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Make Me Happy

13 Sep

Our lives are a reflection of all the experiences we’ve had and a result of every choice we make. If we choose things that take us where we want to go, we often find happiness. But choices can be affected by those around us, or situations that have influence over us. If we’re trying to impress someone and they’re doing something we normally wouldn’t like, we might choose it to show our alignment with them. Following someone else’s ideas can only take us where they’re headed. Our lives are always in our control. Doing things opposed to the life we desire will only delay or completely prevent us from finding true happiness. If we lack confidence or are unsure about where we want to go, we may pattern our lives after someone we admire. There’s nothing wrong with mimicking good, strong characteristics, but we’re responsible for our own lives. We can’t be who we are and someone else at the same time. Nobody else can make us happy. It’s a responsibility that falls completely on us. When we live authentically, and make choices that represent who we really are, happiness will follow. We are unique and valuable just as we are. There is no need to conform to those around us, or try to fit into someone else’s mold. We have individual and specific gifts to offer and nobody could ever replace us. We can be confident in living the lives we want the most, and choosing the roads that take us where we want to go. Every dream can come true and we can reach any destination we desire. Nothing is out of reach and complete happiness is always possible.

Our lives are our responsibility. If we’re not happy, it’s up to us to do what’s needed to change. We never have to stay in any situation indefinitely. There will always be options available and we can alter our course until we’re on the road we desire most. If others want us to stay where we are, they may try to hold us in place. We can stay in any situation for as long as we like but if we’re ready to move forward, nothing can keep us down. We deserve complete happiness. If we’re not getting it, we can change our lives and direction until we reach it.

Life is filled with responsibilities and details that require our attention. If we’re very busy attending to many obligations, our personal happiness may be pushed aside. It’s easy to forget ourselves when we’re busy serving others, but our personal needs are important. If we neglect ourselves, and let our own desires sit dormant, it will be impossible to feel complete. Nothing is more important than our personal health and well-being. When we nurture ourselves, and take the best of care, everything will come more easily, and we’ll find satisfaction and success moving forward.

Today if you’ve been setting aside your own personal needs in order to take care of everything else, remember you are important and priceless. You can have the life you dream about. Make choices that will take you where you most want to go and show us who you are. There isn’t anyone else like you and we need the gifts you have to offer. Step forward with confidence and claim your happiness. It’s always there for you, and every blessing is possible.

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Twisted Roads

12 Sep

As we’re pressing forward toward the goals we want to achieve, sometimes the road turns or we’re taken off course. Unexpected developments often occur and when they do, we may have to change direction. There will always be options for moving ahead and each choice will give us information that helps us continue forward. We’re capable of making our own decisions but there may be times when others or outside influences force us to take a direction we don’t want or don’t like. If that happens, we may be sure we’re headed the wrong way and attempt to return and start again. But life continues on and despite our best efforts we may continue to be pulled along against our will. There are endless roads to every destination and even when we’re sure we’re not headed in the right direction, sometimes we may be surprised to find we have arrived at exactly where we need to be. An unexpected change of direction can take us somewhere we didn’t know we wanted to go. Nobody knows everything and every decision we make is determined by what we can see at the moment and the information we have. There will always be more details we don’t know. The road we’re on may get twisted up and turned around, and then surprisingly take us to the very place we most want to be. It’s impossible to see the end from the beginning. We may be diverted by a turn that takes us someplace new, and enhances our experiences in ways we never imagined. Being open to every possibility will bring us unexpected blessings, and enhance our lives in rich and wonderful ways.

We always know what we want the most. We may not share our desires with anyone but we understand where we want to go and what we want to do. Confusion and disagreement don’t change our desires, and with determination we can achieve every goal we choose. Sometimes there’s a straight road ahead, but other times we may get sidetracked along the way. Life is filled with all kinds of surprises. It’s impossible to control anything outside ourselves. We can let changes happen and still move forward with confidence.

