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What He Said

5 Jun

Everyone has their own ideas and opinions about the world and what we should be doing. We’re all unique, and there will always be differences and variations on a theme. We’ll rarely be in a situation where everyone agrees with everything that’s going on. Every viewpoint has value and we can choose our own way forward, while still honoring and respecting the ideas of those around us. If we’re unsure about how we feel about something, instead of waiting until we have all the information we need to form our own opinion, when asked, we may simply say, “What he said,” and go along with whatever those around us believe. We may agree without all the facts simply because it’s easier, and we don’t want to rock the boat. Going along to get along might make things go more smoothly at first, but may take us somewhere we don’t want to go. It’s our responsibility to design our own lives and make our own decisions. Leaning on someone else will never help us become the people we really want to be, or take us to the destinations we desire most. We can always coast along for as long as we like. We can let others decide what is right and do what they tell us to do. But being a puppet on someone else’s string will never bring us complete happiness or satisfaction. We are smart enough and strong enough to direct our own lives. We don’t have to remain in a tide rushing toward a shore we haven’t chosen. By deciding what we want most, and choosing the way forward to achieve our goals, we can have the lives we dream about. When we take control, nothing can keep us from success. Every single dream is there for us, and we can make them all ours.

It takes courage to stand up for what we believe in, especially if those around us have differing views. We own our own ideas and opinions, and they are valuable and worthwhile. We don’t need the approval of others, or permission to live our lives any way we choose. There are unlimited goals to reach and limitless places to go. By choosing what we want the most and standing firm in our decisions, we can accomplish anything. We can swim against the tide and live our lives according to our own values and desires. Nothing is out of reach, and we will prevail.

It can be hard to stand up to those who are forceful and loud about their preferences and ideas. They may press us to conform and follow along, and we may feel pressure to comply. But our lives belong to us alone, and we never have to do anything we don’t want to do. We can listen to other viewpoints, respectfully and calmly express our own opinions, and step onto our own roads moving ahead. All options are possible and every destination is there waiting for us. By trusting ourselves, and choosing our own path, we will reach every goal, and achieve complete happiness.

Today if those around you are telling you what to do and how to feel, remember your ideas and opinions are valuable. You can follow your own voice, and choose your own way forward. The whole world is there for you, and every dream is possible. Have faith in yourself. The destinations you want are waiting for you. You are amazing and will reach every success you desire. You can make all your dreams come true.

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Holding It In

28 May

Everyone is different and we all have our own opinions about how things should go and what we should do. There are endless ideas about everything that happens and those differences bring great depth to our experience and help us understand the world. But differences can also cause conflict, especially if someone believes they have the right answers and refuses to listen to any other option. If we must work with them and have a different idea for moving forward, we may struggle to express our viewpoint. Conflict is a normal part of life and can be challenging. If we remain silent, things may be easier, but keeping our ideas to ourselves prevents others from hearing another option. We are important and our contributions are valuable. We can be confident in speaking up and offering new ideas and different methods to accomplish any goal. We are capable and intelligent, and offer a unique perspective that can augment and enrich the way ahead. Every idea has worth, and being open and sharing our impressions and thoughts will bring refreshment and a new point of view that may unlock new doors. There is no way to know what suggestion will turn the tide and pave the way ahead. If we keep our thoughts to ourselves, they will never have the chance to bring us success. We are more powerful and wise than we think we are, and nothing can hold us in place. We can openly contribute to every situation and fearlessly explain our point of view. There is great success ahead, and by sharing our ideas and thoughts with those around us, we will reach every destination we desire.

Some people are very confident, outspoken and strong willed. They know what they want, and don’t hesitate to tell others their opinions, and push their way to the front of the line. If we aren’t as confident and are interacting with them, we may feel intimidated by their behavior. If we have a different opinion about how to proceed, instead of sharing, we may hold our ideas in and keep them to ourselves. Nobody can read our minds and it’s impossible for anyone to know where we stand unless we tell them. Nobody has all the answers. We all have something to offer. By trusting ourselves and speaking up, we can contribute to everyone’s success.

