Tag Archives: Hysteria

End of the Rope

26 Jan

Everyone wants an easy life where things go well, the sun always shines, nothing ever gets in the way, and we’re all wealthy. It’s a nice dream but unfortunately we don’t live in fantasy land, we live in the real world. There will be times when everything sails along nicely and we’re comfortable just cruising on through, but those times cannot last forever. Eventually things will change, the road will turn, something will fall apart, and we’ll be faced with problems and issues that try our sanity and patience. Although we’re all capable of facing whatever comes, there may be times when there’s so much going wrong and we’re so overwhelmed we begin to feel like we can’t take anymore. We’re at the end of our rope, and are sure that if anything else bad happens we’re going to completely fall apart and die. Of course, even if our worst fears are realized and our whole lives are turned upside down we probably won’t die. We may suffer desperate pains of loss or disappointment, we may find it hard to process what’s happening, and we may lose our way for a time. But we are stronger and more capable than we imagine, and no matter how bad the situation seems, can find our way through. Nothing lasts forever, and change is constant. Whatever is happening now is going to change, but when that happens is anybody’s guess. We can stop, set our emotions aside for a moment, and look at everything objectively. There is always a way forward, and with focus and determination, we will prevail. Life can be hard, and unexpected things will happen, but we are powerful and wise, and can always reach success.

Sometimes it can seem like we can’t win. Everything is working against us and nothing we try helps. Perhaps the timing for what we’re trying to do isn’t right, maybe someone is standing in our way and refuses to move, or issues have arisen that make our forward progress impossible. Getting stuck doesn’t mean the goal is unreachable. Every goal is possible but they aren’t all possible today. If we can’t move forward, we can turn in another direction and work on something else. As time passes our situation will change, and we will be able to return and start again.

We only have control over our own decisions. Trying again and again to open a locked door will not move us forward. There are many roads to every destination, and if the one we’re on stops or gets blocked, we don’t have to stand and wait for it to change. We can try a different approach and go a different way. We are intelligent and there is no problem too tangled for us to unravel. Every destination is there for us, and we will reach them all.

Today if nothing is working and you feel frustrated and overwhelmed, remember all the times you’ve been successful. You are wiser and more capable than you think you are. Every blessing is there for you. Be patient and trust yourself. You know what you want and have everything you need to get it. Stand strong and step forward with confidence. There is great success ahead and it will be yours.

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Leaving With Grace

25 Jun

Life is full of ups and downs. Everyday brings us something new and we never know what will come next. Sometimes all our plans go well and we make good, strong connections that pave the road ahead and help us reach our goals. Other times, despite our best efforts, things go awry and we face changes we didn’t plan on. Relationships end, jobs change, people leave, and roads turn. There will be times when we must walk away and start in a new direction. Nothing is permanent and life is unpredictable. If the change takes us by surprise and we are heartbroken, we may feel angry that we can’t have what we thought was there for us. It’s normal to be upset when what we desire and plan on is no longer possible. We can scream and shout, belittle others who are involved, stamp our feet and slam all the doors, but that will not change our new reality. Serious disappointments are hard to navigate and we may give into every immature and vicious emotion possible, and that may make us feel better for a while, but it will only delay the inevitable realization that we are powerless over the change we must face. Instead of giving in to our most base instincts and lashing out at whomever or whatever has caused our discomfort, we can stop and step back. We can stand still and quiet for a moment and give ourselves time to adjust to what’s happened. There is great courage and stamina within us all, and if we take a moment to breathe, we will be able to manage what’s happened and see our way forward. We may have to leave where we are, and we may be unhappy and unsettled, but by trusting ourselves and remembering who we are, we can leave with grace. Nothing is more powerful or gives us more strength than self-control in times of great discomfort. Everything may have come apart, and the bottom may may fall out of all our plans, but the world hasn’t ended. We are still here, and can still succeed. Nothing is strong enough to hold us in place indefinitely and keep us from our goals. No matter what’s happened, our dreams are still possible, and with determination and patience, we will reach them all.

Everyone has an idea of how their lives should go. We can make all kinds of plans and chart our course ahead, and everything may go well, or we may be stopped in our tracks. Nothing is guaranteed and even if we’re sure we’re on the right road, things may change and we may get turned around and end up going in the opposite direction. Decisions may be made we have no control over that impact us negatively, or someone may enter the picture who takes over and changes our trajectory. A lot can happen, but nothing can keep us from moving ahead. We can adjust our plans, and step forward in a new direction and still reach success.

There is greatness in all of us. When things go wrong, and everything turns, even if we are upset and unsettled, we can trust we will find our way forward. By honoring our personal nobility, we can step away from any situation with grace and patience, and decide how we want to proceed. There will never be anything so difficult and complex that we can’t find our way through. We can trust ourselves to uncover all the answers we need, and step forward sure of success.

