Toolkit

3 Dec

When we want to build something, we must assemble all the tools needed to get the job done. Tools are great assets that help us in many ways. All tools are good for something, but none are good for everything. A hammer is a very useful and valuable tool, but if we need to screw a bolt into a board, a hammer is useless. Choosing the right tool for our needs enables us to get the job done. Having lots of tools is nice, but they are only helpful if we actually have the tools we need. Identifying the right tool is easy when we’re building. We know when we need a hammer, a screwdriver, a measuring tape, etc. But in our personal lives, when problems arise we may be confused about how exactly to proceed, and what skills will help us through. Everyone has their own unique personal toolkit accumulated for all the experiences we’ve had as we’ve navigated through our lives. What one possesses may be very different from someone else. We might face a situation where we find we don’t have the tools we need to comprehend what’s happening or how to proceed. Someone close by may have exactly what is required to help us, and they can share their wisdom and experience with us and give us the information we need to move forward. We all have tools to share, and there will always be a solution possible. By reaching out to those around us and asking for help when we need it, and sharing our knowledge to assist someone else, we can reach success in every endeavor.

Life is complicated and unpredictable. We never know what will happen next. Even if we plan carefully and do our best to ensure we avoid as many problems as possible as we move ahead, things may go wrong. Someone or something may get in the way and prevent us from moving forward. If we can’t move, we can stand still and look at the situation objectively. There will always be another way forward. By using the skills we already possess, and trusting ourselves, we can find a way around any obstacle, and continue on toward success.

Conflict is a normal part of life. We’re all individuals and no two people are exactly alike. Our differences bring depth and richness to our experience, but they can also bring disharmony and stress. During times of conflict we can scream and yell, and demand that others listen and obey, which really never works. Or we can draw on our experiences and express our viewpoint gracefully and with patience. By using the skills we’ve already gained we can effectively communicate our opinions and find compromise that honors everyone. We are smarter and more capable than we think we are, and with determination and focus, can achieve anything.

Today if you’re facing a big challenge and don’t have the tools you need to get through, reach out to those around you and ask for help. Each experience will give you new skills that will enrich your understanding and help you move forward. Be confident and trust yourself. You are intelligent and wise, and can manage anything. Nothing can hold you in place for long. Every success is possible, and you will prevail.

Incremental

1 Dec

Life is filled with challenges and new experiences. Every day may bring something we haven’t seen or heard before. We never know what will happen next. If we’re timid and feel unsure, we may try to avoid anything we aren’t familiar with. We can try to restrict our contact with others, and keep the exact same routine, hoping to protect ourselves from new developments and difficult situations. Restrictions may keep us from some situations but may also prevent us from achieving our goals. Limiting access in one area may end up limiting our access in others we need to reach success. If we want rich, fulfilling lives, we must be willing to face trouble and complications as they arise. Hiding out will never help us become the person we most want to be. Difficult issues will come, and the road may get complicated and twisted. We might have to face a whole myriad of problems, but we don’t have to face them all at once. We can take things slowly, and unravel the knots one at a time. We may not be able to solve everything at first, but as each issue is settled we’ll move closer to success. It may take a lot of time, and the changes may be incrementally small at first, but even tiny advances move us toward the goal. Small victories count. By moving forward line by line, and step by step, we will reach the destination. If we get stuck, we can step back and look at everything objectively. The answers we need will always be there for us, and with persistence and patience, we’ll find them. Every success is possible. If we keep moving forward, nothing can keep us from any goal we desire. We are strong and wise, and can be confident we will prevail.

Big, splashy successes are impressive. We all notice when someone accomplishes something huge that positively impacts everyone around them. But not all important accomplishments are broadcasted for everyone to see. We have private victories that may seem small in the overall scope of life, but that change our lives in positive and helpful ways. Each tiny success is important, and by building on them as we move forward, we will accomplish everything we desire.

Every change we make that moves us closer to our goals helps us reach success. If we want to be stronger, we don’t have to train for an Iron Man competition. We could just start exercising a little more each day. If we want to learn to cook, we don’t have to go to culinary school. We could just start reading a cookbook and try something easy. Incremental changes may seem insignificant, but each accomplishment, no matter how small, moves us toward success. We don’t have to start out being the ocean. We can begin as one drop of water, and move forward with confidence we will succeed.

Today if there’s something you want to accomplish but it looks too big and difficult, take one small step forward. Do one thing that moves you closer to the goal. Tomorrow, do another, and before long you’ll be well on your way to success. You are smarter and more powerful than you realize. Nothing is out of reach. You can do anything and go anywhere. Be confident. All your dreams are there for you, and you can make them come true.

Can’t Do It

25 Nov

Not everything in life comes easily. We will all face moments when there is something we must do we are sure we cannot accomplish. The barriers in front of us may be huge and daunting, or the situation may be so complex and difficult we have no idea how to proceed. At times like that, we must decide if we’re going to confidently push forward despite our doubts, or cut and run in the other direction, leaving the entire mess for someone else to take care of. If the situation is extreme, running away may be very appealing, but backing away from hard challenges gives us nothing in return. There is no return on investment in giving up. If we really feel we can’t do it, and can’t manage what’s before us, instead of surrendering, we can reach out for help from those around us. We all have different experiences and what’s unknown and overwhelming to us may be something someone else has already faced and knows how to overcome. Asking for help may give us the tools we need to find our way forward. Hard times will come to us all and there is great value and benefit to facing them head on and doing what is necessary to move through them. As we solve problems, we gain more information and greater skills to take forward with us. Life is full of obstacles and unforeseen developments that may stand in our way and muddy the road ahead. We are intelligent and capable, and strong enough and wise enough to face whatever comes. Nothing is too hard for us to manage, and with temerity and courage, we will find our way forward, no matter what’s lies ahead. Every single destination is possible, and nothing can keep us from success.

