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Things That Matter

28 Feb

Life is complicated and unpredictable. We never know what will happen next and it’s impossible to see how any situation will eventually end up. We’ll face endless challenges and sometimes just when it looks like everything is settling down, something else pops up that tangles and confuses. The superficial stuff that doesn’t matter is generally easy to manage, but what is important and has the potential for a big impact on our lives can be intense and complex. Things that matter are often hard to navigate, and may take all our attention and energy to manage. Big health decisions, sudden changes in our financial status, family complications, and a host of other difficult and consuming issues may arise. When serious concerns come, everything else may fall by the wayside as we try to figure out what to do and how to proceed. It may feel as though time has stopped, everything is frozen in place, and we may be overwhelmed with the decisions we need to make. Finding the best way forward may take serious thought and consideration, and we may doubt our ability to get through. When everything is upside down, and the road ahead is unknown and unclear, it’s hard to feel confident and sure. At first, we may think there is no way we’ll survive, but we are stronger than we imagine, and as the moments tick by and our understanding increases, we will find our footing. Difficult, horrible, disastrous things may happen. We might lose everything we hold dear, but as long as we’re still breathing, success is possible. Hard times come to everyone, and our worst dreams may appear, but we are stronger than we imagine, and have all the wisdom and insight necessary to find every answer we need. We will never face a time so terrible that there is no way through. By standing firm and trusting ourselves, and reaching deep for the courage within, we will prevail. Even in darkness and despair, our dreams are still there for us. Nothing can hold us in place indefinitely, and with patience and determination, we will succeed.

There is no way to know the whole story of what is happening unless it’s happening to us. We may see someone struggling with what appears to be a simple situation with an easy answer, but there may be hidden complications we cannot see. We’re all different and some people prefer to keep their personal issues to themselves. We may offer our assistance if they reach out to us for help, but if the issue is private, they may prefer to keep it to themselves. We’re all more connected than we imagine, and by being supportive and caring, we can be an anchor during times of intense duress.

When our lives take a difficult turn, the skies overhead are dark and it’s hard to see the way forward, we may be concerned and unsettled. It’s hard to know what to do when everything is unsure and foreign, but we have already been through hard and complicated issues, and found our way through. There will always be a way forward and all the answers we need are already there for us. By taking our time, and trusting our instincts, we will find the way ahead and reach the destinations we desire. There will never be anything too awful or confusing for us to figure out. We are strong and wise, and will prevail.

Today if something has turned your world upside down and you feel lost and unsure, trust yourself. You are wiser and more powerful than you think you are. Stand strong and look at all the options possible. Every answer is there and you will find your way forward. All your dreams are still possible and nothing can keep you from success. Trust yourself and step forward. The road ahead is waiting, and you will win.

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Freeze Frame

18 Feb

Everyone experiences many successes and things that go well. When our plans work out and the road ahead is clear and open, we feel happy and content, and sure we’ll arrive at the destinations we’ve chosen. But not every experience is good, and we’ll all suffer through disappointment and failure from time to time. Nobody is perfect and there is no way to get everything right every time. If we’ve gone through a big defeat that has impacted us greatly, we may feel the pain of loss for a long time. If we really missed the mark and the setback is intense, we might believe we’re doomed to fail going forward. We may struggle with self confidence and wonder if we’ll ever do anything well again. Life is continual and change is constant. Although our memories may hold everything frozen in time, nothing is permanent. Our past experiences teach us important lessons, and if we’ve fallen down, those lessons may be painful and difficult. It may be hard to believe we’ll ever be successful again, but the past is behind us and cannot predict the future. We aren’t forever cursed with failure just because of a bad experience. By learning all we can from what’s already happened, we can take great knowledge forward to help us moving ahead. We learn as we go, and each experience has something of value. We are wiser than we think we are, and can do amazing things. There is greatness in us all, and with patience and determination, every goal is possible.

