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The Destination

2 May

Nothing in life is stagnant and no matter where we are now, we are always on our way to somewhere else.  Sometimes it’s a physical change of location but often it’s a change in our thinking or situation.  The journey as we travel teaches us many things and we may embrace them as they come.  Sometimes we hear people say it’s not the destination that counts, but the journey.  In some ways that’s true.  The journey along the way is what molds us and helps us become the people we want to be.  But the destination is important.  It does us no good to travel around for years on end and never reach a goal.  If we want to be successful we must keep the destination we are seeking forefront in our focus and purposefully move toward it.  Traveling through our lives with no goal in mind will only take us from place to place.  If we don’t choose the destinations we desire, life will provide them for us and where we end up may not be where we want to go.  It’s like taking a trip to the grocery store with no idea of what we want to buy.  There are endless choices and we can simply go through the aisles throwing things in the cart.  Without thinking we may get some things we can use but chances are we’ll end up with various items we don’t want that will be wasted.  We can define where we want to go and then move forward toward the goal.  The journey will teach us many things and will enrich our lives and when we reach the chosen destination we will find happiness.  We can live our lives any way we want to.  When we live them on purpose headed in the direction we most want to travel we will find great satisfaction at the end of the journey.  By defining our destination and focusing on moving toward it we will find great success and have the lives we want the most.

Many people may have opinions about what we should be doing or where we should be headed.  There are countless interpretations about life and everyone has their own ideas.  What works for one will not necessarily work for someone else.  We can listen to all the advice we get and evaluate every suggestion that comes but nobody knows us better than we know ourselves.  We have all the wisdom we need to decide what we want to do and choose the road ahead that takes us exactly where we want to go.

If we aren’t sure about what we want to accomplish we may simply move through our lives on auto-pilot.  Auto-pilot is easy and requires no thought.  Of course, if we don’t determine where we’re headed we may go nowhere or end up in a place that doesn’t work for us.  We know what we want and with careful thought and determination we can achieve it, whatever it is.  We can have the lives we dream about.  We need only be willing to do what is needed to get there.

Today if you’ve been coasting through your days letting things unroll on their own and haven’t reached any destination you desire, take control.  You have all the power you need to create the life you want.  Every blessing is there for you and nothing is out of reach.  Choose the road forward and move toward your goals.  All your dreams are waiting to come true.  Be purposeful, reach them and make them a reality.

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Impenetrable

18 Apr

We have a lot of relationships in our lives.  There are people we trust implicitly, those we love, and others we merely tolerate.  How our relationships grow and progress depends on a lot of factors and we are in control of how close we let anyone get.  There are times in everyone’s life when things go wrong and if we suffer through a terrible relationship that hurts us or diminishes us if may be difficult to find our way.  We never have to stay in any situation that makes us uncomfortable or hurts us.  We can step away from any toxic situation and take a different road forward.  If we’ve had a bad experience and have been deeply wounded it may be hard to think about being open to someone new.  We may construct a high and strong emotional wall that prevents us from connecting closely to anyone in an effort to protect ourselves.  Walls are effective in keeping out unwanted exposure but they also keep us from feeling our deepest joy and satisfaction.  If we become sealed away and impenetrable to those around us we may feel safer but we will miss deep connections and associations that may bring us incredible happiness.  It’s hard to consider letting someone get close if we’ve been devastated in the past.  It takes courage to risk getting hurt again hoping for the possibility of complete happiness.  We will always carry all our experiences forward but they need not cripple our ability to connect.  If one person breaks our heart, it doesn’t mean everyone will. We can learn from what we’ve already been through and use the knowledge we’ve gained to trust ourselves and move forward with confidence.  Nobody knows what the future will bring but we are always in control of our decisions.  We know ourselves and can be wise and careful, and still be open to something new.  There are endless possibilities around us.  We can always open new doors and find success.

