Tag Archives: Mistakes

Repeat Performance

27 Mar

People are complex beings with different ideas, interpretations, and beliefs that color every decision and choice. We see the world through our own unique filters, but others, even those very close to us, may see the same situations in completely different ways. We’re all individuals, and our life experiences affect how we see the world around us and color our perception of what’s happening. If we’ve been hurt badly in the past by a particular situation, we may anticipate the same pain if we get close to something similar. While the situation may seem like a repeat of where we’ve already been, nothing in life returns in exactly the same way. Life isn’t a continual round of the same things over and over again. Things change and we gain knowledge as we continue forward. If we’re faced with similar problems we suffered through in the past, how we manage them today may be completely different from how we handled them before. Our past does not determine how things will go in the future. We learn as we go, and every experience gives us something of value to carry forward. As we mature and learn more about the world and those around us, our perceptions deepen and our understanding increases. We learn something new with everything we face. Our ability to grow and develop is limitless. Each day teaches us something new, and we can get closer to the person we most want to be with each choice we make. Every destination we desire will always be possible, and we can accomplish anything.

Making the same mistakes over and over again will never move us forward. While practice may make things perfect, repeating poor judgement will not improve anything. Just because we’ve done something one way in the past does not mean we must repeat it again. Staying on the same road and hoping it will take us somewhere new is useless. We are always in control of every decision we make, and our lives are a reflection of every choice. If we aren’t happy where we are, we can move. If we don’t like where we’re headed, we can change direction. Everything is possible, and when we’re ready, we can have the lives we dream about.

Routines and traditions are powerful motivators, but repeating the same behaviors over and over again does not guarantee success. It only guarantees we’ll get the same result we’ve gotten in the past. If we want something more, or something different, we must modify what we’re doing. Every single goal is possible and nothing is out of reach. We have all the power we need to get the lives we most desire. Success is always there for us, and with focus and determination we will prevail.

Today if you’re not moving toward the goals you want the most, look at all the possible options before you. The road you’re on is only one option, and there are endless others available. Decide what you want the most, and choose the way forward that will take you to it. The past does not determine your future. You are more capable and powerful than you think. Nothing is out of reach. Trust yourself and step forward with confidence. Everything you desire is there for you, and you will succeed.

Rewrite

18 Dec

Our lives are filled with experiences and we face new situations every day.  When we do well we feel confident and positive about our future.  It’s great when things go as planned and we prevail, but sometimes things go the other way and we not only falter but may actually fail in what we’re trying to do.  Failure hurts and can rattle our confidence and make us believe we can’t succeed.  But it also brings us many personal blessings and is a great teacher.  It we allow ourselves to see everything clearly, including our mistakes, we can learn a lot about what doesn’t work and use the lesson to help us moving forward.  However, if we refuse to see where we’ve blundered and decide instead to rewrite history so it looks like we had nothing to do with what happened we won’t learn anything from the experience.  There will always be other people and situations to blame and if we look for them we’re sure to find them.  Pretending we’re not responsible when we fail will never help us.  If we want to gain as much as we can moving forward, we must own both our successes and our failures, and let them stand clearly and truthfully.  When we are honest about our shortcomings, we learn valuable lessons that teach us about success and show us the way ahead.  There is no need to rewrite history.  We can let it stand as it happened, gain as much as possible from the experience, and step forward with clarity and confidence.  We are capable of every success and nothing is too far for us to reach.  Every step we take teaches us something of value.  If we take a wrong turn, we can correct our course.  We can reach any goal we desire with determination and courage, and every destination is there for us.

We are the only ones who can define who we are and what we want to achieve.  There will always be others with opinions about our lives and what we’re doing, and we may certainly listen to them but we are responsible for our own decisions.  If we follow along with someone else and things work out we’ll be glad we made the decision to go with them.  However, if everything goes south we may feel bad and blame the other party for leading us along.  While the idea may have started with them, we own the choice we made to follow along and are responsible for where we end up.