Today if your situation has changed and you must start again, if you feel overwhelmed and defeated, be confident. You have overcome many difficult and challenging times, and already possess everything you need to find your way forward. Nothing has changed. Your dreams are still there waiting. Stand tall and step forward. There is great success just ahead, and you will reach it.

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Hair On Fire

18 Jun

We have all kinds of experiences as we go through our lives. We don’t have control over most of what happens and may be affected by actions and decisions we know nothing about. Things may change suddenly and unexpectedly. We can’t read the future and all the decisions being made by others around us and around the world may bring our lives to a screaming halt. What we do next often determines how things will go from there. If we freak out, lose our minds, and run around like our hair is on fire, chances are we won’t see the answers we need to change the situation. We may be extremely upset about what’s happened, and we might express that in a thousand different ways, but one thing is certain, anger and hysteria won’t help us. We may feel better after we express it, but we’ll still be right where we were when the bubble burst. The only way to change our situation is to see it openly and objectively, and then with patience and clarity choose our next move. There is a solution to every problem, and we are never stuck in any situation no matter how intense or difficult. There will always be a way forward and we can find it. We can look at all the options possible and decide how we want to proceed. Life is filled with uncertainties and surprises. Just when we think we’ve got everything figured out, a wrench may get thrown into our plans. It doesn’t matter how complicated the situation gets, we can find the way forward. We already possess everything we need to do anything we want. We can be strong, and patient and solve any problem that comes. Nothing is powerful enough to hold us down, and we can still achieve great success.

When we’re working hard to accomplish a goal and something we can’t move is in the way, we have options. Sometimes the plans we made at the beginning won’t carry us through to the end. There are always a lot of variables and when they don’t work together, we may have to regroup and change direction. There are many roads to every goal and we can adjust our plans when necessary to continue forward. If we get stopped and can’t move, we can be flexible and find alternative choices that will help us proceed.

Everything we want to do is possible but sometimes we can’t accomplish it right now. If we keep hitting a roadblock no matter what we do or where we go, it may be a signal that the goal isn’t possible at this time. It’s hard to be patient when we want something badly but wasting energy on something that can’t happen won’t benefit us. Life is constantly changing and if we can’t move forward now, we can set the goal aside until things are different and try again. We can accomplish anything we like by looking at our situation clearly and finding the best way forward.

Today if everything has changed and you can’t move ahead with the plans you’ve made, instead of losing control, calmly look at everything possible and decide on your next steps forward. You can accomplish anything you desire and revise your plans when needed to find success. Be confident and be clear. Every goal is there for you. You have everything you need to win and you will prevail.

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Leaning In

26 Mar

We go through a lot of experiences every day as we navigate through our lives.  Some things bring us joy, some make us angry, some are boring and others may be intense or pass with little notice.  Our emotions and how we respond to them are part of what make us human and help others relate to us.  Some people are good at hiding their emotions and prefer not to let others see how they really feel.  Others wear their hearts on their sleeves and we can see everything they’re feeling most of the time.  Being open with our feelings helps us express ourselves and makes it easier for others to understand us.  But if our feelings are negative, or angry and intense, allowing them to color our interactions may make our lives more difficult and complicated.  It’s fine to share personal expressions but we must remember they may affect the message we are trying to portray.  When we are upset and angry and scream at those around us to make a point, the only thing we may accomplish is to push them away.  Trying to understand someone who is hysterical or acting irrationally out of anger is almost impossible.  We can express even intense disappointment in a better way.  If we want to make sure others grasp how important something is, it’s more effective to lower our voices than to raise them.  If we blast those around us with powerful loud voices, they will often step back.  But when our voice is quieter, people will lean in closer to hear what we have to say.  Being heard is important and even if we’re intensely upset we can control our emotions to allow that to happen.

The only way for a baby to express pain, hunger or unhappiness is to scream and cry.  But as we mature, if we want to be happy, we must learn self-control.  As adults, it will never work in our favor to stamp our feet and scream because we are unhappy.  There are no good answers to be found in bad behavior.  We can be in control of our emotions, even when they are intense, and express ourselves in ways that bring people closer and open the doors to the way forward.

Life will surely bring us happy times and difficult, sometimes complicated and extreme problems.  We don’t have to pretend to be happy when things are going wrong but we can control how we respond to every situation in order to bring the best results.  Jumping to hysteria and pushing the panic button every time something goes awry will never take us where we really want to go.  It’s exhausting and keeps us from thinking about our next step.  We have everything we need to understand any situation that comes to us.  If we take time to think instead of react we will find all the answers we need to find our way through.  We are strong and capable, and can live well and effectively.

Today if you’re furious over something and want to lash out at those around you, quiet your thoughts and allow yourself time to think.  You can control your emotions in ways that will bring you happiness and success.  Step back and then step forward.  There isn’t anything you can’t manage and succeed.  You are strong and amazing, and nothing is too difficult for you to overcome.

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