Tag Archives: Conform

What He Said

5 Jun

Everyone has their own ideas and opinions about the world and what we should be doing. We’re all unique, and there will always be differences and variations on a theme. We’ll rarely be in a situation where everyone agrees with everything that’s going on. Every viewpoint has value and we can choose our own way forward, while still honoring and respecting the ideas of those around us. If we’re unsure about how we feel about something, instead of waiting until we have all the information we need to form our own opinion, when asked, we may simply say, “What he said,” and go along with whatever those around us believe. We may agree without all the facts simply because it’s easier, and we don’t want to rock the boat. Going along to get along might make things go more smoothly at first, but may take us somewhere we don’t want to go. It’s our responsibility to design our own lives and make our own decisions. Leaning on someone else will never help us become the people we really want to be, or take us to the destinations we desire most. We can always coast along for as long as we like. We can let others decide what is right and do what they tell us to do. But being a puppet on someone else’s string will never bring us complete happiness or satisfaction. We are smart enough and strong enough to direct our own lives. We don’t have to remain in a tide rushing toward a shore we haven’t chosen. By deciding what we want most, and choosing the way forward to achieve our goals, we can have the lives we dream about. When we take control, nothing can keep us from success. Every single dream is there for us, and we can make them all ours.

It takes courage to stand up for what we believe in, especially if those around us have differing views. We own our own ideas and opinions, and they are valuable and worthwhile. We don’t need the approval of others, or permission to live our lives any way we choose. There are unlimited goals to reach and limitless places to go. By choosing what we want the most and standing firm in our decisions, we can accomplish anything. We can swim against the tide and live our lives according to our own values and desires. Nothing is out of reach, and we will prevail.

It can be hard to stand up to those who are forceful and loud about their preferences and ideas. They may press us to conform and follow along, and we may feel pressure to comply. But our lives belong to us alone, and we never have to do anything we don’t want to do. We can listen to other viewpoints, respectfully and calmly express our own opinions, and step onto our own roads moving ahead. All options are possible and every destination is there waiting for us. By trusting ourselves, and choosing our own path, we will reach every goal, and achieve complete happiness.

Today if those around you are telling you what to do and how to feel, remember your ideas and opinions are valuable. You can follow your own voice, and choose your own way forward. The whole world is there for you, and every dream is possible. Have faith in yourself. The destinations you want are waiting for you. You are amazing and will reach every success you desire. You can make all your dreams come true.

Under Fire

22 Jan

Every person in the world has their own perspective and ideas about how things should go. There is nobody exactly like us and with all these differences there’s bound to be conflict from time to time. If we feel strongly about something and others disagree, we may face a difficult situation filled with emotion and intensity. Sometimes the lines between right and wrong are obvious and everyone agrees on the limits. But most of the time, the options are flexible and will bend depending on what we want to accomplish and who we’re dealing with. If there are several others on one page and we’re on another, there may be a strong campaign to get us to change. We can always alter any views we like, but if we feel intensely about our position, we may hold fast to it and push ahead despite the opposition. When we’re on the outside of the prevailing viewpoint and want something different, we may find ourselves under fire. If we’re being criticized, ridiculed or denounced, it may be very hard to keep our composure and maintain our self-control. Of course, we always have the right to stand and defend our position and if we’re being unfairly treated can return equal fire. But screaming back and getting into an altercation will never help us settle the situation. We can keep our resolve, agree to disagree, and move forward on our own road. We have the right to live our lives any way we choose, even if it means going against everyone else. We don’t need agreement or permission to do things our way. If others disagree, they can deal with that. Our lives are ours to design and we can live them in ways that bring us complete satisfaction and happiness. Nothing is out of reach, and we can make our dreams reality.

Conformity is easy to manage. If everyone does the same things, we all know what to expect and there are few surprises. But conformity often requires us to go along with someone else’s ideas about life and when we sacrifice who we are and what we want, we can never reach our own goals. Our lives are important. We have unique and exclusive talents to bring and specific things we want to accomplish. We never have to trade what we want most to get along. We can live our lives individually and honestly, and reach any destination we desire.

We all want to get along with those around us and live a peaceful existence. If we’re under fire for a decision we’re making, we may be uncomfortable. We can always abandon our views and agree to do what everyone else wants, but if we give up on our dreams, we will never achieve them. We deserve complete happiness and by holding fast to what is important and choosing our own destinations, we will create the life we want the most. Every dream is possible and with determination and focus, we can make them ours.

Today if those around you are trying to convince you to go their way, but you have something else in mind, stay to true to what you want. Your life is important and you can choose your own way forward. Be confident and step forward with clarity. You are amazing and capable, and all your dreams are possible.

Lipstick

25 Nov

Life is unpredictable and things aren’t always what they seem. When we first think about something we want to do and explore our options, it may seem logical and easy to accomplish. But sometimes what looks good at the beginning changes as we move ahead, and what we thought was going to happen doesn’t. As we continue forward, we may discover the destination doesn’t look anything like what we bargained for. Even if we did everything we could before we started, we can’t know what isn’t available, and may face moments of sincere disappointment for the way things end up. We can try to make the best of things when our plans fall through, and everything goes south. We can put on a happy face, and pretend things are better than they. But if you put lipstick on a pig, it’s still a pig. Life is constantly changing and nothing is permanent. If we end up somewhere we don’t want to be, we don’t have to stay there. We can look at the options possible, decide what we want to do next, and begin again. It doesn’t matter if it’s complicated, or will take a lot of time to rearrange the road ahead.  We deserve complete happiness and if where we are doesn’t bring it, we can move. There will always be other options available, and we can change anything we desire. Sitting tight and hoping somehow things will magically improve will never work. If we want something different, we can go get it. We have all the wisdom and courage to accomplish anything we want. We don’t have to go along to keep things the same, or agree with anything we don’t desire. Our lives belong to us and we can design them however we want. We can step away, choose any path before us, and move toward something else. We already know what we want, and have everything we need to get it.

