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Square One

30 Jul

We can do anything we want in our lives. We can set goals and achieve them, go to any destination we desire, and create the lives we want the most. We always know what we want, but sometimes we may sabotage ourselves and do things that keep us from success. There are all kinds of reasons for this – we may not really believe we can win, we may not be convinced it’s what we want, or we may let others or situations influence us and hold us in place. We may go around and around in circles, saying, and even believing we want something, but doing things that prevent it from happening, and ending up at square one. Change won’t just happen because we want it, and our dreams won’t come true simply because we feel we deserve them. We can have the lives we want but we have to do what is necessary to create them. Nobody can change overnight and we don’t have to do everything all at once. We can make small adjustments that move us closer to the goal and incorporate them into our lives in ways that work for us. We can have the lives we dream about by choosing steps each day that open the doors to realizing them. It doesn’t matter how many false starts we’ve had, and we don’t have to change everything immediately. We can concentrate today on doing what is needed to push us ahead. Then tomorrow, we can do it again. Each day we can focus on doing our best and in time we’ll reach the goal. Nothing is impossible. We are never locked in place and can change anything we desire at any time. Every dream is reachable and with persistence, determination and focus, we can do anything.

Nobody will ever make our dreams come true for us. There is no magic genie, no secret combination, or hidden mystery that will unlock the way forward. We already possess all the keys needed to open all the doors ahead. We can be confident that no matter what stands in front of us, we will find our way around it. There is no situation too complex or difficult for us to manage, and manage well. All the answers are there for us, and when we’re ready, we’ll find them.

Nobody gets a perfect life with only paved roads and no problems. Life is filled with complications, unexpected details, snags, and obstacles. But for every issue we encounter, there will be a solution. There will always be an open road ahead and no matter how convoluted things get, or how many times we falter, we can find it. We are more powerful and capable than we realize, and nothing, absolutely nothing, can keep us from success. Every dream and every desire are possible. We have everything we need to reach every single goal.

Today if there’s something you want that you haven’t yet accomplished, remember how strong and capable you are. It doesn’t matter how many times you have to start again. You can do anything you desire, and every blessing is possible. Decide what you want, and then begin toward the goal. You really can have the life you dream about. Be confident. Take another step. Nothing is out of reach and you will prevail.

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Best Revenge

26 Jul

There are all kinds of people in the world and although many of them are kind and considerate, we may find ourselves interacting with someone who is mean or cruel, who does something that hurts us or impacts us negatively. We may be angry and desire revenge, which is always an option, but seeking revenge will only take up a lot of our time and energy, and will never move us forward. The best way to get back at someone who has purposely made our lives difficult, is to live well and move forward with grace and dignity. Nothing bothers mean, selfish people more than to see those around them succeed. If we want the best revenge, we can live with strength and confidence. We are far more valuable than any petty, vengeful action we could take, and choosing to express our incredible worth by keeping our standards high will ennoble us, and set an excellent example for those around us. There will always be unhappy people who want to bring those around them down and make them feel small. We don’t have to take the bait. We can stand strong and continue to reach out in kindness and charity, even to those who don’t deserve it. The old saying, “The best revenge is living well,” is true. Nothing can compare to a life well lived, filled with goodness and clarity. Our lives are ours to design, and no matter what happens or what others may do, we can always make the best choices possible. It takes two to fight and when conflict arises, we can choose grace and patience, and keep our composure. We have everything we need to prevail in any situation. We are worth more than we can imagine. Every blessing is possible, and with patience and restraint, we will find every success.

It’s not easy to stay calm and think clearly when we feel like hitting back, and thrashing someone causing us grief. But we’re in control of our lives, and everything we do. We can stand still, take a deep breath and allow ourselves time to keep our composure, objectively see the situation, and decide on the best way forward. We can be our own best friend and give ourselves every advantage by carefully choosing the best options before us and maintaining our self-control.