If we’re out walking, and slip and fall, we don’t stay down and bemoan our situation. We get back up, brush ourselves off and continue on. If we go through a terrible mistake, and everything falls apart, we might stumble and fall. But we don’t have to stay down. We can look at everything that’s happened objectively, think about how we want to proceed, and then stand back up and start forward. There are unlimited destinations before us, and we have what we need to find the way ahead and reach success.

Everyone goes through hard times. We might face a time when no matter what we do, nothing works out. Every decision seems doomed to failure, and we may feel lost and confused. When we’re unsure about how to proceed, we can stop and stand still for a time, look at all the options possible, and then choose our next steps. The road may get twisted around and we might get tangled up, but we are intelligent and will find all the answers we need to move toward success.

Today if you’re unsure and doubting yourself, remember all the times you’ve already overcome difficulty and succeeded. You are strong and powerful, and have everything you need to do anything you desire. Decide what you want the most, and step forward with confidence. Every success is already there, waiting for you. Move forward and make it yours.

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No Way Back

31 Jan

We have endless experiences as we go through our lives and since there are many people around us, chances are they will be included. Our connections with others are many and varied. We may only wave to them in passing, they may be coworkers with whom we have a professional relationship, close friends, lovers or something else. When we get along and our interactions are positive, we may value our time with them and try to keep the connection strong. But we’re all different and there will be times when we disagree. We may face intense arguments that cause hurt feelings and damage the relationship. If someone offends us and we feel they are unbearable, we may choose to sever our ties with them, burn that bridge down and build an impermeable wall in front of them. There is nothing we want from them and there is no way back. We can do anything we like, but nobody can see the future or what will happen next. Life has a way of looping around and if something happens that brings them back into our sphere, and we need them for something, if we’ve completely cut them off, it may be hard to re-establish our connection. People often have great memories, and burning everything down will take a lot of effort and time to resurrect. Some people are impossible and we may want nothing to do with them – that is our prerogative. But we don’t have to completely sever all our ties to them. We can walk away and steer our lives in another direction. The old saying, “Live and let live,” will apply. They can do what they want, and we don’t have to be a part of it, but we can keep the link intact, however distant, just in case something changes and we have to interact with them in the future. We can be honest in all our dealings, and do not need to pretend to like them, but we can be polite and tolerant. Every decision we make takes us somewhere. By being pro-active and making the best choices possible, we will achieve great satisfaction and success.

Some people are rude and hateful, and don’t care about anyone but themselves. It’s hard to work with someone like that, and if we must, it may test our patience and endurance. If we have a professional relationship we can’t change, we can find a way to do what is needed to work with them and then move on. If they are family, we can define how much time we can spend with them and still be comfortable and work within those boundaries. We are always in control of everything we do and we can manage our time with difficult people in ways that help us move forward with the least amount of distress.

Love relationships are complicated. If we go through a painful breakup, and it wasn’t our idea, we may be angry and devastated. If there was cheating or some other offense involved, we might want them to suffer and try to think of ways to get back at them. Breakups are hard, but we are valuable and our time is precious. Our decisions define who we are. Instead of revenge, we can walk away from any painful situation with grace and dignity, and move forward toward what will bring us happiness and peace.

Today if there’s a relationship you want to get away from, do what is needed to feel comfortable but don’t burn everything down. You are intelligent and wise, and know how to make excellent decisions. Every destination you are seeking is there for you, and every success is possible. Be confident and step closer to your goals. All things are possible, and you will prevail.