There is always a risk when we share our own ideas that those around us won’t agree, and we’ll be left standing alone with no support. That may happen, but it doesn’t mean our ideas are worthless. It only means they are different than what is needed right now. It’s impossible to know what the future holds, and a proposed course that doesn’t work right now may be perfect for something coming up. There is no down side to offering and hearing alternate opinions and new suggestions. They open us up to original concepts and different roads ahead.

Today if you’ve been unsure about sharing your own ideas, speak up and let others know where you stand. You are amazing and capable, and every idea has value. Be confident and trust yourself. Share your thoughts about how to proceed, and let others know where you stand. The whole world is there for you, and nothing can keep you from your goals. Every success is possible, and you will prevail.

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Not Real

13 May

Everyone has an idea of how they want their lives to go and what they want to do. There are endless opportunities and we can do anything we want. We know we’re in charge of our direction and what we accomplish, but life is complicated. We have commitments to jobs, to family, to associates and others, and although we’re in control of our lives, sometimes what we want to do takes a back seat to what we feel we must do. As we try to accomplish everything, we may ignore some unsettled issues from the past. Problems we haven’t solved and don’t want to face may pull on us, niggling us they are still there. We’re busy and it’s inconvenient to stop what we’re doing to take care of something from before. Instead, we might just push it behind us, shut the door on it, and hope it will disappear on its own, but that never happens. Truth is truth and will not be denied. Refusing to look at something and pretending it’s not real will never alter our reality. We carry every unresolved issue forward until we finally decide to turn around and face it. Dragging old problems behind us is exhausting and eats into our happiness. It doesn’t matter how difficult or painful the issue is, we have everything we need to see it openly and take care of it. There is always enough time to address any issue that’s holding us back, solve it, and move forward unencumbered. Our happiness is important and doing what is needed to ensure we make the most of it will help us achieve every goal we desire. When we’re ready we can move forward with confidence and clarity, and find great success.

It would be great if each day everything worked out and nobody got in our way. We could move ahead easily and without problems or delays. Unfortunately, life doesn’t usually work that way. Most of the time there will be things we don’t want to endure, issues we don’t want to face, and frustrations that hang us up. We can focus on all the problems and complications, but in the midst of each challenge there will be things going right. We can manage whatever is before us and focus on what we’re learning as we solve each issue. Our lives belong to us, and we can handle them with excellence and certainty.

Nobody wants to suffer but we don’t live in Nirvana, and suffering is part of the game. People may hurt us, our plans may fall apart, lovers may leave, and we may be left standing alone. If the pain is great, we might pretend the issue isn’t happening. We may convince ourselves if we don’t look at it, it isn’t real. Burying our heads in the sand will never help us move forward. What is real exists whether we want it or not. It’s best to accept whatever has happened, solve any issues we must, and take everything we’ve learned forward with us. We are intelligent and strong, and nothing can hold us down indefinitely. Every dream is there for us, and we will succeed.

Today if you’re ignoring a painful issue that’s holding you in place, open all the doors and find the answers you need to move forward. You are amazing, and a blessing to us all. Be confident. You can do anything. Nothing can stop you from realizing your dreams.  Every success is there for you and you will prevail.

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Static

9 Apr

There’s a lot going on all around us all the time. There are people going here and there, talking about endless subjects, continual decisions being made, and lots of activity. We live in a world with billions of others and each has their own viewpoints and objectives, and make an impact wherever they are. Like static on a radio, the background actions and noise are constant, humming along no matter where we are or what we’re doing. If we tune into everything that’s happening and try to hear every word, it’ll be impossible to keep our eyes focused on our own goals. We don’t have to know what everyone else is doing or thinking in order to get ahead, and living our lives as a reflection of others is unlikely to bring us happiness. We can reach out when we need to and still keep our eyes focused on our own lives. If we get distracted by what others are doing, we may lose our footing for a time. There will always be another story and another event to pull us away from where we’re headed. We can get involved in anything we like, but if we want satisfying and fulfilling lives, it’s important to remember what our own dreams and desires are, and work on accomplishing them. True happiness will be ours when we do the things that are most important to us and take us where we most want to go. There will always be noise and distractions, and situations will pull on us and take us off track. But we’re in complete control of our lives, and can redirect our focus to our own personal journey. Life is an incredible gift. Creating the lives we truly desire will bring us great contentment. We can do anything, and all our dreams are possible.