Some people find satisfaction in creating turmoil and conflict, and enjoy stirring things up and getting others agitated and confused. They like to tease and torment, and try to gin up anxiety and distress. It’s difficult to deal with them, and if we fall into their trap, may find ourselves somewhere we never wanted to go. We can always leave any situation that makes us uncomfortable. We can find happiness by choosing wisely, and becoming the people we most want to be.

Today if you’re angry because of something someone has done and are thinking of ways to get back at them, before you decide, consider what’s best for you. Your life is important and valuable, and every choice you make will take you somewhere. Make choices that will bring you increased happiness and peace. Be wise and step forward with confidence and clarity. Every blessing is there for you, and you will find great success. The whole world is blessed because you are here. You are amazing.

Piling On

18 Jul

Life is full of unexpected twists and turns, and sometimes it seems like it twists and turns right on top of us. We can manage any complication that comes along, but when they come linked together, it can get crazy. We get up in the morning and discover there’s no water because there’s been a water main break somewhere, then the microwave door explodes open for no apparent reason and throws hot food all over us, the car developed a flat tire overnight, and we can’t find our keys. It can happen, or any of a million variations on the theme. We’ve all been there and will probably go there again. Sometime it’s like a chain reaction – one thing goes wrong, and then another, and another and we’re left standing confused and overwhelmed. It’s hard to explain when trouble piles on and we may feel we’re cursed or doomed in some way. Of course, that’s not possible. The whole world hasn’t turned against us, and nobody orchestrated this to drive us crazy. When a combination of unrelated troubling events come together, they may stop us in our tracks. Lots of things can always go wrong, but they can always be turned back around. The water main will be repaired, the microwave can be adjusted, the flat tire can be fixed and we will find our keys. Instead of seeing roadblocks as a complete stop and getting upset, we can see them as merely a detour in our plans, and confidently and capably manage them. We can maintain our composure and see everything clearly so we can plan our next steps. Everything we do teaches us something of value, and no matter how dire the circumstance, there will always be something for which to be grateful. Our worst day will have blessings for us. We are strong and smart, and nothing can overcome us. We can continue moving forward no matter what’s in the way, and find success.

When we’re furious and angry, it’s impossible to reason clearly. It might feel good to vent all our frustration and tell the whole world how mad we are, but it won’t help us find the answers we need. Even if everything goes wrong and we’re completely frustrated, we can keep our composure and think clearly. Everything we need is already there for us and with patience and self-control, we will more easily find the way forward.

We can never predict what will happen next and there is no way to prepare for the unknown. No matter how well we plan, something may go wrong. There may be no way to continue on the road ahead and we may have to completely regroup and find another possibility. It’s not easy to change direction and start again, but we are more powerful than we realize and can do anything we must to find our way. Nothing is too difficult for us to manage, and we will prevail.

Today if everything seems to be going wrong and the road ahead has disappeared, trust yourself and be confident. You are wise and intelligent, and nothing can keep you from success. There will always be another way forward, and you will find it. Look at all the options available and start again. Every success is possible, and you will reach it.

Invisible Thread

16 Jul

The world is a busy place. There are billions of people doing billions of things all the time. Even in our small circle, there are others all around us and a lot going on. It might seem we’re all separate and doing things on our own, and sometimes we are, but in the overall scheme of things, we’re all connected more than we may realize. What one person does may have far reaching affects on the lives and decisions of those around them. Even insignificant, and seemingly unimportant choices may ripple through and change things in their path. Everything that happens creates something new. We never know how much impact our presence makes. Every step we take, every person we encounter, everything we say and do, creates a new reality around us. Like an invisible thread running through the world, our circles intertwine and our influence blends with those around us and creates the world we live in. There is no way to be in the world and leave it untouched. Just by being here we are making an impression of some kind. If we’re negative and mean, that impression may bring unhappiness and frustration. If we’re kind and caring, it may bring great comfort and satisfaction. Who we are and what we do will either embellish or detract from our experience and the experiences of those around us. We don’t live in a vacuum and will make an impact of some kind. Our lives are ours to design and we can do anything we like. We can bring light and joy and experience complete happiness. There is greatness in each of us. What we do with it is up to us.

