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History

17 Aug

Our lives are a reflection of all the experiences we’ve had. Each step we take and every decision we make brings us to where we are, both physically and mentally. Nobody is perfect and even when we try to make good decisions, there will be times when they won’t work out. Our plans may not go the way we thought they would, or the road we were on that looked so good, turned suddenly and took us somewhere we didn’t want. When we look back at our personal history, we’ll likely see some things we wish we hadn’t done, and some things that went better than expected. If we’ve made serious mistakes in judgement, we got the chance to learn more to help us moving forward. But if an error is egregious and causes a lot of turmoil, we might try to escape blame. If we push a bad decision off on someone else, or the situation, and refuse to acknowledge our part in it, we will learn nothing. When we don’t learn from our mistakes, there’s a good chance we’ll make them again. It’s not easy to admit we were wrong, especially if there are others involved we want to impress, but truth is truth, and will always surface. We can try to keep a low profile, and pretend we weren’t involved, but that will not work indefinitely. The facts will eventually show themselves and the truth will rise. Dodging accountability only delays the inevitable. They say if we don’t learn from history, we are doomed to repeat it. Bad decisions and poor choices will never take us where we want to go, and nobody wants a life filled with them. Standing up to what we’ve done, even if it’s been disastrous, will enable us to learn as much as possible from what’s happened, and take all that knowledge forward with us. We are capable of making excellent choices and choosing the best way forward in every situation. We can be honest and clear in our decisions, and find our way to any destination we desire.

There are all kinds of people in the world with all kinds of ideas. If we’re associating with someone who is constantly dishonest, and continually makes bad decisions, we may get caught up in their behaviors and find ourselves in an uncomfortable situation. Repeating someone else’s mistakes will never correct them. We are wise enough to find the answers we need no matter what situation we’re in, and with patience and clarity can choose the best road forward.

Everything we do teaches us something new to carry forward. Paying attention to what we’re learning along the way will help us make modifications and alter our direction if we reach an impasse. We are intelligent and there is nothing that can hold us in place indefinitely. We can draw on all the knowledge we’ve gained, and find our way to any destination we desire. We create our own history with every decision we make, and have everything we need to find great satisfaction and success.

Today if you have repeated a bad decision and are suffering the consequences, think clearly about the road ahead. Learn all you can, and use that knowledge to turn your course toward success. You are highly capable and can do anything, and do it well. Be confident and step forward. Every success is possible and you will reach it.

Thin Skin

7 Aug

There are all kinds of people in the world and they each have their own ideas about life and how things should go. We know who we are, and are sure about what we want and how we want to move forward. It’s easy to make friends and feel comfortable when those around us are like us. When they believe the same things we do, and understand our point of view, it’s easy to connect and build alliances. But the world is a big place, and people come from many diverse backgrounds. There will be many others who are vastly different than we are, and their views may be in direct opposition to what we believe is right. That does not make them wrong, or wicked, or less than us. It only makes them different. If we can’t tolerate anything outside our own ideas, it will be very difficult to interact with them. We are entitled to believe anything we desire and we can form our own opinions about everything in life. But if we’re so thin skinned we cannot tolerate anyone who is different, it may be difficult for us to get along. Some people say they “celebrate diversity” but when someone questions their ideas and presents an opposing view, they shut down or become angry. No two people are exactly the same. Everyone has their own perspective, and unless they are hurting others, each has value. We don’t have to adopt anything we don’t want, and can decide how we’ll live our own lives. We can be confident in our views, and strong enough to accept other points of view, even if we don’t understand or agree with them. Life is full of variety and variation. We can be welcoming and respect other points of view, and still hold onto to what is most important. Everyone has worth, and we can honor each individual, and still choose our own way forward.

When we’re growing up, what we experience in our families seems normal and right. As we mature, we begin to see other expressions and understand that our experience is unique to us and not universal. We can hold onto exactly what makes us comfortable and refuse to change, or we can embrace other points of view and allow them to enrich our understanding of the world around us. Holding on may feel comfortable, but will never allow us to expand our thinking and become more accepting.

