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The Spots

14 Jun

There are all kinds of people in the world and we run into different types of personalities and behaviors every day. We like to be around people who share our viewpoints and interpretations but sometimes we may be attracted to someone who is very different. When we connect with them we may be interested in their differences at first but as time goes by we may want them to change to be more like us or in some way we think would be better for them. If we really want someone to change we may believe that with enough influence from us, they will. A leopard has spots that have evolved over time that make it unique and distinguishable. They don’t look like any other animal, nor do they try to imitate anything but what they are. We aren’t leopards but like their spots, we are unique and distinguishable by our behaviors and choices. Our personalities develop with each day that passes and every decision we make. We ultimately become the people we create. We can change anything we like at any time but it’s highly unlikely anyone else will be successful in making us change anything we haven’t chosen for ourselves. We are all responsible for our own lives. No matter how much we may want someone else to change, no matter how good our intentions are or positive the desired change may be, we can’t alter their spots. They belong solely to them and they are the only ones with the power to change them.

It’s easy to keep doing things the same way and changing course or expression takes work but we can alter our course any way we desire. We are all continually in motion and if we want to change something in our lives or behaviors, we have all the power we need to accomplish the task. The catch is we must be motivated enough to do whatever is needed and required to bring about the adjustment. It may not be easy and what we’re trying to do may take serious time and focus to accomplish. But if we’re determined there isn’t anything we can’t do. We can change our spots and direction, and more effectively find success.

Change must always come from within. If we love someone and want them to shift something in their lives we may suggest it to them. If they are reticent, we may cajole them, pester them, or continually nag them thinking that repeated reminders will make them desire the change. We can talk until we’re blue in the face and run out of air but we cannot make them choose our decisions. Our lives belong solely to each of us and every choice is ours to make. No matter what anyone else thinks, we will be the people we choose to be. It is enough to manage our own choices. We can let go and let others determine their own paths and accept their right to live their lives according to their own desires.

Today if you’ve been trying to change someone else thinking you can help them live more fully or happily, let go and focus on your own choices. We are all unique and valuable in our own way and deserve to express ourselves as individuals. You are wise and capable and can create the life you want the most. Focus on your own path and choose the best way forward. Find your own success and great happiness will follow.

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Again and Again

19 Apr

There is much to learn as we go through our lives. There are unlimited possibilities for understanding and growth and if we choose to, we can master many different things along the way. Learning to do anything well doesn’t generally just happen. It takes dedicated effort and repetition to really understand anything deeply. If we want to play an instrument, it will take hours of practice. If we want to climb a mountain, it will take determined physical training. Things of little worth may simply appear but nothing of value comes easily. We must be determined to work and learn again and again if we want to find mastery and become proficient. We may not see the incremental advances we’re making as we push forward and it’s not easy to stay the course when it seems we’re working hard but going nowhere. But even if we can’t see it, every effort we make moves us closer to the goal. We can do anything we want to do – anything – if we are committed to doing what it takes to accomplish it. We are never too settled or too old to try something new. There are endless chances to open every door. Our world can be as big and broad as we desire and we can step away from what is customary and reach beyond our current grasp. Being open to new horizons and ideas will deepen our understanding of life and broaden our vision. The world offers us everything it possesses. We need only decide what we want, and then move forward to claim it.

There are few times when we do something perfectly the first time we try. It could happen, but generally it takes practice and repetition to find perfection. We don’t know what we don’t know. It’s easy to look at something on the outside and think we know how it works but once we’re involved we see things differently and complex details appear. The more we delve deeper into the situation, the more we learn and if we are persistent, will achieve mastery over it. We are capable of understanding anything we desire and nothing is beyond our reach.

Each experience we have teaches us something. We learn what doesn’t work by enduring failures along the way. Each failure opens new ideas for going forward and if we continue we will find the way through. Every road has passage. We can find our way by continually pushing ahead, practicing what works, and doing what is necessary to find success. We are stronger and more capable than we realize and nothing is too hard for us to overcome.

Today if you want to accomplish something that will require extensive time and effort, make a plan to move forward. Take the first step and learn as you go. There is nothing too far for you to reach or too difficult to achieve. You are powerful and strong. Every dream is possible and can become a reality. Nothing is out of reach and you will gain great satisfaction as you deepen your knowledge and become successful. You can do anything. Start moving forward and all your dreams will come true.

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Reverse Engines

6 Apr

When we’re moving forward through our lives we may be in situations that push us one direction or another blocking our way ahead, or there may be unexpected surprises that alter our course going forward.  If we are determined to reach the goal we can take all the complications and issues in stride and find a way around them.  But sometimes we may find we’re headed toward something we don’t want.  Maybe our personal circumstances have changed since we started out, or maybe the destination isn’t exactly what we thought it was at the beginning.  Whatever the reason if we determine the path we’re on isn’t right for us we can stop, reverse engines, and turn around toward something else.  If we’re traveling forward with others who still want the goal ahead we may face push back if we decide to step away.  Many people like things to stay the same and don’t want change to interfere with their plans.  If they have authority over us or we esteem them in some way, we may continue forward to keep the peace but our personal desires are important and will constantly niggle at us.  Doing things we don’t want will never make us happy.  Our personal desires are important and by choosing the roads that take us where we really want to go we will find peace and contentment.  Time spent in pursuits we don’t care about is precious time wasted.  We can choose what’s best for us and re-route our direction at any time.  Every choice we make takes us somewhere.  It’s up to us to ensure the choices we’re making today will take us where we want to be tomorrow.  If we’re on the wrong road, we can step off.  If we’re going in the wrong direction, we can turn around.  We are in control of our decisions and our happiness depends on making them well.  Everything is possible and we can go anywhere we want to go.

