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Changing Them

12 Apr

We meet all kinds of people as we go through our lives. With some we build strong relationships and connections, others are co-workers and acquaintances, and there are some we just wave to in passing. There may be a time when we meet someone and are instantly captivated by them. Maybe it’s the way they look, or there is undeniable chemistry between us. Infatuation can be intense and if we’re under the spell, we may lose all sense of restraint and normalcy. There may be an extreme desire to abandon all caution and do anything to get closer. But first impressions can never tell us everything, and as we interact and spend time together, issues may arise that under normal circumstances may send us packing. If we’re entranced, we may think they don’t matter, we can do what is needed to change the other person so it won’t be an issue. We may believe that by spending more time with them, even marrying them, they will change and the problems will go away. Thinking we can change anyone else for any reason is a recipe for disaster. We’re all entitled to live our lives any way we choose, and the odds that we’ll be able to alter someone’s personality in ways that work better for us are slim to none. We are who we are, and although change is always possible, it must come from inside us and the desire to change must be great. No relationship is perfect, but if we’re willing to accept others for who they are instead of trying to change them, we have the best chance of success. We all have a lot to offer, but our gifts are different and varied. Looking at everything objectively and realistically will help us decide how best to proceed. We deserve complete happiness, and by being open and seeing things clearly, we will achieve it.

Love means different things to different people. To some it means we will do everything for them and change our lives to fit their model. They may tell us that if we love them, we’ll do as they ask. We’ll change the way we look, or how we act, or what we like, or a million other details. Loving someone doesn’t mean we give up who we are. We are unique and valuable and have individual gifts to offer nobody else can give. We never have to acquiesce to ideas we don’t want or that take us from who we really are. If the relationship requires more than we want to give, we can step away and move in a new direction.

Rushing into a relationship rarely leads to long term satisfaction. Getting to know someone takes time. Learning how we relate to one another and what works takes focus and effort. Running fast into the wind will definitely take us somewhere, but if we can’t clearly see where we’re headed, we probably won’t end up where we wanted to go. We can have rich, fulfilling relationships if we take things one step at a time. Our lives are important, and we deserve every good gift. Being thoughtful and wise, we will find great success.

Today if you’ve been captivated by someone and can’t get them out of your mind, stand still and think about how you want to proceed. Take the time you need to really know them, and then choose your next steps forward. You are amazing and have so much to offer. Everything you desire is possible, and with wisdom and patience, they will be yours.

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Cards We Get

16 Mar

Life is unpredictable and nobody knows what will happen today or tomorrow or next week or ever. We may be humming along and everything is going fine when suddenly something changes and we have an entirely new set of problems and issues we have to face. We only have control over our own decisions, and there are things happening all around us all the time we don’t know about and have no control over. We get what we get. It’s like playing cards. We may know the rules of the game and even be very good at playing it, but we have no control over the cards we get. We might luck out and get four aces, or we might get a jumble of cards that have nothing to do with one another that take us nowhere. There’s no way to know anything before we get them and how we manage the situation determines what happens next. If everything is useless, we can fold, and walk away from the game. Or we can play along and try to move ahead despite our misfortune. If we’re facing a turbulent, difficult, trying issue and we feel overwhelmed, we can always just sit down and refuse to do anything, hoping we can just wait it out until it goes away. That might work but if we don’t find the answers to our problems they will never stay away forever. Unresolved issues always return until we take them apart and fix them. Hiding from conflict just delays the inevitable. No matter what’s happening or how confusing and convoluted the problem, we have what we need to find our way forward. The answers are always there for us and with patience and determination we will find them. Success is always possible, and nothing is powerful enough to hold us down. We are strong and wise, and will find the way forward.

Nobody gets a charmed life where all the streets are paved in gold and every day is sunny and bright. Life is filled with challenges and trials, and every time we unravel and solve one, we gain more information and new skills to take forward with us. If we’ve been struggling with one thing after another, we may tire and feel we can’t succeed. We can always step back, stand still and take the time we need to rest and look again at all the options possible. There will never be a tangle we can’t unravel or a problem we cannot solve. We are intelligent and capable, and we will prevail.

