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Sinking Feeling

11 May

We share the world with billions of other people. We’ll build relationships with some of them, we’ll love some of them and tolerate others, and they’ll be a part of our experiences. When we trust someone and believe in them, we may include them in our most private thoughts and plans, and build connections that are strong and rewarding. Although we may feel we’re good judges of character, and often we are, we may face a time when someone turns out to be very different than we thought. If we discover they have been dishonest with us, have manipulated us or flatly lied to us and we believed in them, we may be devastated. When all the facts come out, we may have a sinking feeling that we’ve been used and everything we thought was real was fiction. There may be a feeling of great shame that we fell for the lie, but we are not at fault. It’s good to trust and give others the benefit of the doubt. If they let us down, the blame is theirs to carry. If we’re facing a situation where our trust has been damaged, if the situation isn’t too severe and there are extenuating circumstances that have come into play, there may be a way to mend the relationship. However, if the other party simply manipulated us for their own enjoyment or personal gain, there may be no way to repair the damage. We may need to sever our ties, walk away, and move forward without them. It’s heartbreaking to lose a connection because of dishonesty, but we are strong, and nothing can keep us from reaching success. We can change direction, and alter our plans, and still reach every goal we desire. Others will do what they will, but we know what we want, and have everything we need to achieve it. Every road is there for us, and with determination and focus, we will succeed.

After a bad relationship, we may decide that trusting others isn’t worth the risk and choose to move forward alone. We may avoid building relationships with others to protect ourselves and keep everything inside. We can do anything we like but most people are good, and everyone has something of value to offer. Cutting ourselves off from the human race may seem wise, but it will keep us from all the blessings that building good, strong relationships will bring. Getting hurt is painful, but we will heal, and can trust ourselves to make wise connections moving forward.

We can’t control anything but the decisions we make. Some people will be wise, and some will be foolish. Some may delight in bringing us joy, and others may taunt and tease. We don’t set our personal standards by what others are doing. We set them by what we want to accomplish and who we want to be. We can trust ourselves to make excellent choices and move forward with confidence and clarity that we will prevail in every situation.

Today if you’ve discovered that someone you trusted has been dishonest, and you are hurt and unsure how to proceed, trust yourself. You know what you want, and you know who you are. You are wiser and more capable than you imagine. Decide what you want to do and step forward with confidence. All your dreams are still there for you and you will reach them.

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Holding Fast

6 May

As we go through our lives there is no way to know what will come. We don’t have control over anything but the decisions we’re making. There are billions of people in the world and they’re all making decisions as well. Sometimes someone else’s choice may cause a domino effect that rolls our way and pushes us in a new direction. Change is constant and even if we plan well and are intently focused on moving forward, something may happen that stops us cold. We might know why everything has changed, or we may have no idea. Either way, if the way ahead is now blocked and impassable, we will have to decide how to proceed. There are few clear, paved roads to the destinations we desire, but there will always be a way around whatever is blocking our path. It may not be convenient, it might take us the long way around, and it might require more time to get to the destination, but there will be a way forward. If we hold fast to what we want, we will find our way and reach the goal. It sounds easy enough – just change direction and get there. But life is rarely that easy. If others are involved, we may need to get agreement before we can proceed. The road may be covered with huge rocks and hurdles we must overcome to advance even a little bit, and we might have to venture into foreign territory where we don’t know the terrain or the players. A storm may develop, and we may be buffeted by high winds and torrential rain. At some point, we’ll have to decide if the goal is worth what we’re going through. If it is, we have all the courage and wisdom we need to continue forward. We can dig deep, hold fast, and push ahead with focus and determination. Every single dream is possible. Every single one. We just have to decide what we want the most.

Lots of people continually come in and out of our lives, and we may seek their guidance and value their opinion. If we’re seriously focused on achieving a goal, and they disagree with our decision, they may try to dissuade us from continuing. They may encourage us to try for something easier, saying the goal isn’t worth all the effort we’re expending. We can always alter our course, but nobody knows what we want more than we do. It doesn’t matter if others don’t understand or agree, we can design our lives any way we like, and reach every destination we desire.

