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Around and Around

14 Nov

As we set goals and decide how we want to move forward, it’s wise to objectively look at what must be accomplished in order to succeed. There may be many things we need to do to move us ahead. Perhaps we must go somewhere new, or meet with others who will give us necessary information, or we may need to change something within ourselves in order to progress. Doing external things may take time but they are generally easier than changing something in our personal behaviors and choices. Change is rarely easy and often takes serious thought and commitment to achieve. If we aren’t sure we can do what is needed, we may decide to simply work with what we have instead. That might be enough for a time but if we really must change something in order to succeed it will only delay our progress. We can go around and around the issue indefinitely but if the only way forward requires change, until we do what is needed to make that happen, we may stand still. Even if we’re clear on where we want to go, if we haven’t done what is required to reach the destination we may find ourselves running in place. There isn’t any goal we can’t reach and we can do anything we desire. We have all the wisdom and courage needed to ensure our success. The world is open to us and we can do what is required to move forward and overcome any obstacle in our path.

It’s good to be creative. We can look at situations in different ways and use alternative methods to solve problems. Often there are many ways to resolve issues and we can discover and create new solutions in each case. However, if there is only one way to move forward and it requires a change within ourselves we may need to consider our options. We can look at what is required and then decide if the goal is worth the effort. Personal change takes time and concentration. If the destination is important to us we can do whatever is needed to reach it. Nothing will stop us if we are determined to succeed.

We can never fool ourselves into success. Pretending will never get us to the goal. If we don’t want to do what we must to succeed, we can make excuses for the lack of progress and try to explain why things haven’t worked out. But all the excuses in the world will never be enough to compensate for failure to move forward. If we don’t want the goal we can let it go, but if it’s valuable to us we must do what is needed to achieve it. We can do anything we desire and success is always there for us. We can take charge of any situation, accomplish what must be done, and find success. Once we decide we will win nothing will stop us.

Today if you’ve been going around and around trying to make things work without doing what is needed to move forward, decide what you really want. You have all the wisdom and determination you need to do anything. Choose the way forward and do what is needed to succeed. Everything is available to you and nothing is out of reach. Be confident. The world is yours to conquer and you will win.

Set the Hook

8 Nov

We have all kinds of dreams and desires we want to accomplish.  We may spend time planning for them and pondering our steps forward.  When there is something we really want it may constantly encompass our thoughts.  Our desire and determination to achieve the goal may be strong and we may work diligently to move forward.  But sometimes things happen that stop us on our journey.  For instance, someone offers us a big slice of chocolate cake when we’re trying to lose weight.  Or there is a sale with incredible prices for things we desire when we’re trying to save money.  No matter what we want to accomplish there will always be something to distract us and take us from our focus.  If we go fishing and a big fish swallows our hook we may be excited about bringing it in and enjoying a feast.  Landing a big fish often involves some wrestling and a tug of war.  If we fail to set the hook, when we struggle to bring it in the fish may simply spit out the hook and all our effort will be for nothing.  Setting the hook ensures it is secure and unmovable.  The same thing is true for our plans and desires.  We must establish them so completely in our minds they are unmovable.  If our focus is solid and anchored, nothing will deter us.  We can do anything and go anywhere but we must desire the goal enough to set the hook and stand firm.  We have all the strength and wisdom to accomplish anything we desire.  We can choose our way forward and keep true on the path until we reach our destination.

When we share our goals and dreams with others it’s great when they support us and cheer us on, but we might have times when others work against us.  If we’re trying to do something they don’t like they may say and do things to discourage us.  If they doubt our ability to succeed they may suggest reasons to quit or tell us we’ll never win.  Everyone is entitled to their opinions and they may differ from ours.  We can listen to their comments and if they don’t agree with our plans, we can let them go.  We don’t need permission to design our own lives.  We are in control of what we do and can choose anything we like.

No road is clear and paved from beginning to end.  We may face detours, turns that take us in the wrong direction, and muddy areas where we get confused and unsure about the way forward.  Fog may roll in that obscures our vision and makes it hard to find the next mile.  If we are determined and patient, and take the time we need to plan each step, we will succeed.  Every destination is there for us.  There isn’t anything too difficult or challenging, and we can accomplish every goal we desire.  We can keep our eyes focused on the road ahead and continue forward with confidence.  Step by step we’ll move closer to the prize and find success.

Today, think about the goals you want to achieve.  Make a plan and begin your journey forward.  It doesn’t matter how far away they are or how long it may take.  Set your hook and take the first step.  You can do anything.  All your dreams can come true.  Begin today.  The whole world is there for you and you may have it.

Out of Sight

3 Nov

Living in the moment and keeping our eyes open to everything we’re experiencing helps us get the most satisfaction out of our lives. When we’re consciously aware of everything around us and what we’re doing we can make the best decisions and choose the most effective ways forward. But sometimes we might look another way. If there is something difficult to manage or painful to look at, we may choose to ignore it and keep our eyes averted. It’s fine to concentrate on other things while we work out issues that are pressing but if we keep our eyes away from what needs our attention we may find the situation worsens and there are more complications because of our neglect. If we need time out to think and determine our way forward we can take it, but if our time out becomes an escape hatch we may create complications. Truth is truth. It exists whether we face it or not. It’s best to look at every situation openly, see what’s really happening and do what is needed to move forward to bring us what we really want. Out of sight might take things out of focus but they will still remain. We are in control of our choices and can choose to face every situation as it arises and make the best decisions going forward. We are designing our lives and can make them any way we like. Happiness is there for us when we do what we want most and move forward toward the destinations we truly desire.