Everybody makes mistakes and when they’re extreme and far reaching, if we’ve hurt others along the way, we’ll have to deal with the situation we’ve created.  Looking the other way trying to ignore the mess we’ve made will not make things better.  We can own every decision we make, even if it fails, and do what is needed to rectify the situation.  There is no need to rewrite the past.  We can own what’s happened and move forward confidently and with purpose.

Today if you’ve made a big mistake and are trying to figure out what to do next, own your part and take a step toward resolving the issue.  There is no shame in failure and you can learn much and take that knowledge with you.  Be confident and clear in your decisions.  You are capable of great success and nothing can hold you down.  Keep moving forward.  The best is yet to come.

Maybe

12 Jun

We make millions of decisions as we go through our lives. Every day there are many things that require us to choose one thing or another. Many of the routine choices we make are inconsequential and it may not matter which way we go, but some things can be very important and weigh a lot depending on how we choose. It may not matter what shirt we wear or how we get to our destinations, but it may matter a lot whether or not we choose to go in the first place. Our lives will always be a reflection of the decisions we make. If we choose well and take roads that lead us to success we will find happiness and satisfaction. If we choose poorly or continually go around in circles of indecision instead of picking a path forward we may find confusion and disharmony. We are always in control of ourselves and every decision we make brings a result. If we don’t pay attention, or don’t care, or if we’re heavily influenced by situations or those around us, we may not make the best decisions we could. If they bring us unpleasant consequences we may be miserable in the end. Indecision can never move us forward. Saying “maybe we will,” or “maybe we won’t” is the same as doing nothing. If we want to move forward we must be proactive and confident and decide which way we’ll go. We can be thoughtful each time we choose and confidently determine the journey ahead. We have everything we need to find success and there isn’t anything too complicated for us to figure out.

When we have important decisions to make we can take the time we need to ensure we’re headed in the direction we most want to go. There’s no rush to decide but refusing to choose because we aren’t sure isn’t the same as taking time to evaluate the possibilities. Procrastinating a decision will not make it easier and continuing to go over the same facts will never change a situation. We can get all the information we need, see everything clearly, weigh all the options, and then determine what our next steps will be. We are capable of making excellent decisions and we can trust ourselves to choose wisely and move toward success.

Everybody makes mistakes and sometimes we may make a bad decision that impacts our lives negatively. We don’t know what we don’t know and there may be times when things are very different than we thought they were. We own every decision we make and blaming others or the situation when things go wrong will not improve what’s happening. If we’ve erred and are now suffering we can objectively look at all the options before us and redirect our path forward. It’s like missing an exit on the highway. We can loop back around and get it right the next time. There isn’t anything we can’t do and do well. By choosing carefully and doing what is needed to move forward we will reach any destination we desire.

Today if you’ve got a big decision looming and are unsure about how to proceed, take a look at all the possibilities. Weigh the options carefully and determine the best road forward. You are wise and capable, and every destination is possible. Be confident. You have everything you need to find success.

Restore Session

13 Sep

If we work with computers, and most of us do, there may be times when the system goes awry and there are glitches. Sometimes as those problems are worked out we may get a prompt asking if we want to restore the session. If we click on it the system will go back to its configuration before the issue started and we can continue on as though nothing happened. It’s great to be able to return to exactly where we were before the hiccup and go from there. When we have problems in our lives it seems it would be wonderful if we too had a “restore session” button we could push. If we did, all the things that went wrong could be forgotten and we could simply return to where we were before it all started. We wouldn’t have sorrows or scars to heal from and we could continue on without a second thought. Of course, that isn’t possible and whatever we experience we carry forward with us. If we got tangled up and entwined in a situation we have to change, we have to find our way out. And all the feelings and emotions we’ve experienced will color our pathway forward. There is no way to escape any experiences we have in life. They become part of us and even if we try to forget, there will always be something that has changed because of them.

