Tag Archives: Struggle

Do It My Way

23 Mar

There are all kinds of people in the world and we all have our own opinions and ideas about how we think things should go. It’s nice to have different points of view and they may bring a broad spectrum of ideas that help us decide on the way forward. But with difference sometimes comes conflict. It’s one thing to be offered an opposing viewpoint, and quite another to have someone tell us we’re wrong and we need to do things their way. Some people are very sure they have the answers and if we aren’t following along, may try to force us to into compliance. If they don’t agree with the way we’re doing things, and they have authority over us, they may stop us and make us comply with their views. We are always in control of our lives, but there may be times when because of circumstance we have to follow someone else. It’s frustrating when we can’t chart our own course and hard to feel important if we feel we’re treated simply as minions. If we must submit to someone else’s plans, we may have to tread water for a time, but can still express ourselves and be open about our own ideas. Offering a suggestion may open the door to change and allow us more control as we move forward. We are smart and capable, and have a lot to offer. Everyone has something of value to share. Life is all about change and whatever situation we’re in now will eventually modify. When it does, we can choose the road we want to travel, and move ahead with clarity and confidence. Success will always be there for us, and we will achieve it.

Some people are very smart and know more than others about specific situations. If we’re working with them on something and they share information that helps, we can take advantage of their knowledge and expertise. Or we can thank them for their suggestion, and continue forward on our own road. Just because someone knows something doesn’t mean they have all the answers for us. We already know what we want and where we want to go. We can listen to any advice that’s offered and then choose the way ahead.

If we see someone struggling and have information that may help them, we may offer it. If we’re sure they’re headed in the wrong direction, we may suggest an alternate course but then we must let them choose for themselves. We’re all in control of our own lives, and may do anything we desire. We can choose the way forward, even if it’s different than what everyone else thinks we should do. We don’t need permission or agreement to do anything. By honoring that privilege in ourselves, and respecting it in others, we can decide on our next steps and move forward toward success.

Today if you see someone struggling and are sure you have the answers they need, you may offer any suggestion you like. Explain your point of view and then let them decide for themselves. We can all choose our own way and travel our own roads to get to any destination we desire. Chart your individual course and decide what you want. You are incredibly wise and capable, and nothing is beyond your reach. Every dream is possible. Step forward with confidence, and you will succeed.

On the Hook

26 Feb

We interact with all kinds of people. They come and go, we work, socialize, and meet with them for different reasons, and hardly a day goes by without someone else touching our lives. There may be times when we need something from them and if they’re in agreement, we move forward easily and on to the next thing. But not every situation is easy to navigate and if there’s something complex or difficult we want help with, the person we’re asking may not be sure they want to get involved. They don’t want to say yes, but don’t want to disappoint us. So, they may tell us they might help, they’ll think about it, or give us a “maybe.” That allows them to gracefully step away at least for now until they really decide what they want to do. It never helps us to hear “maybe” when we need agreement. It just puts us on the hook while we wait to see what will happen next, and gives control over our progress to someone else. There is no way to know how long it will take others to make a decision, and it’s impossible to wait and move forward at the same time. We’re always in control of our lives, and we don’t have to stay on the hook indefinitely. We can accept any indecision, and then proceed ahead according to what works best for us. There will always be a way forward. If we can’t get the help we need right now for our current plan, we can revise our options and continue on. We know what we want, and there are many ways to achieve our goals. Every road is possible and with focus, and determination, nothing can keep us from success.

It’s difficult to deal with people who struggle to make decisions. They may be unsure about what they want, or insecure about their ability to accomplish tasks. Whatever their reasons, if we need their agreement on something in order to proceed, and they cannot decide what they want to do, we may get stuck. But we never have to hold still waiting indefinitely. If the task is important and we want to move ahead, we can set a time for them to give us their decision or allow us to continue ahead on our own. Our goals are important and by planning well, and taking control, we will reach them.

