Archive | Choice RSS feed for this section

Two Wrongs

5 Aug

Every decision we make takes us somewhere. If we’re mindful and careful, and take time to see the road ahead before we choose, we have a better chance of ending up somewhere we want to go. There’ll always be unforeseen complications and details we don’t know about, and sometimes things will go wrong. But most of the time, if we consider all our options, we can make excellent choices that bring us the results we desire. If we get involved in a situation where someone has a lot of influence over us and asks us to do something we aren’t sure about, we may hesitate. If they’re forceful and determined to push us their way, despite our concerns, we may acquiesce and go along. Sometimes other people’s decisions will work out for us but other times we may end up headed for trouble. We always have the choice to change direction and start again, but if we’re swept up under someone’s influence, we may feel powerless to turn around. One bad decision may lead to another, and then another, and before we know it, we’re in foreign and difficult territory, far from where we want to be. Two wrongs can never make anything right. They don’t cancel each other out, and continuing on the wrong road in the hopes that somehow it will magically turn into the right one, will never work. We’re always in control of our lives and no matter what others choose or how much pressure they bring in an effort to take us along, we can make our own decisions. We don’t have to agree to anything we don’t want. Nobody knows more about where we want to go than we do. We can have the lives we desire most by making careful choices that lead us to the destinations we want. Every blessing is possible and with patience and determination, we will find true happiness.

Some people like to control others to get what they want. If we have something they want, they may do all kinds of things to try and make us give it. If we don’t agree, they may manipulate the situation to pressure us into compliance. It’s very difficult and unpleasant to deal with situations like these, and if being honest and straightforward doesn’t work, we may consider something underhanded in an effort to escape. We’re always accountable for everything we do, and there is no excuse powerful enough to turn bad behavior into good. Choosing well will always bring blessings. We have all the courage and wisdom we need to make decisions that reflect our high standards and hold fast to what is noble and right.

If we go along with a bad decision that complicates and negatively impacts our life, we can stay with it and hope things will improve, or stop and rethink the way forward. No decision is written in stone and we can change direction at any time. We don’t need permission or agreement to correct our course. Every road is possible and with determination and focus, we can move toward the destinations we want the most.

Today if someone is pressuring you to make a choice you don’t agree with, stand firm and choose what’s best for you. You’re in control of your life and can go anywhere you desire. Every option is available and you will find the right way forward. Choose roads that will take you where you want to go, and make your dreams come true.

Tags: , ,

Defining

31 Jul

People come in and out of our lives constantly. Sometimes we make connections that last only a brief time, and sometimes we have lifelong relationships. No matter how many attributes we may share, we are all unique and define our lives by the choices we make. When we care about someone, their influence over us may be great. We want to make them happy so there may be times when we agree to do something we don’t really want to do. That may not be a problem for inconsequential decisions – where to have dinner, what movie to see, or what to do over the weekend. However, if they want us to do things that impact our lives negatively, or change our direction toward something we don’t want, and we go along, we may end up somewhere we never wanted to go. It’s not always easy to stand up for our own decisions when someone we love is pressuring us to go along with theirs. We can always agree to anything and do what everyone else thinks we should, leaving our personal choices behind. But it’s important to remember that when we choose the first step on a path, we are also choosing the last. If we go along with someone else’s decision in the beginning, we will end up at the destination they’ve chosen. Our lives are important and how we define them is up to us. We can have the lives we want the most, but we must make the decisions necessary to achieve them. Nobody will ever know more about what’s important to us than we do. We can choose our own roads to travel. If everyone agrees it may be easier, but even if they don’t, we can move forward with confidence toward any destination we desire. Our lives are ours to design and nothing is out of reach. Each step we take can move us closer to the lives we dream about.

Everyone has opinions about everything. Someone may think they have better ideas about how we should live than we do, and share them with us. They may say anything they like, but we never have to take any advice we don’t want. We can listen patiently and thank them for their input, and then choose our own way forward. There is no one perfect way to live life. We can do things our way, and go to the destinations we most desire. Expressing our own individuality and making our own choices will bring us great reward and satisfaction.