When hard times come, there may be some around us who will tell us we can’t succeed. They may believe the problem is too big, and too difficult for us to manage. Everyone has their own opinions and we can listen to whatever advice we’re given, but nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. All the answers we need will always be available in every situation. We may need to search for them, but they will rise, and we will prevail. We are more powerful than we realize and will find the way forward.

We may face a situation that is beyond our means. Perhaps it’s so big one person cannot accomplish it on their own, or it requires assets to solve we don’t possess. We can reach out to others for support and help, and with careful thought and determination, find the answers we need. No man is an island, and there will always be someone who can help when we get stuck. We can trust ourselves to handle any problem that arises, and be confident we will succeed, no matter what’s in the way.

Today if you’re facing an issue you are sure you cannot overcome, remember all the times you’ve prevailed in the past. You are amazing and capable, and already possess everything you need to succeed. Be confident and step forward. The answers are there for you and you will find them. Success will be yours, and your dreams will come true.

Shoulda Woulda

20 Nov

There are all kinds of people in the world and they all have their own ideas about life and how things should go. Some people are very confident and sure they have a lot, if not all, the answers. If they think they know us better than we know ourselves (impossible) they may try to tell us what they believe we should be doing. While they may have good suggestions, and we may choose to take their advice, nobody can possibly know what we want better than we do. Telling us we “should” do something because they think it’s a good idea doesn’t mean it’s what’s best for us. While it’s possible and likely we’ll make some mistakes in judgement, we are the experts in our own lives. We already know what we want and where we want to go. We can listen to any suggestions that are offered and weigh each individually, and then do exactly what we want. There is no one perfect way to live life. The expressions and choices are limitless. We can take any road we like and accomplish any goal we desire. We don’t have to fit into anyone else’s model or idea of what is right. Our choices are ours to make and we can design our lives any way we choose. We may occasionally have some regrets over choices we’ve made and think we could have chosen better, but each experience teaches us more about ourselves and the world around us. All the knowledge we gain enriches our understanding and helps us move forward in the future. We don’t need anyone else telling us we “shoulda” done something differently. If they do, we can listen politely, and then continue on toward whatever we are seeking. Every single possibility is there for us and we can do anything. With confidence and focus, we can achieve the goals we want the most, and make our dreams come true.

Our relationships are important and if we’re in a situation where someone we value strongly disagrees with a choice we’re making, they may talk us right out of it. If we decide they have a better choice, we can certainly make it. However, we don’t need anyone’s permission to do anything. We’re in control of our lives and can make our own choices. Going against the flow doesn’t mean we’re going the wrong way. Every destination is there for us, and we can achieve anything we desire.

Nobody is perfect and we all stumble from time to time. If someone warns us not to make a decision and we make it anyway only to face failure, they may say “I told you so,” and they might be right. But just because someone saw something we didn’t notice in one instance, doesn’t mean they will always know what’s best for us. We are intelligent and will learn much from mistakes along the way. We can trust ourselves to choose wisely, and reach every success.

Today if you’re being pressured to go in a direction you haven’t chosen, think about all the options before you. You are wise and capable, and can make excellent choices. Decide what you want the most and step forward with confidence. Every goal is possible, and you can make all your dreams reality.

Switching the Tape

18 Nov

Life is full of challenges. There are endless twists and turns, complications, unforeseen developments, and all kinds of complex issues. Even when we plan well, and chart a clear course ahead, crap happens, and we can get tangled up and thwarted as we try to move forward. When things go wrong, the easiest thing in the world to do is stop trying and start complaining. It takes zero effort and gets us nowhere. If the goal isn’t important, we can let it go when we hit the first snag and move on to something else, hoping there won’t be any more problems. Well, hope springs eternal, but we live in the real world, and there will be few times when everything goes exactly the way we want it to. If we can’t manage unexpected problems, it will be difficult to accomplish much. There are endless things that can go wrong, and it can be maddening if we have continual issues and roadblocks on the road ahead. Frustration is normal but if we let it take over and abandon the journey, we will be unable to make our dreams reality. Instead of seeing every problem that arises as the end of the road, we can switch the tape and challenge ourselves to find the way forward. There really isn’t anything we can’t figure out if we’re determined and focused. It might take longer than we planned, and it might be harder than we thought at the beginning. Those things don’t matter. All that matters is that we face whatever happens and do what is needed to overcome any hindrance. We are strong and powerful and have all the intelligence and wisdom we need to do anything we desire. By being confident in the face of disaster, and refusing to accept defeat, we will prevail. The whole world is there for us, and we can have the lives we want the most. We must just be willing to do the work.

Everyone wants a life filled with ease and pleasure. Dreaming about a perfect world may be nice, but we don’t live in Nirvana. We live in reality where people make mistakes, barriers get in the way, and things go wrong. A lot. It’s possible that some good things may fall into our laps without any planning or effort, but mostly we’ll have to work to achieve the things we want the most. We are capable of designing our lives any way we like. With persistence and clarity, we can go where we want to go, and do all the things we want to do.

Nobody is perfect. We all make mistakes and someone else might make a bad choice that impacts our lives and give us heartburn. We can waste time ranting and raving about what’s happened, but that will only hold us place. If something gets in the way, we can find the road around it. If someone is holding us up, we can step away from them and go in a new direction. Complications will come, but we are strong enough and smart enough to overcome them and continue forward toward our goals.

Today if it seems everything is standing in your way and you’re frustrated and angry, stop and think about what you want the most. What is the goal you really want to accomplish? Look at everything objectively and you will find the way forward. You are amazing and capable, and nothing can keep you from success. Every single dream is there for you, and you will make them yours.