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Underneath

6 Apr

Every situation in our lives is different. We know who we are, but we may alter how we appear to the world when circumstances change. If we’re in a formal setting that is important and critical to something we’re trying to accomplish, our actions may be more guarded and restrained than if we’re at a ball game with friends. We may change our outward appearance depending on the circumstances around us as a way of fitting in or making things go more smoothly. It’s normal to adjust ourselves to fit the situation we’re in but adjusting what we’re doing or wearing doesn’t mean we must change who we are. We can be flexible and still be authentic. Some people aren’t as confident as others, and when situations change, they not only change their outward look, but their personalities as well, and may agree with things they don’t believe in. They may believe that going along with what others are doing will help move them forward, and it might for a time. But there is no way to fake it forever. Eventually who we really are will surface, and if we’ve been playing make believe, we may find ourselves in situations we don’t want that don’t fit. The world will do what it will do. People make choices and may encourage us to follow them, but our lives are ours to design, and we can be true to who we really are underneath all the trappings of work, success, expectations, or plans. We can trust ourselves to live honestly and without pretense or façade. There isn’t anyone else like us in all of creation, and we bring specific and unique gifts to those around us. By believing in our personal value, and confidently stepping forward, our individual gifts will light the world around us. We are a blessing to the world just as we are.

Lobsters are delicious to eat, but they look like giant bugs and can be quite off-putting at first glance. Their outside appearance isn’t appealing but underneath their hard-shell exterior is something delicious and delectable. While we aren’t lobsters, the same can be true regarding people. Someone may appear very differently on the outside than they truly are underneath. By being patient and open, we can be accepting, and see more than what’s on the surface.

It takes courage to reveal our innermost desires and thoughts to others. Our dreams and aspirations are deeply personal, and we may want to keep them to ourselves and protect them. We can be as private as we like, but great relationships are possible when we share our deepest feelings with someone else. By opening ourselves to those we care about, we can build strong bonds of trust that will enhance us. There is always a lot going on beneath the surface and sharing it with others will bring depth and richness to our lives.

Today if you’ve been doing things to fit in, remember how unique you are. You are a gift to the world and have gifts to offer nobody else possesses. There is greatness in you. Be confident. You are amazing and valuable. Trust yourself and show us who you are. Your light illuminates us all, and the whole world is blessed because you are here.

Valuable

1 Apr

There is value in everything in life. How much value we place on something depends on our paradigms of what things are worth, their rarity, and how much they influence our lives. Simply because something costs a lot of money, doesn’t determine its value in our personal lives. If we don’t like diamonds, the most precious and rare specimen may mean little to us. However, if we love sports, the championship game may carry great worth and bring us intense pleasure. It’s all a matter of perspective. No matter what happens in the world or how much societies change, nothing can ever replace us. The world is filled with messages about how we should be. There is the constant suggestion that in order to count we must have wealth, and possessions, and be noticed and talked about, but none of that really matters. We are unique and specific, and there never has been, nor will there ever be anyone else exactly like us. We don’t have to have anything more than ourselves to be an asset. It isn’t necessary to be good at pretending to be someone else. We can be perfect at being ourselves. We are priceless, and nothing we do or don’t do changes that. We may not be proud of something we did in the past, but we can still be proud of who we are today. Being priceless and valuable doesn’t mean we are perfect. Perfection is unattainable, but we can choose the very best we can be and find great satisfaction in our lives. Every day is a gift and when we live it to the fullest and give our very best, we find intense gratification and happiness. We are all amazing and recognizing our real value, and understanding what a blessing we are to the world and those around us will help us realize our true worth.

In every society there are norms and traditions which are practiced and valued. They may be long standing and highly encouraged. We can follow them and fit in, and go along or we can choose a different road and design our lives going in a new direction. We can be respectful and honor the choices of others, and still make our own. Our lives belong solely to us, and we know what we want. By being true to who we are and moving forward toward the goals we desire most, we will achieve great happiness. Every blessing is possible, and we can make them ours.