If we’re timid and unsure we might allow someone else to tell us where we should go and what we should do.  Those around us may have good suggestions but the only person with true inspiration and insight into our lives is us.  We know ourselves better than anyone else.  We can listen to the advice of others and then choose what we want most.  Every road is possible and nothing is out of reach.  We are strong enough and wise enough to make excellent decisions and accomplish anything we choose.

Nobody is perfect and there will be times when we make a choice that doesn’t work out.  If we choose a path that doesn’t bring us success, we can choose again.  There are many roads to every destination.  We can choose and, if need be, choose again until we reach the goal.  The possibilities are endless.  We know what we want and we can find our way to any destination we truly desire. Life is a great blessing.  We can live each day fully and do everything possible to make all our dreams come true.

Today if the road you’ve been traveling isn’t going where you really want to go, step off and redirect your course.  You know what you want.  Be fearless and choose the path that will take you to it.  Every option is available.  You are strong and powerful, and nothing is too far to reach.  Move forward toward success.  There is nothing you can’t do.

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Stepping Out

27 Mar

There are billions of people on earth and unless we live on a deserted island or on top of a remote mountain, some of them will be right next to us. It’s great to have company as we go through our lives but we’re all individuals and sometimes we bump into each other as we move along. Conflict is a normal part of life and we all experience it from time to time. When it erupts and escalates, even if we aren’t the key players, we may find ourselves swept up in the melee. When ideas clash and tempers rise, we may be caught up in the struggle and carried along simply because we are there. We can remain in the fight and try to help resolve the conflict, or we can step out and allow those involved to find the answers without us. We all want to be there for those we care about but it’s important to understand where the lines of responsibility lie. We can be supportive and still stay out of the fight. We all have enough personal battles of our own and we can step out of those that belong to others. It doesn’t mean we don’t care. It’s simply a way to respect the right of others to disagree and work out their problem themselves. Learning to resolve conflict and find answers in the midst of struggle are valuable tools to carry forward. We can be supportive and kind, and still allow those around us to find answers on their own. We are all responsible for our own lives. We can stand on our own, face our personal struggles, and find the way forward. There isn’t any problem too complex for us to understand and even in difficulty and duress, we can find the way ahead.

Everyone deals with conflict their own way. Some people can step back from their feelings and easily see things objectively and openly. It’s easier to find answers when our emotions aren’t involved, but sometimes if our feelings have been hurt or we are being influenced by others around us, looking at the situation impartially may be more difficult. It’s hard to find the right road ahead when we’re looking in another direction. We can take our time and evaluate what we really want moving forward. The best answers will always be there for us. When we’re ready we will find them.

We all want to make the best decisions going forward but life is complicated and there are often many factors to be considered. When there are many options going in different directions it can be hard to find the right answer. Weighing all the possibilities and seeing where each will take us will clarify our choices and help us choose the best road ahead. There isn’t any puzzle too complex for us figure out. We have all the wisdom and insight we need to resolve any issue and continue toward success.

Today if you’re involved in a struggle that belongs to others, step out and allow them to resolve the conflict together. You need not adopt any issue that isn’t yours. Be supportive and kind and let those involved find the answers they need. You are wise and helpful and can be an example of strength and understanding. Show us your confidence and courage, and continue to move forward toward success.

 

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Waiting for Luck

15 Feb

There are a lot of things to accomplish in our lives. We have responsibilities to tend to, jobs to work, chores to get done, and endless details that need our attention. Sometimes we get so caught up in our ‘to do’ lists and carried away with all the particulars of our every day lives, we set our dreams and personal goals aside. They sit dormant in the backs of our minds waiting for us to engage them. In the meantime, we spend our time getting other things done and wait for the moment when we can open the door back to them and begin to make them come true. Life has a way of taking over and if we don’t control how we spend our time, our time will control us. Waiting for the perfect moment to arrive when everything is settled and we can finally do what we’ve been putting off is like waiting for luck. It’s probably not going to show up anytime soon. Life can be complicated and waiting for the perfect time to finally do what we want most is futile and unrealistic. If we want to find real success we must take control of our decisions and move forward. There will be complications and interference, and dozens of things that need to be done, but we can, in the midst of any situation, make time for what we really want to do. How we spend our time reflects what we value most. There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish if we’re willing to do what is needed to make it happen. As soon as we decide they are important, we can begin to make our dreams come true. Our lives belong to us and we can design them any way we choose. Choosing well will help us find success and happiness.

When there is something we really want to accomplish, no matter how busy we are, we find a way to get it done. But if we aren’t really committed to a task, we may put it off until we ‘find’ time to do it. Time is constant. It doesn’t wait, it doesn’t bend, and it can’t be found. Waiting to find time to do anything is the same as saying it’s not a priority. Only we can decide what is important to us. Being honest with ourselves about our choices will help us move forward in ways that will take us where we want to go, and bring us satisfaction.

Sometimes we may hesitate before beginning toward a goal. We may not be confident we can reach it, or face criticism because it’s different than what others think we should do, or we may be unsure of the way forward. Hesitation is a pause we can use to consider all our options before we begin. We can move forward in ways that work uniquely for us, and with determination and focus, reach any destination. There is nothing we can’t accomplish and no road is too long to travel. We have everything we need to go anywhere we choose. Everything is there for us. We need only begin.

Today if you’ve been waiting for everything to fall into place so you can start reaching your goals, begin now. Take the first step forward and plan your life around what you really want to accomplish. Be in control of the road ahead and all your dreams will come true. You can do anything. Be confident. Every goal is within reach, and you will get there.

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