If we’re on a road trip and there are many obstacles and detours on the road ahead, we can look at a map and find another way around. There will never be only one road forward or one answer to any complication or problem. Other possibilities will be available and we can always re-route the way forward and change direction. Every destination is there for us and with determination, focus and clarity, we will find the best way forward and reach success. We can do anything we desire and every dream is possible.

Today if you’re facing a complicated and difficult issue and don’t know how to proceed, look at everything objectively. Nothing can hold you in place indefinitely. Trust yourself. There is a way forward and you will find it. You are more powerful and stronger than you imagine, and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Stand strong and step forward. Every success is waiting and you will claim them all.

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Things That Matter

28 Feb

Life is complicated and unpredictable. We never know what will happen next and it’s impossible to see how any situation will eventually end up. We’ll face endless challenges and sometimes just when it looks like everything is settling down, something else pops up that tangles and confuses. The superficial stuff that doesn’t matter is generally easy to manage, but what is important and has the potential for a big impact on our lives can be intense and complex. Things that matter are often hard to navigate, and may take all our attention and energy to manage. Big health decisions, sudden changes in our financial status, family complications, and a host of other difficult and consuming issues may arise. When serious concerns come, everything else may fall by the wayside as we try to figure out what to do and how to proceed. It may feel as though time has stopped, everything is frozen in place, and we may be overwhelmed with the decisions we need to make. Finding the best way forward may take serious thought and consideration, and we may doubt our ability to get through. When everything is upside down, and the road ahead is unknown and unclear, it’s hard to feel confident and sure. At first, we may think there is no way we’ll survive, but we are stronger than we imagine, and as the moments tick by and our understanding increases, we will find our footing. Difficult, horrible, disastrous things may happen. We might lose everything we hold dear, but as long as we’re still breathing, success is possible. Hard times come to everyone, and our worst dreams may appear, but we are stronger than we imagine, and have all the wisdom and insight necessary to find every answer we need. We will never face a time so terrible that there is no way through. By standing firm and trusting ourselves, and reaching deep for the courage within, we will prevail. Even in darkness and despair, our dreams are still there for us. Nothing can hold us in place indefinitely, and with patience and determination, we will succeed.

There is no way to know the whole story of what is happening unless it’s happening to us. We may see someone struggling with what appears to be a simple situation with an easy answer, but there may be hidden complications we cannot see. We’re all different and some people prefer to keep their personal issues to themselves. We may offer our assistance if they reach out to us for help, but if the issue is private, they may prefer to keep it to themselves. We’re all more connected than we imagine, and by being supportive and caring, we can be an anchor during times of intense duress.

When our lives take a difficult turn, the skies overhead are dark and it’s hard to see the way forward, we may be concerned and unsettled. It’s hard to know what to do when everything is unsure and foreign, but we have already been through hard and complicated issues, and found our way through. There will always be a way forward and all the answers we need are already there for us. By taking our time, and trusting our instincts, we will find the way ahead and reach the destinations we desire. There will never be anything too awful or confusing for us to figure out. We are strong and wise, and will prevail.

Today if something has turned your world upside down and you feel lost and unsure, trust yourself. You are wiser and more powerful than you think you are. Stand strong and look at all the options possible. Every answer is there and you will find your way forward. All your dreams are still possible and nothing can keep you from success. Trust yourself and step forward. The road ahead is waiting, and you will win.

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Knee Deep

25 Feb

Life is filled with opportunities, but few of them come without challenges attached. When we want to accomplish something, generally there will be something pushing us back or standing in the way that we’ll have to circumvent. If there are a lot of problems and complications, it can feel like we’re walking knee deep in mud and making little progress. It’s hard to keep pushing forward when it seems everything is working against us, but no matter how complex the situation becomes, despite all the hiccups and tangles, there will be a way ahead. If we keep our eyes focused on the goal, and hold fast to our determination, we can find the answers we need to continue on. But there are limits to everything, including our energy and patience. If we’ve been pressing forward for a long time and have made only small advancements, we may feel like it’s hopeless, and there is no way to win. We can change anything at any time, and if we’ve had enough and no longer want the goal we can stop and let it go. However, timing is everything and if we really want to get there, we can set everything aside for a time, work on something else, and revisit it once things change. Life is full of changes and the road that was blocked and unclear earlier may be wide open in the future. Setting something down for a time isn’t giving up. We can go back and check in and if the situation has improved, we can begin again. There will be few times when what we want will come easily. We are intelligent and can decide how to manage what happens next. Every destination is possible, and we already have everything we need to reach success.

