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The Neutral Zone

6 Jul

There will be few times in our lives when we’ll get where we want to go serendipitously or by accident. Generally, if we want something to happen we’ll have to work for it. Pushing forward toward any goal is the best way to ensure we get there but there may be times when we have to wait. There may be others standing in our way we cannot move. There may be situations that take our attention away from the road forward or unforeseen complications that must be resolved before we can proceed. Waiting is like idling in neutral. The engine is still running but until the gears change we can’t proceed. If we must wait a long time we may give up on the goal and decide to take another path. We can always change our direction at any time but if the goal is something we truly want we can be patient and remain in place until things change. We don’t have to give up on any goal we value. It may feel we have no control as we wait but even when standing still we are in command of our lives. Life changes constantly and in time our situation will modify and we’ll be able to proceed forward again. While we wait we can be prepared and ready for that eventuality and spring into action as soon as we are able. The opportunity to move forward will always come again.

Life is all about choices. We can do anything we want and go anywhere we want to go. We don’t need the agreement of others and we may define our lives in our own personal ways. If we lack confidence or are unsure we may stand still and let others decide what we will do. If we don’t control our lives, others will control them for us and the destinations they choose may not be the ones we want. We are the only ones with personal inspiration regarding what is best for us. Even those who know us very well will never know us completely. We have everything we need to go where we really want to go. Shifting out of neutral and determining to define things according to our personal desires will help us achieve the lives we want the most.

The neutral zone is an easy place to live. We don’t have to make decisions, we don’t have think about the future and we don’t have to work hard to continue forward. When a car is in neutral very little fuel is needed to keep it running. It doesn’t take much energy to stand still. When we let life determine our path forward we give up the opportunity to design our lives and achieve what we truly desire. We deserve every happiness. Every dream can come true if we purposely move forward toward it and do what is needed to find success. We can go anywhere and do anything but first we have to gear up and begin.

Today if you’ve been waiting for something to happen to change your life, take control and start to move. Begin the journey you’ve been dreaming about. There isn’t anything you can’t do. You are more powerful than you imagine and you can accomplish anything you desire. Step forward. Your destination is just ahead and nothing will keep you from success.

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Directions

30 Jun

There are endless roads we can travel as we go through our lives.  We can make any decisions we like and choose any way forward.  Sometimes it doesn’t matter which road we choose and other times the choice is critical to where we want to end up.  When we’re facing a lot of options it may be difficult to clarify exactly which way is best and we may seek directions from others.  We may certainly ask for advice at any time and listen to any suggestions we receive.  It’s great to get directions when we need them but we must always remember that in the end, the choice is ours and ours alone.  If we choose a path that was recommended and it takes us somewhere we did not want to go we may be disappointed and have to start again.  If we take someone else’s advice and it turns out badly we may feel they are responsible and blame them for our results.  However, if our choices don’t work out we are the only ones responsible.  Advice is just a suggestion.  If we take it and things go wrong we own not only the decision we made but the results from that decision.  If we end up in the wrong place we can start again and choose another way forward.  We don’t have to stay anywhere we don’t want to be.  We can begin again and turn our course until we reach the destination we desire.  We have unlimited chances to choose and we can find the right road forward.  We have enough confidence and wisdom to make excellent decisions and reach any destination we desire.

Personal inspiration is available to all of us all the time.  We can listen to it, trust ourselves and rely on our ability to choose wisely.  Nobody knows what we want better than we do and even if we get a lot of suggestions about how to achieve it, we can listen to our own inspiration and base our decisions on what we feel is best.  There are unlimited roads we can take, endless turns we can make and countless destinations to reach.  We can define what we want and how we want to achieve it.  We know who we are and have everything we need to design a journey that fits perfectly.

Some people are very strong and determined and may feel they know what we need.  They may tell us which way to go, what to do and how to move forward and we may listen to any suggestion they make.  If they are wise and knowledgeable, their directions may be valuable but we must choose for ourselves.  If we allow others to decide where we’ll go and how we’ll get there we may lose the confidence we need to make good decisions.  We may also end up going places we don’t want to go.  Good advice is a valuable tool we can use when we need it.  There will always be plenty of opinions about how we should live our lives but if we want to find true happiness we must make sure the decisions we make reflect what we want most.  Everything is available to us and we can reach any destination we choose.

Today if you know where you want to go but are confused by directions from others, trust yourself and choose what’s best for you.  You have all the wisdom and inspiration you need to find your way forward.  Be confident and move ahead.  Every destination you desire is there for you.

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Seeking Diligently

26 Jun

As we travel through our lives we may come upon many complicated situations, problems, confusions or obstacles we must navigate and solve.  There is an answer to every question we encounter but sometimes those answers may elude us.  Although we know we can solve any problem we face, finding the solution may take serious work and thought and we may find ourselves stumped from time to time.  When looking for answers, often how quickly we find them depends on how seriously we seek them.  If the issue isn’t too bothersome we may half-heartedly look for the solution or we may even ignore the problem hoping it’ll just fade away.  When the problem is serious or impacts our lives greatly we may be more motivated to look for the answer.  It’s unlikely we’ll find any answer we aren’t looking for and if we really want to find it, seeking diligently will help us get there as quickly as possible.  To be diligent means to be steady and energetic.  Solutions we need won’t just appear out of nowhere.  We must make the search for them a priority, and seek them earnestly and seriously in order to find them.  Complications come to all of us and the only way to live in harmony is to find the answers we need so we may navigate them effectively and with as little stress as possible.  Seeking diligently will allow us to find the solutions we need as quickly as possible to solve any problem we are facing.  We have everything we need to live our lives well.  We can resolve issues and find peace and comfort going forward.