If someone wants something from us and we’re not sure we want to agree, we may try to stall them. We can take all the time we like in every decision we make, but it’s inappropriate to hold others back in the interim. If we don’t know what we want to do, we can step aside and let those ready to move forward go ahead without us until we’re ready to join them. We can respect the needs of others while still doing what is best for us.

Today if you’re ready to move forward but someone else’s indecision is holding you back, look at all the options possible. There will always be another way forward. Find the road that works for you and step forward. Your dreams and desires are important, and you deserve to make them yours. Be confident and strong. Every goal is possible and you will prevail.

Defined by the End

6 Feb

Life is long and we accomplish many things as we move forward. Being in control of our lives helps us reach any destination we desire. If we want something difficult to achieve, and the road is hard and filled with detours and complications, despite our efforts it may feel like we aren’t getting anywhere. Long roads can be exhausting, and if we think nothing counts until we reach the very end, we may start to waver. But success isn’t defined by the end of any journey. Every step we take that moves us forward brings it. The progress we make, even if it’s minuscule, is a marker of success. It’s always exciting to reach the end of a long and arduous road and claim the prize, but that alone does not define us. Our personal success is displayed every time we push through trouble and solve another problem in order to move ahead. The strength we gain as we struggle, the wisdom we realize as we find answers along the way, and the courage we demonstrate as we continue forward make us who we are. We are successful as long as we keep moving ahead. Every particle of progress is an accomplishment. Each step forward we take exhibits success. Our determination to stay the course brings us great confidence, and we learn more about ourselves as we move forward. We are enriched by the answers we find, and fortified when another door opens and we can advance. Everything we need to know we learn on the journey. We are strong and powerful, and every goal we desire can be achieved. Learning to appreciate what the road to get there gives us, will bring great satisfaction and fulfillment.

It’s possible to push through a long, hard road and never reach the goal. Sometimes things change after we start, sometimes the goal isn’t possible at this time, and sometimes there are so many complications we simply cannot advance. That doesn’t mean all our efforts are wasted. Everything we do teaches us something of value. Facing trouble and trying to find answers gives us insight and opens new ideas. We gain information and experience in every effort. If we can’t overcome everything now, when things change, what we’ve learned so far will help us start again.

There is no way to know at the beginning where a road will lead us. We can plan well, and try to get all the information possible before we start, but there is no way to predict how things will develop or what will happen. Unexpected complications will always arise and we’ll be able to overcome many of them. If we get stuck, we have all the wisdom and intelligence we need to find our way through. Focusing on the goal is important, but appreciating everything we’re learning along the way will enrich and empower us. We are incredibly capable and wise, and can carry all the wisdom we gain forward.

Today if you’re only focused on the end of the road, think about everything you’re learning as you push ahead. You are gaining important and impressive skills. Use them to enhance your journey. There are many blessings to be found in the struggle. Acknowledge and embrace them. You are amazing, and every dream is possible.

Too Hard

3 Feb

There are endless things we can accomplish in our lives. We can achieve goals, go to new places, and reach success in many ways. There may be times we want to achieve something that’s difficult and ambitious. If there are a lot of possible complications, or we must accomplish many demanding steps before we can even start, we might think it’s just too hard to accomplish. It’s like deciding to climb a big mountain. First, we have to get in good physical shape, which depending on how things are now, may take a lot of time and arduous work. Then we have to learn everything about mountain climbing, what complications may arise, what to do when the altitude gets high and oxygen gets low, and dozens of other things. Then when we’re ready, we have to practice many times on smaller hills. Finally, after we’ve done everything we can to prepare, we can set forth to climb the mountain. When we first decided we wanted to do this, we may have had no idea what was involved in getting ready, and after we get all the facts, we may decide it’s too hard to attempt. Of course, we can change our minds about anything at any time, but if the goal is something we really want to accomplish, we can find a way to do everything we must to achieve it. If we push ourselves beyond what is comfortable in order to accomplish something great, the satisfaction we gain when we succeed will bring great richness and happiness to our lives. Some things are very hard to do, but the difficulty level doesn’t decide our success. We are stronger and more powerful than we think we are, and if we’re determined and focused, nothing can keep us from our goal. Every dream is possible, and we can have the lives we desire.