There are endless things to capture our attention and unlimited ideas to try. We can do anything we like, but first, we must decide what we want. If we don’t decide where we want to go, we may spend all our time distracted by every possible option and achieve nothing. We can have the lives we dream of once we take the time to determine exactly what that means, and then do what is necessary to make it ours. Every destination is possible, and nothing can keep us from success.

Today if the road you were on has become difficult and you can’t see the way ahead, decide what you want the most. If the goal is important, trust yourself and continue forward. Each step will lead you to the next, and if you persist, you will reach the destination no matter how hard it is to achieve. Nothing is too far or too complicated for you to manage. Be confident. Success is always there for you, and you prevail.

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Fated

3 May

Every day we make lots of decisions. We can never read the future, and although we try to choose well, there will be times in everyone’s life when things don’t work out. We may take a wrong turn and end up far from where we want to be, we might choose something that hurts us or those around us, or we may make a decision that makes our lives miserable. We all know when we’re on the wrong road, but because of circumstances, we might not immediately turn around and redirect our course. Life is complicated and if we’re tangled up in a situation with others it may be difficult to free ourselves and walk away. If we continue forward and it turns out we made a disastrous decision, we will pay the price, whatever that may be. We may lose friends, disappoint family, hurt those we care about, or damage our credibility. We can never change the past, but where we’ve been cannot define what we can become. We aren’t fated to failure because we’ve made a mistake. Our lives are in our control and when we’re ready to change direction and start again, we can. Nothing can keep us on a journey we don’t want to make. When we’re ready to change, we can stop where we are, look at all the options possible and choose the best road moving forward. Our past mistakes are not indelible ink, permanently tattooed on us. We can repair damage from a bad decision, rebuild relationships and forge ahead. It doesn’t matter what’s behind us. What counts is what lies ahead and how we move forward. There is great success waiting, and we can do what is needed to reach it. No goal or destination is too far or too difficult to achieve. We can change anything at any time and move toward the lives we want the most. What’s gone is gone, and the future is ours to design. Nothing can keep us from anything we desire, and we will succeed.

There are people all around us most of the time, and when we falter, chances are others will notice. Some may simply see what’s happened and move on. Others may hold onto it and try to use it to hold us in place. They may remind us of where we went wrong in the past, and continually bring up our shortcomings. Nobody is perfect and we all have things we need to work on. There is nothing to be gained by constantly rehashing past mistakes. By learning as much as possible from where we’ve been, we can take that knowledge with us to help us as we move forward.

Personal pain can be very difficult to overcome. If we’ve gotten hurt badly by a choice that tilted us in the wrong direction, it can be hard to let go of the disappointment. We may think we should have known better, but nobody can see the end of the road from the beginning. We are intelligent and can trust ourselves to make the best choices moving forward. We can have faith that no matter what comes, we will prevail.

Today if you’re struggling over a mistake you made in the past, and it’s holding you down, think about all the things you’ve done well. You are good at many things and nothing can keep you from success. Trust yourself and step forward with confidence. All your dreams are ready and waiting. There is great success ahead, and you will reach it.

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Whisper

21 Apr

Difficult challenges and trials are a natural part of our experiences here on earth. Nobody gets a continually charmed life where everything always goes well, and they never suffer. There are ups and downs in every life, hard times and easy times, and we may face extreme and serious problems. When trouble comes, and we feel pushed to the limit and unsure we can endure another moment we may believe we are doomed, and failure is inevitable. In those moments, even if we’re convinced we will not survive, there will be a tiny whisper in the back of our minds that tells us we can take another step. It may be small and quiet, but it will be there, always ready to comfort and cajole us to keep trying. No matter how sure we are of imminent disaster, there will always be the possibility of success. Even if it’s dark and the clouds above us are black and threatening, even if the wind is punishing and it’s hard to see, the road will still be there for us beckoning us forward. There isn’t anything powerful enough to hold us in place forever. We may need to stop and take a breath, we might need to rest and regroup, but with determination and focus, no matter how hard the journey is, we can prevail. Hard times will come, and we will surely be tested. We may have no idea at the beginning how we will get through, but we don’t have to see the end of the road to trust that it’s there for us. We can take one small step forward, and then take another. As we unravel each complication, we will get stronger and the road ahead will open a little more. In time, however long that takes, we will get through and the sun will shine on us once again. Every problem has a solution and every trial will end. No storm can last forever. We are stronger and more courageous than we think we are, and nothing, absolutely nothing, can overcome us. By trusting ourselves and believing we will prevail, we will succeed.

