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Tag Archives: Conform

Courage

13 Nov

We hear all kinds of stories about courageous, brave people who do astounding things that impress us and make us marvel at their fearlessness and stamina. Some events are so noteworthy they become legend and part of our history. It’s inspiring and uplifting to see others express heroism and courage no matter what is before them. In our lives we may never have to face an army of marauders or take out a bank robber but we will likely face times when we’ll have to be brave against a situation before us. Fear is a natural response to threat and courage doesn’t mean we won’t be afraid but that we’ll act even in the face of our fear. Instead of being paralyzed and cowering in a corner we can step out and stand strong in the midst of a difficult and frightening situation. Our lives may be predictable and perhaps we don’t think we have many opportunities to practice being courageous but every time we hold our ground when there is pressure to bend, every time we speak up when someone is being hurt, and every time we extend ourselves to help others, we are being brave. Practicing courage even in small ways gives us the skill to stand strong when serious issues arise. If we fold every time someone disagrees with us, or cower every time we are unsure, we will never be able to express our true selves. We are capable and strong and even if the tide turns against us, can hold fast to what we want the most. We have all the courage and strength within us to do anything we desire. Trusting ourselves and believing we will prevail will move us forward.

We may experience great pressure to conform and go along with common ideas around us. It’s easier for a group to function if everyone does the same things and those around us may press us to follow their views even if we disagree. We can always go with the flow and keep our opinions to ourselves. It’s easier to let others lead and simply follow along than it is to question the road ahead, but remaining quiet will only guarantee that our influence will not be heard. We have a lot to offer and our ideas are valuable. We can be brave enough to speak up, even if we’re different, and share our true selves with those around us.

Life is continually moving forward and if we are timid and don’t express ourselves, we may find we are simply going through the motions instead of grabbing hold of our lives and making the most of our time. Each day we live is a blessing and once the time has passed can never be recaptured. Standing back and staying quiet will never take us to the goals we want the most. We can speak up, step forward and take control of our lives and design them any way we choose. It’s all there for us. We need only reach out and take it.

Today if you’ve been sitting quietly and allowing others to decide what you’ll do next, remember you are valuable and your choices are important. Think about what you want the most and step toward your goals. Everything is possible and you have all the courage and wisdom you need to find success. Be strong. All your dreams are there for you and you can make them come true.

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Opting Out

21 May

There are a lot of people continually coming in and out of our lives.  Every individual brings with them specific ideas that may influence us in diverse ways.  If they are powerful and we admire them, that influence may be strong and far reaching.  Simple comments said in passing may make us see our situation in new ways and we may decide to change.  In our close relationships, the views and opinions of those we love are powerful.  If they feel strongly about something we may go along with them even if we aren’t sure it’s what we should be doing.  We may get into a situation where someone we love asks us to do something that is important to them, but that we are uncomfortable doing.  Our values and personal ideals are important.  We can always go along with anything in order to get along but each decision we make reflects who we are.  If we do things that are not in keeping with the standards we’ve set, no matter what our reasons are, we cannot be authentic and true to ourselves.  People will not trust us if we continually change with each new opinion that comes along.  We never have to do anything that isn’t in keeping with the standards we’ve set for our lives.  If someone asks us to do something that compromises us, we may opt out.  We can be gracious and kind, and still choose what is best for us.  We know who we are and where we want to go.  We decide what is important and how we want to live our lives.  There are countless ideas about life, and we may choose what works for us.  Holding fast to our personal choices will give us confidence.   Our lives belong to us and through our excellent decisions we can become the people we most want to be.

It’s important to be flexible and adapt to different situations as they come along.  Being able to change does not mean we must abandon who we are.  We can move in a new direction and still hold fast to the ideals we value.  There will always be lots of choices that take us from the paths we want to travel but with determination and focus we can make the best decisions and move forward with confidence while keeping true to what we want most.

Times change and what was considered appropriate and valuable in the past may no longer apply.  We may be in situations when we’re pressured to do something that is acceptable to others but uncomfortable for us.  We set our own personal standards and the ideas of those around us may differ from what we want in our lives.  We never have to conform to anything that goes against the values we’ve set.  We can go our own way and make our own choices.  Life is a great blessing and when we live it in ways that embellish who we really are we find true happiness.

Today if you’re in a situation that compromises the standards you’ve set for yourself, you may opt out and go a different way.  You know who you are and what you want.  You can choose the roads that reflect your personal standards and express your individuality with grace and confidence.  Every choice is yours to make.  Choose the way that takes you to your best self and you will find true happiness.

Agreement

18 Dec

We have control over every decision we make. If we are careful and thoughtful, our decisions will take us where we expect to go. We may have times when we think about a decision that is outside our moral or ethical standards. Perhaps we believe stepping a little off the road will get us to a goal more quickly, or we may intensely desire something that can only be gained by going out of bounds. When we are pondering those decisions, we may reach out to someone else to explain why it’s important to do this. Getting agreement from others for bad decisions may give us more confidence and make us feel we have permission to stray, but agreement never changes the parameters of any situation. Even if everyone around us agrees with us, a bad decision is still a bad decision. The choice is ours to make, and we will suffer alone when all the balls fall, as they inevitably will. Truth always surfaces. If we’ve chosen badly and done things that have hurt others, broken a law, or in some way cheated, all the facts will come forward. And when they do, no matter how much company we had racing down the road to destruction, we will stand alone. If we are tempted to do something ignoble, we can take a moment and consider all the consequences that may come. Every decision brings a result. We have control to choose anything we desire but we have no control over the consequences. We can choose wisely even if being unwise is more attractive. We have all the strength and wisdom to make choices that will bring us happiness and peace, and have lives filled with glory and success. It’s all up to us. Our lives will be the reflection of every choice we make.

