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Tag Archives: Comfort

Horseshoes

24 Oct

When we want to accomplish something we want to do our best but sometimes, because of various factors, we only get close to the goal and don’t actually reach the prize.  There is an old saying that close only counts in hand grenades and horseshoes.  Hand grenades for obvious reasons, and horseshoes because you don’t have to get a ringer to get points.  In our lives, if we really want to accomplish anything, just getting close to the goal will never take us where we want to be.  Of course, there may be times when we can’t do something because of decisions being made by others or situations we can’t overcome, but most of the time our own choices keep us from the goals we want to achieve.  We can do anything we want to do but if we aren’t determined to go all the way, chances are we’ll get sidetracked and quit.  There are unlimited reasons not to do something, and if we don’t want to continue any reason will do.  But if the goal is important, even if it’s hard, we can face whatever is in the way and push through to the end.  All options are there for us if we want them badly enough.  Our lives are ours to design and we can do anything if we’re willing to take care of whatever we must to prevail.  Being close is fine if that’s all we want, but actually reaching the prize will bring us great satisfaction and happiness.  We deserve every blessing possible and can do whatever is needed to reach any goal we desire.

We all have different ideas about how to live life.  For some it’s enough to dream about what they want to accomplish.  They spend their time thinking about how their lives could be but do nothing to change their situation.  For others it’s fine to try to reach a goal but once it’s no longer fun to push forward, they stop and return to where they were.  We can live our lives any way we like and if we really want to accomplish something nothing can stop us from achieving it.  All dreams are possible if we’re willing to do what is needed to accomplish them.  We can have the lives we want the most and find complete happiness.

When we want to do something different than what’s happening around us we may face questions and opposition.  Many people prefer to keep things predictable and comfortable.  There’s nothing wrong with doing things the same way if that’s what we want, but if we yearn for something more it’s always possible.  We can change any situation we like and move into uncharted territory whenever we choose.  There are endless opportunities possible and we can try as many as we like.  Our lives belong to us and we can do anything.  The lives we dream about are waiting for us and when we’re ready, we can have them.

Today if you’ve been pushing toward a goal but are tired of the struggle and thinking about giving up, decide what you want most.  If the goal is important you can reach it.  There isn’t anything you can’t do.  Decide what kind of life you want and then do what is needed to achieve it.  All dreams are possible and you can make them come true.  Create the life you want the most and every happiness will follow.

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Step Two

6 Jul

There are all kinds of scenarios we envision for our lives and many different things we want to do and experience.  We can work hard toward our goals and with determination and persistence may achieve many of them.  There will be times when things don’t go the way we planned and what we thought we’d gain escapes us.  There are countless factors always involved in every decision we make and most of them are out of our control.  When we get stopped and everything we thought would work out has crashed and burned, we may get stuck at step one of our plan.  We can redirect our path forward and decide if the original goal is still worth the effort or if we want to let it go and move on to something else.  We can always roll over and give up when the going gets tough.  We’re in charge of our lives and can change anything we like at any time.  But if we still want to push forward toward the destination we’ll have to create a new plan and begin again.  There is always more than one way to accomplish any goal.  If our first attempt doesn’t work, we can try again.  If that fails, we can create yet another plan and can continue until we find the path that takes us all the way there.  Our lives are ours to design and we can do anything we want to do.  We only need to decide exactly what that is.  Everything is possible if we’re willing to do what is needed to succeed.  If one road doesn’t work we can choose another.  There are unlimited possibilities and nothing can keep us from success.

We never have to stay in a situation we don’t want.  It doesn’t matter what others are doing around us, it doesn’t matter what is expected or how things usually go.  We can live our lives any way we choose and if we don’t like where we are, we can move.  We can leave relationships that are unfulfilling or that don’t make us happy.  We can move from locations that don’t offer us the opportunities we desire.  We are always in control of our lives and if we want something different we can get it.  Complete happiness is possible and by directing our lives toward the things we want the most, we will find it.

