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Leaving With Grace

25 Jun

Life is full of ups and downs. Everyday brings us something new and we never know what will come next. Sometimes all our plans go well and we make good, strong connections that pave the road ahead and help us reach our goals. Other times, despite our best efforts, things go awry and we face changes we didn’t plan on. Relationships end, jobs change, people leave, and roads turn. There will be times when we must walk away and start in a new direction. Nothing is permanent and life is unpredictable. If the change takes us by surprise and we are heartbroken, we may feel angry that we can’t have what we thought was there for us. It’s normal to be upset when what we desire and plan on is no longer possible. We can scream and shout, belittle others who are involved, stamp our feet and slam all the doors, but that will not change our new reality. Serious disappointments are hard to navigate and we may give into every immature and vicious emotion possible, and that may make us feel better for a while, but it will only delay the inevitable realization that we are powerless over the change we must face. Instead of giving in to our most base instincts and lashing out at whomever or whatever has caused our discomfort, we can stop and step back. We can stand still and quiet for a moment and give ourselves time to adjust to what’s happened. There is great courage and stamina within us all, and if we take a moment to breathe, we will be able to manage what’s happened and see our way forward. We may have to leave where we are, and we may be unhappy and unsettled, but by trusting ourselves and remembering who we are, we can leave with grace. Nothing is more powerful or gives us more strength than self-control in times of great discomfort. Everything may have come apart, and the bottom may may fall out of all our plans, but the world hasn’t ended. We are still here, and can still succeed. Nothing is strong enough to hold us in place indefinitely and keep us from our goals. No matter what’s happened, our dreams are still possible, and with determination and patience, we will reach them all.

Everyone has an idea of how their lives should go. We can make all kinds of plans and chart our course ahead, and everything may go well, or we may be stopped in our tracks. Nothing is guaranteed and even if we’re sure we’re on the right road, things may change and we may get turned around and end up going in the opposite direction. Decisions may be made we have no control over that impact us negatively, or someone may enter the picture who takes over and changes our trajectory. A lot can happen, but nothing can keep us from moving ahead. We can adjust our plans, and step forward in a new direction and still reach success.

There is greatness in all of us. When things go wrong, and everything turns, even if we are upset and unsettled, we can trust we will find our way forward. By honoring our personal nobility, we can step away from any situation with grace and patience, and decide how we want to proceed. There will never be anything so difficult and complex that we can’t find our way through. We can trust ourselves to uncover all the answers we need, and step forward sure of success.

Today if your situation has changed and you must start again, if you feel overwhelmed and defeated, be confident. You have overcome many difficult and challenging times, and already possess everything you need to find your way forward. Nothing has changed. Your dreams are still there waiting. Stand tall and step forward. There is great success just ahead, and you will reach it.

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After

10 Jun

Nobody gets a perfect life and we all face challenges and difficult passages that try us and test our strength and courage. When we’re struggling and trying to get through something difficult, our attention is focused on the problem at hand, and as we try to find our way through, we may exert a lot of personal energy into solving it. The problem may be intense, and we might feel overwhelmed as we try to push through it, but as we struggle, we’re gaining behavior traits that increase our understanding of life and give us additional tools to carry forward. It’s hard to believe anything good can come out of a terrible trial, but every experience, even the awful ones, give us something of value to take with us. After the trial is over and we’re on solid ground again, we will be different. Our wisdom will have increased, and we will have more endurance, and a greater ability to cope when things go wrong. The greater the hardship, the greater the blessing in the end. Nobody wants to suffer, but there is much to be gained as we untangle serious complications and find new ways to move through turmoil and strife. Life is all about learning, and we learn the most when things go wrong. Hard times will come to us all. How we handle them and what we learn from them is up to us. If we pay attention, and hold onto every lesson possible, we will be embellished and enriched because of the experience. We may fall down, and doubt our ability to survive, but in truth, there is nothing we can’t manage and overcome with patience and determination. Every blessing is waiting for us and we can claim them all. Life can be hard, and at some point, we may suffer greatly. But by trusting ourselves, and standing firm, we will prevail. Success will always be possible, and nothing can keep us from it.

