Tag Archives: Manipulate

Just This Once

20 Dec

Our lives are a reflection of our decisions. Every choice we make changes something and takes us somewhere. If we’re mindful and think about all the ramifications of everything we choose, we have a better shot of getting what we want and going where we want to go, but life is busy and can be hectic. We may make decisions on the fly simply because we don’t have time to stop and think. Sometimes that works out okay, but if we don’t think before we jump, things may not go the way we hope. Everyone wants a happy life and we all have things we want to achieve. We may face a time when we can get something quicker if we manipulate the situation dishonestly. Most of us want to be honest in all our dealings, but life is complex, and there are all kinds of people around us making all kinds of decisions. If they get in our way and we just can’t wait any longer, we may decide, just this once, to step away from our personal standards and do whatever is necessary to get what we want. We may bend the truth, tell a lie, deceive someone or use smoke and mirrors to make things seem different than they are. We’re in control of our lives and can do anything we like at any time. We can make any choices we want, but we can’t change the results of those choices. If we start a fire, something is going to burn. There is no way out. We know what we want, and must decide if we want it badly enough to sacrifice our integrity and honesty to get it. If that’s the case, we can go down that road and just crash ahead until we get to the goal. But every gain has a price and we may discover the price is higher than we imagined. By being thoughtful and wise, and taking the time to see where we’re headed before we step forward, we can make excellent choices that will bring us happiness and satisfaction. If we can’t get the goal today, we can patiently continue forward until we do. Every goal is possible, and every success awaits. With clarity and focus, we will reach them all.

Some people don’t care what it takes to win. They will do anything, and break every rule just to get to the prize. They are ruthless and the feelings of others mean nothing. If they are in a position of power, they may cause a lot of destruction as they push ahead. Once they reach the goal, they are happy but that happiness is often fleeting, because there will always be something bigger, something shinier, something more prestigious just ahead. Getting to each goal is important, but how we get there defines who we are. We can be relentless and merciless, and burn every bridge as we move forward, but that will never bring lasting happiness or peace.

Nobody is destined to remain the same forever. Change is constant, and we can change any behavior traits we want. If we’ve been unwise in the past, and have broken relationships because of our choices, it will take work and diligence to win back the trust of others. Change takes works and continual determination, but when we’re ready we can do anything. There is greatness in us all, and we can reclaim our nobility and wisdom at any time. Our lives are ours to design and nothing is out of reach. We really can have the lives we want the most by being mindful, patient and focused on the road ahead.

Today if there’s a chance you’ll win but only if you cheat, before you begin, stop and think about who you really want to be. You are defined by the choices you make so decide what you want the most, and then step forward. There is greatness in you and you have so much to offer. Show us your best and bring light to those around you. You really are amazing and worth more than you can imagine. Choose wisely and be confident. Every success is waiting and every dream is possible. Be honest and determined, and you will reach them all.

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Hardly Noticeable

13 Jan

Everyone has an idea of where they want their lives to go and what they want to do. We decide what we want the most and then make a plan and begin to do what is needed to make it ours. It sounds simple, and on paper it is, but this is real life and rarely goes exactly the way we planned. There are endless influences all around us. Advertisers constantly bombard us with their ideas of what we should do and who we should be. Others in our circle may give us advice and guidance, even if we don’t ask for it, and our families are always there to share their views on what we’re doing or not doing. Although we know what we want, sometimes other voices may make us question our decisions, and pull us away from the road ahead. We may step to the left just to keep the peace and think we’ll get back on track as soon as things settle down. After all, one step to the left is hardly noticeable in the big scheme of things and we can trust ourselves to regain our momentum in time. But nobody can predict the future and sometimes one step to the left leads to another, and then another and before we realize it, we may be far away from what we really want and going in the opposite direction. Going from point A to point B is rarely a straight, uninterrupted line, but we have a better shot at success if we keep our eyes focused on the road ahead and don’t get distracted trying to please someone else. Every destination we desire is possible, and we have everything we need to make it ours. By focusing on the goal and continuing forward, nothing can keep us from success.

