements we may get closer to the goal we’re seeking but our personal success is unique to us. We must define true accomplishment in our own lives. Each of us has specific and unique talents and gifts we bring to the world. We will not find success by trying to give the world something we don’t possess. Understanding who we are and what gifts we offer will help us find our way to the lives we want most. We don’t need to compare ourselves against the accomplishments of others. We may set our own goals and standards and achieve them our own way. The world may set all kinds of ideals for what it defines as success, but true success comes when we give our best, no matter the outcome. We are the only ones who can truly judge our performance. We are our true competition.

There are a lot of ideas and opinions about what success looks like. Some believe it’s a reflection of material possessions and the more we have the more successful we are. Others think it has to do with power and having control over many people. Still others equate it only with money with the goal to have a lot of it. But we define what true success is in our lives. There is no success greater than doing our best to live the lives we most want. We determine what that looks like and only we can decide if we are accomplishing the goal. Our competition lies within us and the choices we make every day. What others think really doesn’t matter.

We live with ourselves every single day. There is no way to escape the choices we make or the decisions we choose. If we aren’t living in ways that bring us satisfaction and happiness we can change. True happiness is available to everyone but we must make decisions needed to bring it to us. We can compare ourselves to everyone around us, to what others think we should do, and try to model our lives after examples we admire. But real happiness will only come when we do what is best for us. We don’t have to compete with what others define as successful. We can define it for ourselves.

Today if you’ve been trying to measure up to someone else’s ideas and competing with those around you, remember only you know what makes you happy. Make choices that bring you the personal successes you seek. You know the perfect path forward. Choose it, and you will find joy as you move forward. Every success you desire will become a reality. Real happiness is there for you and you can have it.