When we’re young we learn a lot about life from our families. The patterns we grow up with are comfortable and familiar. As we become adults, we may choose to adopt those same patterns in our lives, or we may decide to go another way. We don’t have to keep doing something just because we’ve done it that way in the past. There are unlimited versions and variety to every experience. If we want to change something, we can. Our lives can represent who we are individually, and sharing our unique gifts will bring richness and variation to the world around us.

Today if you’ve been going along with those you care about and letting go of what you want the most, remember your influence is valuable. Define your life by making choices that express your individuality. Show us who you are. You bring richness and goodness to the world. We’re all blessed because you are here.

Tags: , ,

Best Revenge

26 Jul

There are all kinds of people in the world and although many of them are kind and considerate, we may find ourselves interacting with someone who is mean or cruel, who does something that hurts us or impacts us negatively. We may be angry and desire revenge, which is always an option, but seeking revenge will only take up a lot of our time and energy, and will never move us forward. The best way to get back at someone who has purposely made our lives difficult, is to live well and move forward with grace and dignity. Nothing bothers mean, selfish people more than to see those around them succeed. If we want the best revenge, we can live with strength and confidence. We are far more valuable than any petty, vengeful action we could take, and choosing to express our incredible worth by keeping our standards high will ennoble us, and set an excellent example for those around us. There will always be unhappy people who want to bring those around them down and make them feel small. We don’t have to take the bait. We can stand strong and continue to reach out in kindness and charity, even to those who don’t deserve it. The old saying, “The best revenge is living well,” is true. Nothing can compare to a life well lived, filled with goodness and clarity. Our lives are ours to design, and no matter what happens or what others may do, we can always make the best choices possible. It takes two to fight and when conflict arises, we can choose grace and patience, and keep our composure. We have everything we need to prevail in any situation. We are worth more than we can imagine. Every blessing is possible, and with patience and restraint, we will find every success.

It’s not easy to stay calm and think clearly when we feel like hitting back, and thrashing someone causing us grief. But we’re in control of our lives, and everything we do. We can stand still, take a deep breath and allow ourselves time to keep our composure, objectively see the situation, and decide on the best way forward. We can be our own best friend and give ourselves every advantage by carefully choosing the best options before us and maintaining our self-control.

Some people find satisfaction in creating turmoil and conflict, and enjoy stirring things up and getting others agitated and confused. They like to tease and torment, and try to gin up anxiety and distress. It’s difficult to deal with them, and if we fall into their trap, may find ourselves somewhere we never wanted to go. We can always leave any situation that makes us uncomfortable. We can find happiness by choosing wisely, and becoming the people we most want to be.

Today if you’re angry because of something someone has done and are thinking of ways to get back at them, before you decide, consider what’s best for you. Your life is important and valuable, and every choice you make will take you somewhere. Make choices that will bring you increased happiness and peace. Be wise and step forward with confidence and clarity. Every blessing is there for you, and you will find great success. The whole world is blessed because you are here. You are amazing.

Tags: , ,

Already There

19 Jul

We can do anything we want in life. We can push our limits and try new things, go to new, faraway places, and try anything that captures our interest. Sometimes we may feel unsure about our next steps and if someone asks us what we want to do, may reply that we don’t know. However, it’s unlikely that’s true. We always know what we want. We may be unsure we can get it, or concerned about what it will take to accomplish it, but it’s already there, tucked away in our minds, waiting. The question isn’t what we want to do or where we want to go. The question is are we ready to do what it will take to get there. There is no rush to make our dreams come true, and we can certainly take our time until we feel confident. But each day we live a life that isn’t making us happy, is a day traded away that cannot be recovered. Every single thing we want is possible – every single thing. Nothing is beyond our capabilities. We have what it takes to get the life we want. Once we’ve defined what that is and are ready to start moving toward it, nothing can hold us in place. The world is a huge place with unlimited possibilities. We’re only limited by our own decisions. We can stay where we are, where we know how things will go, or we can confidently take the first step toward the life we really want. We deserve complete happiness and choosing to make our dreams a reality will bring it. Every day is a blessing. We can make the most of each one and press forward toward the goals we desire most. Every success is waiting and they can all be ours.

