Ho Ho Ho and All That Stuff

1 Dec

The holidays are a busy time and can be stressful and exhausting. There may be parties we’re expected to attend, traditions everyone wants to continue, or other situations we may or may not want to do. Everyone is unique and we all have our own ideas about how things should go and what we should do. Although we all understand that intellectually, there may be times when we are pressed to go along with others. We might even pressure someone else to follow our lead because it’s what we enjoy and we want them to participate. We’re in control of our own lives, but if someone in authority over us expects us to do things a certain way, we may have to comply. Family expectations and traditions are powerful. We may choose to go along just to keep the peace and get through with as little conflict as possible. No matter what’s going on or how we feel about it, we can work through any situation and find the best way forward. We never have to do anything we aren’t comfortable with and we can decline any offer with grace and patience. There may be much to accomplish, but with careful planning, and taking the time we need for ourselves, we will prevail. We know who we are and what we want. By keeping our eyes on the goal ahead, and moving forward with clarity, we will succeed.

Everyone wants to be happy but personal happiness is expressed in different ways. We don’t have to jump up and down, and laugh all day long to convince ourselves or others that we’re content. Our outward expressions are unique. Some people share every emotion with those around them and others are quiet and still even when they feel great joy. We can share our optimism and happiness with those around us if we like, or we may keep things to ourselves. Our lives are ours to design and every option is possible.

If we’re stressed and having a hard time, it can be very annoying if someone near us is bounding with holiday fun. We may wish they’d just put a sock in it and fade away. If we need time to ourselves to regroup and settle, we can step away from the activity around us and zone out for a while. Sometimes just a few minutes of quiet and peace can greatly refresh us and give us the boost we’re seeking. There are endless ways to express ourselves at any moment. We can do what works for us and find the happiness we desire.

Today if you’re tired and stressed, and feel pressure to participate in activities around you, decide what you really want. If you need time alone, take it. You are the most important person in your life. Your desires are important, and every dream is possible. Decide how you want to proceed, and step forward. You are wise and capable, and nothing is out of reach. Be happy and choose the way ahead. There isn’t anything you can’t do.

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Looking Over Your Shoulder

22 Nov

Life is complex and unpredictable. We will experience things we never imagined and face challenges that may try us and push us to our limits. We’ll also have some wonderful days filled with happiness and each event we experience will remain in our memories as we continue forward. Nobody gets a perfect life with all paved roads and unending success. Everyone will have hard times, and go through periods of distress, worry, and confusion. Although we always want to succeed at everything we do, it’s likely we’ll face failure at some point, and our lives may be upended. We may lose our jobs, forfeit our money, our lovers may leave us and countless other difficult things may happen. If we’ve been seriously hurt it may take significant time for us to heal and trust ourselves and our lives again. When we are ready to start over, the scars of what’s happened will remain and may continually prod us not to trust what lies ahead. Lots of things could happen but nobody can read the the future. We don’t know what will happen, who will enter our lives, or how things will work out. Things may have gone wrong in the past, but the past can never predict the future. However, if we continually look over our shoulder at where we were and obsess over everything that went awry, it will be nearly impossible to move forward. If our eyes are looking back, we will not be able to move ahead. There is much to be learned as we go through our lives, and although they hurt, the hardest times teach us the most. Instead of looking back and trying to dissect everything that went wrong, we can use the skills we’ve gained from what’s behind, and step forward armed with more information and greater confidence. Life is always moving ahead, and each day we get the chance to try again. We are stronger and wiser than we imagine, and nothing can hold us back when we’re ready to move. We can look forward with clarity and be sure of success.

We may go through something that’s so painful and encompassing that it stops us in our tracks and shakes us to our very core. We may be temporarily paralyzed and unable to move. Our minds may race trying to grasp what’s happened and we may feel completely overwhelmed and lost. Nobody wants to suffer, but this is real life, and bad stuff happens. Our world may be rocked and we may be dumbfounded for a moment, but we are intelligent and wise, and already possess everything we need to face anything that comes.