When we think of the enormity of the world, we may feel insignificant and unnoticed. In the towns where we live, big or small, we feel ignored and overlooked. There is often a lot of noise and busyness, and if we’re demure or quiet, we may struggle to be heard. There is value in every voice and we all have something to offer. We can be confident, even if we’re not the fastest, the strongest, or the loudest, that our opinions and ideas are important. The gifts we have to offer are unique, and when we share them, we can change everything.

We’re all one human family and as such, feel each other’s pain and suffering. We feel grief when we hear of disasters and turmoil in far away places, and compassion for those who are struggling. We’re all different and there may be conflicting views, but we can overcome them by honoring our human connections and trusting each other. We’re all in this together, and each choice we make will either enrich us or detract from our experience. There is no way to remove the influence of our presence. We are integral and valuable. We can bring happiness and joy to those around us, and give light to the world.

Today if you feel like you’re not important and nobody cares about what you’re doing, remember nobody else in the entire world can give the gifts you offer. You are unique and precious, and the whole world is blessed because you are here. Be confident and trust yourself. You are amazing. Your influence reaches further than you imagine, and we are all enriched by your presence.

Order Up

15 Jul

When we go into a restaurant for a meal, we may take our time going over the menu. There are often many possibilities and we can choose anything we like. When the waiter comes to the table for our order, we can make our request and get exactly what we want. We can’t expect things to go well if we simply shake our heads and say we have no idea what we want, and ask them to decide for us. Maybe we’ll get that delicious burger we were looking at, or we might get a bowl of oatmeal. Because we let someone else choose, we’ll have no idea until it arrives. It’s unlikely we’d ever do such a thing in a restaurant, but we might be doing exactly that in our lives. If we aren’t in control of where we’re headed, and just go along with what others are doing, not choosing our own destinations, we are letting the world decide what our lives will be like. It’s easy to coast through our days and just go along with whatever is happening around us. We can leave all the important decisions up to someone else, and just take what comes. We might find happiness, or we might not. If that’s all our lives mean to us, it’s an easy option. But we’re important and deserve complete happiness. We can reach any goal we desire and go anywhere we want but we have to take control of our lives to make that happen. Being a passenger on someone else’s journey will never take us to the destinations we desire most. We can do anything but we must choose for ourselves and be in charge of how we live our lives. Every option is possible and nothing is too far to reach. We can step up and determine what we want the most, and then do what is needed to get it.

Ride alongs during new experiences can be fun. We learn new things about others and see the world through their eyes. It’s nice to share experiences and we can spend our days following others around and watching everything they’re doing. But if we want our own unique and incredible lives, we must chart our own course forward. We can decide what we want and begin moving forward to achieve it. We are capable and strong, and nothing is too difficult for us to manage.

It’s easy to stay on the same road indefinitely. We know what to expect, we know where it leads, and we feel safe. Foreign, uncharted roads can be intimidating, but they offer new experiences that will deepen our understanding of life and give us unlimited options for growth. A new road is only new until we make it ours. We can push forward into the unknown toward a goal we desire, and with each step we’ll gain confidence and clarity. Every destination is possible, and we have all the courage and determination we need to go anywhere we desire.

Today if you’ve been taking a back seat to your dreams and following others around, think about what you really want. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Be confident. Decide where you want to go and take the first step onto a new road. Your life is yours to design. Fill it with your dreams and you’ll find great happiness and satisfaction.

