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Cheater

5 Jan

We make millions of decisions as we go through our lives. Each choice, bad or good, will clearly define who we are and what we want. Lots of people say they are honest, and many people are. But the idea of real honesty may differ from person to person. For some, it’s clearly defined – do what is right according to our standards and the culture around us, and never waiver. Others see it more fluidly. If they mostly do what’s right and only bend the rules and cheat when they absolutely feel they must in order to win, they are honest enough. Maybe they’ll pay their bills on time but add an hour or two to their timesheets to make ends meet. Or they’re honest in the small things like making sure they don’t accept too much change at the store but will do whatever is needed to make sure they get that promotion at work – even if it means breaking the rules. Desperation may make us so determined to win, we may choose to cheat, lie or whatever else we think will get us there. Cheating does work. It will give us an edge and push us over those around us, but winning by cheating isn’t winning at all, and the advantage is counterfeit and fake. It will look like a win to those around us, but we’ll know we took it dishonestly. The stain of hypocrisy will be permanent, and like a bad tattoo, impossible to remove. Cheating is a characteristic of weakness, and the cost to our integrity will be intense. Once we step over that line and lie to get ahead, it’s hard to step back. We will never be the same and the possibility of doing it again will be easier. If we continue, the road of deceit will be etched in our minds and we may forget what it was like to be completely honest and true. Every decision we make tells the world who we are. Nothing is more important than our self-worth and by choosing wisely, we will pave the road ahead to success.

When we want something intensely, we may decide on shady and dishonest options to help us open the doors ahead. Some things may be very important to us, but there will never be anything so important it’s worth the cost of sacrificing our integrity. Others may be fooled the first time we cheat, but once we are exposed and the truth is clear, we may lose their trust indefinitely. Like breaking glass, we may try to glue the pieces back together, but it will never be whole again.

When we tell people about ourselves, we may say anything we like. If we want to impress them, we may embellish what we’ve done and who we are. But in the end, we are what we do, not what we say. Our actions define us in every sense. The world decides who we are by the choices we make not the beautiful words we use. Every choice determines our standards and what we value. When we choose honestly and valiantly, we bring great success and satisfaction to our lives.

Today if you’re desperate to get to a goal and are considering lying or cheating to reach it, think about your personal worth. You are valuable and worth more than you imagine. Show us how valiant and honest you are by the excellent decisions you make. You have the power to bring greatness and light to us all. Be the best you can be, and the whole world will be blessed.

Down A Peg

30 Oct

There are all kinds of people in the world, and we’ll interact with many of them as we navigate through our lives. Some will be nice, and easy to talk to, others may be aloof and standoffish, and some may be mean and hateful. The spectrum of behaviors and expressions is unlimited and varied, but building friendships and connections help us pave the road ahead. Finding others with similar beliefs and common life patterns encourages us to form alliances and strengthen bonds. It’s good to have a network around us filled with people we can trust and honor, who offer us the same in return. But not everyone is interested in getting close. Some people are highly competitive and see those around them merely as stepping stones to get closer to what they want. If we’re in their way, they may push us aside and storm past without looking back. It’s impossible to befriend someone who only sees themselves. If they are only interested in what the world can give them and don’t care about anyone else’s feelings, it will be difficult to form any kind of lasting bond. If we must work with them it may be hard to get our opinions and ideas heard. We can try to speak up and stand strong, but they may do everything in their power to knock us down a peg, and keep us quiet. We all have something of value to offer. Nobody knows everything or has all the best ideas. We’re entitled to our own views and opinions, and can be confident in expressing them. They are not worth less because someone doesn’t want to hear them. We are never devalued just because someone thinks they are better or more important than we are. We can be confident and strong in expressing ourselves in every situation. Every dream is possible, and every success can be ours. No one can stop us from achieving our goals, and nothing can keep us from any destination we desire.

Some people believe they are somehow more essential and meaningful than the rest of us. They are confident that they have the right answers to whatever questions may arise and don’t really care about anyone else’s viewpoint or opinion. It’s good to have a strong self-image and high standards, but if we minimize the importance of others, we will miss the chance to hear new ideas, and expand our understanding. Nobody has all the answers. We can be sure of ourselves and still recognize contributions from those around us.

