Archive | June, 2018

Maybe

12 Jun

We make millions of decisions as we go through our lives. Every day there are many things that require us to choose one thing or another. Many of the routine choices we make are inconsequential and it may not matter which way we go, but some things can be very important and weigh a lot depending on how we choose. It may not matter what shirt we wear or how we get to our destinations, but it may matter a lot whether or not we choose to go in the first place. Our lives will always be a reflection of the decisions we make. If we choose well and take roads that lead us to success we will find happiness and satisfaction. If we choose poorly or continually go around in circles of indecision instead of picking a path forward we may find confusion and disharmony. We are always in control of ourselves and every decision we make brings a result. If we don’t pay attention, or don’t care, or if we’re heavily influenced by situations or those around us, we may not make the best decisions we could. If they bring us unpleasant consequences we may be miserable in the end. Indecision can never move us forward. Saying “maybe we will,” or “maybe we won’t” is the same as doing nothing. If we want to move forward we must be proactive and confident and decide which way we’ll go. We can be thoughtful each time we choose and confidently determine the journey ahead. We have everything we need to find success and there isn’t anything too complicated for us to figure out.

When we have important decisions to make we can take the time we need to ensure we’re headed in the direction we most want to go. There’s no rush to decide but refusing to choose because we aren’t sure isn’t the same as taking time to evaluate the possibilities. Procrastinating a decision will not make it easier and continuing to go over the same facts will never change a situation. We can get all the information we need, see everything clearly, weigh all the options, and then determine what our next steps will be. We are capable of making excellent decisions and we can trust ourselves to choose wisely and move toward success.

Everybody makes mistakes and sometimes we may make a bad decision that impacts our lives negatively. We don’t know what we don’t know and there may be times when things are very different than we thought they were. We own every decision we make and blaming others or the situation when things go wrong will not improve what’s happening. If we’ve erred and are now suffering we can objectively look at all the options before us and redirect our path forward. It’s like missing an exit on the highway. We can loop back around and get it right the next time. There isn’t anything we can’t do and do well. By choosing carefully and doing what is needed to move forward we will reach any destination we desire.

Today if you’ve got a big decision looming and are unsure about how to proceed, take a look at all the possibilities. Weigh the options carefully and determine the best road forward. You are wise and capable, and every destination is possible. Be confident. You have everything you need to find success.

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New Beginning

11 Jun

Our lives change a little every day.  When we’re on the roads we want to travel and pushing forward to complete goals we want to accomplish we feel confident and happy with the direction we’re moving.  Our lives are always in our control and no matter where we are or what we’re doing we can change them any time we want to.  Sometimes we see our lives with new perspective and what has been working fine no longer feels right.  We feel differently about the road we’ve been on and decide it’s time to adjust the way forward to a new destination.  Maybe we want a new location where we can start again in a fresh environment with new people and new places to explore.  Maybe the goals we’ve been working toward aren’t as important anymore and we want to do something else.  Life is all about change.  Everything around us changes constantly and we change right along with it.  Sometimes the changes are subtle and we don’t notice them at first but then what used to fit feels off somehow and we know it’s time to move on to something new.  There are unlimited possibilities everywhere and nothing is out of reach.  We can redirect the way forward, make any changes we desire and create a new situation that is more satisfying and fulfilling.  The whole world is there for us.  We can take the first step onto a new road and bravely chart a new course.  There isn’t anything we can’t do.  Our lives are ours to design and we can change anything at any time.

Familiarity is comfortable and it can be intimidating to leave it behind.  When we know the road well and those who are traveling with us, it’s easy to continue on and keep things the same.  Transitions bring with them all kinds of new challenges and experiences and we never know what lies ahead.  But we are strong enough and courageous enough to step into the unknown and move onto a path that takes us somewhere new.  There are endless new experiences waiting for us.  We have everything we need to change things up and find success.  All options are possible and we can make them ours.

Foreign territory is only foreign until we make it ours.  There’s a first time for everything and once we take the first steps into something new we open the doors to endless possibilities and chances for success we may never have seen before.  We can try new things, go to new places, and make the unknown ours.  When we expand our sphere of exposure, we expand our thinking and begin to see the world more completely.  We have great potential and are capable of accomplishing incredible things.  We have everything we need to go anywhere and reach any goal we choose.

Today if you feel like it’s time for a change but aren’t sure about leaving what you know, remember how strong and capable you are.  You can move into uncharted territory and make it yours.  Every possibility is there for you and nothing is out of reach.  Move forward, open all the doors, take a chance and see everything possible.  There is greatness in you and nothing is out of reach.  The whole world is there for you.  Every success is possible and you can reach it.

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All Kinds

6 Jun

We interact with all kinds of people throughout our lives.  Some of them will become trusted friends and companions, some will only be passing acquaintances and some will be difficult to deal with.  Everyone makes their own decisions and lives according to their own ideas.  Most people are nice and try to get along with those around them, but some people are cruel and mean, and don’t care who they hurt or damage as they storm through their days.  When they come into our arena we may find it difficult to manage what they throw our way and may negatively get caught up in their choices.  It’s hard to navigate through volatile behavior and nobody wants to become a target.  Trying to find our way through is like trying to walk unscathed through a minefield.  We never know what our next step will bring or which way to turn.  We don’t have to figure out why someone is mean or cruel but if we want to manage the situation effectively we will need to find a way forward that protects us as much as possible and still allows us to be heard.  No matter what others are doing around us we are in control of ourselves.  We can remain calm even if everyone else is upset and patiently look for solutions.  Our choices are ours to make and if we objectively see each situation we will find the best way forward.  We can control our own behavior and make excellent choices even in the midst of conflict.  We know what we want to do and by choosing well we will find success.