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Making Them Pay

27 Jan

There are all kinds of people in the world doing all kinds of things and making all kinds of decisions. Everyone has their own motivations for what they do, and if someone else’s decisions are in direct opposition of our own and we collide, there will likely be conflict. If we’re in their way, they push us aside and storm on through, or do something to sabotage us. When someone does something that purposely hurts us we may be so angry we decide to make them pay. A lover cheats, a business partner sets us up, or dozens of other painful scenarios may push us to seek revenge and do our best to destroy them. We can do anything we like, but all the time spent plotting and planning, and then executing whatever we’ve chosen to do is wasted time we can’t use to move forward. Seeking revenge may make us feel better, but it will do nothing to enhance our situation or advance us toward the goals we’re seeking. And if we do attack, they may attack back. And then what? We try again? That’s a lot of wasted time and energy. Yes, they probably deserve to suffer for what they’ve done, but spending time trying to make that happen will never help us succeed. And even if we manage to hurt them, their discomfort may not stop them from doing it again. We don’t have to roll over and take abuse, and can stand firm and defend ourselves clearly and effectively. We can stand up to bullies and refuse to allow them to distract us and keep us from success. We know who we are and what we want, and when we’re focused and determined, nothing and nobody can keep us from achieving it.

Some people think they know us better than we know ourselves. They may criticize our decisions, and tell us what to do and where to go. We can listen to any advice we like, but allowing others to control our lives will never bring us satisfaction and happiness. We already know what we want and have everything we need to achieve it. We can be confident in our decisions, and move forward toward any goal we desire.

Getting deeply hurt by someone can change the way we see ourselves. We may begin to second guess our decisions, and worry that somehow their insults were right. Words only have the power we give them. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks of us or what we’re doing. We can design our lives any way we want, and never have to conform to anyone else’s ideas or opinions. By charting our own course and trusting ourselves, we can move forward and reach success.

Today if someone has done something to hurt you and you are angry and obsessed with getting them back, stop and think about what you want the most. Focus on your own road and your own destinations. Leave trouble behind and move forward with confidence. You are amazing and a great light to the world. Be strong and step forward toward success. Everything is there for you, and you will win.

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End of the Rope

26 Jan

Everyone wants an easy life where things go well, the sun always shines, nothing ever gets in the way, and we’re all wealthy. It’s a nice dream but unfortunately we don’t live in fantasy land, we live in the real world. There will be times when everything sails along nicely and we’re comfortable just cruising on through, but those times cannot last forever. Eventually things will change, the road will turn, something will fall apart, and we’ll be faced with problems and issues that try our sanity and patience. Although we’re all capable of facing whatever comes, there may be times when there’s so much going wrong and we’re so overwhelmed we begin to feel like we can’t take anymore. We’re at the end of our rope, and are sure that if anything else bad happens we’re going to completely fall apart and die. Of course, even if our worst fears are realized and our whole lives are turned upside down we probably won’t die. We may suffer desperate pains of loss or disappointment, we may find it hard to process what’s happening, and we may lose our way for a time. But we are stronger and more capable than we imagine, and no matter how bad the situation seems, can find our way through. Nothing lasts forever, and change is constant. Whatever is happening now is going to change, but when that happens is anybody’s guess. We can stop, set our emotions aside for a moment, and look at everything objectively. There is always a way forward, and with focus and determination, we will prevail. Life can be hard, and unexpected things will happen, but we are powerful and wise, and can always reach success.

Sometimes it can seem like we can’t win. Everything is working against us and nothing we try helps. Perhaps the timing for what we’re trying to do isn’t right, maybe someone is standing in our way and refuses to move, or issues have arisen that make our forward progress impossible. Getting stuck doesn’t mean the goal is unreachable. Every goal is possible but they aren’t all possible today. If we can’t move forward, we can turn in another direction and work on something else. As time passes our situation will change, and we will be able to return and start again.

We only have control over our own decisions. Trying again and again to open a locked door will not move us forward. There are many roads to every destination, and if the one we’re on stops or gets blocked, we don’t have to stand and wait for it to change. We can try a different approach and go a different way. We are intelligent and there is no problem too tangled for us to unravel. Every destination is there for us, and we will reach them all.

Today if nothing is working and you feel frustrated and overwhelmed, remember all the times you’ve been successful. You are wiser and more capable than you think you are. Every blessing is there for you. Be patient and trust yourself. You know what you want and have everything you need to get it. Stand strong and step forward with confidence. There is great success ahead and it will be yours.

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