Everyone has their own opinions and ideas. Those around us may see us struggling to succeed and offer their personal suggestions. They may have insight we haven’t considered, and may be very helpful. Or they might think what we’re doing is too hard and we’ll never succeed, and advise us to give up and move on. If we aren’t convinced we can prevail, their negative comments may be enough for us to walk away and forget about the goal. We’re in control of our lives and can do anything we like at any time, but we are the only ones who will give us what we want the most. There is no genie or fairy godmother waiting in the wings to provide our dreams for us. If we really want to succeed, we have what is needed to continue on and reach the prize.

Mediocrity is easy to achieve. We can sit back and just let life take us where it will. We can follow along, keep our heads down, and wait to see what happens. If we don’t control where we’re going, we’ll end up somewhere but it may not be where we want to go. Our dreams are possible and they are waiting for us. When we’re ready, we can decide what we want to do and then step forward, clear and sure of success. We are stronger, wiser and more powerful than we think we are, and absolutely nothing is out of reach.

Today if you’ve been trying hard to reach a goal, but the way forward is difficult and problematic, decide how you want to proceed. If nothing is working, step away for a while until the situation changes. The road will eventually open and you will find the way forward. You are amazing and smart, and already possess everything you need to win. It’s all there for you. Be confident and trust yourself. Every success is possible and they will be yours.

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Still Waters

14 Feb

Everyone wants an easy life where everything always goes well and there is no stress or complication. It would be great if all our stories had happy endings, and nothing terrible, painful or disastrous ever happened. That works in storybooks, but isn’t generally the case in real life. Some roads are paved and clear, and when we sail along without trials or problems, life is great. There are sunny skies overhead and we feel good. But change is constant and nothing can stay the same forever. Trouble comes to us all. Lovers leave, jobs disappoint, others hurt us, we’re short on money and patience, and there are dark clouds looming. Everyone’s experience is different, and even when we know someone well, we may have no idea what they’re going through inside. Our personal sorrows are private and we may not wish to share them. Instead of putting everything out in the open and letting everyone see what’s wrong, we may slap a smile on our faces, and pretend all is well. We might push ourselves through the heartache and keep going. There is no way to know what anyone else is really going through unless they tell us, and private pain is just that – private. Still waters look lovely, and the sun glistening on the surface can never expose what is happening underwater. There may be piranhas, sharks, poisonous plants or a number of other terrible possibilities. If we only see the surface, we only have part of the story. People are the same way. They may look fine on the outside, and be suffering a terrible pain on the inside. Life isn’t always easy and we’re all going to suffer at some point. By being patient and listening, even when things look fine, we can be supportive and helpful to those around us.

Some people guard their emotions. They don’t share their troubles with others, and when things go wrong, they may prefer to face them alone. We may learn of their difficulties through someone else, and want to help while still honoring their privacy. By extending ourselves we can do something for them without prying into their personal lives. Just being there and offering our friendship can soothe a difficult situation and make the road ahead a little easier.

Sometimes people are short, impatient or rude with those around them. Maybe they’re just impolite, or maybe there is something more going on. Painful situations can cause a lot of stress and if someone near us is acting out in difficult ways, before we lash out we can step back and look at everything objectively. There may be more to the story than we can see. Being supportive and kind, even in difficult situations, may go a long way toward healing a broken heart or painful experience. We’re all in this together, and by showing we care, and helping those around us, we can bring great light into the world.

Today, remember that things are not always as they seem. Be kind and supportive to those around you, and willing to help when needed. Your light can lift others and brings comfort and cheer to those in need. The whole world is blessed because you are here. There is greatness in you, and you bring goodness to us all.

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