If we are timid or unsure, we may hesitate to speak up and share our thoughts when problems arise, but we are unique, and nobody sees the world exactly as we do. Everyone’s perception is different, and we alone may hold the keys that show the way to success. We can share our opinions and trust ourselves to find the answers we seek. We are wise and capable, and the whole world is embellished because we are here.

Today if someone is trying to hold you back and keep you quiet, remember your ideas and opinions are valuable and important. Speak up and step forward with confidence. Nothing is strong enough to hold you in place. Every success you desire is there for you. Be confident and sure. You are amazing and powerful, and all your dreams are possible.

Overkill

18 Sep

As we interact with everyone around us, there will be times when we’re in agreement with what’s happening, and other times when we’ll disagree. We’re all individual and have our own unique ideas about life and how things should go. When everyone wants the same things it’s easy to move forward, but if we are in direct opposition there will be conflict. It’s normal to have disagreements, and how we handle them when they arise will color what happens next. If we’re determined to get our way, and absolutely refuse to budge, we may get angry when others won’t bend to our will. Instead of simply working the problem and trying to find a solution, our emotions may take over and we may do and say things that insult, or hurt those involved, hoping that if we make them feel bad enough, they’ll comply. Our fight or flight reflex is in full control, and we aren’t running anywhere. We are determined to fight it out until we win. By yelling, insulting, demeaning, or whatever other destructive tool we can find, we decide we’ll squash anyone who opposes our point of view. We’ll use anything, no matter how extreme, to get our way. Going overboard in our reactions during times of disagreement will never help us move forward. Using a cannon when all we need is a fly swatter will only cause bad feelings, and broken trust. Nobody wants to work with someone who can’t control their temper or accept other opinions. Even if we feel strongly and are sure our way is the best way forward, instead of losing our minds and trying to force the issue, we can express ourselves openly and with clarity, and then let everyone decide how to proceed. All opinions are important, and we can be patient, and open toward resolution. Success is always possible, and with clarity and confidence, we can reach every destination.

We’re all at different places on our own journeys. If we’ve moved forward quickly and are ahead of the group, we may think we’re entitled to give advice and correction to those coming along. Everyone appreciates help when they’re struggling, but nobody wants to constantly be told what to do. We can be positive and encouraging, and share whatever information we’ve gained, and then let others decide how they’ll proceed. We can lead the way without directing every turn.

Everyone has their own methods for navigating the road ahead. Some people like to move slowly and learn everything they can with each step. Others prefer to run faster and only take what they think they’ll need moving forward. There is no one perfect way to live, and there is no need to micro-manage or design anyone else’s journey. We can trust those around us to make their own decisions, and be available for help and advice if they seek it.

Today if you’re sure you know the best way forward, share your views with those around you and let everyone decide how they want to proceed. Every idea has value, and we can be confident that together, we’ll find the best road forward. You are wise and capable, and have nothing to prove. Be confident and open to everything. Nothing will keep you from any destination you desire, and success will be yours.

The Easy Stuff

14 Aug

We are always in control of our lives and can live them any way we like. We can make any decision we choose and each one will further define who we are. There are always lots of options, some are harder than others, and we can decide how we want to proceed. It’s very easy to live a mediocre life. If we want, we can just go with the flow, follow other people’s leads, keep our heads down, and coast. It takes very little energy to simply follow our noses around, and do nothing extraordinary. Time will go by no matter what we’re doing, and if we don’t want anything more than what’s easy, it doesn’t take much to achieve. It’s like being in lukewarm water – it’s neither hot nor cold. We don’t have to be passionate, or committed to any idea, and can merely stay on the periphery and watch others engage. But being half-way in and half-way out can only bring half-way satisfaction and partial happiness. If we really want to feel fulfilled, we have to do more. There is always risk when we truly get committed and involve ourselves completely. Things may go south and we might get hurt, but every mistake and miss-step bring more information to help us moving forward. By stretching further than what’s comfortable, and stepping into the unknown toward a desired goal, we will enrich our experiences and learn more about ourselves and the world around us. Great happiness is there for us, but we must reach beyond what’s easy to get it. Some of our greatest successes will be found on unpaved roads that are difficult to travel. We are strong and capable, and can trust ourselves to do anything we desire. All dreams are possible, and with clarity and focus, we can make them ours.