Even if we plan well and are sure we know where we’re headed, things may change. We can’t see the end from the beginning, and although we have faith we’ll reach our destination, how long that takes or where we’ll go along the way is unknown. A broken road that becomes impassable requires us to change our plans. The path may not take us to the original goal we wanted but may turn and open new doors and horizons before us. We may discover a new destination that brings us great happiness and satisfaction.

Today if you’re trying to reach a goal but everything is pushing you in a different direction, step forward with confidence. If you must change your course, be open and discover what lies ahead. You may be surprised to find great blessings and happiness waiting for you. Life is filled with unexpected changes and each has great potential. Be open and ready. The whole world is filled with possibilities. There is great success and happiness waiting for you, and you will reach it.

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Crystal Ball

4 Sep

We can do anything we like with our lives, and can make any decisions we desire. We don’t need agreement or permission to choose the paths we want to travel, or decide on any action. Some people like control and may try to turn us in one direction or another to achieve their personal ends, but we never have to take the bait. The future is ours to determine and we can create it any way we like. There are unlimited roads to every destination, and if we’re focused and determined, nothing is out of bounds. We don’t need a crystal ball to see the future and can choose the direction we’ll take at every moment. It’s great to understand our personal freedom, but life is filled with responsibilities and tasks that can hold us in and restrict our movement. Some things can be modified to fit within our parameters, but others require us to bend or wait. It’s hard to stand still when we want to be moving forward, but nothing can hold us in place forever. We can do everything we want to do, but we can’t do it all today. Learning to wait well takes practice and patience. Life is long and if we’re determined, nothing can keep us from any goal we desire. There isn’t a detour long enough or wide enough to keep us from success. Every dream is possible if we’re willing to do what it takes to make it ours. There are no secrets to having a happy, successful life. We can decide what we want, and then move forward and accomplish it. Nothing is out of reach. Nothing. It’s all possible and we can have the lives we dream about.

It might seem life would be easier if we could see into the future. If we knew what was going to happen, we could prepare for it before it arrived. The thing about life is we learn new things every day that help us understand the world more effectively and give us the skills to manage what’s coming next. If we knew what was headed our way before we were prepared to handle it, our lives would be in chaos. We don’t have to know what’s going to happen ahead of time in order to navigate it effectively. Every answer will always be there for us when we need it, and with patience and clarity, we will find them.

When we want to accomplish something, we may carefully consider how we’ll achieve it, allow for complications that may arise, and plan for each step of the journey. It’s great to have a plan but plans can’t predict every turn the road ahead may take or what may stand in our way. If we’re flexible and able to bend as issues arise, we’ll be able to continue moving forward and in time, reach the destination. Life is full of surprises and everything can change in a moment. We can alter our course when we need to and reach every goal. Success is always possible and we will reach it.

Today if your plans aren’t working out and you aren’t sure how to continue, all the answers are already there for you. Review every possible option and choose the road that will move you closer to your goal. You have everything you need to do anything you want. Nothing is too far away or too difficult for you. You are strong and capable, and have all the wisdom and insight you need to succeed. Be confident and trust yourself. Every destination is possible, and you will reach them.

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Finding the Why

30 Aug

Our decisions and choices are motivated by many factors. There are things we want for ourselves, things other people want us to do, and stuff we have to do just because we are where we are. Every day brings new responsibilities and assignments, some we’re happy to manage, and others bring frustration and annoyance. We never have to do anything we don’t want to do, and if we’re adamantly opposed to whatever is before us, we can step away. But we aren’t alone here, and our relationships with those around us sometimes involve doing things we’re not thrilled about, or don’t want. Every decision we make belongs to us and there will always be a reason for each choice. If we’re not happy and are doing things that continually perpetuate feelings of discontent, it’s important to understand why we keep doing them. If there are family pressures, we don’t feel we can ignore, or professional responsibilities we can’t leave, we may be stuck for now. But if we’re doing things that aren’t making us happy or moving us forward, and there is no real reason to continue, we can step back and decide what we really want, and change direction. Once we understand why we’re doing something, we can determine what we want to do next. Our lives are always in our control and we can do anything we like. There is no situation or individual with the power to hold us in place. We can turn away from anything that isn’t bringing us happiness or fulfillment, and choose a different road. We can have the life we imagine and reach any goal. We are powerful and wise, and we know what we want. There is a road to every destination we desire and with focus and determination, we will find success.

