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Leaving With Grace

25 Jun

Life is full of ups and downs. Everyday brings us something new and we never know what will come next. Sometimes all our plans go well and we make good, strong connections that pave the road ahead and help us reach our goals. Other times, despite our best efforts, things go awry and we face changes we didn’t plan on. Relationships end, jobs change, people leave, and roads turn. There will be times when we must walk away and start in a new direction. Nothing is permanent and life is unpredictable. If the change takes us by surprise and we are heartbroken, we may feel angry that we can’t have what we thought was there for us. It’s normal to be upset when what we desire and plan on is no longer possible. We can scream and shout, belittle others who are involved, stamp our feet and slam all the doors, but that will not change our new reality. Serious disappointments are hard to navigate and we may give into every immature and vicious emotion possible, and that may make us feel better for a while, but it will only delay the inevitable realization that we are powerless over the change we must face. Instead of giving in to our most base instincts and lashing out at whomever or whatever has caused our discomfort, we can stop and step back. We can stand still and quiet for a moment and give ourselves time to adjust to what’s happened. There is great courage and stamina within us all, and if we take a moment to breathe, we will be able to manage what’s happened and see our way forward. We may have to leave where we are, and we may be unhappy and unsettled, but by trusting ourselves and remembering who we are, we can leave with grace. Nothing is more powerful or gives us more strength than self-control in times of great discomfort. Everything may have come apart, and the bottom may may fall out of all our plans, but the world hasn’t ended. We are still here, and can still succeed. Nothing is strong enough to hold us in place indefinitely and keep us from our goals. No matter what’s happened, our dreams are still possible, and with determination and patience, we will reach them all.

Everyone has an idea of how their lives should go. We can make all kinds of plans and chart our course ahead, and everything may go well, or we may be stopped in our tracks. Nothing is guaranteed and even if we’re sure we’re on the right road, things may change and we may get turned around and end up going in the opposite direction. Decisions may be made we have no control over that impact us negatively, or someone may enter the picture who takes over and changes our trajectory. A lot can happen, but nothing can keep us from moving ahead. We can adjust our plans, and step forward in a new direction and still reach success.

There is greatness in all of us. When things go wrong, and everything turns, even if we are upset and unsettled, we can trust we will find our way forward. By honoring our personal nobility, we can step away from any situation with grace and patience, and decide how we want to proceed. There will never be anything so difficult and complex that we can’t find our way through. We can trust ourselves to uncover all the answers we need, and step forward sure of success.

Today if your situation has changed and you must start again, if you feel overwhelmed and defeated, be confident. You have overcome many difficult and challenging times, and already possess everything you need to find your way forward. Nothing has changed. Your dreams are still there waiting. Stand tall and step forward. There is great success just ahead, and you will reach it.

No Go

8 Aug

There are limitless things we can accomplish and endless goals we can work toward.  When we want something we can create a plan to achieve it and move forward toward success.  If we had control over everything around us we could always guarantee we’d be able to reach every goal we desired.  Unfortunately, we live in the real world and the only control we have is over ourselves.  There will always be other people making decisions that impact us and other things we don’t know about and can’t prevent from getting in the way.  If we’re determined to reach a goal we can work diligently and push through obstacles in our way but we may face a situation where no matter what we do we can’t get there.  Sometimes the hurdles are too high or the barrier in front of us is too wide to get around.  If there is nothing we can do to change the situation we may have to abandon the goal and let it go.  It’s hard to face defeat when we’ve worked hard to succeed especially if we’ve worked hard for a long time.  We don’t know what we don’t know and can’t see everything at the beginning.  Sometimes no matter how well we plan or hard we push things won’t work out for us.  If we must let go of a goal, we can set it down and walk away – for now.  Life is constantly in flux and everything changes around us over time.  What is impossible today may come easily in the future so although we have to leave the dream behind now, if we still want to accomplish it we can revisit it later and try again.

It’s great to reach the destinations we desire but the journey along the way is what teaches us about our world.  Every experience teaches us something and we take that knowledge forward with us.  Even if things don’t work out we have more information than when we started and understand more clearly where we are and what we need.  We can use all the lessons we’ve gained to reach new heights moving forward and continue toward the lives we want the most.

When we’ve been stopped and can’t move before we reach a goal we can develop another plan and try again.  We can try as often as we like and may reach success.  Most goals are attainable but there are some things we won’t be able to achieve no matter what we do.  To continually knock ourselves out trying to do something that can’t be done is not in our best interest.  Trying to do the impossible will only hold us back from finding success in other areas.  If we’ve done all we can and still can’t move forward we can turn our course toward something else.  It’s wise to accept defeat when success isn’t possible.  We can be confident in choosing well and living in ways that bring satisfaction and ultimate success.

Today if you’ve been working hard for a long time toward a goal and can’t move forward, look at everything clearly.  If there are possible options that will bring success, try them.  If not, determine where you want to go now and begin again on a new road.  There is no failure as long as you continue forward.  Be confident and trust your judgement.  You are wise and capable and will find success.