Life would be easier if everyone was the same. If we were all on the same road with the same ideas, there would be less conflict and more harmony. That may be true, but it’s the differences that bring great richness to our experience, and broaden our thinking. We can accept difference and uniqueness, and honor the right for everyone to express their own ideas and viewpoints. Life is a great teacher, and by being open and welcoming, we will gain great insight and wisdom.

Today if you want everyone to agree with you and find it hard to accept different points of view, remember we are all important and worthwhile. Each expression has value. Be open to new ideas that will enhance your experience and help you understand the world. You are incredible and capable, and nothing is beyond your reach. Let others tell you who they are, and welcome new ideas. Your life will be enriched, and you’ll find great satisfaction moving forward.

Enough

21 May

Everyone is unique and we all have different experiences as we go through our lives. There are billions of people on the planet and we’re all different. Our package of attributes belongs to us and nobody else. Even identical twins differ in some respects. We will meet all kinds of people and each one will be individual and specific to themselves. While we may understand we’re all different, there may be times when we yearn to be exactly like someone else. If we’re timid and quiet, we may wish to be gregarious and outgoing. Or we may want money and riches we don’t possess, or extreme beauty and poise. We can change most things about our lives and it’s good to have a goal, but if we obsess over a personal attribute we don’t have, we may begin to feel we aren’t good enough as we are. No matter where we are now, there will always be something more we can achieve. That doesn’t mean we’re less than we should be right now, or lacking in some way. It just means that life is filled with opportunities and if we want something more, we can do what is needed to attain it. We are completely perfect just the way we are for the lives we’re living. If we want to change something, how we look, what we do, where we work, or anything else, we can. We are perfectly capable of creating the lives we want the most, and with attention and determination we can make all our dreams reality. But while we’re pressing forward and reaching for something different, we can value where we are and honor the lives we now have. The gifts and benefits we have to offer can’t be given by anyone else. We are valuable and worthwhile just as we are, and the whole is blessed because we are here.

We are constantly bombarded with messages all around us that we should be somehow different in some way. They tell us we should never be satisfied with what we have or where we are and should do more, and be more. It’s good to strive to be the best we can be, but the world does not set the standards for our lives. We do. We decide what we’ll do and where we’ll go. All the other opinions are just noise. We know what we want, and have everything we need to do anything we desire. We can design our lives any way we choose, and find complete happiness.

If we aren’t meeting someone else’s idea of how they think we should be living, they may ridicule or criticize us, telling us what we should do and what changes need to be made. Everyone has their own ideas, and we can listen to anything we like, but nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. We’re in control of our own destiny and can decide how our lives will go. Every single goal is possible, and nothing can keep us from doing what we want the most.

Today if you feel you aren’t good enough or somehow don’t measure up, remember there isn’t anyone else like you in all of creation. You are rare and precious, and worth more than you can imagine. The whole world is enriched by your presence. You are perfect just as you are. Believe in yourself. Be confident and move forward. Every success you desire is waiting just ahead, and nothing can keep you from it. You are amazing, and incredible, and make the world wonderful.

All Mine

4 May

There are endless decisions to make as we navigate through our lives. Some are insignificant, some are important, some are serious, and others may completely change our direction. Not every decision will have a great impact, but large or small, they are ours to make. They may go the way we think they will and when they do, we’re happy with the choice we made. But that isn’t always the case. If we make a decision that doesn’t go well, blows up in our face, or completely ruins our plans, we’ll feel very differently about it. If others influenced us, we may try to blame them and that might deflect the attention away from us for a time, but will never hold up. If we didn’t have all the information before we pushed forward, we can blame those who provided whatever information we had. There are all kinds of creative ways to pretend we aren’t responsible, but in truth, we own every choice we make. They belong completely to us, and nothing can change that. Right or wrong, good or bad, we choose what we want, and then face whatever consequences our choices bring. Nobody is perfect and we all fall down from time to time. If we falter, and things go wrong, the destination may elude us. It doesn’t mean we won’t be successful in the future or that the roads ahead are forever closed. It’s just a detour while we figure out what to do next and learn more about the way forward. We have unlimited chances to move ahead. One bad decision can never hold us in place. We can be confident that no matter where we are, or what problems we must face, we will find our way. Every success is possible and we can be sure we will prevail.