Our lives belong solely to us. We decide how we will proceed and what we will do. Situations may develop that take us off course, but the road will remain, waiting for us to return. Nothing can prevent us from moving toward any destinations we desire. If we must modify our plans, we can. If we must turn and go in another direction, we will find the way. We are powerful and highly capable, and we will succeed.

Today if you’ve been looking back and holding onto a painful memory, remember how important your life is. You have incredible gifts to offer, and the whole world in enriched because you are here. Turn your eyes to the road ahead, and stand strong. Nothing can keep you from your dreams. Be confident and step forward with clarity and resolve. You are amazing, and every blessing awaits.

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Wiper Blades

15 Nov

Windshield wiper blades help us see when it’s raining or snowing outside. They move everything off the glass and clear the way ahead. Without them, when the weather gets bad, it may be impossible to see the road and we may have to stop until things change. When they are new, they work perfectly but as they wear, there may be areas that don’t touch and over time it gets harder and harder to see the road. It’s the same for us when we are doing our tasks and working our way through. There are always endless complications and details that may move us off course, and endless tasks to accomplish. If we keep our minds clear and focus on what needs to be done, we will likely find success. But all those details and complications may wiggle their way to the front of our vision, and we may get distracted and stuck, unable to see the way forward. Life is filled with all kinds of unexpected developments and we may tire trying to solve them all. We know where we want to go, and setting aside the journey to take care of this over here, or that over there, will never help us reach the goal. We only have control over our own decisions and there is no way to predict what will happen. Sometimes, everything gets jumbled up and the road gets blocked. But many times the distractions that come can wait. The journey we’re on is important and if we’re determined to succeed, we can find a way to attend to whatever comes up and still continue forward. We know what we want, and already have everything we need to get it. By choosing to stay on track and doing what is needed to make the goal ours, we will prevail. Nothing is out of reach if we are determined to win. We are smart enough to know what to do at every turn, and we will succeed.

Life is complex and we may face a time when we’re so busy taking care of details we neglect to take care of ourselves. Yes, it’s important to solve problems as they arise, and make new plans when necessary, but we are in control of our time and how we use it. There will always be more work to do, no matter what we accomplish. We can be diligent and work hard, and still do what is necessary to ensure our own safety and good health. By taking the time we need to rest and restore, we will more easily find the answers we need, and reach the goal ahead.

If we’re exhausted from too much work, our judgement will likely be compromised. It’s hard to see details when our vision is blurred by fatigue. When we’re tired we may miss important clues we need to move ahead. By being proactive and taking time when we need it, we will be clear and aware of everything we need to do, and where we need to go. Success is always possible, and with patience and wisdom, we will reach it.

Today if you’ve got a lot going on and there is much to accomplish, remember you are the most important person in your life. Be mindful of your needs and step back when you need a break. You are amazing and highly capable and nothing is beyond your grasp. Plan carefully, and step forward confident of success.

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The Endless Wait

10 Nov

There are lots of people around us and we may develop many different types of relationships. If we want them to be strong and healthy, we must be willing to invest time and attention in them. Since we’re all different, what that looks like may be very different from one person to the next. Some families are very connected and stay intensely involved with each other. Other families are more independent and don’t include everyone in their business. Although they are very different, it doesn’t mean one is better than the other. There are endless ways to express our attachments. We all have ideas about how things should go and if we get intimately involved with someone whose ideas about how to manage our connection is different than our own, there may be complications. If we want to move the relationship forward, and the other person says they want the same thing, but keep putting us off, it may be confusing. We can listen to their promises, and hope for things to change, but if all we do is wait and nothing happens, we may need to re-evaluate what we’re doing. Words are cheap and without action, they mean nothing. All the promises in the world are worthless if there is no follow through. We can wait as long as we like for things to develop, but our lives belong to us and we are in control of what we do. We don’t have to remain in place any longer than we’re comfortable. If we want something different or something more, and the other party isn’t responding, we can look at all our options and change direction. It doesn’t matter how long we’ve been connected to them. If what they’re doing isn’t working, we can move on. We deserve complete happiness and by keeping our eyes open and choosing the road ahead we most desire, we can achieve it.