After a bad experience we may desperately want to forget what’s happened. We may try to push every thought that reminds us out of our heads, and press forward with dogged determination. We might be successful in forgetting most of it but we will never be able to return to exactly how we were before things went wrong. We change with everything we encounter. Sometimes the changes are far reaching and affect us greatly going forward, and sometimes they are subtler. Everything impacts us in some way. How we manage that will often determine how happy we are. We can change anything but the past. It is there forever. If it’s a bad memory, we will carry it forward but we can find ways to navigate it successfully.

We can learn something of value from most of our experiences. There is generally at least one lesson we can take with us that will help us in the future. We might understand ourselves a little more deeply because of what’s happened. Or we might understand relationships better, or how to give and take more effectively, or we may see where we need to improve to find greater success. Every experience brings lessons to learn. Some of them will apply to us and if we are wise we will take the opportunity to evaluate them and learn from them. Learning from our past can help us prevent repeating old mistakes again and again, and bring us greater success and more happiness going forward. We can learn all we can when things go wrong and if we do we’ll find increased understanding in the future.

Today if you’re going through a difficult situation and wish it would just disappear, you have everything you need to prevail. There is value in struggle and you are learning new ways to cope. Learn all you can from this experience and take the lessons with you going forward. You will get closer to the person you most want to be and happiness will follow.

Intervention

10 Mar

We’ve all heard of interventions, and maybe seen them on television or witnessed them in real life. They are done in an effort to change or improve a situation with someone, and are sometimes used to help people who struggle with addictions, or who have trouble facing the truth about something. Often they are initiated by family members or other loved ones worried about someone close to them. One of the first things done in this situation is telling the complete truth about what is happening. Seeing everything as it is begins the process of change. Sometimes we may have times in our lives when we need to make a drastic change or face something very difficult. We don’t need to go through a formal intervention to face our situation and move forward. If we are ready and really want to turn our lives we can facilitate the change ourselves. All we have to do is decide it’s time to begin. We know what’s best for us, and we know when we’re on the wrong road. We know when we’re not being honest with ourselves, and we know what we need to do. Once we decide to change, the process of turning can begin. It doesn’t matter how we do it or how long it takes. What’s important is that we’re ready to start.

Most of us are honest with those around us. We try to be fair, wait our turn in line, pay our bills on time, and want to be nice. But sometimes we aren’t as kind and honest with ourselves. We expect more from ourselves than we would ever expect from others. We can be critical when we aren’t perfect, or feel shame when we don’t think we measure up. These kinds of personal judgments can prevent us from moving forward. We may even feel if we don’t do everything exactly right nobody will love us. We would never put those kinds of requirements on others. We allow for their mistakes, we don’t expect perfection, and we still care about them. But sometimes we have a double standard when it comes to expectations for ourselves. It’s important to remember that we are perfect just like we are now. We don’t have to be the best, the fastest, the tallest, the smartest, or the most successful to be loved. We have unique gifts and talents that nobody else possesses, and we already have a lot to offer. We are lovable just as we are.

Being honest with ourselves isn’t always easy. If we want to really know who we are, we have to be willing to open all the secret doors we’ve kept shut, and pull the curtains away letting all the light shine through. We need to look at what we’re actually doing and decide if it’s what we really want. If it isn’t, we can make decisions that will put us on the road that will take us where we want to go. There isn’t anything we can’t change. But first we have to be willing to see things as they are. We can’t hide behind our families, our jobs, our money, our reputations, or anything else. We can have our own personal intervention, face our reality as it exists, and then decide how to go forward. We can have any kind of life we want but we won’t achieve anything we’re looking for if we look away from where we are. We can face our lives, decide what we want to change, and move forward.

Today if you feel you aren’t where you want to be, and you aren’t sure how to move forward, stop and take a good look at your life. See everything as it is, and decide where you want to go from here. There isn’t anything you can’t do. The road is already there waiting for you. Take the first step on the journey today. There is sunshine just ahead. You have everything you need to reach it.