Some people are great escape artists. They get tangled up in a problem they created, and somehow find a way to disappear before everything falls apart. When questioned they may deny their involvement or say they knew nothing about the situation. It’s not always our job to hold others accountable for what they do, even if it negatively impacts our lives. We are where we are, and trying to make someone confess their part in the mess may only waste our time. We are highly intelligent and capable, and no matter what’s gone wrong can find a way to correct our course and continue on.

It’s unfair to leave others to clean up a mess we’ve created. If we dug the hole, we need to fill it. Walking away and ignoring the issue doesn’t excuse us. Nobody gets everything right every time. If we’ve created a problem, we have everything we need to solve it. Standing firm and doing what is needed to correct our course will bring us great satisfaction and confidence. We are strong and powerful, and nothing is beyond our reach. We can do what is necessary to stay on track and move forward toward our goals.

Today if a decision you made is crashing and burning, and you want to run and hide, stand still and look at everything objectively. This is just a bump in the road. Begin to untangle the problem and decide on the best way forward. You are smarter than you think you are and nothing can hold you down. Be wise and step forward with confidence. Every success is there for you, and nothing will keep you from it.

Alone and Sunk

22 Apr

We’ll face many challenges and trials as we go through our lives. They may come from decisions we’ve made or have nothing to do with us. We never know what will happen next and we may get caught unaware and surprised by an unfortunate development. When we’re going through a difficult time, and trying hard to figure out what to do, it’s helpful to have the support of others. Having those around us cheering us on and giving us advice can make the road easier to navigate, and boost our morale. But there may be times when we are all alone in the struggle and wonder how we’ll get through. If everything depends on us, we may be unsure about how to proceed. We may be standing on our own and convinced there is nobody to help. Whatever we’re facing will surely be harder by ourselves than if there was someone beside us to ask and get counsel from. If we stumble trying to find our way, we may lose our confidence and begin to think we’re sunk, and we’ll never get through. While we may have to walk alone from time to time, we’ll never be in a place where there is no one to help us. There will always be someone with the answers we’re seeking, who can guide us and assure us of success. They may not be right next to us and we may have to look a little harder to find them, but they will be there. No matter what the question is or how confused we are, we can get the help we need. We may start out alone and hesitant, but if we need assistance, it will be there for us. However, it’s up to us to seek out those we need and enlist their help. Nobody will magically appear because we’re stuck. We are intelligent and capable, and when we need it, can get the help and assistance required to reach success. Nothing is out of reach and with patience and wisdom, we will find our way.

It’s nice when we can accomplish our goals on our own. It’s rewarding and satisfying to know we have what it takes to go where we want. But life is complicated and there will be times when going alone will be more difficult than we can manage. Asking for help doesn’t mean we aren’t capable of succeeding, or that we’re weak. Seeking out more information and assistance enables us to accomplish anything we desire. No man is an island. We’re all out here together. Making the most of all the resources around us will help us reach every destination and find great satisfaction.

It’s good to be independent and take care of ourselves. We are strong and capable, and can live our lives any way we like. Some roads are easy but others are tangled and twisted, and we may get stuck trying to move forward. When our cars get stuck, we can call a tow truck. If we get stuck, we can call on someone else for help. There is no need to stand mired in the mud indefinitely, determined to do it on our own. We can reach for someone to pull us out and help us continue forward.

Today if you’re trying to get through a difficult challenge and can’t move, seek out those around you and ask for help. You don’t have to do everything all by yourself. You have so much to offer and nothing is too far to reach. Get help when you need it and confidently move forward. Every dream is possible, and you will make them yours.