Weeds

8 Jul

Our lives and experiences are individual to each of us. We’re all unique and everything we go through is specific to our own personal journey. We may interact with all kinds of people and some of them will share experiences with us, but our own interpretation makes each step individual and exclusive. Sometimes the lives of others may seem somehow better than ours. They may seem to have an easier path or more advantages than we’ve been given. They say the grass is always greener on the other side and that may be true a time or two, but sometimes what we think is greener grass from far away turns out to be weeds up close. Nobody gets a perfect, easy life without heartache or trouble. There are no free passes when it comes to trial and hardship. We’ll have our share and everyone around us will also have theirs. Although it may seem that others have it easier, we cannot possibly know the whole story. They may have terrible trials we know nothing about. There is no way to know everything about anyone else’s life. We can only see inside our own minds and understand completely what we’re going through. It’s impossible to see the entire picture from the outside looking in, and we don’t know what personal struggles others may have before them or how hard it is for them to continue. We have many blessings in our lives every single day. Even on our worst day, there will be something for which to be grateful. Life is filled with possibilities and we have everything we need to have the lives we desire. Weeds and grass can look the same from afar, and we need not judge ourselves against what we think others are experiencing. Every blessing is possible and we can step forward with confidence to get the lives we want the most.

We cannot help the circumstances into which we’re born. Some people arrive to wealth and comfort, and will have easier access to opportunities and options. Others are born to poverty and struggle, where every step takes effort and nothing comes without work. If we don’t have the advantages of others, we can still find success. Dirt roads lead to destinations just like paved ones. We can decide what we want, and then do what is needed to accomplish it. Everything is possible and with determination and confidence, we can achieve anything we desire.

When our lives aren’t where we want them or we don’t have the advantages of those around us, it’s easy to complain about our lot in life. We can stand still and gripe for as long as we like, but it will never bring us happiness. We’re always in control of our lives and we can stay where we are, even if we’re unhappy. Or we can decide what we want most and then begin to do what is needed to achieve it. Everything we desire is possible and when we’re ready, we can move forward and claim it.

Today if it seems it’s harder for you to succeed than those around you, remember how strong and capable you are. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Decide what you want and then take the first step forward toward the goal. You are powerful and wise, and nothing is out of reach. Where you are now is just your starting point, and nothing can keep you from success.

Walking Away

20 Jun

Every step we take and every choice we make changes us in some way. Change is constant and what we wanted to do in the past may revise as we move on to something else. Nothing ever stays the same indefinitely and we can turn and modify our direction whenever we choose. There may be times when we’re involved with something or someone and as we interact with them, our feelings become different. Perhaps we’re no longer interested in pursuing a particular goal, or have decided to end or modify a personal relationship. We grow as we experience new things and with each step, learn something new. It’s a normal and common development. What was fascinating and captivating in the past may no longer interest us, and the things we liked before may become dull. We can always adjust our course and go in a new direction. Walking away from one thing and onto another will happen thousands of times in our lives. If we want to try something new, we can change our minds and choose a different course. We can end the chapter, close the book, and walk away. Every option is possible and we can open new doors and travel new roads at any time. There are unlimited opportunities available to us. We never have to continue doing anything we don’t want, or stay on the same road just because that’s where we are. We can step away, try new things and explore fresh ideas. Everything is possible and nothing is out of reach. We can have the lives we desire, make every dream a reality and feel absolutely fulfilled and satisfied. Complete happiness is possible and by choosing what we want we will find it.

Sometimes things look different once we get closer to them. What seemed like a good idea when we started out may turn into something else, and we can step away if we find we aren’t headed where we want to go. Nobody gets frozen in place unless they decide to stand still. We’re always in control of what we do and can alter our course at any time. We’re in command of our personal destiny and every choice can move us closer to where we want to be. We decide how our lives will go and what we’ll experience. All options are there for us and with wisdom and courage, we can do everything we desire, and have the lives we dream about.

We can go anywhere, and do anything but first we must decide what we want. Without a destination in mind, we may stumble along going this way and that, circling back a time or two, and end up exactly where we started. Endless choices mean nothing if we don’t take a step forward and decide where we’re headed. There are amazing and incredible things we can accomplish and with determination and focus, we can do them all. Our lives are in our control and we can live them any way we desire.

Today if you’ve changed your mind about something you’re doing, decide what you want and where you want to go. Make a plan to move forward and take the first step in a new direction. You are powerful and strong and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Choose your next move and create the life you want the most. Every dream is possible and you can make them all come true.