Archive | January, 2017

Cheating

10 Jan

When there’s something we want to accomplish, sometimes we think we’re ready but find it hard to move forward. We may think we’re prepared to make the change, talk about it, get others to help us, make a plan and attempt to work it. But if we aren’t convinced we really want it, despite all the planning we may look for ways to cheat. If we aren’t ready to do what’s needed to turn the tide, we may vacillate back and forth with our decision. For instance, if we want to lose weight we may sign up for a program we think will work and determine to move forward. At the beginning, we may feel strong in our decision but if we aren’t ready to change we may look for ways around the diet requirements, make up “cheat days,” or pretend we’re eating less than we know we are. Our confidence may suffer as time passes and nothing changes. We won’t find success even if we pretend we’re working hard and nothing will change. Looking for a way to cheat is a sign that we’re not yet ready to move forward and it’s unlikely we’ll find success. Everyone is on their own timetable. If we really want something to happen, we can do what is needed to achieve it. But if we’re unsure, or unconvinced, it’s better to wait before we try to implement the actions we need to take. If we aren’t ready, we can be honest with ourselves and prepare to get ready. We can take the time we need to change our thinking, decide what we really want, and then plan our way forward. There isn’t anything we can’t do, but we must decide we really want to achieve the goal or we’ll go nowhere.

Sometimes we make decisions based on what others think we should be doing instead of what we really want to do. There may be pressure from friends or family to change something in our lives and if that pressure is great enough we may try to go along. But change only happens when we decide we want it. We are the only ones in control of our lives and if we aren’t ready, we can wait. The best we can do is decide what we want most for ourselves and then live our lives accordingly.

There may be times when we really want to change something but haven’t had the courage or the ability to make it happen. Maybe we aren’t convinced we can do it, or perhaps it will take longer than we hoped, or it’s harder than we thought it would be. We can always change our plans and modify what we want going forward. But if there is something we really want and haven’t been successful in achieving, evaluating our reasons for wanting the change may help us commit. If our motivation is strong enough we will succeed. We can do anything when we’re ready. If we want a change, even if it’s eluded us in the past, we can make it happen.

Today if you’ve been going back and forth with a decision you want to make, decide what you really want and go forward. You can do anything you want to do. What’s happened in the past doesn’t matter. The road ahead belongs to you and you can make it any way you want. Decide where you want to go and be confident. There isn’t anything too difficult for you to achieve.

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The Same

6 Jan

When we go through bad experiences that make a big impression on us and impact us deeply, we may get stuck. Moments that are intensely painful may alter the way we see things going forward. If we’ve faced a very hard trial, or one that has hurt us severely, we may struggle with self-confidence. Life is full of experiences and some of them can be very difficult. But our experiences are only passages and we can navigate through them, learn from them and then let them go. If we hold onto the past, we may find we are unable to live fully in the moment where we are. If we focus on something that is behind us and relive it again and again in our minds, all our days going forward will look the same and we may miss the full experience life has to offer us. Each day is filled with possibilities and if we are in the moment, living now, we may fully embrace them and enhance our lives. We must let go of the past if we want our present and our futures to be filled with promise. What’s behind us will never return. There is nothing we can do to change it. We can let it go, and move forward with confidence.

The human mind is complex and capable of managing many things at once. We can adjust and adapt to virtually anything that comes to us and we can figure out any problems we may face. But if we are constantly pre-occupied with something that has already happened and can never be changed, we may go around and around thinking about it and reliving it. There is no way to re-write history. There is no way to alter what has already occurred and the best we can do is learn all we can from the experience and then let it go. It’s not easy to overcome a serious setback or let go of an extreme disappointment. But rehashing it over and over again, revisiting it endlessly to see if we can uncover some hidden meaning or try to figure out why it happened, will never help us going forward. Our lives are precious and each day is a gift. We can learn from the past but if we want to be truly happy we must embrace the future.

Time marches on. We can think about things that are behind us and learn from them and our memories allow us to do that. But memories are only snapshots of what no longer exists. We deserve every blessing and every happiness. Bad things happen to us all. When they are in the past, we can learn from them and then we can let them go. We have so much promise for the days ahead and our happiness depends on our ability to embrace it. We can be happy and we can have joy no matter what has happened before. This life is a wonderful gift. We can embrace each day as it comes and find joy going forward.

Today if you’ve been obsessing over something that has passed and are struggling to let it go, remember today is your most precious gift. There is nothing that can change what is behind you. You can let go of yesterday and embrace today. Look forward. You have so much to offer and there is great happiness ahead. Reach for it and let it come.

 

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Wearing Armor

5 Jan

Life is ever changing and can be complicated. We have good times and bad, we go through countless challenges and we learn continually. Sometimes we struggle with problems that confound us and as we navigate our days there may be times when something especially difficult comes. When the hardest times come upon us and we feel overwhelmed, even though we may momentarily believe we can’t survive them, we will get through them in time. Centuries ago soldiers preparing for battle made sheets of armor to wear to protect them from swords and arrows. The armor allowed them to face the enemy confidently and preserved them as they fought. Although we don’t wear armor, we can strengthen our resolve and determination to overcome whatever we’re facing and have an unshakable will to succeed. We can envision armor around us when we face threatening situations and have the calm resolve that no matter what comes, nothing will prevent us from progressing forward. We are strong and there isn’t anything too difficult for us to manage. When we’re facing extreme odds and the fire ahead is intense, we can press forward with confidence as though we were wearing armor and we can succeed.

