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Meaning It

31 May

We can tell people all kinds of things about ourselves, use any positive adjective we like to describe us and create any image we desire. We can say anything but who we are is reflected not in what we say, but in what we do. Words are cheap and easily manipulated to express ideas that may or may not be true, but actions show our real character and display to the world what is real. If we’re honest about ourselves, our actions will reflect what we’ve expressed. If not, another reality will show itself. There is no way to gain the trust of others if we’re insincere or untruthful. If we mean what we say and follow through on our promises, people will learn we are trustworthy and that they can rely on us to keep our word. We don’t have to agree with everyone or do everything that’s requested. If we don’t want to do something, we can say so and move on. But if we say we’ll be there, and then don’t show, nothing else we’ve said will matter. Once those around us lose faith and trust in us, it will be hard to re-establish. It takes a lot of time to overcome personal disappointments when they involve our integrity and honesty. If we’ve been untruthful in the past or dropped the ball when we said we’d take care of it, there’s no reason to believe we’ll handle things any differently in the future. We can choose to be noble and valiant, and always keep our word. We can hold fast to the values we cherish and choose to be the best we can be. Our lives are a reflection of our actions. Every decision takes us somewhere. We can choose wisely to ensure we reach the destinations we desire most.

When we’re in an uncomfortable situation and want to escape, it’s easy to lie to get away from the issue. We can make up a story that will enable us to step back, or pretend we’re not involved and just walk away. Even if nobody ever finds out about the dishonesty, it will mar our character going forward. Like a chink in the armor, the surface will never be smooth again. We will always know we let our principles slide and it may affect our confidence going forward. Nothing is worth endangering our future success. Even in times of duress, we can choose well, and hold fast to what is right.

Everyone forgets things from time to time. If we’ve agreed to participate in something we later decide we don’t want, we can simply pretend we forgot we were committed and let it go. That may work and we may get out of our responsibility and move on. However, the stain of the lie will remain with us. It’s far better to simply be honest and decline our involvement before its expected. We may be uncomfortable for a moment, but our integrity will remain strong and we will walk forward knowing we did our best.

Today if you’re tempted to lie to get out of something you don’t want to do, remember your honesty and integrity are priceless and worth protecting. Tell the truth and clear the air. You are in control of your life and can make excellent choices. Choose well, and stand tall. Every success is there for you and with determination and honesty, you will reach it.

Tip of the Iceberg

23 Mar

Icebergs are very deceptive things. They may be huge floating in the water but no matter how big they appear on the surface what’s hiding underneath is far larger. What we can see floating in the water, even if it’s enormous, is generally just a small fraction of the iceberg’s total size. The bulk of it is hidden and cannot be seen. Sometimes we face a problem in our lives that’s like that. It may appear to be somewhat simple on the outside and we may make decisions for solving it quickly only to discover there is a far bigger situation lurking beneath the surface. We might have a complication that seems easy to navigate and make a snap decision to settle it only to find there are deeper issues in play and we have much farther to travel if we want to solve the real problem. It’s not always easy to see everything the first time we look. Some issues only reveal themselves over time and if we think we know everything from the beginning we may get burned. Although we understand rushing may mean a mistake, sometimes if we’re in a hurry to move on we may ignore valuable clues that give us the whole story. We have enough wisdom to understand complex issues and enough patience to wait until we comprehend a situation completely before proceeding. If we take the time to see all the information before us, chances are we’ll have a better understanding of how big the iceberg is before we attempt to conquer it.

People are sometimes hard to understand. We may take others at face value and believe the image they are portraying about themselves is true. Sometimes we are right and who they seem to be is exactly who they are. But some people may fool us. They may present themselves in a specific way to get our attention or favor when in truth they are far different than they appear. It takes time to get to know those around us and we can be open and still be cautious before we jump into a relationship. Relationships can be complicated and when based on half the facts can be very difficult. Instead of rushing we can learn a little more and take a little time to get to know others before we get too close.

Problems may have many layers we can’t see at the beginning. Sometimes they look innocent and easy to solve but once we’re involved we may discover there are many issues that must be addressed. Even if they are complicated and difficult we have everything we need to figure them out. We can take the time necessary to consider our options and find the best way forward. If we are patient and look carefully we will see the situation clearly and be able to solve it, no matter what the problem is.

Today if you have an issue you thought was simple to solve that has turned into a huge iceberg, take your time and see all the facts before you. You can find the answers one at a time and resolve the problem. There is nothing too difficult for you and you will succeed. Be strong and have confidence. Step by step you’ll find the way forward and you will prevail.