Some people delight in the suffering of others. They may laugh when we fall down, and ridicule us because we’re struggling to work through something difficult. It’s hard to understand what their motivation is, but their words mean nothing. Support from those around us is certainly beneficial when we’re trying to overcome a hard challenge, but if we don’t have it, we can manage whatever comes on our own. Every answer is already there for us, and with patience and determination we will find the way ahead.

We may face a situation that takes a long time to resolve. No matter what we do, we may not be able to improve things quickly. It’s hard to endure suffering for a long time, and we may grow weary. We can always give up and walk away, letting go of whatever it is we’re trying to accomplish, but turning away from success will never bring it to us. If we need to rest, we can, and then start again when we’re ready. Every single destination is there for us, and we have everything we need to win.

Today if you’re facing a big challenge, and aren’t sure how you can survive, trust yourself. You are stronger and more powerful than you imagine. Listen to that whisper that says you can prevail. Be confident and stand strong. Take one step forward and stay focused the road ahead. Every success is waiting, and you will reach it.

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Here Ya Go

26 Mar

There are lots of people who come and go in and out of our lives. We make contacts and connections, build relationships, and interact with them continually. We may only wave in passing, or they may be important and integral to our daily lives. We’re all sharing time on the planet and each of us is experiencing our own personal events. It’s good to have others who support us when things go wrong to offer help and advice, and we can be there when someone else needs us. Our connections to one another run deeper than we think, and our presence may be all that’s needed to help someone over a trial. Everyone gets the opportunity to experience problems and trouble, and we all struggle from time to time. Our lives are our own responsibility but if we’re overwhelmed with something, and someone we trust and rely on shows up, we might try to transfer the issue over onto them. We may imagine that since they care about us, they won’t mind taking on the extra burden, and believe they could manage it better than we could anyway. We may say, “Here ya go,” pass it off to them, dust off our hands, and walk away. It’s nice to think others will willingly handle all our messy, difficult problems, but our lives belong to us, and our problems are our responsibility. We own them, even when we try to give them away. Nobody wants to face problems. Nobody wants to suffer, but this is real life, not fantasyland, and things are going to go wrong. It’s never convenient, it’s not fun and we don’t enjoy struggling, but that doesn’t mean we can’t manage the issue. We are stronger and wiser than we might think, and there isn’t anything so hard and complex we can’t figure it out. By trusting ourselves and taking things one step at a time, we will find our way through whatever comes. We are powerful and capable, and will succeed.

Guilt can be a very useful tool for manipulating others. If we’re asked to do something we don’t want to do, it may be used to get us to change our minds. They may remind us of when they helped us out of a jam, for which we were very grateful. There is always give and take in every relationship, but we’re in control of our lives. We never have to do anything we don’t want to do, and manipulation through infusing guilt into the equation, doesn’t change anything. We can be confident of our decisions, even if others disagree, and continue forward.

There may be times when we’re facing a very difficult problem and don’t know how to manage it. Instead of ignoring it and hoping it will magically disappear, or trying to find someone else who’ll take it, we can reach out for help and advice, and begin unraveling it ourselves. All the answers are there for us, and we are intelligent enough to find them. We can be confident we will prevail and push ahead toward resolution.

Today if you’re facing a difficult challenge and don’t know how to proceed, trust yourself. Ask for help and get the information and advice you need. You are more powerful than you realize, and nothing is too hard for you to manage. Be confident and stand strong. Every single blessing is there for you. Step forward and claim them.

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