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Broken or Blessed

4 Aug

Relationships are important to all of us.  When we have a healthy and strong network of family and friends around us we feel supported and cared for.  Relationships come in all varieties and when they are good for us they are blessings in our lives.  But sometimes we may develop a relationship with someone who doesn’t have our best interests at heart.  Perhaps they are dysfunctional in their own lives and use us to fill in the gaps and missing pieces they experience within themselves.  Or maybe they see us as a stepping stone to something better.  Sometimes they may manipulate us into believing they care for us when they don’t or convince us to trust them in ways that work against us.  If they need more than we’re comfortable giving or have problems that interfere with our happiness it will be impossible for us to continue.  We don’t have to end any relationship that is important to us but if it’s hurting us we can find ways to manage it that ensure we’re comfortable and safe.  If a relationship is too difficult it may break and we may have to walk away.  Our personal happiness and safety are important and if we’re in a relationship that hurts us or makes us feel unsure we can change our involvement.  There are all kinds of people in the world and some need more than we can give.  We don’t have to continue in any situation that doesn’t work.  We can choose a new path at any time and are in complete control of our lives.  We know ourselves and know what is best for us.  Taking control and choosing the best road forward will bring us happiness and peace.

Perception is reality and sometimes our perception of an issue may be different than someone else’s.  What is acceptable and appropriate for one person may be offensive and unwelcome to another.  If we develop a relationship with someone whose ideas about what is right differ from ours, there will likely be conflict.  It may be possible to find a compromise but if the differences are extreme and feelings are strong it may become unworkable.  If we’re involved with someone whose personal values are far different than ours we may need to step back.  We deserve to be happy and choose to live our lives according to our personal standards.  We need not compromise what is most important to us.

There are few things more rewarding than a loving relationship with someone who respects us and treats us with kindness.  We feel strong when we’re with them and confident going forward knowing they have our backs and we can count on them for support.  Sharing our lives with someone who understands us and cares for us is a great blessing.  We can have any kind of relationships we desire.  We know what we want and what we need, and if we choose well we will be happy.

Today if you’re struggling with a relationship that brings you pain and frustration, consider all your options going forward.  You are in control of your life and you deserve every happiness.  Make choices today that will bring you comfort and joy.  You know what you need and you know what to do.  Be confident.  You have everything you need to have the life you desire.

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Stepping Up

1 Aug

As we go through our lives we decide every day what we will do and who we will be. When we’re children our perception of things is innocent and simple. Our behaviors are mostly reactions to what we go through and we have little control over our temperament. As we get older we see things more deeply and understand the complexities of life, and if we’re wise learn to respond thoughtfully to situations instead of merely react. If we want to be successful, the grudges and tantrums of childhood must be replaced by reasoning and self-control. The behaviors and traits we have as children are charming when we’re children but may be destructive if we hang onto them into adulthood. There are few things more disturbing than adults who behave like children. Every day we live we learn more about ourselves and those around us and have the opportunity to grow into greater understanding about our lives. If we persist in holding onto childish behavior, tantrums, or other emotional immaturity, we may cripple our ability to be trusted and move forward. Learning to step up into adulthood opens doors and allows us to continue successfully toward any goal we desire. We can change any immature trait that is holding us back and find a better way to continue ahead. We can let go of behaviors that suspend our progress and find our way more easily toward every destination we desire.

We may find security in hanging onto old behaviors that are outgrown. We may keep the patterns of childhood in our living arrangements and daily schedules, however, if we hold onto childish emotional behaviors we may find it difficult to relate to other adults. It’s very hard to have a discussion with someone who is unhappy and throwing a tantrum instead of working the problem and finding a solution. We can be brave enough to step into adulthood and embrace our ability to grow and move forward. We don’t need to hold onto old behaviors we’ve outgrown and can find a new road going forward that will bring us success.

Becoming a true adult and learning to stand strong on our own doesn’t happen overnight. It takes practice to find what works and discover our own personal path going forward. We can be patient and learn from every opportunity and when we feel old patterns creeping in we can look at them and choose the best way forward. We know what we want and we know how to get it. We are strong enough and wise enough to find our way to live successfully and reach any destination we choose.

Today if you’ve been holding onto old patterns that no longer work, take the time you need to find another way forward. You can change anything and choose options that take you where you want to go. You deserve every happiness. Take the time you need to make sure you reach for it in ways that will bring you success. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Today make the best decisions and they will bring you the best results.

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Achilles

31 Jul

No matter how many gifts and talents we possess, or how confident and strong we become we all have something we carry with us we may deem a weakness or vulnerability.  Perhaps we are afflicted with obsession, fear, anger, an intense flight reflex, compulsion or a thousand other behavior traits that hang us up and sometimes prevent us from moving forward.  We may work on resolving the issue and make progress in overcoming it but often it may remain even if we’ve been able to diminish it.  It’s like our Achilles heel.  The legend of Achilles is his mother dipped him in the waters of the River Styx and he became invincible, except for the part of his heel by which she held him.  In a great battle he was shot in that heel with an arrow, and died.  When we are dealing with something again and again we may think of it as our Achilles heel, the one thing that holds us back and trips us up.  We may certainly take whatever steps we feel will help us change the situation and allow us to more comfortably move forward.  We have a lot of positive attributes and we all do many things well.  As we try to change something in our behavior we may focus on the problem so intently we lose sight of all the positive things we accomplish every day.  It’s good to address the things we feel compromise or inhibit us from becoming our best but we can also remember how great we are in other ways.  One complication doesn’t change all the good we do.  We all have so much to offer.  There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish and nothing too difficult for us to manage.