Some people think we must look and act a certain way to be valuable. It doesn’t matter what color we are, what kind of clothes we wear, where we live, or who we know. Those are all external markers that have nothing to do with our intrinsic value. We are precious because of who we are. We bring gifts to the world nobody else can offer. Everything we do changes everything in some way. Nothing is more important or treasured than the benefits we bring.

Today if you feel like you don’t matter, and aren’t important, remember you are unique and precious. You enhance the world with the gifts only you can offer. Nothing could ever replace you and we are all blessed by your presence. Stand tall and recognize your personal worth. It’s beyond the value of anything in the world. You are priceless and unreplaceable. Be confident. You are amazing just as you are.

Reasons

22 Mar

Lots of things happen to us in life. Sometimes we have great experiences that bring us happiness and satisfaction, and other times we go through ordeals that try our patience, push us to despair, and make us miserable. Ups and downs are the nature of life and we’ll likely go through things we never imagine will happen. When we’re struggling, someone may tell us, “Everything happens for a reason,” as though that will comfort us. While it’s true that everything does indeed happen for a reason, it’s ridiculous to think there is some sort of master plan at work manipulating and steering our lives. The reasons for what we’re going through may be a result of someone else’s bad decision, or circumstances beyond our control, or something we did, or the Bermuda Triangle. This is life – not fairyland, and the fact is, crap happens. What comes, comes, and we must deal with it when it arrives. There is no way to predict the future or see beyond the next bend. Things may go exactly as we expect them to, or everything may go sideways, and we may end up flat on our backs wondering what happened. It doesn’t mean we’ve done anything wrong, or we must suffer to get ahead. It’s just how it goes. Unexpected and unwelcome surprises will come, and we may be confused about how to manage them, but we are intelligent and highly capable. There will be a resolution for every problem, and with patience and determination, we will find our way through. There may be times when the road ahead of us is paved and nothing gets in our way as we move toward success, but those times are few and far between. Most of the time, there will be obstacles and complications, but we will always have what we need to find the answers to continue forward. Every destination is possible, and nothing can keep us from them. We are smart enough and strong enough to do what is necessary to reach success.

Those close to us who care about us and want us to be happy may give us all kinds of advice for our lives. They may tell us where they think we should go and what we should do. They are certainly entitled to their opinions, but we are in control of our lives. We can listen with grace, and then do what we want. It’s impossible to find complete happiness living someone else’s life. We already know where we want to go and have everything we need to achieve any goal we desire.

Nobody is perfect and everyone makes mistakes. When trouble comes, we may believe it’s because of a mistake we made in the past. While a previous decision may take us somewhere we don’t want to go, we can always change direction. There is no scorecard that needs balancing because we took a wrong turn. Mistakes teach us what doesn’t work and give us new skills for success moving forward. We can be confident as we move ahead, and trust that we’ll succeed.

Today if your plans have fallen apart and the road ahead has suddenly disappeared, think about what you want the most. Difficulties and problems cannot keep you from your goals. Decide how you want to proceed and step forward with confidence. Nothing can keep you from any destination you desire, and every success will be yours.

Programmed

17 Mar

When we’re children, we see what our parents and other adults around us are doing and watch the decisions they make. We may begin to pattern our lives around their example because we don’t have much to compare them to. As we get older and begin to step away from the family unit more and more, our understanding of different ideas and interpretations broadens, and we begin to see that not everyone does things the same way. Everything we see changes us a little and we start to form our own ideas about how we want to live our lives and what we want to do. As we mature, we may think we’re on a completely different road than the one our parents taught us, and then we realize we’ve made a decision exactly the same way as they would. We may believe we really haven’t changed at all, and think we’re programmed to continue making the same choices and the same mistakes we saw our first family make, and there’s nothing we can do about it. While it’s definitely true that what we learned and saw as a child may have influence over what we do as adults, nobody is destined to repeat history. We all have our own agency and can do anything we like, but we must consciously decide what that will be. It takes effort to live “on purpose” instead of just going through the motions. Each of us is an individual and we can all design our lives any way we like. There is no destiny keeping us from making our own choices. It’s all up to us. If we want to turn in a different direction, we can. If we want to go down a new road, we can. Everything is possible. Nothing can keep us from achieving any goal we desire. By deciding what we want, and then doing what is needed to make it ours, we can have the lives we want the most. Great success is possible, and we will prevail.