Pressure to conform may be very strong. If those around us are comfortable making decisions that are not completely honest or moral, and they are powerful and convincing, we may be influenced to join them. There may be pressure to follow along with questionable ideas or plans. If our connections to those involved are very strong we may feel we have no choice but to do as they suggest. But we always have the power to say no. We don’t have to agree with anything that isn’t right for us no matter who is involved. Our lives belong to us and we may protect them and guide them according to our own standards.

Agreeing to go along will not make a bad decision good. We don’t have to agree with anything that goes against our core beliefs and we may politely and graciously decline to participate. When we know we are doing what is best, we will be confident going forward. Our lives are ours to design and every choice is ours to make. We can choose our personal best and when we do, will find success and happiness.

Today if you’re considering something that will take you off the road that’s best for you, think again. There is no reward worth seeking that takes you away from the person you want to be. You have greatness inside you. Choose well and take the path that brings you complete success. You are a great blessing to us all. Show us your best and you’ll find joy and happiness.

Permanent Ink

19 Sep

As children, we learn many things. We watch and quickly understand how our behaviors bring different results. We learn what is acceptable and what is forbidden, what is ridiculed and what is praised, and we understand how to navigate all that information to get what we want. As we grow into adulthood we may carry many of the patterns we’ve learned with us and incorporate them into our lives. Some of them help us achieve the goals we desire, but some may hold us back. Childhood patterns can be powerful and even if we don’t know why something is done a certain way, we may continue it even if it no longer makes sense. There is the story of a woman who always cut up her Sunday pot roast and cooked it in two pots. When her daughter asked why she cooked it that way she said that’s the way her mother did it. The daughter then asked the grandmother and she laughed and said, “I never had a pot big enough for the whole thing!” Traditions often start out of need but over time, even when that need is no longer there, the tradition may remain. We may repeat a pattern in our lives that no longer works because it’s what we learned in the past. Keeping things the same is like using permanent ink to write our story. But life changes, and we change as we move forward. We can modify anything to find the best answers and make the best choices. There are few permanent rules that cannot be broken or changed. Our lives belong to us and we may design them any way we like. We can shake off what doesn’t work and forge a new path that is uniquely our own. When we choose the road that’s best for us and takes us where we want to go, we will find happiness and satisfaction going forward.

We may feel pressure to conform and stay within the bounds of customary patterns with those around us. Everyone has their own ideas about how life should look and what is acceptable. But we are all individuals and what is right for one may be uncomfortable for another. We can choose what is best for us even if it doesn’t fit into someone else’s model. The gifts we present to the world are unique and nobody else can give them. Our influence is important and we can share who we really are, honestly and completely.

There are many kinds of families in life. We have biological families, adopted families, work families and others. Every group has its own interpretations about how things should go. If we are comfortable with the patterns presented we may adopt them into our lives, but if we disagree we don’t have to go along. We can be who we really are and make choices that reflect our individual personalities and desires. We can find joy in being true to ourselves. There is no permanent ink to hold us in place. We can change and modify, and find happiness our own way.

Today if you’ve been following a pattern that’s holding you back, change your focus. You have a lot to offer and the world is eager to share your gifts. Be confident and go forward with courage. You are perfect just as you are and there isn’t anything you can’t do. You bring blessings to us all.

Too Far

24 Aug

When we’re trying to move forward we sometimes push ourselves beyond our comfort zones. We reach further than we have before in an effort to get ahead and stretch our capabilities. We are often capable of doing more and when we’re striving for success we test our limits to see how far we can go. It’s important to stretch if we want to achieve and we sometimes surprise ourselves at what we can accomplish with determination. But sometimes we push too far and when we do we may be hurt. We may over commit our time and then find we can’t keep our promises, or work too many hours and end up completely exhausted and unable to do anything. We should push to be the best we can but we must be mindful of where the lines are. There are limits to everything and recognizing those limits will help us find success. Learning to work around limitations enables us to achieve results more effectively and easily, and prevents us from going too far and potentially getting hurt.

Our physical limitations change over time. What we used to do easily years ago may be harder to accomplish as time goes by. Even if we are fit and healthy our abilities will change over time. It can be hard to accept the need to modify and sometimes we may ignore the signals and push ourselves beyond our limits. We may think that because we believe we can do it, we can do it. There is nothing wrong with high aspirations, but reasoning must be a part of the picture as well. If we truly cannot accomplish a task without injury, it’s foolish to try. When we go beyond what we can reasonably accomplish, we may get hurt. And getting hurt and having to take time out to heal and correct our course works against our progress. It’s best to understand and accept our real limitations and work around them. We can modify any plan for success and ensure it’s the best plan for us going forward.

We all have personal expressions for what works best for us. There are some situations we do well in and others that are more difficult for us. We can all grow and learn and change but every personality is different. For example, perhaps we work great in groups but working alone is difficult for us. If we accept positions or situations where we’re forced to work alone we won’t find the success that an atmosphere of team work would bring us. We can recognize our personal expressions and build our lives in ways that bring us the most success instead of trying to push ourselves to conform to a model that doesn’t fit. We can set our priorities to maximize what works best for us to reach our highest potential. We are unique and understanding where our personal limits are will give us great confidence and certainty, and bring us success.

Today if you’ve been pushing too hard and are feeling the pain use another strategy. You don’t have to get hurt to be successful. Find the plan that works best for you. You have everything you need to succeed and there isn’t anything you can’t do. What works best for you is the best plan going forward. Choose your unique path and you’ll find great success.