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Here Ya Go

26 Mar

There are lots of people who come and go in and out of our lives. We make contacts and connections, build relationships, and interact with them continually. We may only wave in passing, or they may be important and integral to our daily lives. We’re all sharing time on the planet and each of us is experiencing our own personal events. It’s good to have others who support us when things go wrong to offer help and advice, and we can be there when someone else needs us. Our connections to one another run deeper than we think, and our presence may be all that’s needed to help someone over a trial. Everyone gets the opportunity to experience problems and trouble, and we all struggle from time to time. Our lives are our own responsibility but if we’re overwhelmed with something, and someone we trust and rely on shows up, we might try to transfer the issue over onto them. We may imagine that since they care about us, they won’t mind taking on the extra burden, and believe they could manage it better than we could anyway. We may say, “Here ya go,” pass it off to them, dust off our hands, and walk away. It’s nice to think others will willingly handle all our messy, difficult problems, but our lives belong to us, and our problems are our responsibility. We own them, even when we try to give them away. Nobody wants to face problems. Nobody wants to suffer, but this is real life, not fantasyland, and things are going to go wrong. It’s never convenient, it’s not fun and we don’t enjoy struggling, but that doesn’t mean we can’t manage the issue. We are stronger and wiser than we might think, and there isn’t anything so hard and complex we can’t figure it out. By trusting ourselves and taking things one step at a time, we will find our way through whatever comes. We are powerful and capable, and will succeed.

Guilt can be a very useful tool for manipulating others. If we’re asked to do something we don’t want to do, it may be used to get us to change our minds. They may remind us of when they helped us out of a jam, for which we were very grateful. There is always give and take in every relationship, but we’re in control of our lives. We never have to do anything we don’t want to do, and manipulation through infusing guilt into the equation, doesn’t change anything. We can be confident of our decisions, even if others disagree, and continue forward.

There may be times when we’re facing a very difficult problem and don’t know how to manage it. Instead of ignoring it and hoping it will magically disappear, or trying to find someone else who’ll take it, we can reach out for help and advice, and begin unraveling it ourselves. All the answers are there for us, and we are intelligent enough to find them. We can be confident we will prevail and push ahead toward resolution.

Today if you’re facing a difficult challenge and don’t know how to proceed, trust yourself. Ask for help and get the information and advice you need. You are more powerful than you realize, and nothing is too hard for you to manage. Be confident and stand strong. Every single blessing is there for you. Step forward and claim them.