It’s easy to go along with the routines we’ve established even if we’re unhappy.  There is comfort in knowing what to expect and it takes courage to reach for something more.  But we have sufficient courage to step away from where we are and strive for the lives we most desire.  Every dream is possible and we can begin moving toward them whenever we’re ready.  The whole world is there for us and nothing is too far or too difficult to reach.  We need only take the next step forward and start on the road that will take us where we want to go.  All roads are open and waiting.  The possibilities are endless and we can achieve any goal we desire.

Today if you’re stuck and want a change, look ahead and decide what you want the most.  You can have the life you dream about.  You can make your dreams come true.  Take the next step forward toward the destination you desire.  Every opportunity is possible and nothing is out of reach.  Make your dreams come true and find the happiness you deserve.

The Whole Story

26 Feb

It’s not difficult to get facts about anything these days.  With the internet and its connections there is a plethora of information available to us all the time.  If we want to know how something works, we can find out.  If we want to know how to do something, the answers can be located.  But there is a big difference between knowing about something and experiencing it.  It’s hard to give credence to someone telling us how to do something they haven’t experienced.  The facts might be right and the directions might be clear, but if it’s never been applied there is no way to know all the complications and unforeseen details that might arise.  It’s impossible to get the whole story from only the facts.  We must experience what may happen and how it feels to fully understand any situation.  Facts are sterile and do not contain emotion.  Experience brings enlightenment and understanding to the whole story.  People are not machines and every moment is colored by interpretation, insight, and expression.  Nobody experiences the same event the same way.  If we want to know how things really work, we must be willing to experience them for ourselves.  Life is filled with endless opportunities to learn and grow.  When we want to do something we can step forward and begin discovering all the parameters of the situation for ourselves.  Our lives will be enriched and our understanding of how things work will increase as we learn new things.  We have limitless possibility, and can do anything we desire.

Some rules and laws in our lives are immutable.  For instance, we can’t eliminate gravity, we can’t stop breathing and continue to live, and everything we do will have some sort of reaction.  There are basic structures that can’t be ignored or changed, but outside of those, anything is possible.  Some may tell us what we want to do can’t be done, simply because nobody has ever done it before.  Or we may be told something is too difficult to change because there are so many parameters involved.  We are unique and capable, and it doesn’t matter what has happened before.  If there is something we want to do, we can do it.  All options are available, and nothing is out of reach.

It takes courage to attempt something new outside our areas of comfort, but there are endless experiences to capture if we are willing to step into the unknown.  We can go anywhere and do anything, and the unknown is only foreign to us until we make it ours.  There is no experience too frightening or intimidating to conquer if we want it in our lives.  We can open doors to new experiences and gain a deeper understanding of who we are, and where we’re headed.  Life is an incredible gift.  Experiencing it to the fullest will bring us amazing blessings and benefits.  There isn’t anything we can’t do, and we can get the whole story for anything we desire.

Today if you’ve been staying close to what you know but want to try something new, step forward and reach further.  There are endless possibilities to experience.  You can do everything you desire.  Be confident.  All your dreams are possible, and you can make them come true.

Tiny Pebbles

28 May

Sometimes when we we’re walking along we may get a small stone in our shoe. We feel it under our foot and it’s aggravating as we walk. While not cripplingly painful, it’s an annoyance that’s uncomfortable. We can stop and remove our shoe and shake it out. After we remove it we can continue on without discomfort. Because the stone is so small if we had to walk with it in our shoe we probably could continue but we would always be aware of its presence. Stopping and removing it is the only way to find relief. Our lives can be like that at times. There may be something bothering us on the periphery that isn’t crippling but is annoying and constant. Perhaps it’s a discussion we need to have with someone else that we’ve put off. Or maybe someone did something that hurt us and we haven’t been able to let it go. There are a million things that could be drifting around in the background that don’t stop us from moving forward, but are bothersome and keep our attention. The only way to remove them is the same as removing the annoying pebble in our shoe. We must stop, address the issue, do what it takes to resolve it, and then move on.