When we’re pushing toward a big goal, it’s great to have the support of those around us. Having our own personal cheering section can lift us when the road gets hard, and give us the courage to continue when things go wrong. But we don’t need the agreement of others to do anything we want to do. We can design our lives any way we like, and achieve every goal that moves us forward. We can do anything we desire, and with confidence, every dream can be ours.

If we’ve been pushing forward for a while and the way ahead is difficult and filled with problems and complications, we may tire of the struggle and begin to think we can’t succeed. We can step back and look at everything objectively, and get all the facts. If the goal we desire is out of reach right now, and everything is standing in our way, we can set it aside for a time until our situation changes. Nothing is permanent and eventually things will fall into place more easily, and we can start again. Every goal is possible and with careful planning, and constant diligence, we can go anywhere and do anything. Nothing is out of reach, and we will prevail.

Today if you’ve been trying hard to get to a destination you desire, but there are a lot of detours and setbacks, decide how you want to proceed. You are strong enough and wise enough to find the way forward. Choose your next steps and move forward with clarity and confidence. Every dream is possible, and you will succeed.

Ready to Go

26 Aug

When there’s something we want to accomplish and it’s important to us, we can take time to look at all our options and make a plan for achieving it. We can do anything we want but before we begin any journey, it’s important to understand what will be required of us, what obstacles we may be able to see that could stop us, and come up with ideas for getting through difficult passages. Is the road ahead clear? Are there people making decisions that will impact our progress? Does our current situation allow for us to move forward as planned? We can only control what we do and most of what happens is beyond our reach. If we’re determined to accomplish the goal, nothing will keep us from it, but if complications arise, we may have to change our direction or even backtrack and start again. Sometimes things happen that prevent us from advancing and if we get stuck, we may have to set the goal aside for a time until our situation changes and movement becomes possible. It’s hard to wait when we want to move, but life is filled with all kinds of twists and turns. People may make decisions that prevent us from continuing, something we counted on may no longer be available, and countless other issues may arise. If we have to stop and wait, it’s not giving up. We never have to sacrifice any goal we desire. Setting something aside isn’t abandoning it altogether. Being ready to go is just the first step in a journey of many, many steps. We can prepare the way forward and move ahead as our situation allows. Every goal is possible and with patience and determination, nothing is beyond our grasp. We can make all our dreams a reality and have the lives we desire most.

Some people are strong and confident, managing trouble as it comes with patience and grace. Others may struggle and suffer with doubt and indecision when the road turns and they must find another way. There will rarely be a time when everything we plan goes exactly the way we predict and we reach the goal without any hiccups. Most of the time there will be unexpected developments that push us off track and muddy the waters ahead. We are strong and capable, and if the road turns, we have everything we need to find the way forward. We know what we want and if we focus on the goal, nothing can keep us from it.

Sometimes the destinations we seek take far longer to reach and are far more difficult than we imagined. If the goal is no longer important, we can let it go and move on to something else. But if we still want to continue, we can look at all the possibilities before us and revise our plan to make it more workable. Nothing is too far away or too difficult for us to reach. We need only decide what we want, and take another step forward.

Today if you’re ready to begin on a new journey, look ahead and make the best plan possible. You are powerful and wise, and can do anything you want. Nothing is too hard for you to accomplish. Decide what you want, and then begin. The whole world is there for you, and nothing is out of reach. You can have the life you dream of and find complete happiness. Make your plan and begin. Success is just ahead.

