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Not Shrinking

23 Jun

We all face millions of situations as we go through our lives. Unless we live on a desert island alone and isolated, chances are there are people all around us and at some point someone is going to annoy, anger, or irritate us in some way. We’re all different and those differences can sometimes cause conflict, which can sometimes become intense and if we’re tired of defending ourselves, we may choose to go on the offensive. There is nothing wrong with standing up for ourselves and stating our positions plainly and clearly to those around us. If we feel empowered and safe, we may stand strong even if we are the only one on our side. But if the others are more powerful than we are, or carry more influence, when things go wrong and we’re on the outside, we might decide to shrink back and stay quiet instead of speaking up. Silence may keep us from the fray for now, but going along simply to get along may not work out for us in the long run. Remaining quiet can be interpreted as agreement, and we might find ourselves in situations we never wanted because we didn’t say something at the beginning. We’re all entitled to our own opinions and beliefs, and we can be confident that even if our ideas are very different from those around us, they are worthwhile and can be expressed. Everyone sees things from their own perspective and through the filters they have gained by their own experiences. We may see things in a unique way that opens up new possibilities not previously considered. Confidently and clearly sharing our views will add great depth and richness to any discussion or plan. We are intelligent and capable, and have greatness inside us. We know what we want and have what we need to get it. We can step forward toward the goals we desire most and be sure of success.

If there is disagreement and someone becomes angry and attacks us, our first instinct might be to attack back. They started it, and we’re going to finish it. Well we can certainly do anything we like but contention added to contention will never bring peace. We don’t have to sit quietly and allow anyone to run us over and destroy us, but we can maintain our composure and answer them with clarity and confidence. Yelling will only make the situation more difficult. No matter what the issue is, there will be a compromise possible. We can be calm even in conflict and find the answers we need to resolve the situation and then move forward.

It’s hard to stand up to someone who has a lot of power and control. If they come for us and are loud and angry, we may wish to disappear or in some magical way be able to escape without them noticing. Feeling threatened doesn’t mean we are weak, and we need not shrink from the challenge. We are stronger than we imagine. We don’t have to be loud in return, and speaking quietly will cause those around us to step closer and listen more carefully. We are powerful and wise, and with patience and resolve can face any situation with courage and strength.

Today if you’re in a difficult situation with conflict and trouble, remember how powerful you are. You are stronger and wiser than you think and nothing can overcome you. Stand strong and be clear. You are valuable and a great asset to the world. Be confident and trust yourself. Nobody has the gifts you have to offer and we’re all blessed because you are here.

Volcano

26 Oct

Life is complicated and we never know what will happen next. Sometimes just as we’re sailing along and everything is fine, something happens and everything changes. We may be able to control ourselves and keep our cool when the rug is suddenly pulled out from under us, but there may be simmering distrust and resentment after the fact. If someone we rely on doesn’t come through as promised, or worse, leaves us hanging without notice, we may be able to continue on but the bad feelings from being abandoned may persist. Volcanos erupt when their chambers are full of magma and pressure builds beyond what they can contain. At the moment when it all becomes too much, the ash and lava that has been pressing against their cap will burst forth. When we face serious setbacks, and hold in how we really feel, never expressing our frustration, the weight of disappointment may build until there is a tipping point when we let loose, and completely blow our stack. It’s impossible to carry unresolved conflict forever, and eventually we’ll have to express what is holding us down. If we’ve carried resentment and anger for a long time, the moment of release may be intense and extreme. Like a volcano erupting, we might spew forth outrage without restraint. Although we may feel better after letting it all go, there may be collateral damage from our uncontrolled release. We are in control of our lives and instead of holding in our true feelings, can face them as things arise. We can talk about what’s bothering us and look for resolution before the situation spirals out of control. We have all the courage and wisdom we need to face anything we must, and can be confident in our ability to resolve conflict before it goes too far.

If there is someone we admire and want to impress, and they do something that is offensive, we may remain silent for fear of alienating them. We can ignore trouble as long as we like, but problems rarely solve themselves without effort. Looking the other way doesn’t change the facts, and hiding from the truth will never make it disappear. We are brave enough to speak up and address any difficult issue. By standing firm and clearly stating how we feel, we will be empowered and strengthened. We already have everything we need to move forward, and nothing can keep us from success.

We’re all entitled to make our own decisions and can choose anything we like. Our choices are unique to us. We may not agree with those around us, and we never have to stay in any situation that makes us uncomfortable. Instead of going along and trying to keep quiet, we can step away and change direction. By choosing what we want the most, we will find great satisfaction and happiness as we move forward.

Today if you’ve been holding in how you really feel, remember your voice is important. Speak up and let others know where you stand. Every destination you desire is possible, and you are strong enough and wise enough to reach them all. Stand strong and be confident. Success is always there for you, and you will make it yours.

Another Day

29 May

Life is long and we may spend decades here on earth experiencing one thing and another. Every day brings something new, and no matter how old we are, or how far we’ve traveled, we will never see everything or comprehend all there is to know. Every life is different, and are the expression of choices we make. We may choose a simple life where we don’t venture too far from what is familiar, or we might be adventurous, always pushing the limits of what we can do and where we can go. Our lives are ours to design but no matter what we choose, each day when the sun rises, what we accomplish is up to us. It’s a new beginning with boundless possibilities and nothing is out of reach. We might think the life we have now is fixed, and where we are is where we’re destined to stay, but that will never be true. Just because we’ve been in the same place for a while, doesn’t mean we have to stay there indefinitely. If we’re happy where we are, we can stay there and continue on. But if we want something more, we can look at all the options available, which are endless, and make another choice. We are never restricted in place, and can change anything at any time. We don’t need permission or agreement to design our own lives any way we like. Every single day is an enormous gift. It’s ours to live and we can choose any path, and any destination we like. Nothing is off limits. If we’re willing to do what is necessary to get there, we can have the lives we dream about. Everything is possible. We already know what we want. We are smart enough and have all the courage we need to achieve anything we desire. By stepping forward with clarity and confidence, we can go anywhere, and do anything.