We all have boundaries in our lives and when we clearly define them and understand them we can work around them. But if we let others broach those boundaries in ways that make us uncomfortable and don’t tell them where our lines are, we may be hurt as they stomp all over them. Nobody knows us like we know ourselves. If we don’t communicate what doesn’t work for us, others may make choices that are difficult for us to manage. When that happens if we speak up we have the chance to remove the pebble and move forward. If we are silent, things will remain the same. We are responsible for our own lives. If we don’t like what’s happening, we can speak up.

There may be times when those close to us do things that make us uncomfortable. We can talk to them, explain our discomfort, and ask them to change. But we can only control ourselves and the decisions made by others belong to them. Sometimes even after explaining our feelings people will continue on the same way despite our discomfort. If they are important to us we might just accept that and find a way around the situation because we care about them. Relationships are complicated and sometimes we may choose to go along even when we aren’t happy about the direction. The annoyance will still be there but if we’ve explained our position and asked for what we need, even if things don’t change, we can feel confident that we did all we could. We are responsible for our own happiness and asking for what we want is the best we can do. We won’t always get it but speaking up empowers us to move forward.

Today if you have a situation that’s been bothering you that you haven’t addressed, do what is needed to resolve it. You have all the courage necessary to take care of it. Face whatever is keeping you from being happy and move forward. You deserve to be completely happy. Remove whatever pebble is in your shoe and you’ll find comfort.

In Control

27 May

Personal independence varies from one individual to another.  Some people are comfortable doing everything on their own and don’t need or want help from anyone else.  Others are more comfortable doing things as a team and depend on any help and assistance they can get.  We all have our own comfort levels and no matter what other people are doing, we define those parameters for ourselves.  We all want to be in control of our lives but what that means differs from person to person.  However, there is a difference between being independent and being selfish.  When we’re selfish we think only of ourselves and our personal needs and wants, disregarding those around us.  Selfishness is rarely a positive trait and often leads to disharmony and conflict.  Where the lines are between being independent and being selfish depends on the influence our decisions have over others.  If we do something that negatively impacts those around us and we have no consideration or concern for them we are being selfish.  We can be independent all we want, but it’s important to remember how our decisions affect others.  If our choices create problems for those around us we may get returns we didn’t count on.

There are a lot of people in all of our lives and our relationships with them have a wide range of expression.  We may be close and share everything with them, or they may be passing acquaintances we rarely see.  Our relationships sometimes define how independent we are in our interactions with them.  If we have a situation where everything we do impacts someone else and our decisions will result in changes not only for us but also for them it’s important to consider the implications before the decisions are made.  Being independent doesn’t give us the right to make decisions that impact others just because we want to do something.

Selfishness is a difficult trait in any relationship.  By its definition it means to think only of oneself and not others.  It’s almost impossible to be selfish and kind at the same time.  Few people want to be around those who make decisions that impact them without caring.  We may get away with it for a while but in the end if we value ourselves over our relationships we may end up alone.  If we think only of our comfort, our choices, our plans, and our way of doing things, it will be impossible to build a healthy connection with anyone else.  Everyone’s views are important and we all have a lot to offer.  If we want to share our world with those around us, we must learn not only to take what we want, but to give something in return.

Today if you’ve made an independent decision that has negatively impacted someone else, revise your plans.  You can do anything you like but if you consider those around you, your life will be happier and things will go more easily.  You are strong and capable.  Everyone has a lot to offer and deserves to be considered.  Be as independent as you like but remember others as you go forward.  When you do you’ll build stronger relationships and connections that will embellish your life.

Losing Ourselves

21 Apr

Hard times come to us all. Sometimes we get so caught up in what’s going wrong in our lives we can’t see anything else. We can only focus on the problems we’re facing. We may feel beset, overwhelmed and quite miserable. It can seem that everywhere we look there is nothing but bad news. It’s like being in a fog of unhappiness and it’s hard to find a way out. But there are things we can do to find peace even when things are going wrong. One way to get out from under the trial is to reach out and help someone else. We may think we can’t possibly help anyone else when our lives are a mess, but doing things for others allows us to take our eyes off our own problems for a while. When we’re helping someone else there isn’t time to think about ourselves. We can get lost in service, and when we do we find respite. It seems counter intuitive to try to give when we feel like we’re going under but if we do we will be lifted and our burdens, no matter what they are, will feel lighter.