When driving in a car, if we come upon a steep hill, we can take our foot off the gas and coast downhill with no problem. We will continue to move ahead despite doing nothing. However, once we get to the bottom, if we don’t re-engage, the car will only coast for a while and then will stop altogether. If we’re coasting along in our lives just letting things happen, we may move forward if someone else is paving the way for us. But that won’t always be the case, and unless we take control, we may get stuck. Standing in place can never take us where we want to go. We can take control, be confident, and set our own course for the destinations we desire.

Life is uncertain and nobody can read the future. If we have goals we want to achieve but are unsure we can succeed, we might set them aside until we feel more confident. There is no rush to reach any destination, but if we set everything aside indefinitely, we’ll never get there. There will be few times when we’re sure we know everything before we begin. We can trust ourselves to find the way forward, even if the road gets complicated, and with perseverance and determination, we will succeed.

Today if you’ve been taking the easy road and letting others choose the way ahead, decide what you want the most. You are wiser and more capable than you imagine. There isn’t anything too difficult or challenging for you to overcome. Be confident and step forward toward your goals. There is great success possible, and you already possess everything you need to reach it. Nothing can keep you from your dreams.

Golden Goose

13 Aug

Throughout the world, there are all kinds of expressions of wealth. For some, wealth is represented by the time they spend in the natural world, communing with nature. For others it may be the time they spend with family and friends, exploring life and getting close to one another. Many of us appreciate those things but also understand that having some financial wealth is necessary for us to live effectively and comfortably. We all need shelter, clothing and food, and it takes money to get them. Despite what you may hear, nothing, absolutely nothing, outside of fresh air, is free. Someone will always have to pay for whatever is wanted or needed. How much money we have depends on a lot of factors, and doesn’t usually just come to us just because we need it or want it. We’ll have to do what is necessary – whatever that may be – to get it. No matter how much we acquire, we may feel we want more. Money can’t buy happiness, but it’s an excellent lubricant to make the things we want to do easier to achieve. If we become consumed with acquiring financial success, we may do anything to get it. Excessive wealth may look very appealing, and if we’re determined to have it, and don’t actually have a goose laying golden eggs, we might forsake anything and everything that stands in our way. We may neglect our personal relationships, impact our health by working excessive hours, and focus only on the next dollar we can earn. There is nothing wrong with amassing wealth, but if it’s our only focus in life, we may miss out on the connections and time with others that will bring us deep satisfaction and happiness. Our lives are ours to design, and by keeping our perspective, deciding what we want, and what’s most important to us, we can make good decisions that bring us both comfort and contentment. Money is great, but nothing is more valuable than our personal happiness.

The world values money and places great importance on it. We are often bombarded with messages that we should have more, and get more of it. Being rich might be nice, but it doesn’t equate to being intelligent, kind, insightful or anything else. It just means there is money available, which is just a tool that can open more doors and allow a little more freedom to accomplish certain things. It allows us to pay bills, buy products, and if we want to, donate to others. It cannot solve problems, heal a broken heart, mend a relationship, or bring us lasting happiness.

It’s easy to envy others who have more monetary benefit than we have. They can do things and go places we may not be able to afford. It all looks great from the outside, but true, lasting happiness can only come from within. By doing the things we want most to accomplish, building strong, healthy relationships, and striving to be the best we can be, we will achieve a level of happiness that money can never bring.

Today, think about what brings you the greatest satisfaction. Value your relationships and build great connections. Choose the road ahead that brings you the greatest joy. Focus on your personal happiness, instead of wealth, and you’ll be richer than you can imagine.