It’s easy to live on auto-pilot. We can simply go through the motions, get our tasks done, and take things as they come. We can sit in the back seat, and let those around us decide what we’ll do and where we’ll go. It’s certainly easier to let others make our decisions, but if we don’t control our lives, we will never do what we desire most. Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. The smartest person in the world will never have any idea what we really want. By taking control of our decisions and choosing the roads we’ll travel, we can achieve any goal, and go anywhere.

Others may have opinions about how we should live our lives. If we want to change, they may tell us we’re fine where we are, and encourage us to continue doing what we’re doing. Opinions belong to those who have them, and never have control over us. We never have to conform to someone else’s ideas or follow those around us. We can chart our own course, and move toward any goal we desire. All options are there for us, and we can do anything. We can make all our dreams come true, and achieve complete happiness.

Today, think about what you want the most and make a plan to get there. Take the first step toward your dreams, and move forward with confidence. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing is too far to reach. Trust yourself. Nothing can keep you from success. Take the first step forward, and every dream will be yours.

Steering

29 Mar

Life is filled with unlimited possibilities. There are countless roads we can travel and nothing is out of reach if we are determined to get there. Each decision we make alters our course a little and if we carefully consider the destination we want to reach we can steer our lives toward it and find success. But life is complicated and there are all kinds of people coming in and out of our daily experiences. Each one brings their own interpretations about the road ahead and we may be influenced by their impressions and opinions. We may get caught up in someone else’s goals and instead of staying on our own course, follow them. Their path may be on the same trajectory as the road we want to travel or it may take us far away from where we really want to go. When we admire someone or they have power over us in some way their influence may pull us away from our personal goals. We can follow anyone we desire but if we forsake the road we most want to travel we will not reach our destination. We are the ones driving the train in our lives. We own every decision we make. If we steer our course away from where we want to go we are responsible for where we end up. We can’t blame anyone for the choices we make. If we find ourselves somewhere we never intended to go, we can go back and re-route our course. Our lives belong to us and we can do anything we desire. Happiness comes from traveling the roads that take us to the destinations we want the most. It’s all up to us. There is nothing out of reach and we can go anywhere but we have to be in control to get there.

Lots of people may have opinions about our lives and what we should do. They may tell us they know how we can find success or give us directions that worked for them. They may have good advice for us but we are the only ones who know what we truly want. We can listen to everything we receive and make decisions based on what we want most. What is right for someone else may not fit our true desires.   Every decision we make will take us somewhere. We have everything we need to choose the roads that will lead to the destination we want and find success.

There may be times when someone close to us tries to control the decisions we make. They may feel we aren’t do things as well as they could and try to help by taking over. We are in charge of our lives and we need never relinquish our power over where we go or what we do. We are capable of finding success in our own personal way. There isn’t a road we can’t travel and nothing is too far away. We can take our time and do things our way. We are capable of great success and nothing can keep us from it.

Today if you’ve been steering your course away from the road you really want to travel, change direction and correct the way forward. Every destination is there for you and you can do what is needed to reach it. Be confident in your decisions and trust your instincts. You know what you need and where you want to go. The whole world is there for you. You can do anything and nothing is too far to reach. Press forward and you will find success.

Never Happened

16 Jan

Life has a lot of ups and downs and nobody gets a free pass from problems. Things go wrong and we may have to change what we’re doing, where we’re going, or how we’re moving forward. There are unlimited possibilities for complications and detours, and rarely will the road ahead be without some sort of compromise. When there is something very important to us or someone we really want in our lives and the situation changes in unexpected, sometimes disastrous ways, it can be difficult to accept. If the thought of letting go of a dream is too devastating to face, we may decide to ignore what has happened and pretend everything is fine. Denial only makes acceptance impossible and when we refuse to accept what is real we are living in a dream state. It is better to understand whatever reality we are living, even if we must adjust our plans, and find our way through. There isn’t anything too difficult for us to manage, and we can face any disappointment and continue forward. Sometimes things don’t work out. Sometimes we are going to lose and when that happens, despite the disappointment and sorrow, we can find our way. There will always be another step we can take, and there will always be another road to travel. We can accept whatever comes and still find success. We have everything we need to be happy. Nothing is powerful enough to hold us back.

Love is a powerful emotion. When we love someone, we want to be near them and share our lives with them. If they feel the same about us we may find great joy in our interactions with them. But it’s possible to fall in love with someone who doesn’t return our affections. It can be heartbreaking to realize our fondest dreams of them will not be realized. If we must walk away from a relationship we want badly it may be hard to find our footing. But there is always another road ready for us. We can accept what is real, face the situation openly, and find success going forward.

When our lives take a difficult unexpected turn and it’s hard to face the changes before us, the temptation to stay in place may be strong. We may convince ourselves that if we stay where we are things will change, and despite what has happened, everything will work out the way we want it to. We can only control our own choices and waiting for happiness to come to us is futile. Our happiness is our responsibility. We can modify our way forward to accommodate whatever changes have occurred and find our way to the destinations we desire. Our lives belong to us and we can be happy no matter what developments we must face.

Today if your road has suddenly turned and what you were hoping to achieve is no longer available, look at all your options and choose the best way forward. Happiness is there for you and you can modify your course to reach it. Accept whatever changes you must and continue forward. You already have everything you need to succeed. Keep your eyes focused ahead and you will reach the destination you desire.