Tag Archives: Intelligence

Shoulda Woulda

20 Nov

There are all kinds of people in the world and they all have their own ideas about life and how things should go. Some people are very confident and sure they have a lot, if not all, the answers. If they think they know us better than we know ourselves (impossible) they may try to tell us what they believe we should be doing. While they may have good suggestions, and we may choose to take their advice, nobody can possibly know what we want better than we do. Telling us we “should” do something because they think it’s a good idea doesn’t mean it’s what’s best for us. While it’s possible and likely we’ll make some mistakes in judgement, we are the experts in our own lives. We already know what we want and where we want to go. We can listen to any suggestions that are offered and weigh each individually, and then do exactly what we want. There is no one perfect way to live life. The expressions and choices are limitless. We can take any road we like and accomplish any goal we desire. We don’t have to fit into anyone else’s model or idea of what is right. Our choices are ours to make and we can design our lives any way we choose. We may occasionally have some regrets over choices we’ve made and think we could have chosen better, but each experience teaches us more about ourselves and the world around us. All the knowledge we gain enriches our understanding and helps us move forward in the future. We don’t need anyone else telling us we “shoulda” done something differently. If they do, we can listen politely, and then continue on toward whatever we are seeking. Every single possibility is there for us and we can do anything. With confidence and focus, we can achieve the goals we want the most, and make our dreams come true.

Our relationships are important and if we’re in a situation where someone we value strongly disagrees with a choice we’re making, they may talk us right out of it. If we decide they have a better choice, we can certainly make it. However, we don’t need anyone’s permission to do anything. We’re in control of our lives and can make our own choices. Going against the flow doesn’t mean we’re going the wrong way. Every destination is there for us, and we can achieve anything we desire.

Nobody is perfect and we all stumble from time to time. If someone warns us not to make a decision and we make it anyway only to face failure, they may say “I told you so,” and they might be right. But just because someone saw something we didn’t notice in one instance, doesn’t mean they will always know what’s best for us. We are intelligent and will learn much from mistakes along the way. We can trust ourselves to choose wisely, and reach every success.

Today if you’re being pressured to go in a direction you haven’t chosen, think about all the options before you. You are wise and capable, and can make excellent choices. Decide what you want the most and step forward with confidence. Every goal is possible, and you can make all your dreams reality.

Do It My Way

23 Mar

There are all kinds of people in the world and we all have our own opinions and ideas about how we think things should go. It’s nice to have different points of view and they may bring a broad spectrum of ideas that help us decide on the way forward. But with difference sometimes comes conflict. It’s one thing to be offered an opposing viewpoint, and quite another to have someone tell us we’re wrong and we need to do things their way. Some people are very sure they have the answers and if we aren’t following along, may try to force us to into compliance. If they don’t agree with the way we’re doing things, and they have authority over us, they may stop us and make us comply with their views. We are always in control of our lives, but there may be times when because of circumstance we have to follow someone else. It’s frustrating when we can’t chart our own course and hard to feel important if we feel we’re treated simply as minions. If we must submit to someone else’s plans, we may have to tread water for a time, but can still express ourselves and be open about our own ideas. Offering a suggestion may open the door to change and allow us more control as we move forward. We are smart and capable, and have a lot to offer. Everyone has something of value to share. Life is all about change and whatever situation we’re in now will eventually modify. When it does, we can choose the road we want to travel, and move ahead with clarity and confidence. Success will always be there for us, and we will achieve it.

Some people are very smart and know more than others about specific situations. If we’re working with them on something and they share information that helps, we can take advantage of their knowledge and expertise. Or we can thank them for their suggestion, and continue forward on our own road. Just because someone knows something doesn’t mean they have all the answers for us. We already know what we want and where we want to go. We can listen to any advice that’s offered and then choose the way ahead.

If we see someone struggling and have information that may help them, we may offer it. If we’re sure they’re headed in the wrong direction, we may suggest an alternate course but then we must let them choose for themselves. We’re all in control of our own lives, and may do anything we desire. We can choose the way forward, even if it’s different than what everyone else thinks we should do. We don’t need permission or agreement to do anything. By honoring that privilege in ourselves, and respecting it in others, we can decide on our next steps and move forward toward success.

Today if you see someone struggling and are sure you have the answers they need, you may offer any suggestion you like. Explain your point of view and then let them decide for themselves. We can all choose our own way and travel our own roads to get to any destination we desire. Chart your individual course and decide what you want. You are incredibly wise and capable, and nothing is beyond your reach. Every dream is possible. Step forward with confidence, and you will succeed.