We share the world with billions of other people. They are infinitely creative and unpredictable, and may do things that hurt us and leave us devastated. Best friends may betray us, lovers may leave us, and trusted associates may lie. We are precious and valuable, and our presence is a gift to the world around us. There is greatness in us, and even if others walk away and leave us abandoned and alone, we will have what we need to move forward and succeed.

We may face a terrible personal disaster that impacts us so greatly it changes the entire course of our lives. No storm can last forever, and when it’s over, we may end up standing on foreign ground with no idea how to proceed. No matter what has happened there will be a way to recover and begin again. We are stronger than we imagine, and nothing can hold us down forever. Every success is there for us, and we will reach them all.

Today if you’re standing in the aftermath of some personal catastrophe and have no idea what to do, trust yourself. You have all the wisdom and intelligence you need to step forward and succeed. Your dreams are still there for you and every destination awaits. Stand tall, and step forward with clarity and confidence. You are amazing and you will succeed.

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Never Ending

21 May

Life is full of decisions and choices, and we all want to make the best ones we can. Good decisions will often bring us results we like, but nobody is perfect and we’re all going to falter from time to time. There are a lot of things that may come into play that affected our ability to choose wisely. Maybe we didn’t get all the facts beforehand, or perhaps someone misled us, or we couldn’t see the whole story, or it was Wednesday. There’s a lot going on all the time and there are constant distractions happening around us. There is no way to do everything right every time. We might make a choice that just makes us uncomfortable, or it might be so far off the mark it blows up in our faces and everything crumbles. The worst disaster of all time cannot possibly last forever. Everything is always changing, and nothing is never ending. No matter what’s happened, it will eventually resolve. We might have to do some serious lifting to fix it, and we may need the help of others, but we will find all the answers we need and be able to repair whatever has gone wrong. Life will go on. A wrong turn is just that. It doesn’t mean we have to remain in place, or that there will never be the chance of success. We can re-direct our course and change direction at any time. The whole world is there for us and nothing can hold us down forever. There are unlimited roads to every destination and with determination and focus, we will find our way forward. There is endless potential for success, and we can do anything. By letting go of what went wrong, and keeping our eyes on the road ahead, we’ll find our way forward. We are powerful and wise, and will prevail.

If we’ve made a serious error in judgement, when it’s done, it’s done. We can do what is needed to correct our course ahead, and then move on. However, there may be someone who refuses to let us forget it, and may remind us of it constantly. We don’t need reminders of a past mistake, but they may bring it up over and over again. When they do, we can politely explain we’re aware of what happened and ask them to let it go. If they continue to hold onto it, it will be their burden to carry and we can ignore them.

Every experience teaches us something of value to carry forward. Instead of berating ourselves for making a mistake, we can look at everything objectively, see where we could have done things differently, and learn all we can from the experience. No matter what’s happened, life will continue, and tomorrow will come. We have unlimited chances to change our lives, and we can let go of any wrong turns and begin again. We have so much to offer. By trusting ourselves and stepping forward with confidence, we will succeed.

Today if you’re bogged down by a past error in judgement, remember how intelligent and capable you are. Previous mistakes do not determine your future. You are strong and wise, and have everything you need to reach any goal. Trust yourself and be confident. Every single destination is there for you and nothing can keep you from success.

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Now What?