What we do determines the person we will become. If we want to be honest but there’s a better chance of getting what we want if we fudge the truth a little, or shift our ethics, we may be tempted to take the bait. If we do, we may get away with it, and nobody may know, but we will know we are compromised and that may color our decisions moving forward. It’s much easier to cheat the second time, and each time after that. We decide who we will be. By choosing wisely and following the standards we most desire, we’ll find great satisfaction and peace.

It’s not always easy to be completely honest and when the road ahead gets hard the temptation to bend our ethics to get through may be great. We can lie our way out of a mess, cheat others to get ahead, and manipulate and twist the truth until it fits our desires. But everything we do determines who we are. We are capable of great success and when we strive for perfection and choose the best possible options, honoring the nobility we possess, we will achieve greatness and complete happiness.

Today if you’re tempted to step a little off course in an effort to get to a goal, remember who you are. There is greatness in you. Think about what you want the most, and make the best choice to achieve it. You have the potential to bring great light to the world. Choose wisely, and be honest. Every success is there for you, and you will make them yours.

Sinking Feeling

11 May

We share the world with billions of other people. We’ll build relationships with some of them, we’ll love some of them and tolerate others, and they’ll be a part of our experiences. When we trust someone and believe in them, we may include them in our most private thoughts and plans, and build connections that are strong and rewarding. Although we may feel we’re good judges of character, and often we are, we may face a time when someone turns out to be very different than we thought. If we discover they have been dishonest with us, have manipulated us or flatly lied to us and we believed in them, we may be devastated. When all the facts come out, we may have a sinking feeling that we’ve been used and everything we thought was real was fiction. There may be a feeling of great shame that we fell for the lie, but we are not at fault. It’s good to trust and give others the benefit of the doubt. If they let us down, the blame is theirs to carry. If we’re facing a situation where our trust has been damaged, if the situation isn’t too severe and there are extenuating circumstances that have come into play, there may be a way to mend the relationship. However, if the other party simply manipulated us for their own enjoyment or personal gain, there may be no way to repair the damage. We may need to sever our ties, walk away, and move forward without them. It’s heartbreaking to lose a connection because of dishonesty, but we are strong, and nothing can keep us from reaching success. We can change direction, and alter our plans, and still reach every goal we desire. Others will do what they will, but we know what we want, and have everything we need to achieve it. Every road is there for us, and with determination and focus, we will succeed.

After a bad relationship, we may decide that trusting others isn’t worth the risk and choose to move forward alone. We may avoid building relationships with others to protect ourselves and keep everything inside. We can do anything we like but most people are good, and everyone has something of value to offer. Cutting ourselves off from the human race may seem wise, but it will keep us from all the blessings that building good, strong relationships will bring. Getting hurt is painful, but we will heal, and can trust ourselves to make wise connections moving forward.

We can’t control anything but the decisions we make. Some people will be wise, and some will be foolish. Some may delight in bringing us joy, and others may taunt and tease. We don’t set our personal standards by what others are doing. We set them by what we want to accomplish and who we want to be. We can trust ourselves to make excellent choices and move forward with confidence and clarity that we will prevail in every situation.

Today if you’ve discovered that someone you trusted has been dishonest, and you are hurt and unsure how to proceed, trust yourself. You know what you want, and you know who you are. You are wiser and more capable than you imagine. Decide what you want to do and step forward with confidence. All your dreams are still there for you and you will reach them.