There are continual new experiences around us that may be unpredictable and unknown.  Although there is no way to ensure our decisions will always bring us happiness, we can trust in our ability to make them wisely.  If something goes wrong, we will adjust.  Nothing is going to break us completely.  We learn as we go and are intelligent enough to find our way.  We are completely capable of finding happiness.

After a car accident we may be hesitant to climb back into the driver’s seat, but once we do and have a successful trip, our confidence will rise and in time we’ll feel comfortable again.  There isn’t anything powerful enough to destroy our confidence forever.  We are resilient and wise and will always find our way forward.

Today if you’ve been hurt and have built a wall to keep others away in an effort to protect yourself, remember how strong you are.  There isn’t anything sufficient enough to destroy you.  You can be open to new experiences and trust yourself to find happiness.  Every possibility is there for you.  You are wise and strong and have everything you need to succeed.  Be courageous.  You’re amazing.

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Leaning In

26 Mar

We go through a lot of experiences every day as we navigate through our lives.  Some things bring us joy, some make us angry, some are boring and others may be intense or pass with little notice.  Our emotions and how we respond to them are part of what make us human and help others relate to us.  Some people are good at hiding their emotions and prefer not to let others see how they really feel.  Others wear their hearts on their sleeves and we can see everything they’re feeling most of the time.  Being open with our feelings helps us express ourselves and makes it easier for others to understand us.  But if our feelings are negative, or angry and intense, allowing them to color our interactions may make our lives more difficult and complicated.  It’s fine to share personal expressions but we must remember they may affect the message we are trying to portray.  When we are upset and angry and scream at those around us to make a point, the only thing we may accomplish is to push them away.  Trying to understand someone who is hysterical or acting irrationally out of anger is almost impossible.  We can express even intense disappointment in a better way.  If we want to make sure others grasp how important something is, it’s more effective to lower our voices than to raise them.  If we blast those around us with powerful loud voices, they will often step back.  But when our voice is quieter, people will lean in closer to hear what we have to say.  Being heard is important and even if we’re intensely upset we can control our emotions to allow that to happen.

The only way for a baby to express pain, hunger or unhappiness is to scream and cry.  But as we mature, if we want to be happy, we must learn self-control.  As adults, it will never work in our favor to stamp our feet and scream because we are unhappy.  There are no good answers to be found in bad behavior.  We can be in control of our emotions, even when they are intense, and express ourselves in ways that bring people closer and open the doors to the way forward.

Life will surely bring us happy times and difficult, sometimes complicated and extreme problems.  We don’t have to pretend to be happy when things are going wrong but we can control how we respond to every situation in order to bring the best results.  Jumping to hysteria and pushing the panic button every time something goes awry will never take us where we really want to go.  It’s exhausting and keeps us from thinking about our next step.  We have everything we need to understand any situation that comes to us.  If we take time to think instead of react we will find all the answers we need to find our way through.  We are strong and capable, and can live well and effectively.

Today if you’re furious over something and want to lash out at those around you, quiet your thoughts and allow yourself time to think.  You can control your emotions in ways that will bring you happiness and success.  Step back and then step forward.  There isn’t anything you can’t manage and succeed.  You are strong and amazing, and nothing is too difficult for you to overcome.

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Focused

21 Mar

“I’m disinclined to acquiesce to your request.  Means no.”  Captain Barbossa, Pirates of the Caribbean