There may be times when things go wrong we feel the problem is too intense or too complicated for us to face.  When that happens we may purposely look away and refuse to see what is really happening.  But looking away will never change the facts and until we decide to see things as they really are we will be stuck.  Nobody want’s trouble in their lives but when trouble comes to us, looking away and ignoring it will never help us get through it.  We can see everything clearly and begin the process of openly and diligently searching for answers until we find what we need to move forward.

Sometimes a quick fix or a temporary patch feels like an option to help us resolve a difficult situation.  They may work for a time but because they are not permanent the problem will return and we’ll have to solve it again.  Instead of facing the issue over and over again it’s better to take the time we need to really examine it and find a permanent solution.  Being able to move forward without dragging along complications from the past will enable us to live more fully and successfully.  We have everything we need to live happily.  Seeking diligently and then applying the answers we find will enable us to move forward with confidence and clarity.

Today if you’re facing a difficult situation that is complicated and daunting, look at it clearly.  You have everything you need to solve any problem you face.  Seek diligently and the answers will come.  Move forward with confidence.  There isn’t anything you can’t do and do well.  Success is there for you.

 

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Boundary Line

25 May

We’re all entitled to live our lives any way we choose. We can do anything we like, go where we want to go and become the people we want to be but our decisions may sometimes be in conflict with what others think we should be doing. We all have opinions about what we think should happen and our personal decisions are specific to each of us. It’s inappropriate and sometimes destructive to direct other peoples’ personal lives and correct them if they choose a path we wouldn’t have chosen. It can be hard to keep our opinions to ourselves if we love the other person involved. We may certainly offer our advice if it’s wanted and we can express our concerns but we cannot direct anyone’s life but our own. Others may make choices that are completely different than what we think they should do but nobody knows all the facts in someone else’s life. We can only see what is happening on the outside and understand what they are willing to share with us. We all have the right to confidently choose any path we desire despite how differently others may want us to live. Making our own decisions about our lives allows us to share our unique gifts with others. If we follow a path designed by someone else our lives will reflect their vision and not our own. We can choose our own way and live the life that’s best for us.

Learning to respect boundary lines is important. When we drive a car, we must stay in our own lane, and when we play a game, we must follow the rules. Boundaries bring order and help us understand where we are. Although we can’t see them, each of us have personal boundary lines regarding our choices and the lives we live. We have the freedom to choose anything we desire. If someone steps over the line and tries to direct us, correct us, guide us, or push into lives we haven’t chosen, we need not comply. We can choose what’s best for us even if it doesn’t match what someone else thinks we should do.

Personal boundaries are important. They help us protect our privacy and allow us the freedom to decide how we want to live our lives. Some people believe they have the answers for others. They may offer advice or even criticism if we don’t comply with their ideas. A desire to control others will never bring happiness and often brings conflict. It’s important to understand where our true authority lies and respect the ability of others to make their own decisions, even if we disagree.

Today if someone is trying to direct you to turn onto a road you haven’t chosen, be confident. You are the only one who knows everything about your life and what you want. You are driving the train and can take it anywhere you choose. Listen to good advice and then do what is best for you. You can make excellent decisions and be confident in your choices. You have everything you need to find success and you know where you want to go. Be true to yourself and choose the best road forward.

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Learning to Wait

23 May

When we want something, or seek an answer to a problem we often want it right away. It’s hard to wait for something we really want and if we need the answer to go forward it’s even harder. Learning to wait doesn’t always come easily. If we’re waiting for something to happen the resolution we seek will never be far from our minds. We’ll be on the lookout for the answers and have our eyes always focused on the goal. It’s hard to wait when we want something badly and it’s hard to be patient when we want a change to occur. We live in a world of immediate gratification and we may expect immediate action when there is something we desire. But life doesn’t always work that way. Sometimes we must wait. Learning to wait takes patience and the irony is we learn to be patient by having to wait. The two go hand in hand. In time as we learn to be patient we will find the wait easier to manage. Most things we want don’t come instantaneously. We can trust the answers to come and patiently wait for our situation to resolve. Learning to wait helps us navigate our lives more comfortably and effectively. It’s not always easy but we have everything we need to accomplish it.

If we’re in a group with others and we’re sure of an answer and confident we know the way forward but some aren’t convinced, we may have to wait until they come on board. If we are positive the answers are there and still we must wait it may be difficult to remain calm. Everyone reaches their personal conclusions in their own timeframes. We can explain our point of view, show the benefits of any options and express why we feel the way forward is the direction we’ve chosen. That may be enough to bring others on board, but sometimes the vision may not be convincing and we may have to continue to wait. There is often no urgency in our decisions and if we must wait we can take a step back. We can be patient until others join us.

Life is filled with distractions and sometimes they get in the way of what we want to do. Things get more complicated the more other people get involved. Everyone has their own opinions and reaching a consensus that allows us to move forward may take time. We can patiently express our views but we must also allow others the same benefit. Even if we’re sure we have the answers, everyone’s opinion is important. We can be respectful and offer whatever time is needed. Sometimes the best answers come after everyone expresses their viewpoints and we see a bigger picture to make the best decision going forward.

Today if you feel you know what needs to be done and you must wait, be patient. Allow others to join you and share the load going forward. You will accomplish your goal and get to the destination. There is no rush. When the time is right you will begin, and find success. There isn’t anything you can’t accomplish. Be patient. Everything will come.

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