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Defining the Deal

12 Jul

Every single person on earth is different. There are all kinds of personalities and temperaments, endless expressions and ideas, and no two people are exactly alike. What one loves, another despises, what brings pleasure to one, brings frustration to another. We may believe our interpretations are right but actually they are only right for us. When we’re growing up in our first family, the patterns and traditions we learn seem to be the only way to live. But as we grow and are exposed to the world we learn that everyone has their own ideas about how life works and what they do. When we must face an extreme difficulty and are having trouble finding our way it may be a big deal for us to process. We may struggle to find our footing and reach out to those around us for advice and help. Someone may look at our situation and feel it’s ridiculous and our worries are unfounded. Perhaps what we’re going through seems insignificant, and it might be if it happened to them. But it’s not happening to them, it’s happening to us and everybody’s life experience is different. What’s meaningless to one may be crucial to another. We are the only ones who know how important any issue is to us. We are the ones who define the deal and decide if it’s important and far reaching or something less we can manage and move on. It doesn’t matter if everyone around us sees things differently, we can define any issue in ways that make sense to us and find our way through.

When we’re struggling it doesn’t help to have someone diminish our feelings. Telling us we shouldn’t feel one way or another is futile and ineffective. Our feelings often come unbidden and may be intense and painful. While we may not always be able to control how we feel we can control what we do. We can listen to whatever advice we deem helpful, learn as much as possible about the situation and then decide how to move forward. We have all the intelligence and wisdom we need to figure out any issue and find the answers we need.

When we’re facing a big decision or our situation is fraught with complications and it’s hard to see the way ahead, doubts may creep in and we may find it hard to move forward. When there are a lot of things going wrong we may get jumbled up in the noise and confusion and struggle to figure out what to do. We never have to solve everything all at once. We need only look at where we want to begin. Every problem has a solution and even if it’s a big deal and very complex we can solve it. We are smart enough and strong enough to do anything.

Today if you’re facing a big challenge and feel daunted and unsure, decide on the first step you want to take. You don’t have to find all the answers today. Simply determine how to begin and take the first step forward. The solutions are there and with patience and diligence you will find them all. You are amazing and nothing is too difficult for you. Be confident. You know what you want and you will prevail.

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Passing Chances

29 Jun

There are endless opportunities available to us as we go through our lives.  When we choose a path we want to pursue and work to push forward we often find success.  There isn’t anything we can’t do but we only have control over our own choices.  Other people may do things that hold us up, situations may develop that prevent us from moving forward, and an endless array of complications may arise that keep us from our goal.  There is always a chance of success no matter what we’re seeking but our lives are complex and sometimes things get in the way.  The door we must walk through to succeed may be blocked or crowded or locked in a way we can’t overcome.  There may be times when the chance to move forward passes us by and we must wait until the opportunity arrives again.  If everything we wanted to accomplish was completely in our control nothing would be impossible.  But in the real world control is mostly an illusion and except for the choices we make ourselves, all bets are off.  It’s disappointing to want something badly and be prevented from achieving it because of factors beyond our reach.  Our desire may be sufficient and our willingness to do what is needed may be intense but if we aren’t the only ones playing the game we may have to sit this round out and wait until things change.  Change is the only constant we can rely on.  Life continually evolves and whatever was in our way in the past will eventually move aside and we’ll be able to reach the goals we desire.  We have everything we need to accomplish anything.  Being willing to wait when we must and start again when the time is right will ensure our success.

Our decisions are ours alone and we can choose anything we desire at any time.  We don’t need the agreement of others as we design our lives but if they work against us, despite our strong desire to succeed, we may have to modify our direction for a time.  There is no reason to indefinitely push against strong winds of dissent.  We don’t have to change our focus but if we can’t move ahead we can step aside and wait until the situation improves.  Sometimes the difference between success and failure is only timing.  We can look at each situation objectively and determine the best way forward.

Some situations only come around once in our lives.  They are rare but when they happen if we can’t embrace them when they are possible we may have to leave them behind.  There is no one right way to live life.  If we miss the chance to move forward on one road there will always be another to travel.  We can be flexible and accept change as it happens.  If we must redirect our course, we can find the best way forward.  Learning to bend and modify our plans when necessary will help us continue on the roads we most want to travel and ensure we’ll reach success.

Today if you’ve missed the chance to do something you wanted because of situations beyond your control, look ahead and choose the next road that will move you forward.  You are creative and wise and nothing is beyond your understanding.  Success is still possible and with time and patience you’ll reach it.

 

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Crucible

22 Jun

Each of us faces many challenges as we go through our lives.  We learn to overcome difficulty with practice and gain strength by pushing hard against trials that test and define us.  We may experience a severe complication that makes us question our ability to overcome and knocks us completely down.  We may lose everything we thought was real and have to face a brand new reality – one we may never have planned on and don’t want.  When everything blows up and we’re standing bereft and shaken it may seem impossible that anything will ever be right again.  The crucible is upon us and we must face it alone.  We will each face a moment when everything changes and our lives hang in the balance.  What we do from that moment forward will define the life we have.  If we allow the situation to utterly crush us and give up, surrendering to the pain and refusing to get up again, our lives will in essence stop at the moment of impact.  Nothing will change and we’ll be stuck in sorrow and pain forever.  But if we are determined to continue ahead we can pull from deep inside and garner all the strength and wisdom we possess.  Trouble will come and at some point we may be overwhelmed.  We can give up and lie down or we can stand strong against the wind and push forward despite the struggle.  Our lives are always in our control.  Even against terrific odds and intense distress, success is possible.  We always have everything we need to keep going no matter what has happened.  We can trust in ourselves to correct our course and find the way forward.

