Tag Archives: Hysteria

Hair On Fire

18 Jun

We have all kinds of experiences as we go through our lives. We don’t have control over most of what happens and may be affected by actions and decisions we know nothing about. Things may change suddenly and unexpectedly. We can’t read the future and all the decisions being made by others around us and around the world may bring our lives to a screaming halt. What we do next often determines how things will go from there. If we freak out, lose our minds, and run around like our hair is on fire, chances are we won’t see the answers we need to change the situation. We may be extremely upset about what’s happened, and we might express that in a thousand different ways, but one thing is certain, anger and hysteria won’t help us. We may feel better after we express it, but we’ll still be right where we were when the bubble burst. The only way to change our situation is to see it openly and objectively, and then with patience and clarity choose our next move. There is a solution to every problem, and we are never stuck in any situation no matter how intense or difficult. There will always be a way forward and we can find it. We can look at all the options possible and decide how we want to proceed. Life is filled with uncertainties and surprises. Just when we think we’ve got everything figured out, a wrench may get thrown into our plans. It doesn’t matter how complicated the situation gets, we can find the way forward. We already possess everything we need to do anything we want. We can be strong, and patient and solve any problem that comes. Nothing is powerful enough to hold us down, and we can still achieve great success.

When we’re working hard to accomplish a goal and something we can’t move is in the way, we have options. Sometimes the plans we made at the beginning won’t carry us through to the end. There are always a lot of variables and when they don’t work together, we may have to regroup and change direction. There are many roads to every goal and we can adjust our plans when necessary to continue forward. If we get stopped and can’t move, we can be flexible and find alternative choices that will help us proceed.

Everything we want to do is possible but sometimes we can’t accomplish it right now. If we keep hitting a roadblock no matter what we do or where we go, it may be a signal that the goal isn’t possible at this time. It’s hard to be patient when we want something badly but wasting energy on something that can’t happen won’t benefit us. Life is constantly changing and if we can’t move forward now, we can set the goal aside until things are different and try again. We can accomplish anything we like by looking at our situation clearly and finding the best way forward.

Today if everything has changed and you can’t move ahead with the plans you’ve made, instead of losing control, calmly look at everything possible and decide on your next steps forward. You can accomplish anything you desire and revise your plans when needed to find success. Be confident and be clear. Every goal is there for you. You have everything you need to win and you will prevail.

Leaning In

26 Mar

We go through a lot of experiences every day as we navigate through our lives.  Some things bring us joy, some make us angry, some are boring and others may be intense or pass with little notice.  Our emotions and how we respond to them are part of what make us human and help others relate to us.  Some people are good at hiding their emotions and prefer not to let others see how they really feel.  Others wear their hearts on their sleeves and we can see everything they’re feeling most of the time.  Being open with our feelings helps us express ourselves and makes it easier for others to understand us.  But if our feelings are negative, or angry and intense, allowing them to color our interactions may make our lives more difficult and complicated.  It’s fine to share personal expressions but we must remember they may affect the message we are trying to portray.  When we are upset and angry and scream at those around us to make a point, the only thing we may accomplish is to push them away.  Trying to understand someone who is hysterical or acting irrationally out of anger is almost impossible.  We can express even intense disappointment in a better way.  If we want to make sure others grasp how important something is, it’s more effective to lower our voices than to raise them.  If we blast those around us with powerful loud voices, they will often step back.  But when our voice is quieter, people will lean in closer to hear what we have to say.  Being heard is important and even if we’re intensely upset we can control our emotions to allow that to happen.

The only way for a baby to express pain, hunger or unhappiness is to scream and cry.  But as we mature, if we want to be happy, we must learn self-control.  As adults, it will never work in our favor to stamp our feet and scream because we are unhappy.  There are no good answers to be found in bad behavior.  We can be in control of our emotions, even when they are intense, and express ourselves in ways that bring people closer and open the doors to the way forward.

Life will surely bring us happy times and difficult, sometimes complicated and extreme problems.  We don’t have to pretend to be happy when things are going wrong but we can control how we respond to every situation in order to bring the best results.  Jumping to hysteria and pushing the panic button every time something goes awry will never take us where we really want to go.  It’s exhausting and keeps us from thinking about our next step.  We have everything we need to understand any situation that comes to us.  If we take time to think instead of react we will find all the answers we need to find our way through.  We are strong and capable, and can live well and effectively.

Today if you’re furious over something and want to lash out at those around you, quiet your thoughts and allow yourself time to think.  You can control your emotions in ways that will bring you happiness and success.  Step back and then step forward.  There isn’t anything you can’t manage and succeed.  You are strong and amazing, and nothing is too difficult for you to overcome.