We’re all individuals, different and unique in our own personal way. What’s important to one may mean nothing to someone else. There isn’t one, perfect way to live life, and every interpretation has benefit. Tradition can be very powerful and if we’ve been living our lives based on what’s always been done in the past, we may feel secure keeping things the same, but that doesn’t guarantee we’ll be happy. No matter where we are or what we’re doing, we deserve to be happy. If the road we’re on isn’t fulfilling our dreams or bringing joy into our lives, we can choose another.

There are routines we follow regularly that are familiar and that help bring order into our lives. We know what to expect, and there are few surprises. However, repeating the same things again and again can be powerful. We may continue doing something without even understanding why we’re doing it. Every day is a gift, and if we don’t pay attention, we may miss the opportunity to accomplish what we want the most. We always have the power to move toward the goals and destinations most important to us, and create the lives we desire.

Today if you’re on a road that isn’t taking you where you want to go, look at all the possibilities before you and change direction. You know what you want, and have everything you need to achieve it. Your life is precious and valuable, and you can do anything you desire. Be confident. Nothing can keep you from complete success.

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What We Know

27 Aug

People continually come into our lives. We meet them in passing, from others we know, as business associates, or just by saying hello. There are billions of them on the earth and no matter where we go, or what we’re doing, chances are they’ll be around us. As we develop personal bonds and relationships, we get to know them on a deeper level. We start to understand how they think and begin to expect how they’ll react to certain situations. But we can never know everything about anyone and sometimes things happen that make us see them in a different light. We may find they have a hidden volatile side, or a raging temper if they’re crossed, and we can step back a bit to see them more clearly. If they’re very important to us or we have strong feelings for them, if we see behaviors that are destructive or demeaning, we may ignore them and pretend they don’t exist. Knowing something doesn’t always mean we’ll acknowledge it openly. As we look the other way, we may be able to continue our relationship with them for a while, but eventually everything will be exposed and we’ll have to decide how we want to proceed. By facing the situation clearly and accepting the way things really are, we’ll be able to choose the best road forward. We’re all responsible for our own lives, and we can only solve our own problems. If our relationship is negatively impacted by bad behavior, and the other party is unwilling or unable to change, what happens next is up to us. We deserve happy, fulfilling lives. We can make choices that will move us forward toward the goals we want the most, and create the lives we desire. Nothing can hold us in place. We are in control of our lives and by choosing well, can find great happiness and peace.

Nobody knows everything about everything. It’s possible to find ourselves in difficult and complex situations because of decisions made by others that have nothing to do with us. If we’re suddenly somewhere we don’t want to be and didn’t plan on going, we can stop and change direction. We’re not inexorably controlled by anything. We can turn around and step away from any situation that isn’t working for us. We know what we want, and have everything we need to get it.

People sometimes hide personality traits from others. If they’re selfish, they may pretend to be kind and giving. If they’re intense and angry, they may pretend to be easygoing and polite. It’s possible to fool others for a time, but nobody can keep up pretenses forever. When we’re getting to know someone new, if we take our time getting close to them, we’ll have the chance to see them as they really are. Once we can see them clearly, we can decide how we want to proceed. Our happiness is important and valuable. We can keep our eyes open and see everything objectively, and create the connections we want the most.

Today if you’re entangled in a relationship that isn’t working, remember your happiness is important. You deserve the very best of everything and never have to stay in any situation that’s uncomfortable or difficult. Decide what you want the most, and then begin moving toward the goal. Every happiness is there for you, and you will have it.

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