Life flies by in a hurry. When we’re busy with details and responsibilities, our days may rush past without notice. We look up and another week has gone by. We can’t hold time back but we can make sure we’re living as fully as possible every moment. Nobody is going to make our dreams come true for us. Nobody but us can create the lives we desire. We already possess everything we need to reach any destination we choose. It’s all there for us. We just need to begin.

Sometimes our lives may get complicated and twisted up with all kinds of commitments, details, chores, and responsibilities. We may overextend our time and find ourselves rushing from one task to the next, barely noticing the world around us. It’s easy to get over involved in doing and forget to value our personal needs. We can put our lives on hold while we serve others around us, but it’s impossible to actually live our lives when we keep them in a holding pattern. Every goal we want is possible. We can plan effectively to ensure we have the time we need to achieve what we want. If we’re diligent and purposeful, we really can have the lives we dream about.

Today if you’ve been struggling, trying to figure out your next move, think about what you really want. You already know where you want to go. Decide to start moving toward your dreams and make them yours. Every blessing is possible and you can do anything you desire. Be confident and step forward. Create the life you want and you’ll find great happiness and satisfaction.

Tags: , ,

Dark Shadows

17 Jul

Our lives are always in our control and we can do anything, and go anywhere we want. It’s nice to have agreement from those around us when we make decisions, but their agreement doesn’t have to be a deciding factor. We don’t need permission for our choices and can do whatever we feel is best for us, even if we must go alone. Everyone has their own opinions and ideas, and we might decide to do something that someone close to us opposes. They may try to dissuade us and if that doesn’t work, may resort to criticism and ridicule. They may tell us we’re heading down a dark road and will face problems and suffering because of our decision. While it’s true we’ll all make at least one disappointing choice in our lives, it’s also true that we’re in control of our lives, and if things go wrong, we can turn and correct the situation. Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves and nobody else has our personal intuition or insight. We are capable of choosing the best roads ahead and can reach any destinations we desire. If those around us don’t agree, they may stay behind. We can move forward on our own and achieve any goals we set. Dark shadows may fall on us, but we have everything we need to move back into the light. We can choose the roads that will take us closer to where we want to be, and make decisions that will ensure success. If the road turns and things get complicated, we know how to adjust our direction and find the way forward. Everything we desire is possible and nothing is beyond our reach. We can create the lives we want the most and move forward with confidence that we will succeed.

Change is a challenge for everyone. Some people are more resistant to it than others, and will do whatever is necessary to keep things the same. If we propose something new, they may react strongly and refuse to agree. If we need their cooperation to move forward and can’t get it, we may have to set the goal aside until our situation changes. If cooperation isn’t necessary, we may listen patiently to any comments and advice we may receive, and then proceed to move forward on our own. We are strong and capable, and can do anything we desire.

We may face a time when someone wants us to do something we’re uncomfortable with. Maybe we’re unsure we can succeed, or the road ahead is unknown and complicated. If we’re compelled to participate, we can trust ourselves to find the way forward. If things go well, we’ll find satisfaction in success. If they falter and we stumble, we’ll learn from the experience. There is something to be gained no matter what happens. Every step teaches us something of value, and we are wise enough to gain from each lesson.

Today if you’ve decided to change your direction and those around you disagree, decide what you want the most. You don’t need permission to design your life. Every possibility is available and you can do anything you desire. Step forward on the road that will take you where you most want to go. Your success is waiting, and will bring you great happiness and satisfaction.

Tags: , ,

← Older Entries
Newer Entries →