Defining the Deal

12 Jul

Every single person on earth is different. There are all kinds of personalities and temperaments, endless expressions and ideas, and no two people are exactly alike. What one loves, another despises, what brings pleasure to one, brings frustration to another. We may believe our interpretations are right but actually they are only right for us. When we’re growing up in our first family, the patterns and traditions we learn seem to be the only way to live. But as we grow and are exposed to the world we learn that everyone has their own ideas about how life works and what they do. When we must face an extreme difficulty and are having trouble finding our way it may be a big deal for us to process. We may struggle to find our footing and reach out to those around us for advice and help. Someone may look at our situation and feel it’s ridiculous and our worries are unfounded. Perhaps what we’re going through seems insignificant, and it might be if it happened to them. But it’s not happening to them, it’s happening to us and everybody’s life experience is different. What’s meaningless to one may be crucial to another. We are the only ones who know how important any issue is to us. We are the ones who define the deal and decide if it’s important and far reaching or something less we can manage and move on. It doesn’t matter if everyone around us sees things differently, we can define any issue in ways that make sense to us and find our way through.

When we’re struggling it doesn’t help to have someone diminish our feelings. Telling us we shouldn’t feel one way or another is futile and ineffective. Our feelings often come unbidden and may be intense and painful. While we may not always be able to control how we feel we can control what we do. We can listen to whatever advice we deem helpful, learn as much as possible about the situation and then decide how to move forward. We have all the intelligence and wisdom we need to figure out any issue and find the answers we need.

When we’re facing a big decision or our situation is fraught with complications and it’s hard to see the way ahead, doubts may creep in and we may find it hard to move forward. When there are a lot of things going wrong we may get jumbled up in the noise and confusion and struggle to figure out what to do. We never have to solve everything all at once. We need only look at where we want to begin. Every problem has a solution and even if it’s a big deal and very complex we can solve it. We are smart enough and strong enough to do anything.

Today if you’re facing a big challenge and feel daunted and unsure, decide on the first step you want to take. You don’t have to find all the answers today. Simply determine how to begin and take the first step forward. The solutions are there and with patience and diligence you will find them all. You are amazing and nothing is too difficult for you. Be confident. You know what you want and you will prevail.

Stepping Out

27 Mar

There are billions of people on earth and unless we live on a deserted island or on top of a remote mountain, some of them will be right next to us. It’s great to have company as we go through our lives but we’re all individuals and sometimes we bump into each other as we move along. Conflict is a normal part of life and we all experience it from time to time. When it erupts and escalates, even if we aren’t the key players, we may find ourselves swept up in the melee. When ideas clash and tempers rise, we may be caught up in the struggle and carried along simply because we are there. We can remain in the fight and try to help resolve the conflict, or we can step out and allow those involved to find the answers without us. We all want to be there for those we care about but it’s important to understand where the lines of responsibility lie. We can be supportive and still stay out of the fight. We all have enough personal battles of our own and we can step out of those that belong to others. It doesn’t mean we don’t care. It’s simply a way to respect the right of others to disagree and work out their problem themselves. Learning to resolve conflict and find answers in the midst of struggle are valuable tools to carry forward. We can be supportive and kind, and still allow those around us to find answers on their own. We are all responsible for our own lives. We can stand on our own, face our personal struggles, and find the way forward. There isn’t any problem too complex for us to understand and even in difficulty and duress, we can find the way ahead.

Everyone deals with conflict their own way. Some people can step back from their feelings and easily see things objectively and openly. It’s easier to find answers when our emotions aren’t involved, but sometimes if our feelings have been hurt or we are being influenced by others around us, looking at the situation impartially may be more difficult. It’s hard to find the right road ahead when we’re looking in another direction. We can take our time and evaluate what we really want moving forward. The best answers will always be there for us. When we’re ready we will find them.

We all want to make the best decisions going forward but life is complicated and there are often many factors to be considered. When there are many options going in different directions it can be hard to find the right answer. Weighing all the possibilities and seeing where each will take us will clarify our choices and help us choose the best road ahead. There isn’t any puzzle too complex for us figure out. We have all the wisdom and insight we need to resolve any issue and continue toward success.

Today if you’re involved in a struggle that belongs to others, step out and allow them to resolve the conflict together. You need not adopt any issue that isn’t yours. Be supportive and kind and let those involved find the answers they need. You are wise and helpful and can be an example of strength and understanding. Show us your confidence and courage, and continue to move forward toward success.