There are a lot of ways to spend our time.  We can try to plan our days around the things we want most to accomplish but we aren’t alone and others may ask us to participate and complete assignments they need help with.  It’s good to be helpful and involved but sometimes outside requests may become burdensome and take more time away from us than we are comfortable with.  There is no limit to the time others may ask us for and it’s up to us to control the situation so we are available but still able to do the things we want to do most.  When we’ve given all we can and another request is upon us, it’s appropriate to say no.  We may disappoint those asking and they may not be happy, but we are in control of our lives and must choose what is best.  We cannot move forward if we spend all our time accomplishing someone else’s goals.  We can share our time effectively and still stay true to the course we’ve set for ourselves.  There are endless opportunities available every single day and if we take advantage of every one of them we may accomplish many things but they may not take us where we want to go.  It’s possible to spend our lives doing lots of interesting things that lead us nowhere.  Some things are interesting, but other things are important.  We can do many different tasks and still keep our eyes and efforts focused on the important goals we want to achieve.  Our lives are ours to design and we are in control of every decision we make.  Staying true and focusing on the road ahead will bring us success and satisfaction.

Guilt is a powerful tool that may be used when something is intensely desired, but guilt is a self-inflicted emotion.  Nobody can really make us feel it.  We may be coerced into believing it, but the decision to let it control us is ours.  No matter how convincing the other party may be for why we must do as they ask, the choice is always ours to make.  We can do our part and still stay on our course going forward.

They say our greatest sorrow comes from giving up what we want most for what we want at the moment.  When we give away time that robs us from accomplishing what we want most in order to do what others ask, we may feel great sorrow for the time we’ve lost.  We know what we want and what we need to do.  We can be in control of our time and decisions, and choose the best road going forward.  There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish if we keep our eyes focused on the road ahead.

Today if you’ve been asked to give your time for something that will take you away from the goals you’ve set, examine the situation carefully.  You know where you are and what you need to do.  Help others and be involved, but stay true to the course you’ve set and keep your eyes on the road ahead.  All your dreams are possible and with careful planning will come true.

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Never Land

16 Mar

There may be times in our lives when we’re not exactly sure where we’re headed.  We often have many responsibilities and commitments and sometimes they may seem to take over and control us.  When we’re busy and only looking at the next thing we need to accomplish, it may be hard to step back and think about where we want to go and what we really want to do.  If we don’t take control of our lives, we may find all our busy-ness is controlling us.  We may feel we’re living in never land, undefined and undirected.  All our dreams are still with us but if we’ve set them aside in an effort to get something else done, we won’t see them.  They will sit dormant and waiting until we look back, and make time for them.  Our lives belong only to us.  We are in charge of everything we do and every decision we make is our responsibility.  We can’t blame others or situations if time passes and we haven’t done what we really wanted to accomplish.  Life is busy and there will always be things we need to do, but the most important person in our lives is ourselves.  If we don’t take care of our personal wants and needs, nothing else will work.  No matter who is counting on us or what project is pressing, we can fit our personal desires and goals into our time.  Each day brings new promise and the chance to do anything we desire.  If we focus on what is needed to make our dreams a reality, we will feel more joy and contentment moving forward.  We deserve the best of everything life has to offer.  Choosing to make ourselves a priority will help us achieve it.

When we interact with others they may have expectations about what we will do and how we’ll spend our time.  There are a lot of different ideas about how we should live our lives and we can listen to all of them, but in the end we must do what is best for us.  Our choices are ours to make and we can choose any path we desire.  Each moment brings new opportunities.  We don’t have to confine ourselves or restrict our choices to anyone else’s model.  The road ahead is for us to determine and what is right for us is what will bring happiness.

If everyone we associate with does things a certain way and it’s not comfortable for us, we can move forward our own way.  There may be pushback when we choose a different path, but we are certainly capable of managing differences of opinions and are in full control of our decisions.  Human creativity knows no limits and life is a great blessing.  We can do things our way and find the best roads moving forward.  Living our lives the way that works best for us will bring us great joy and satisfaction.

Today if you feel like you’re in never land and don’t know where you’re headed, stop and think about what you really want in your life.  Everything is possible.  Choose the road that will bring you the blessings you seek and make your dreams come true.  Your life is yours and you can live it any way you choose.  Happiness is always available and by being your true self you will find it.  Open all the doors in front of you and choose the path you desire.  Every dream can come true and you will find success.

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