We are not born with unlimited strength. Strength comes to us when we must press against trial. Each challenge we overcome makes us stronger and every problem gives us additional tools to use going forward. The old saying of “No pain no gain,” is effective when we think about the challenges we face. If everything came easily to us and nothing ever went wrong, we would have no need for strength or even understanding of complex matters. The struggle through trials enhances our power going forward. We may face very difficult situations that are confusing and difficult. But no matter what comes, with patience and the armor of determination, we will navigate them successfully and overcome.

Deciding we are capable is often the first step to success. If we believe we can win, often we will. Doubt has a way of weakening resolve and if we are unsure, we may struggle to find the answers we need to move forward. Confidence is a very valuable tool in our arsenal of success. It enables us to unravel even complicated and extraordinarily hard problems simply because we believe we can. We are always able to solve whatever comes to us. We have everything we need to find our way, overcome any obstacle, and solve any problem. We are wise and capable. We have the armor of confidence and determination on our side and we can face any challenge with the certainty that we will triumph.

Today if you feel overwhelmed with a difficult problem you are facing, if you feel concerned you can’t manage it, remember there isn’t anything you can’t do. Surround yourself with armor. Be determined and believe in your success. You are stronger than you realize and there is nothing too difficult for you. You have everything you need already. Go forward with confidence. You will succeed.

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Unwavering

4 Jan

When there is something we really want to do, a dream we really want to make a reality, or an accomplishment we really want to achieve, we may work hard to move it forward. We may spend time planning and thinking about what we need to do to get to our goal. After we begin forward, some things will go as planned but other things will turn and we may face a roadblock. Sometimes we may have to change course to keep going, or may even need to take a step back and regroup. Big accomplishments and dreams that are difficult to achieve take time and effort. Some of our plans may go wrong as we move forward and our success will often depend on our determination to continue. We must not only have faith that we can achieve our goal when things go awry, our faith must be unwavering. We must be resolute and unshakable. If we keep our eyes focused on the goal no matter what happens, and continue forward against all obstacles we will reach our destination. It takes determination to continue forward on any path when things go wrong. It takes courage to keep moving against the wind and boldness to defy roadblocks and detours. We have all the strength we need to accomplish anything we desire. We are capable of adapting when needed and forging ahead with confidence. Big dreams may take time but we can accomplish them. We can have the lives we most want and we can endure any challenges we face. There isn’t anything we can’t do when we are determined.

Everything in life changes every day. The view we saw before may be different now. Change is a constant part of life. People may come who alter our direction. Unexpected developments may occur that stop our movement forward and unplanned events may happen that make us question our strategy. But we are capable of modifying any plans we’ve made and still reach our goal. We can adjust to changes in the situation and find another way through. Even if things become complicated and we are pulled in a different direction we can understand how to get back on the path we need and find our way forward.

Living our lives fully and doing all the things we dream of will bring us great satisfaction and happiness. We don’t have to go along with plans others have for us or always do what others expect. We have everything we need to design the perfect life we want and achieve it. Our lives belong to us and nobody else. We can imagine our most desired dreams, determine how we want to go forward, and then make plans to make them come true. We can accomplish anything we want to do. Anything. We have all the courage, determination, wisdom and strength to accomplish whatever we desire.

Today if you’ve been dreaming of something you really want in your life, create a plan forward to make it a reality. You deserve every happiness and all your dreams can come true. You are strong and capable and you know where you want to go. Set your feet on the path that will take you there and move ahead. There isn’t anything you can’t do.

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Disappointment and Perseverance

2 Jan

“I long so much to make beautiful things. But beautiful things require effort—and disappointment and perseverance.” Vincent van Gogh

We have a lot of challenges in our lives and many things we want to accomplish. We can strive for any goal we want to attain but often the road to success isn’t smooth. There may be points where we stumble or get lost, there may be obstacles in our path, and it can be disappointing when we feel like we’re working hard but not getting any closer. Sometimes it may seem that no matter how much we plan or how carefully we proceed we run into something that blocks our way forward. As time passes we may get frustrated feeling we should have conquered the challenge by now and yet we are still trying. It takes continual effort to reach any destination and if we want to succeed we must persevere when things go wrong. We have to figure out the problems that block our path, and find a way to navigate around the obstacles in our way. We may get tired and even think of letting go of the goal but if we want to achieve anything we must be willing to do what it takes to get there. Everything we desire requires effort and often things don’t go as easily as we hope they will. But there isn’t anything we can’t overcome and we are capable of finding success. There may be disappointment but we can manage that and persevere through it to the other side. We can decide to continue forward even when the road gets rough.

We are complex and capable of accomplishing many difficult things in our lives if we determine to stay the course until we complete the journey. If we are overcome with disappointment, we may feel overwhelmed and unsure we can go on. At times like those, we may set the goal aside for a while and return to it later when our lives are in a different place. There isn’t any goal we can’t achieve but sometimes timing is everything. If something isn’t working now, we can proceed with other things for a while and try again later. As our lives change and our situations adjust we may be in a better position to begin again.

When we’ve been working toward a goal for a long time and are struggling, we may believe we will never win. We may think it’s just not in the cards for us and let it go. We can always re-direct our course but instead of giving up sometimes all we need to do is change direction. We may only need to adjust our path a little to find success. Life is rarely an “all or nothing” situation. Generally, there are lots of variations and if what we’ve been doing isn’t working, we can modify and change our focus a little to find success. There really isn’t anything we can’t do.

Today if you’ve been working hard toward a goal you want to achieve and still haven’t moved forward, step back and rethink the situation. Think about how you might adjust your path forward to find success. You will reach your goal and find your way. You have everything you need to be successful and there is no disappointment you can’t overcome.

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