Tag Archives: Backseat

Momentum

4 Apr

Our lives are ours to design and we are in control of every decision we make. We all know this, but there may be times when we do things we don’t really want to do because of external pressures, or circumstances that affect how we proceed. Sometimes others intervene in ways that hold us in place, or situations arise that keep us from doing things exactly the way we prefer. Although we are strong and know what we want, the momentum of something out of our control might make turning in a different direction very difficult. Tradition is powerful and even if we choose to do things differently, the influence of those around us might keep us from proceeding. The patterns of family, and the routines of our relationships can be very defined and difficult to change. If we try, there may be serious push back and insistence on compliance with the norm and what is expected. We can do anything we like, but changing direction and going against the flow takes real desire and determination. We can do anything we like, but not everything will come easily. If we’re ready for a change and want to step away from where we’ve been, nothing can stop us. We just need to decide exactly what we want, and step forward. There isn’t only one way to live well. We can change anything we like and have the lives we want the most. Momentum is powerful, but we are stronger than any influence around us. Every single destination is possible, and with patience and clarity, we will reach them all.

Mediocrity and conformity are easy to achieve. We can go along with whatever is happening and simply agree with whatever is decided. Riding in the backseat will certainly take us along on the trip but if we aren’t driving, we will never go where we most want to be. If we’re comfortable doing what others are doing, we can keep our heads down for as long as we like. But our lives belong to us, and we are responsible for our own happiness. Nobody is going to make our dreams come true for us. We can take control of our own destinies, and create the lives we want the most.

It takes courage to step away from the crowd and move toward something new. Foreign territory is unknown, and it’s impossible to see the end from the beginning. We are intelligent and can certainly manage anything that comes. When we’re ready to achieve a new goal, the road will be there for us. Nothing is out of reach, and every dream is possible. By trusting ourselves and confidently moving forward, nothing can keep us from success.

Today if you’re ready to move toward your dreams, decide what you want the most and take the first step forward. Then take the next, and the next, and before long, you will have achieved the goal. You already know what you want, and have everything you need to reach anything you desire. Stand strong and be confident. The road ahead is waiting. Every dream is possible and you will make them yours.

What They Said

23 May

Our lives are busy as we’re focused on attending to our responsibilities, taking care of what’s pressing, and trying to get everything that’s important done on time. As we interact with others, situations will undoubtedly arise where our input or suggestions are requested. If we’re interested in what’s going on, we may spend valuable time thinking about it and how to navigate through it. But sometimes, when we’re busy, even if the issue is important, we may be too distracted to offer anything and simply go along with what everyone else wants. Going with the flow of those around us is easy, doesn’t require any time or thought, and sometimes everything works out just fine. However, when things go wrong, we may stand back and shake our heads at the calamity around us and feel blameless, because after all, it wasn’t our decision. That’s not entirely true. If we choose to go along with what others are doing, we’re making a conscious decision to agree. That means we own it as well as everyone else. If things go awry, we’re just as responsible as the others involved. We are always accountable for everything we do, even if all we do is coast along with others. Casting blame on those who had the original idea when the plan falls apart does not exclude us. Life is filled with opportunities to learn and grow, and each decision we make teaches us something valuable going forward. Even when we don’t make a choice, we are choosing. Everything we do has a consequence. Owning our part in our decisions and then doing what is needed to correct them will take us where we want to go and make us the people we want to be. We are wise and capable of making excellent decisions and with determination and purpose, can achieve anything we desire.

If we ride in the backseat of a car, we aren’t driving. We aren’t deciding which turn to take or even what the destination will be. But if we get in the car, there is a tacit understanding that we agree to accept wherever it goes, and where it ends up. The same applies if we go along with other peoples’ decisions. We may not make the choice ourselves, but aligning ourselves with them implies our acceptance and agreement with it. Everything we do has a consequence. We can ensure we end up where we want to go by weighing each decision carefully before we choose.

If we’re in a situation with someone who has authority over us who decides we’ll do something we don’t agree with, we may feel we can’t object. Like being caught in a slipstream gliding along, we may feel powerless to escape. We can always express our concerns over any issue. We can positively speak up with clarity and respect, and share our viewpoint. Then if we must participate, we can move forward with confidence that we did our best.

Today if you’ve been taking a backseat to the decisions around you and going along with what others have decided, remember your life is important and your choices are valuable. Speak up and share your viewpoint. Every step will take you somewhere. Make sure it’s where you most want to go. Be confident and proceed with determination. Create the life you want the most and all your dreams will come true.

Mission Control

4 Jun

Control is an illusion for anything outside ourselves.  We can’t control what other people do, how things happen or when something will occur.  There are a lot of variables in each moment and we have to be ready for the changes that will inevitably happen.  Although we don’t have any control over anything around us, we have complete control over ourselves.  We’re in charge or our behavior and the choices we make with each passing moment.  To say “I couldn’t help it” after making a poor choice is just an excuse.  Whether we admit it or not, we are responsible for every step we take, every action we display, and everything we say and do.  Nobody is perfect and when there is conflict or a lot going on there may be times when we do things we regret.  It’s perfectly normal to make mistakes but we must accept our ownership of them.  It’s inappropriate and dishonest to try to push a bad decision off onto others or blame the situation.  We always know what we’re doing.  When we’re upset and confused, there is no off-site mission control that will take over for us.  We’re in charge and must forge ahead no matter the circumstances.  Taking the time to see everything clearly before we jump into a quick decision will help us.  Every decision we make will take us somewhere.  We can remember the destination we are seeking and make the choices that will take us closer to it.  We have all the wisdom and intelligence we need to lead strong, successful lives.  We can be in control and move forward toward the goals we value most.

If we’re unsure about what we’re doing or don’t really know where we want to go, when it’s time to make a choice we may lean on others or follow someone else.  It’s easy to ride in the backseat.  If we aren’t driving we don’t have to know where we’re going, we don’t have to find the way forward, and we can simply relax and enjoy the ride.  But if we stay in the backseat we will only go places others have chosen.  Our lives cannot truly belong to us if we don’t direct our plans.  We have enough courage to step up front and decide where we want to go.  Every destination is possible and we can find our way step by step until we reach success.

It takes courage to live the lives we want the most.  We must be willing to try new things and face the possibility of failure.  We know where we are now, it’s comfortable in routine, and we know what to expect, but staying in the same place will never take us where we want to go.  Every option is available if we are willing to do what is needed to achieve it.  We have all the courage and strength we need to make our dreams come true.  We don’t need to rely on others to take us where we want to go.  We can drive our own train and reach any destination we desire.

Today if you’ve been unsure about the way ahead and are tempted to follow others instead of being in control, remember how strong and effective you are.  You know what you want.  Be courageous and step forward.  There isn’t anything you can’t do.  You are more powerful than you realize.  Every dream can come true.  Take control and push ahead.  Success is waiting for you and you will reach it.