We can only see what’s visible and there is no way to know what the next turn will bring. Even when we plan carefully, things can go awry and we may end up in foreign territory. There are always unforeseen complications, and sometimes what we couldn’t see takes us someplace far different than we thought we’d reach. If the new destination is appealing and we like the scenery, we can stay. But if we want something different, we can simply move right on through and onto something else.

Some people may encourage us to endure a situation we’re uncomfortable with in the interest of ease or conformity. They may tell us we’ll get used to it and learn to adjust. While it’s true we can adjust to any situation before us, we never have to give up our happiness to make others comfortable. We deserve the best of everything we desire, and with determination and focus, we will achieve it.

Today if the end of the road isn’t what you’re seeking, there are endless other opportunities possible. You never have to settle for what you don’t want. You are intelligent and highly capable, and every dream is possible. If you want something else, change direction and start again. Nothing can keep you from success. You are amazing and strong, and will reach every goal you desire.

Courage

13 Nov

We hear all kinds of stories about courageous, brave people who do astounding things that impress us and make us marvel at their fearlessness and stamina. Some events are so noteworthy they become legend and part of our history. It’s inspiring and uplifting to see others express heroism and courage no matter what is before them. In our lives we may never have to face an army of marauders or take out a bank robber but we will likely face times when we’ll have to be brave against a situation before us. Fear is a natural response to threat and courage doesn’t mean we won’t be afraid but that we’ll act even in the face of our fear. Instead of being paralyzed and cowering in a corner we can step out and stand strong in the midst of a difficult and frightening situation. Our lives may be predictable and perhaps we don’t think we have many opportunities to practice being courageous but every time we hold our ground when there is pressure to bend, every time we speak up when someone is being hurt, and every time we extend ourselves to help others, we are being brave. Practicing courage even in small ways gives us the skill to stand strong when serious issues arise. If we fold every time someone disagrees with us, or cower every time we are unsure, we will never be able to express our true selves. We are capable and strong and even if the tide turns against us, can hold fast to what we want the most. We have all the courage and strength within us to do anything we desire. Trusting ourselves and believing we will prevail will move us forward.

We may experience great pressure to conform and go along with common ideas around us. It’s easier for a group to function if everyone does the same things and those around us may press us to follow their views even if we disagree. We can always go with the flow and keep our opinions to ourselves. It’s easier to let others lead and simply follow along than it is to question the road ahead, but remaining quiet will only guarantee that our influence will not be heard. We have a lot to offer and our ideas are valuable. We can be brave enough to speak up, even if we’re different, and share our true selves with those around us.

Life is continually moving forward and if we are timid and don’t express ourselves, we may find we are simply going through the motions instead of grabbing hold of our lives and making the most of our time. Each day we live is a blessing and once the time has passed can never be recaptured. Standing back and staying quiet will never take us to the goals we want the most. We can speak up, step forward and take control of our lives and design them any way we choose. It’s all there for us. We need only reach out and take it.

Today if you’ve been sitting quietly and allowing others to decide what you’ll do next, remember you are valuable and your choices are important. Think about what you want the most and step toward your goals. Everything is possible and you have all the courage and wisdom you need to find success. Be strong. All your dreams are there for you and you can make them come true.

Opting Out

21 May

There are a lot of people continually coming in and out of our lives.  Every individual brings with them specific ideas that may influence us in diverse ways.  If they are powerful and we admire them, that influence may be strong and far reaching.  Simple comments said in passing may make us see our situation in new ways and we may decide to change.  In our close relationships, the views and opinions of those we love are powerful.  If they feel strongly about something we may go along with them even if we aren’t sure it’s what we should be doing.  We may get into a situation where someone we love asks us to do something that is important to them, but that we are uncomfortable doing.  Our values and personal ideals are important.  We can always go along with anything in order to get along but each decision we make reflects who we are.  If we do things that are not in keeping with the standards we’ve set, no matter what our reasons are, we cannot be authentic and true to ourselves.  People will not trust us if we continually change with each new opinion that comes along.  We never have to do anything that isn’t in keeping with the standards we’ve set for our lives.  If someone asks us to do something that compromises us, we may opt out.  We can be gracious and kind, and still choose what is best for us.  We know who we are and where we want to go.  We decide what is important and how we want to live our lives.  There are countless ideas about life, and we may choose what works for us.  Holding fast to our personal choices will give us confidence.   Our lives belong to us and through our excellent decisions we can become the people we most want to be.

It’s important to be flexible and adapt to different situations as they come along.  Being able to change does not mean we must abandon who we are.  We can move in a new direction and still hold fast to the ideals we value.  There will always be lots of choices that take us from the paths we want to travel but with determination and focus we can make the best decisions and move forward with confidence while keeping true to what we want most.

Times change and what was considered appropriate and valuable in the past may no longer apply.  We may be in situations when we’re pressured to do something that is acceptable to others but uncomfortable for us.  We set our own personal standards and the ideas of those around us may differ from what we want in our lives.  We never have to conform to anything that goes against the values we’ve set.  We can go our own way and make our own choices.  Life is a great blessing and when we live it in ways that embellish who we really are we find true happiness.

Today if you’re in a situation that compromises the standards you’ve set for yourself, you may opt out and go a different way.  You know who you are and what you want.  You can choose the roads that reflect your personal standards and express your individuality with grace and confidence.  Every choice is yours to make.  Choose the way that takes you to your best self and you will find true happiness.