Procrastination is a deadly behavior trait that can quickly kill a relationship. We always do what we want to do most, and when we push something aside and leave it undone, it’s an indication that it’s not important to us. If we ignore our relationship responsibilities or promises, our connection will surely suffer. It’s demeaning and insulting to constantly be promised something that never materializes. Instead of going along to keep the peace, it’s far better to state our true intentions and be as honest as possible. If we don’t want to or don’t intend to do something, there is no need to pretend otherwise.

It’s hard to wait for something we really want. If the goal is something we can achieve on our own, we can make an effective plan and set forth to achieve it, but if it involves the participation of someone else, all bets are off. Someone may agree to doing something just to prevent contention, when they have no intention of complying. Who we are is defined by what we do. If we continually commit to things and don’t follow through, others will learn we cannot be trusted. There is greatness in us, and by being completely honest and keeping our word, we will build great connections and strong relationships that will move us closer to the success we desire.

Today if you’ve been waiting for something to change for a while, remember you are in control of your life. There is no need to wait longer than you are comfortable. Look at everything objectively and openly, and decide how you want to proceed. Your life is precious and valuable and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Trust yourself and choose the road ahead that will take you to the destinations you most desire. Everything is possible if you’re willing to do what is needed to make it yours. Be confident. There is great happiness and success waiting and you will reach it.

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Not Never

8 Nov

The world is a big place and there are endless opportunities to do things and unlimited places to go. We are in control of our lives and can design them any way we like and set any goals moving forward. We can make any decisions we desire but not everything will be easy to achieve. As we move along we may encounter serious problems, complications and delays as we try to push ahead. If we don’t have all the information we need to succeed, we may end up going in the wrong direction and fail to reach the goal. Failure is difficult to accept and can make us feel like we can’t do anything right. But failure is a great teacher if we take the time to see everything clearly and learn all we can from what went wrong. We may not reach the destination today, but that doesn’t mean we’ll never get there. Success is always possible and failure is just an indication that it hasn’t happened yet. Just because we didn’t make it to the goal this time, doesn’t mean the journey is over. There are countless roads to take, and if the one we’ve been on doesn’t take us where we want to go, we can step onto another. The only time failure is terminal is if we quit. It may be hard to start again, but quitting will certainly never take us anywhere. Of course, if we want to, we can give in and surrender to defeat, stay in our own lane and keep doing what we’re doing. But we have great potential and if we want to move forward, we will find the way to do it. We are smarter and more capable than we think we are, and when we’re ready there isn’t anything we can’t do. By trusting ourselves, and keeping our eyes focused ahead, we will reach every goal. The whole world is there for us and every dream is possible. We can be sure and confident that no matter what happens, we’ll reach success.

Routines are comfortable and powerful. When we do the same things over and over, we pretty much know what to expect. If we try something new and it doesn’t work out, we aren’t doomed to stay in place. There is great value and benefit to experiencing new things and opening new doors, and there will always be endless chances to try again. We can explore whatever we want, and each new experience will enrich us and enhance our understanding of ourselves and the world around us.

Change is constant and if we want something more than where we are, just turning a little to the left or right may open broad new horizons. We don’t have to completely upend our lives to bring more interest and value. Success isn’t defined by doing the extreme like climbing Mt. Everest or traveling the world. Success is ours when we open new doors around us and try new things. We don’t know what we’re capable of until we try. We have so much to offer, and every success is possible. Nothing is out of reach and we really can have the lives we dream of.

Today if your plans didn’t work out and you didn’t reach the goal, it’s not the end of your journey. If you still want to reach the destination, look at everything objectively and decide on a new plan. Learn all you can from where you’ve been and take that knowledge forward to help you succeed. You are the most amazing person in your life. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Be confident, trust yourself, and start again. Everything is there for you and you will win.

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