Sometimes the very thing we think we could never endure happens to us and suddenly we are faced with our worst nightmare.  There is never any way to turn back the clock to prevent a disaster or prepare for its arrival.  We have to take things as they come and when bad things happen it may be extremely difficult to keep going.  We may be stunned and shocked, unable to move or even think as we try to figure out what to do.  There is no way to control most of what happens in our lives but we have what we need to get through whatever comes and find our way again.  We are strong and possess everything necessary to solve any situation and continue forward.

We may face something so encompassing it changes our circumstances from that point forward.  What was possible before is no longer an option and we must recreate the road ahead.  When everything around us changes and nothing is familiar we may lose our confidence not sure of what’s happening or where to go.  If we step back and look at everything objectively and see the entire situation openly we will find the answers we need to begin again.  Starting over brings new blessings and lessons that help us in the journey ahead.  We can do anything.  We are powerful and capable and nothing, nothing can hold us down.

Today if you’re facing a serious trial and have no idea what to do, remember all the times you’ve faced trouble before and prevailed.  You are mighty and powerful and nothing is too strong for you to overcome.  Be courageous and confident.  You have everything you need to find your way.  Success is there for you and you will reach it.

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Not All That

20 Jun

Everyone has their own opinions about everything in life.  We like some things, we don’t like other things, and everything we do is colored by how we feel about it.  We’re all different and even if we think our opinions are the right ones there will be others who believe the same about an opposing viewpoint.  There is no one right way to live.  We are all entitled to our own interpretations and beliefs.  We can live any way we choose but we are only in charge of our own lives and don’t have the authority to tell the rest of the human race how to live.  While our viewpoint may be perfect for us, it doesn’t necessarily follow that it will be perfect for everyone else.  And the same is true for each of us.  Opinions are unique to each individual and we don’t have to agree with everything others do.  We can respect their right to choose their own path and if it’s in direct opposition with ours, simply step out of the way.  Trying to control others or convince them our way is best may make us feel better but it won’t change the fact that we all get to make our own decisions.  The differences in life are what make it precious and exciting.  We can honor those differences and let others be who they want to be without demanding they be like us.  Variety brings interest and excitement and we can accept everyone for who they are and respect their right to choose.  There are endless possibilities around us and seeing the benefit of every unique blessing will bring us happiness and satisfaction as we move forward.

We may be very nice, friendly people but no matter what we do not everyone is going to like us.  Someone may tell us they don’t think much of us and we’re not all that.  It stings to know that others don’t like us but opinions belong only to those who possess them.  We need not internalize other people’s ideas or think we’re less because someone doesn’t understand us or doesn’t appreciate what we bring.  We can be confident in choosing well, and move forward knowing who we are and what we want.  We don’t need the approval of others to find success.  We are capable of finding it on our own and reaching any goal we desire.

Differences may bring conflict and when we’re trying to accomplish something and it goes against the views of those around us we may be pressed to conform to their ideas and let go of the path we’ve chosen.  We can always change course and if we want to join the group and follow along we certainly may.  But our choices are important and we can do anything we want to do.  If we must swim upstream, we are strong enough to get there.  We can choose the way forward even if nobody else agrees and we can find our own way.  Every dream is possible and nothing is beyond our reach.  We can forge our personal path and find success.

Today if others don’t agree with you and you’re left standing alone on the road you’ve chosen, be confident and continue ahead.  You know who you are and what you want.  You don’t need agreement to find success.  Move forward toward the goals you desire and trust your instincts.  You have everything you need to succeed and every destination is possible.

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Maybe

12 Jun

We make millions of decisions as we go through our lives. Every day there are many things that require us to choose one thing or another. Many of the routine choices we make are inconsequential and it may not matter which way we go, but some things can be very important and weigh a lot depending on how we choose. It may not matter what shirt we wear or how we get to our destinations, but it may matter a lot whether or not we choose to go in the first place. Our lives will always be a reflection of the decisions we make. If we choose well and take roads that lead us to success we will find happiness and satisfaction. If we choose poorly or continually go around in circles of indecision instead of picking a path forward we may find confusion and disharmony. We are always in control of ourselves and every decision we make brings a result. If we don’t pay attention, or don’t care, or if we’re heavily influenced by situations or those around us, we may not make the best decisions we could. If they bring us unpleasant consequences we may be miserable in the end. Indecision can never move us forward. Saying “maybe we will,” or “maybe we won’t” is the same as doing nothing. If we want to move forward we must be proactive and confident and decide which way we’ll go. We can be thoughtful each time we choose and confidently determine the journey ahead. We have everything we need to find success and there isn’t anything too complicated for us to figure out.

When we have important decisions to make we can take the time we need to ensure we’re headed in the direction we most want to go. There’s no rush to decide but refusing to choose because we aren’t sure isn’t the same as taking time to evaluate the possibilities. Procrastinating a decision will not make it easier and continuing to go over the same facts will never change a situation. We can get all the information we need, see everything clearly, weigh all the options, and then determine what our next steps will be. We are capable of making excellent decisions and we can trust ourselves to choose wisely and move toward success.

Everybody makes mistakes and sometimes we may make a bad decision that impacts our lives negatively. We don’t know what we don’t know and there may be times when things are very different than we thought they were. We own every decision we make and blaming others or the situation when things go wrong will not improve what’s happening. If we’ve erred and are now suffering we can objectively look at all the options before us and redirect our path forward. It’s like missing an exit on the highway. We can loop back around and get it right the next time. There isn’t anything we can’t do and do well. By choosing carefully and doing what is needed to move forward we will reach any destination we desire.

Today if you’ve got a big decision looming and are unsure about how to proceed, take a look at all the possibilities. Weigh the options carefully and determine the best road forward. You are wise and capable, and every destination is possible. Be confident. You have everything you need to find success.

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