Inside Out

26 Mar

There are all kinds of ideas, interpretations, scenarios, and concepts all around us all the time. Everyone has their own perspective about what’s happening and how things should go. If we believe our viewpoint is the only one that’s correct, it may keep us from seeing other ideas even if they’re pertinent and valuable. That’s fine if our idea is the only one we need and we control the situation, but if we’re working with others, and must collaborate, it will be necessary to open our minds to what they offer. We may uncover information that will help us move forward, but not everyone will have our best interests at heart. We may be in a situation where someone appears to be trying to help but are only pushing us toward something they desire. They may manipulate the facts to sell their point in an effort to convince us to follow their lead. There are countless ways to accomplish any goal and we can certainly hear every perspective and suggestion. We can be open to new ideas and find a new, and improved path to follow but we must also validate each option before proceeding. We don’t know what we don’t know and there is no way to comprehend everything around us. Everyone has their own slant on each situation and every perspective can evaluated on its own terms. We can be confident and trust that we can discern between truth and fiction. We can listen to other ideas, determine the value of their suggestions and then proceed. We are intelligent and capable, and success is always possible. Every road is open and we can reach any destination we desire by listening carefully and choosing what works.

Truth will always rise no matter how it’s colored, bent, or manipulated. It’s more powerful than any deception but while we’re finding our way, it’s possible to be convinced of a lie. Some people may be determined to push us in one direction and make us believe something untrue to advance their agenda. If we trust or admire them, or they are close to us personally, we may fall victim to their plan. When the truth becomes apparent, we may feel completely inside out and confused. Despite the deception, we can trust ourselves to step forward with confidence knowing we will find the way ahead. We can learn from the situation and reach success.

We live in the real world with real facts and consequences. There may be times when something in our lives is hard to accept. We may desperately want things to be different than they are, and may decide to create a reality that’s easier to swallow and more what we desire. Living in a dream state may make us feel better temporarily but truth will persist and in time, if we want to move forward, we’ll have to accept it. Things don’t always go the way we want them to. We can accept what is real and then proceed forward with determination.

Today if you’re struggling to find your way, remember you are wise and capable. You can recognize what is real and true, and will know how to proceed. You know what you want and have everything you need to reach your goals. Choose the best road ahead and move toward your dreams. Everything is possible and nothing is out of reach. All your dreams are waiting for you. Step forward and claim them.

Turmoil

24 Jul

Most people are nice and try to work with others and many of us try to get along with those around us and be an asset in whatever we’re working on. We want to be agreeable and flexible and do what is needed to accomplish the goals we’ve set while still including others and being kind. But not everyone we come in contact with will be pleasant and some people are rude and frankly mean. They may manipulate others, lie and cheat, and display bad behavior that causes tension and trouble. If they are aggressive and vicious, dealing with them may make it hard to get through even simple tasks. If we must interact with them we will have to find a way to manage their behavior and still accomplish the task at hand. There will always be a way to move forward despite the problems we face, but it will be up to us to find it. Disagreeable people can make our lives a misery if we allow them to control the situation and affect our attitudes. We don’t have to become negative even if those around us are complaining and unhappy. We all make our own decisions and we can stay true to who we are and what we want most even if we’re being pressured by someone who doesn’t have our best interests in mind. We’re all responsible for our own happiness. Bad behavior in others has no control over the choices we make. We can always choose the best road going forward and find our way to any destination we desire.

Some people live dishonestly and fill their lives with drama and intrigue. They make decisions that complicate their path, manipulate the truth to suit their personal desires and make it difficult for others to work with them. When we interact with them we may get caught up in turmoil and stress. It’s confusing to figure out which way to go when there is disharmony and struggle. But we don’t have to internalize the problems before us and with patience can find our way through. By remembering who we are and keeping our focus we can clear the distractions and find the road ahead.

We may want to be helpful and if we find ourselves entangled in a situation where there is conflict and struggle we may get caught up in someone else’s problem. If we are pressed to find the answers we can be respectful and offer our advice and then let it go. We can allow those who own the issue to find their own resolutions. Life gives us all plenty of our own problems to work on and we can let others manage their decisions their own way. It’s appropriate and kind to offer help if asked and then let those involved find the answers they need.

Today if you must interact with someone who is disagreeable and mean, show patience and support and be the best you can be. Be helpful and kind but let them make their own decisions and continue forward on the road toward your goals. You have so much to offer and we are all blessed because you’re here. Keep your eyes ahead and set the example for success. You are amazing and wise, and can lead the way forward.