Some families stay very close to tradition. They follow the same rules the generation before followed and hold firm to the habits and customs of the past. Just because something has always been done one way doesn’t mean it cannot be done differently. Despite tradition, we are in control of our own lives. We can continue to follow the traditional behaviors if that’s what we want, or we can forge our own way forward. We know what we want and have everything we need to achieve it.

It takes courage to live our lives according to our own personal desires and aspirations. The pressure to follow along with the norm can be great, but it’s impossible to make our own dreams come true by following what others are doing. We are entitled to complete fulfillment and happiness, and by following our personal desires and doing what is needed to make them ours, we will achieve it. Every single dream is possible, and nothing can keep us from success.

Today if you want to move in a different direction but have hesitated, decide what you want the most, and take the first step forward. Every destination is there for you and you have everything you need to reach them. Be confident. You are amazing and powerful, and have all the courage you need to succeed.

Back Room

8 Mar

Every day of our lives brings something new. We experience happy times, sorrow, disappointment, and unlimited other things as we navigate through our days. Some experiences bring us great joy and we hold onto them, but not every experience will be positive, and we may go through some things that are so difficult, painful, and disturbing, we don’t want to face them. Maybe we don’t have the courage to face the issue completely right now and so we leave it unresolved and unsettled. We might tuck it away in the back room of our minds, thinking if we ignore it long enough, it’ll just disappear. Unresolved conflict can sometimes work itself out over time, but those instances are few and far between. No matter how hard we want something to go away, what we ignore will remain until we face it completely and do what is needed to resolve it. The back room is great place to store things, and at home when there’s something we don’t want we may stick it back there. But it will never simply disappear because it’s out of sight. It will sit and wait until we return to take care of it. Nobody gets a perfect life, and lots of things may go wrong. Our plans may fail, our friends may disappoint, our families may pressure, and we may end up somewhere we never planned to go. Trying to look the other way when trouble comes will only prolong the agony. We are strong enough and smart enough to face anything that happens. By looking at everything clearly and openly, we will find the answers we need to resolve any issue and settle any complication. We can trust ourselves to find the way ahead and be confident we will prevail.

Horses wear blinders to keep their vision focused on the road ahead and prevent them from seeing any distractions around them. Although we don’t wear actual blinders, we might face a situation that is so uncomfortable and difficult, we may avert our eyes and try to ignore it, hoping it will fade off or someone else will take care of it. We might get lucky a time or two, but mostly what we refuse to face now will persist until we muster our courage and actually face it. There is no need to hide from anything that happens. We already possess everything we need to accomplish anything we must.

Life can be complicated, and we can be very busy. If something happens that we simply cannot deal with right now, we can set it aside and continue on. Change is constant and once our situation is more settled, we can return to the issue and take care of it. There is nothing wrong with waiting until we’re ready to face something. When we’re ready, we can return and take care of anything we’ve left behind. Our lives are ours to design any way we like, and with persistence and clarity, we can manage whatever develops and find success. Nothing is too hard for us to face, and we will prevail.

Today if you’re facing a difficult challenge and don’t think you can manage it, think again. Remember all the times you’ve already overcome serious problems and prevailed. You are more powerful and wiser than you think you are. Nothing is too difficult for you. You are amazing. Trust yourself and step forward with confidence.