The fight or flight reflex is hard wired into us.  When someone threatens us we may instinctively feel the need to fight back or run for cover.  These reflexes protect us and warn us of impending danger, but in most circumstances of conflict our lives aren’t at risk.  We don’t have to run from trouble and we never have to fight to make our point.  We can manage a difficult situation by using reason and influence.  There are always many ways to solve any problem and with patience and careful consideration we will find them.

It takes two to fight and it’s impossible to fight with someone who is agreeable.  We can rant and rave to try and make a point but kindness will always end the fight.  Although we may not agree with someone who is being contentious and rude, we can politely state our position and allow them to answer us.  Being willing to listen instead of forcefully pushing our point often ends disagreements and paves the way to compromise and resolution.  We are strong and capable and understand how to get to the goals we desire.  There isn’t anything too complicated for us to figure out and with patience and grace we will find the way forward.

Today if someone is pushing you around and treating you badly, before you respond take a moment to decide what you want to accomplish.  All the answers you need to move ahead are there for you.  You can control your behavior and make your point succinctly and politely, and exhibit kindness even under duress.  Make the best choices going forward and listen to your opponent’s point of view.  You have all the wisdom and influence you need to win, and with patience and grace you will get there.

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The Ringer

5 Jun

When we’re determined to achieve something, we may plan our steps and work hard to move forward until we accomplish the task. Some things come easily and take little preparation, but other times we may spend hours in planning and work very hard to make sure everything is done completely. When we reach the end of the journey and things go well we may feel great satisfaction knowing we did our best and everything worked out. It’s great to accomplish the things we really desire but sometimes even when we’ve planned for every possible eventuality or complication, just when we think we’re going to win, a ringer is thrown into the mix. Maybe a new person enters the picture who takes control and completely changes the way forward. Or something unexpected happens that prevents us from proceeding. Nobody can read the future and there is no way to know what will happen ahead of time. In an instant all our planning may go up in smoke and we may be left stunned, confused and trying to figure out what just happened. It’s hard to readjust our plans when there’s a sudden roadblock and it’s frustrating when we can’t make the way ahead clear again. But we are flexible and capable of managing change and after we get over the initial shock, will find our way through. There really isn’t anything powerful enough to hold us in place. We can push through any obstacle and continue forward even if the way forward is nowhere near where we thought we were headed. Life is unpredictable but with patience and determination no matter what comes, we will find success.

There are all kinds of people around us who don’t always tell us all their plans. They may impact our progress for any reason they choose. If they have authority over us and decide to change our focus we may have no option but to go along with their decisions. If we believe we are on the best road going forward, it may be hard to let someone else take over. If we must step aside, we can be positive and accept that plans change all the time. A change in direction is only that. We can be patient and still find success.

The only thing we can really count on in life is that whatever we’re going through now will change. It’s nice when things are predictable and we know what to expect but those instances are rare. There are always a lot of variables in every situation, most of which we cannot control. Change is constant and the road ahead may change, our direction may be altered and we may get lost a time or two. With determination and focus we can redirect the way forward and find our way to any goal we desire.

Today if you’ve been working hard on something and suddenly there’s been an unexpected change that has stopped you in your tracks, don’t worry. No matter what road you’re on you’ll find the way forward. You are intelligent and capable and have everything you need to go anywhere you choose. Look at all the options possible and choose the best way forward. The whole world is there for you. Nothing is out of reach and you can achieve anything you desire.

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Mission Control

4 Jun

Control is an illusion for anything outside ourselves.  We can’t control what other people do, how things happen or when something will occur.  There are a lot of variables in each moment and we have to be ready for the changes that will inevitably happen.  Although we don’t have any control over anything around us, we have complete control over ourselves.  We’re in charge or our behavior and the choices we make with each passing moment.  To say “I couldn’t help it” after making a poor choice is just an excuse.  Whether we admit it or not, we are responsible for every step we take, every action we display, and everything we say and do.  Nobody is perfect and when there is conflict or a lot going on there may be times when we do things we regret.  It’s perfectly normal to make mistakes but we must accept our ownership of them.  It’s inappropriate and dishonest to try to push a bad decision off onto others or blame the situation.  We always know what we’re doing.  When we’re upset and confused, there is no off-site mission control that will take over for us.  We’re in charge and must forge ahead no matter the circumstances.  Taking the time to see everything clearly before we jump into a quick decision will help us.  Every decision we make will take us somewhere.  We can remember the destination we are seeking and make the choices that will take us closer to it.  We have all the wisdom and intelligence we need to lead strong, successful lives.  We can be in control and move forward toward the goals we value most.

If we’re unsure about what we’re doing or don’t really know where we want to go, when it’s time to make a choice we may lean on others or follow someone else.  It’s easy to ride in the backseat.  If we aren’t driving we don’t have to know where we’re going, we don’t have to find the way forward, and we can simply relax and enjoy the ride.  But if we stay in the backseat we will only go places others have chosen.  Our lives cannot truly belong to us if we don’t direct our plans.  We have enough courage to step up front and decide where we want to go.  Every destination is possible and we can find our way step by step until we reach success.

It takes courage to live the lives we want the most.  We must be willing to try new things and face the possibility of failure.  We know where we are now, it’s comfortable in routine, and we know what to expect, but staying in the same place will never take us where we want to go.  Every option is available if we are willing to do what is needed to achieve it.  We have all the courage and strength we need to make our dreams come true.  We don’t need to rely on others to take us where we want to go.  We can drive our own train and reach any destination we desire.

Today if you’ve been unsure about the way ahead and are tempted to follow others instead of being in control, remember how strong and effective you are.  You know what you want.  Be courageous and step forward.  There isn’t anything you can’t do.  You are more powerful than you realize.  Every dream can come true.  Take control and push ahead.  Success is waiting for you and you will reach it.

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