Some people think they have the answers for everyone around them. They may try to instruct us about how they think we should live our lives. We can certainly listen to any advice we receive, but we can make our own choices. Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. We know what we want and have everything we need to achieve any goal we desire. We don’t need anyone else’s agreement to do whatever we choose. Every option is possible and we have everything we need to reach any success we seek.

There are unlimited opinions for everything we can imagine. They may be interesting but they aren’t necessarily based on fact or even reality. They’re just ideas formed by personal experience and interpretation. Everyone is entitled to their own perceptions but we don’t have to share them. There will always be lots of different possibilities and roads to travel, and we can choose our own. We can make any decisions we want, and live our lives according to our own personal preferences and choices.

Today if you’re being pulled in different directions because of all the noise and activity around you, remember where you want to end up. You are in control of your life and can do anything you desire. Focus on what you want the most, and move forward toward the goal. You are intelligent and amazing, and nothing is out of reach. Every goal is possible, and you can have the life you want the most. Step forward with confidence. You can make all your dreams come true.

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Silver Linings

31 Mar

Everything is fluid in life, and nothing is certain. When we want to accomplish something, we can do our research, make excellent plans, and chart a positive course ahead, but we can’t read the future. Although we have complete control over the choices we make, there is no way to know about all the other decisions being made by those around us. Someone completely unconnected to us, maybe even far away, may do something that causes the dominoes to fall in our direction and when they reach us, suddenly all our plans have to change. The road we chose may close and all the ideas we so carefully put together may no longer work. It’s disappointing, sometimes heartbreaking, when what we want isn’t possible. We may feel depressed for a time, and unable to think about starting again, but nothing stays the same forever. We can take time to grieve if we need it and then when we’re ready, we can look at all the options before us and choose our next steps. Hard times come to all of us, but with every experience there will be something of value to carry forward. Weathering the storm will make us stronger, and we’ll have more knowledge than we had before. There will be a silver lining if we look for it. Life is all about learning and everything we go through teaches us something new. Whatever we gain, even if it seems small now, will embellish us in ways we may not perceive. We are strong and capable, and we know what we want. If we can’t move ahead as planned, we have all the wisdom and intelligence we need to find another way. If our situation isn’t workable, we can set our plans aside for a time, and when things change, return and start again. We have everything we need to do anything we desire. Every dream is possible and with determination and focus, we can have the lives we want the most.

Sometimes unexpected developments stop us in our tracks. The doors that were previously open and welcoming may close and force us to change direction. There is never only one road to any destination. If the goal is still possible, we can chart a new course and continue on. If circumstances prevent us from achieving it right now, we can move on to something else and wait until the opportunity to try again presents. We can do everything but we may not be able to do it all today. We can make plans for the future, and when things open again, we will be ready.

It’s very hard to stand still when we want to move. It’s challenging to wait but waiting gives us time to evaluate every possible option, and see every opening. We can look at everything clearly, review the benefits of each choice and make a plan for when things change. We are completely capable of finding our way to any goal we desire. If we have to wait, we can. We know what we want, and in time, we will achieve it.

Today if you’re frustrated with a situation that’s holding you in place, think about how you want to move ahead. Make a plan for the future, and prepare for when things change. The door may be closed now, but it will open, and when it does you will be ready. Everything you desire is still there for you. Be patient and stay focused. Every dream is possible, and nothing can keep you from success.

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