Everyone has dreams about how they want their lives to go. It’s good to dream and plan but if we want anything to come to us we must take action. Dreaming about traveling the world is great, but doing what is needed to make that dream a reality will bring success. We can do anything we desire and there is nothing out of reach if we are willing to take the necessary steps to make it happen. The longest journey always begins with the first step. We can take that step and continue forward until we reach the goal.

Our lives are busy and sometimes we must set goals aside while we manage other important responsibilities. Nobody can do everything at once and it’s wise to manage our priorities in ways that allow us to get things accomplished. Setting goals aside may be necessary but we must return to them if we want to reach them. We can revisit them as soon as we are able, reach any goal we desire, and create the lives we dream about. Being aware and remembering what is most important, and then choosing to move forward on the path toward success will bring us satisfaction and happiness. We can do anything. Being mindful, carefully planning and remaining aware will help us make all our dreams come true.

Today if you’ve been ignoring something that is holding you back, turn around and look at everything openly. Decide what is needed to address the situation and move forward. You know what you need to be happy. Take the first step on the road that will take you there. You are amazing and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Be strong, be confident, and make all your dreams come true.

Truth or Dare

26 Oct

There are unlimited opinions in the world around us. Everyone has their own perspective of what is going on, what is real, and what is true. All interpretations have some truth in them and as we live we will naturally modify our ideas as we grow and experience different situations. We all have opinions but truth and opinion are not always the same things. What is real can be camouflaged by what is popular, what is important to us, or what is desired by others. If we believe something strongly and want others to follow us and only focus on converting them to our way of thinking, we may neglect to discover if what we’re doing is based in truth or not. If we dare to take the time to really uncover what is real, we will gain greater clarity and learn to listen more willingly. Nobody has all the answers. If we arrogantly go about telling others how things should be and how they should change we may miss the opportunity to genuinely and openly understand them as they are. It’s like missing the forest while we concentrate on looking at the trees. When we feel compelled and passionate about something and don’t take time to objectively evaluate our way forward, we may push ahead blindly missing important cues that tell us the whole story. A wide view of what is real will deepen our understanding of the way forward and help us correct our course if needed. Looking for all the facts, and seeking the complete truth will bring us confidence and success. We are capable of understanding great things and the more we know the better we can move forward.

Seeing only a small section of any picture will modify our understanding of what we’re looking at. If we see only the top of a mountain we cannot comprehend how high it is. The same is true when evaluating situations in our lives. If we hear only one side of the story we cannot know the entire thing. It takes time and willingness to listen to all points of view to fully understand. If we are emotionally involved it may be difficult to hear other ideas but if we step back and allow ourselves to see them openly we will more easily find resolution.

It’s impossible to change our point of view if we refuse to hear anything new. If we are absolutely sure we are right it may be very difficult to even consider anything else. But nobody can know everything all the time. Even if we are confident there is only one answer, if we allow others to share their suggestions and listen openly we may find that although our way forward will get us to the goal, there may be ways to improve. We are intelligent and capable of making excellent choices. Being open to new ideas will help us find the best road forward and build connections that will help us on the journey.

Today if you’re trying to convince others that you know the truth, be willing to listen when they give their points of view. Everyone has something to offer and the complete truth will rise when everyone has the opportunity to share. You know what you want. Everything is within reach and all the information is there. Be open, listen carefully, and build the connections you need to get to your goal.

Cold Wind

10 Oct

Life is filled with unexpected experiences. Sometimes there are surprises that suddenly and swiftly change our focus or direction. If the turn is beneficial we may be happy things changed but sometimes what comes isn’t what we want and we may stumble as we try to find our footing. If we experience something very upsetting we may be stunned and stopped in our tracks. We can only control what we do. The rest is like a game of chance. Maybe things will go the way we plan and maybe they won’t. When they don’t and the result is difficult we may struggle to push ahead. We may feel like a cold wind has consumed us and we are frozen in place. It can be hard to discern what to do next and we may need time to recover before we can chart our way forward. We may feel lost and unsure, as though our whole world has tilted away from us and we are alone and adrift, unable to recognize any landmarks to guide us. No matter what has happened or how devastating the change may be, we are still in control of our lives. No matter how much things shift we still know who we are and can be confident that we will succeed. Even if the challenge is extreme, even if we are in disbelief and must stand still for a moment, we have everything we need to start again. There is nothing we can’t overcome. No pain, no matter how intense, can last forever. The fog will lift, the winds will cease, and we will move forward. Trials can only test our strength. They can never stop us. We have everything we need to do anything we choose. We can change our direction and begin again.

If we have the air knocked out of us, we can bend over for a moment and wait for it to return. It will always return and we will recover. The same is true when we face very difficult unexpected developments. When things change suddenly we may need to stop, bend a little and wait. There is always plenty of air around us and we will find the way to breathe again and move forward

There are endless options available to us all the time. There is no one single way to live our lives. We have limitless choices we can make and infinite directions we can travel. No destination is ever too far or too difficult for us to reach. If we face an unexpected hill we cannot climb, we can reroute our course. If there is a sudden roadblock in our way, we can go around it. There isn’t anything we can’t comprehend and nothing is powerful enough to stop us. Difficulties may come, but we have everything we need to manage them. We are strong and powerful, and completely capable of finding success.

Today if something has happened that has suddenly changed everything, take a moment to see the situation clearly. There isn’t anything too difficult for you to understand and you will find your way forward. Your life belongs to you alone and you are in control. Decide what you want and then begin again. There isn’t anything out of reach. You are powerful and strong, and nothing will stop you. Be confident. You are amazing, and every success is waiting for you.