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Boomerang

3 Apr

We go through all kinds of experiences and changes as we navigate through our lives. Each day brings us new lessons that teach us and give us tools for success. Our understanding of life deepens as we experience many different situations and scenarios, and we decide what we want as we move forward. Sometimes we progress exactly as planned and move continually ahead toward our goals. But other times things happen that turn us back around into a situation we thought we had left behind. Something happens that reels us back in and before we know it we find ourselves back at the beginning where we don’t want to be. People are complex and sometimes we make decisions that take us off the road leading forward and loop us back to where we’ve been. Even if we want to change our lives, the pull to return can be great. It’s possible to go back and revisit situations from our past and still continue moving forward, but if we cling to them it will be more difficult to head to the future. We don’t have to sever our connections to where we’ve been but if we want to find success moving forward we can’t hold onto situations that keep us in place. We know what we want and are capable of every success we desire. No dream is out of reach. If we find ourselves stepping back we can step forward again. The road ahead is always there for us and we can achieve any goal we desire.

We are responsible for the lives we live. If we’re unhappy, frustrated, or unfulfilled, it’s up to us to change the situation. We deserve complete happiness but we are the ones responsible for bringing it into our lives. If we want to change we can. There may be pressure from those around us to keep things the same, we may be afraid to alter our course because we don’t know what will happen, or we may be lazy and decide we can deal with things as they are. But there are unlimited possibilities around us and we can do anything we really want to do. We can choose the path that will take us exactly where we want to go and find complete contentment knowing we are in control of our future.

It’s easy to stay in a routine, even if it’s not what we want. We know where we are and what to expect. We may step away for a moment, but if we aren’t committed to change we may be quickly pulled back. We are in charge of our lives and nothing is strong enough to hold us down when we want to move forward. We can do anything we desire and no destination is too far to reach. We can step away from situations we don’t want and open all the doors ahead. Our lives belong to us and we can design them any way we choose.

Today if you find yourself looping back to what you left behind and want to continue forward, be confident and turn around. The whole world is there for you and anything is possible. Let go of anything that holds you in place and move ahead. You are strong and capable and nothing will keep you from success. Step forward. The future is there for you and you will reach it.

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Upstream

30 Mar

We live in a world with billions of other people.  Each one is unique and different from us in some way.  There are all kinds of ideas, beliefs, patterns, laws, rules, and interpretations.  We may understand and agree with some of them and others may escape our comprehension altogether.  There is a lot of diversity in everything and it can be difficult to understand it all.  If we get tangled up in a situation where others are doing things we aren’t comfortable with we may be concerned about what will happen next.  If they are doing or saying things that make us unsure, we don’t have to remain in place.  We can always step aside and walk away.  Everything is continually changing and the world may seem crazy at times like everything has turned upside down and nothing is right.  No matter what others are doing we can hold onto what is important to us.  Even if nobody else agrees we can continue forward according to our own personal convictions and desires.  We may need to swim upstream against a current of people going the other way, but we are strong enough to continue toward our goals.  Our decisions are ours to make and we don’t need approval or agreement to make them.  We can do the things we want to do and go where we want to go.  Every destination is possible even if we’re the only one who wants to go there.  Our uniqueness is what brings blessings to the world around us.  We can be exactly who we are and find happiness.  Swimming upstream takes more energy than going with the flow but we are strong and capable, and can make all our dreams come true.

Societal norms and family traditions can define how we live our lives.  It’s easy to go along with what everyone else is doing and comply with traditional patterns.  Many people find comfort in conformity and there is historical strength in tradition.  Those roads are well paved from constant travelers and on them our roles are clearly defined.  Doing what is expected may work for us but predictable roads will only take us to predictable destinations.  If we want something different we must change direction and forge a new path.  There are endless roads we can choose and unlimited destinations before us.  We can determine what we want the most and then begin forward on the road that will take us to it.

Blending in is much easier than being different.  If we do things and basically look like most of the people around us it may be easier to find acceptance and navigate forward.  But every one of us is unique and have specific and exclusive gifts to offer.  If we keep them hidden in an effort to conform, the world will miss out on our particular influence.  We have so much to offer.  We can be confident in stepping forward as we are and truly expressing our individuality.  The world needs our viewpoint and is blessed because we are here.

Today if you feel like you’re swimming upstream and are tired of pushing ahead, remember how much you have to offer.  You bring a light that no one else can share.  Let us see who you really are and show us your strength. Everyone wants to share your life and know you.  Be confident in being yourself.  It’s the very best you can be.

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Leaning In

26 Mar

We go through a lot of experiences every day as we navigate through our lives.  Some things bring us joy, some make us angry, some are boring and others may be intense or pass with little notice.  Our emotions and how we respond to them are part of what make us human and help others relate to us.  Some people are good at hiding their emotions and prefer not to let others see how they really feel.  Others wear their hearts on their sleeves and we can see everything they’re feeling most of the time.  Being open with our feelings helps us express ourselves and makes it easier for others to understand us.  But if our feelings are negative, or angry and intense, allowing them to color our interactions may make our lives more difficult and complicated.  It’s fine to share personal expressions but we must remember they may affect the message we are trying to portray.  When we are upset and angry and scream at those around us to make a point, the only thing we may accomplish is to push them away.  Trying to understand someone who is hysterical or acting irrationally out of anger is almost impossible.  We can express even intense disappointment in a better way.  If we want to make sure others grasp how important something is, it’s more effective to lower our voices than to raise them.  If we blast those around us with powerful loud voices, they will often step back.  But when our voice is quieter, people will lean in closer to hear what we have to say.  Being heard is important and even if we’re intensely upset we can control our emotions to allow that to happen.