No two people are the same and we all have things we must deal with from time to time.  What is simple for one is difficult for another.  It’s easy to look at others and think their lives are better than ours, they have more opportunities than we have or they don’t have the problems we must face.  We might be right about some of that but everyone gets their own unique set of challenges and issues to face.  Even if we can’t see them it’s probable everyone around us is solving some problem or facing some complication that is making life difficult for them.

We have all the tools we need to change anything we desire in our lives.  We know ourselves better than anyone else ever could.  Every challenge and test that comes will teach us something new about ourselves and as we solve each problem we’ll gain additional attributes to assist us going forward.  We can address any pattern or behavior that isn’t working for us and we can change our path at any time.  There may be moments of doubt but we can pull our courage forward and become fearless in moving ahead.  The world belongs to those who take it.  We have everything we need to get anywhere we want to go.  Every step we take moves us closer to our goal.

Today if you’ve been struggling with a behavior that has held you back, look at the situation objectively and see how you may modify your course.  You already know where you want to go.  There is nothing strong enough to hold you in place and success is waiting for you.  You have everything you need to achieve it.

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Facing It

28 Jul

We all have times when we must do something we truly do not want to do.  It may be unpleasant, frightening, stressful, or difficult and we may feel we can’t go through it.  We might be able to find our way around some things we don’t want to do but there will be others we’ll have to walk through and manage.  If they involve other people who have been mean to us or manipulated us in ways that are infuriating or painful the idea of having to deal with them may be repugnant and overwhelming.  We may think we can’t do it, and even if we could, we definitely don’t want to do it.  It’s hard to look at very difficult situations in front of us and feel comfortable but nobody gets a life filled with only flowers and butterflies.  We all have to face the fire from time to time.  Holding our confidence close and determining to do whatever is needed to move forward will help us navigate any complication we must face.  No matter what lies ahead we have everything we need to manage it and we can be strong through any turmoil or trouble.  Life can be tumultuous but we can work through anything that stands in our way and do what is needed to restore harmony.  It’s not comfortable to do things that are difficult but comfort will come on the other side.  We are powerful and capable and we can face anything and overcome.  There is nothing too difficult or complicated for us to figure out and we have all the strength and courage we need to do what is required to move through any problem we’re facing.

Everyone has their own ideas about how things should go and how relationships should work.  If we have a relationship that brings us pain but is valuable to us we will have to weigh our options carefully going forward.  We never need to stay in any relationship that is detrimental to us.  We can choose our own way and determine how we will live our lives.  We deserve to be happy and respected and we can find ways to manage our relationships that allow us to feel comfortable and confident going forward.  Just because we’ve done something one way in the past doesn’t mean we must continue doing it if we aren’t happy.  We can always modify our course and choose what is best for us.

If we must face a situation that is daunting and we feel threatened trying to find a way through we can trust in our ability to make excellent choices and be confident that we will succeed.  We have already faced many difficult times in the past and have overcome them and continued forward.  There isn’t anything we can’t face and manage well.  We have everything we need to face any complicated or difficult challenge.  We are a blessing to the world and we can be confident that we will prevail.

Today if you’re facing a situation that is overwhelming and you feel unsure about going forward, remember you have everything you need to face anything and prevail.  You are powerful and strong.  There is nothing too difficult or complex for you.  You have everything you need right now to face anything before you.  Be confident.  You will win.

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What it Means

19 Jul

There are all kinds of ways to define success in life.  We all have ideas about what success means and how we manifest it in our lives.  Some believe it’s defined by money or position, or by those we know or over whom we have influence.  The outward appearances of success may involve many things but real success has little to do with what others see and more to do with how we feel.  Our personal success is intimately tied to who we really want to be and what we personally want to achieve.  Ultimately it must be defined by us and how we choose to live our lives.  No matter how we define it if we achieve what we determine is best for us we will find happiness.  The world has all kinds of ideas about how we should live and what success looks like but if want to be truly happy we must define it for ourselves.  We are always in control of our personal decisions and we may direct our lives any way we choose.  If we are true to the things we desire most and do what is needed to achieve them we will find great success.  Our personal successes will bring us great confidence and clarity as we move forward and help us define the paths we want to travel.  We know what we want most in our lives and who we want to be.  Every choice we make will either take us closer to those goals or move us in another direction.  As we move forward toward our personal success we will find great satisfaction in our journey and fulfillment going forward.

Outward success is essentially arbitrary and may be expressed in countless ways.  If we are convinced it’s merely a reflection of our monetary worth we may strive to acquire money in order to feel successful.  If we determine it’s how we are ethically and morally we may pattern our lives after the values we hold dear.  What it means is entirely up to us and has little to do with how others define it.  There may be pressure to conform to the definitions of success as determined by our social group, family or others and we may certainly follow any direction we choose.  In the end if we choose what is most important to us, despite the ideas of others, we will find happiness.

We must live with ourselves and our decisions every day.  If we choose to go along with others for the sake of convenience or conformity we may get the goals we want most or we may not.  When others are driving the train and we’re merely passengers we have no control over where we’re headed.  However, if we proactively direct our lives and make choices with our personal goals in mind we will reach the destinations we want most.  We deserve every happiness and reaching for our personal successes will bring it to us.

Today if you’ve been following someone else’s idea of what you need to do to be successful, decide what you want most.  Determine where you want to go and who you want to be.  You will reach every destination you desire and find great personal success.  There isn’t anything you can’t do.  Go forward with confidence.  It’s all there for you.

 

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