We all have so many blessings. Even in our darkest moments we have much for which to be thankful. Maybe we don’t live in a mansion, but we have a safe place to sleep. Maybe we don’t wear designer clothes, but we are warm and dry. Maybe we don’t have money in the bank, but we have enough for our needs. We take a lot for granted and forget how much we really have. Even in our darkest hours we have things for which to be grateful. And often we have more than many others. If we can remember that and share what we have, even when we’re struggling, we will find peace and comfort. It’s impossible to focus on what’s going wrong in our lives when we’re trying to help someone else with something they need. Seeing another person’s problems and helping them find comfort brings comfort to us as well.

When things go wrong and the bottom falls out, when we lose our footing and think we’ll never survive, all is not lost. No matter what we go through in life, we will find a way through. There will always be someone with more troubles and fewer blessings than us. If we reach out and extend ourselves to help, to serve in some way, and to share what we have, we will forget our sorrows and find joy. When we’re focused on someone else, we can’t focus on what’s going wrong for us. We will lose ourselves and our troubles for a moment and reach a little higher. We’ll find comfort and confidence as we remember the blessings we have, and see how we’re bringing joy to others by helping. We have so much to offer. Troubles will come and there will be hard times. But we can navigate them and find solace by helping those around us, and remembering who we are.

Today if you feel overwhelmed by things that are going wrong, and surrounded by trouble, look around and see where you could help. Extend yourself and do something for someone else. You will forget your problems for a moment and the service will bring you joy. When you return to the issues that are pressing, you’ll be rejuvenated and stronger. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Lose yourself helping someone else. Your problems will seem to diminish, and you’ll be comforted and happier.

Hold On

21 Jan

There are times in our lives when we have to make difficult decisions. Perhaps we need to change our course in one way or another, end a relationship, quit a job, or move to a new location. These decisions require a lot of thought and consideration because they impact our lives in big ways. Ending relationships that aren’t working for us can be very painful, even if we’re sure it’s the right decision. Quitting a job that doesn’t fit, or deciding to move to a new location requires a lot of change and can upset our lives for a time. When we’re going through the adjustments involved in making big changes, even if they are changes we want to make, we can feel unsettled and out of sync for a time. We may even feel like running back to the old situation because even though it wasn’t working, at least it’s familiar. But we can’t move forward and backward at the same time. If we really want the change we’ve decided to make, we must hold on when we feel unsure and keep walking ahead. Eventually we’ll find our place again, feel more secure, and have the opportunity to create a better situation going forward.

There is great comfort in doing things we’re familiar with. Routine feels normal, and even if we’re not happy, we know what to expect. When we decide to make a big change in our lives, we disrupt our regular routine and even though we know we want to move forward on a different path, we may miss the comfort of where we were. We may grieve for the sameness and yearn for the security it gave us. At those times there may be great temptation to go back. If it was a relationship that didn’t work, we may still miss the other person. Going back won’t change anything except we’ll be back where we were. If we weren’t happy before we left, we won’t be happy when we return. It’s normal to go through a grieving process when we’re making changes, and miss what we know. But it will pass and if we hold on and keep going forward to the future we want, we’ll find comfort again, and happiness will return.

Changing our lives often requires us to step into the unknown. We don’t know what we’ll find on our new road, we don’t really know where it will take us. We know what we want but there is no road map with an “X” marking the spot showing the destination. We have to figure things out one step at a time. We are capable of doing that and no matter where we’re headed or what we’re seeking, we can get there. Just because the road is new doesn’t mean we can’t successfully travel it. Taking things one step at a time, seeing everything as it is and directing our path carefully will ensure our success. There isn’t anything we can’t do. There isn’t any change that is too daunting for us. We can make our lives any way we want them. All we have to do is make our decision, hold on, and keep walking. The destination will come to us and we’ll be happy again.

Today if you’re making changes and you feel unsure, keep going. You know what you want and you can move forward with confidence and clarity. You can take any road you choose and get to your destination. You are capable and strong. You’ve made the right decision for you. Hold on and keep walking. You’re almost there.