The only way for a baby to express pain, hunger or unhappiness is to scream and cry.  But as we mature, if we want to be happy, we must learn self-control.  As adults, it will never work in our favor to stamp our feet and scream because we are unhappy.  There are no good answers to be found in bad behavior.  We can be in control of our emotions, even when they are intense, and express ourselves in ways that bring people closer and open the doors to the way forward.

Life will surely bring us happy times and difficult, sometimes complicated and extreme problems.  We don’t have to pretend to be happy when things are going wrong but we can control how we respond to every situation in order to bring the best results.  Jumping to hysteria and pushing the panic button every time something goes awry will never take us where we really want to go.  It’s exhausting and keeps us from thinking about our next step.  We have everything we need to understand any situation that comes to us.  If we take time to think instead of react we will find all the answers we need to find our way through.  We are strong and capable, and can live well and effectively.

Today if you’re furious over something and want to lash out at those around you, quiet your thoughts and allow yourself time to think.  You can control your emotions in ways that will bring you happiness and success.  Step back and then step forward.  There isn’t anything you can’t manage and succeed.  You are strong and amazing, and nothing is too difficult for you to overcome.

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Making the Choice

23 Mar

The choices we make have a lot of influence over our lives.  Every decision takes us somewhere and if we’re engaged and aware we may choose roads that take us where we want to go.  But life is busy and can be complicated, and sometimes we make choices quickly out of necessity or even desperation.  Perhaps anger or frustration plays a roll and instead of thinking ahead, we pick a road based on what we’re feeling at the moment.  For every action we take there will always be a reaction of some sort.  If we are quick and thoughtless when we choose our steps forward, we may get a response we don’t want.  It’s impossible to be right all the time.  We all stumble and make mistakes but if we are careless and irresponsible, we may be beset with problems we’ve created ourselves.  Our lives belong solely to us and we are in control of every decision we make.  We can direct our lives forward with positive intent or we can choose without thinking and hope everything works out.  If we want our dreams to come true, or achieve anything, we must purposely direct our decisions.  We can drive out onto the highway but without a destination in mind and the desire to get there we may drive around indefinitely, going nowhere.  Without purposeful intent, and the choices needed to bring us success, we may spin in circles as time passes and never achieve the things we truly want.  Life is an incredible blessing.  Each day brings the chance to move closer to where we want to be.  With careful thought we can take control, make excellent decisions, and find success.  Every dream can come true if we do what is needed to move forward.

Opportunity is everywhere but it’s up to us to claim it.  We can watch others achieve their goals and complain that it was easier for them or they got chances we weren’t afforded.  It’s true that sometimes we will miss out on things we want to do but most of the time the opportunity to move forward is completely in our control.  If we sit back and do nothing, nothing will happen.  It takes determination and action to make any change a reality.  We are in control and every decision is up to us.

It’s easy to stay within our comfort zones and keep a routine we’re familiar with.  If we want something more, or something different we must be willing to step away from what we’re doing.  It can be unsettling to step into unknown territory and we may feel uncomfortable when we try.  But the unknown is only unknown until we make it ours.  We are capable of facing any challenge and embracing any change we desire.  The first steps forward will open new horizons before us and as we push ahead we will achieve success.  There isn’t anything we can’t do.  The world is there for us and we can reach any destination we desire.

Today if you want more opportunity and success, step away from what is familiar and move toward the goals you really want.  You have everything you need to accomplish anything you desire.  Be engaged and aware of each decision and choose the roads that will take you where you want to go.  You are strong and powerful, and nothing is out of reach.  Your life is yours to design and every success is possible.

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Focused

21 Mar

“I’m disinclined to acquiesce to your request.  Means no.”  Captain Barbossa, Pirates of the Caribbean

There are a lot of ways to spend our time.  We can try to plan our days around the things we want most to accomplish but we aren’t alone and others may ask us to participate and complete assignments they need help with.  It’s good to be helpful and involved but sometimes outside requests may become burdensome and take more time away from us than we are comfortable with.  There is no limit to the time others may ask us for and it’s up to us to control the situation so we are available but still able to do the things we want to do most.  When we’ve given all we can and another request is upon us, it’s appropriate to say no.  We may disappoint those asking and they may not be happy, but we are in control of our lives and must choose what is best.  We cannot move forward if we spend all our time accomplishing someone else’s goals.  We can share our time effectively and still stay true to the course we’ve set for ourselves.  There are endless opportunities available every single day and if we take advantage of every one of them we may accomplish many things but they may not take us where we want to go.  It’s possible to spend our lives doing lots of interesting things that lead us nowhere.  Some things are interesting, but other things are important.  We can do many different tasks and still keep our eyes and efforts focused on the important goals we want to achieve.  Our lives are ours to design and we are in control of every decision we make.  Staying true and focusing on the road ahead will bring us success and satisfaction.

Guilt is a powerful tool that may be used when something is intensely desired, but guilt is a self-inflicted emotion.  Nobody can really make us feel it.  We may be coerced into believing it, but the decision to let it control us is ours.  No matter how convincing the other party may be for why we must do as they ask, the choice is always ours to make.  We can do our part and still stay on our course going forward.

They say our greatest sorrow comes from giving up what we want most for what we want at the moment.  When we give away time that robs us from accomplishing what we want most in order to do what others ask, we may feel great sorrow for the time we’ve lost.  We know what we want and what we need to do.  We can be in control of our time and decisions, and choose the best road going forward.  There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish if we keep our eyes focused on the road ahead.

Today if you’ve been asked to give your time for something that will take you away from the goals you’ve set, examine the situation carefully.  You know where you are and what you need to do.  Help others and be involved, but stay true to the course you’ve set and keep your eyes on the road ahead.  All your dreams are possible and with careful planning will come true.

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