30 Apr

Life is full of surprises. It would be great if they were all happy events like an unexpected party, found treasure or an unforeseen promotion, but we don’t live in fantasy land and sometimes the surprises that come are unwelcome and difficult. Our whole world may be turned upside down in a moment and everything we depended on and thought would happen may go up in smoke. The road we were happily pushing forward on may disappear, and the rug may be pulled out from under us. “Now what?” we may wonder. How are we going to proceed when the way ahead is gone and we are standing alone, bereft, and confused? We may struggle to see through dark, difficult days, and believe life will never be good again. It may seem as if everything is over, this is it, and we are done, but that will never be the case. We may be dumbfounded and feel lost, and unsure how to proceed. Hard times will undoubtedly come to us all, and our worst dreams may materialize before our eyes. It doesn’t matter what goes wrong, it doesn’t matter how bad the situation gets, and it doesn’t matter if at first, we can’t see any way out. The answers will be there for us. We are intelligent and highly capable, and we’ll find them. There are limitless roads to every destination. If the bottom falls out of our plans, we can make new ones. If we can’t move forward where we were, we can adjust our course and start again. Nothing is powerful enough to end our progression or hold us down forever. Nothing. Every single dream is still there for us, and we can reach them. We already have all the courage and wisdom we need to do anything we desire. We can stand firm, look at all the possibilities and then decide how we want to proceed. Storms will come, and dark clouds may press, but they cannot continue indefinitely. With patience and determination, we will find our way through and reach success.

Everybody stumbles from time to time, and we’ll all face challenges that try us and push us against our limits. Rome wasn’t built in a day and we don’t have to solve everything right away. We can take a break when we need it, and as our minds rest, new answers will appear. Everything we need to succeed is there for us. We can step forward with clarity and be confident we will prevail.

When we’ve been enduring a difficult situation for a while, and no matter what we do it continues, we may believe it will never end and we are doomed. Change is constant, but it isn’t always immediate. Nothing can stay the same forever, and we have everything we need to endure and manage whatever we must until our situation resolves. We are strong enough to handle any issue or problem, and will find our way through.

Today if you’re going through a difficult challenge and are struggling to find the way forward, trust yourself. You are smarter and more powerful than you imagine. Decide what you want, and step forward on the road that will take you there. Nothing can overcome you. Every success and every dream are possible, and they will be yours.

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Tattoos

23 Apr

As we go through our lives, we must make millions of decisions, and each one we make brings a result and takes us somewhere. We may continue moving forward on our current path or make a choice that takes us far from where we were initially headed. There are limitless opportunities and we can do anything we like. Most of the time we may try hard and make good decisions that work out well, but we aren’t perfect, and will all make mistakes from time to time. If we make a decision that impacts our lives in very difficult and negative ways and takes us down a road that brings hardship and trial, we may be seriously adversely affected. We might struggle to get past what’s happened and it may seem that one bad decision will stick to us like a tattoo, ever present and never fading. We might falter and things may go seriously wrong, but nothing is permanent. There is no indelible ink stain that can’t be removed. The past can never predict the future, and we can learn from where we’ve been and take all that knowledge and wisdom forward with us. It doesn’t matter if we feel we’ve made the biggest mistake in history, it’s just one moment and cannot determine where we go next. No previous error can sentence us to a life of despair. There are endless chances for us to try again and re-route our course toward where we want to go. If the door in front of us is closed and locked, we can turn in a new direction and continue forward. If we’ve created a situation that is turbulent and fraught with stress, we can change it. We are in control of our lives and there isn’t anything we can’t modify if we need to. Mistakes happen, and we may fall down, but we can get back up and start again. Every success is still there waiting, and with determination and clarity, we will reach it.

If we’re in a situation where others see us make a big mistake, they may decide we can’t make good decisions and are not to be trusted. They may choose to define us by one choice, and that is their prerogative, but can never tell the whole story. We are intelligent and capable and can revise any plan or situation that isn’t working. By trusting ourselves to make good choices, and bravely stepping forward, we can find the answers we need to achieve anything we desire.

Salt looks a lot like sugar. When we bake a cake, if we add salt instead of sugar the batter may look fine, but our mistake will be obvious when we finish baking and taste the final product. The same is true in our lives. Some decisions look fine when we first make them, but we may not get all the information we need beforehand, and the entire situation may fall apart. Instead of worrying and bemoaning the error, or belittling ourselves because we faltered, we can look at everything objectively and start again.

Today if you’ve been struggling with a bad decision you made in the past, let it go. Today is what matters. You are amazing and intelligent and can make excellent choices. Trust yourself and step forward with confidence. There isn’t anything you can’t do, and you will prevail. All your dreams are there for you, and you will reach them.

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