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The Tell

10 Apr

Life is unpredictable and we go through all kinds of changes every day. We may feel happy or sad, satisfied or frustrated, or a thousand other emotions. We may believe what’s going on inside us is private and nobody else notices, but how we act around others may give away more about our personal feelings than we may realize. Although we may use the right words, our inflection and demeanor may give away what we’re going through. People are very perceptive and if they’re paying attention, can pick up on the smallest details. It’s like watching for the tell when playing cards. We notice something different, even if it’s very subtle, and know there is more going on than what’s on the surface. If we are struggling or angry, sad or depressed, we may exhibit it as we interact with others. We can keep our personal issues to ourselves but when we’re troubled, chances are those around us will know something is going on. We are all far more connected than we realize and our deepest feelings, even if they are hidden, can affect our personal experiences. We don’t have to share more than we’re comfortable sharing but can recognize that we’re often communicating more than we realize. Our emotions belong to us and managing them is our responsibility. We don’t have to pretend to be happy when we’re not but can remember our behaviors influence those around us. We can cope with whatever is going on and find the way forward with grace and patience. We always have a lot for which to be grateful and no matter what’s going wrong, can focus on the positive and continue walking forward.

The choices we make mold the person we become. Some people like intrigue and drama and create it everywhere they go. We can tangle our lives with dishonesty and trouble and there is no end to the problems we can create for ourselves or those around us if we’re determined to cause disruption and contention. But those behaviors negatively impact us and will never bring us peace or happiness. Our lives are ours to design. We can choose to make decisions that will bring us harmony and peace and help us become the people we most want to be.

Honesty is the most important attribute we have. If we’re honest in all our dealings there will never be doubt about who we are. People will understand they can trust us and have faith that we will follow through. We can openly face whatever comes and work with it no matter the situation. There isn’t any complication we can’t understand and no problem we can’t solve. We have all the courage and wisdom we need to be open and honest and find the way forward.

Today if you’re feeling bad and trying to get through on your own, remember how strong you are. No matter what is happening you have everything you need to prevail. Choose nobility and honesty, and the answers will come. You are amazing and nothing is too difficult for you to manage. Stand strong and step forward. You are wise and wonderful, and every happiness is just ahead.

 

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Reverse Engines

6 Apr

When we’re moving forward through our lives we may be in situations that push us one direction or another blocking our way ahead, or there may be unexpected surprises that alter our course going forward.  If we are determined to reach the goal we can take all the complications and issues in stride and find a way around them.  But sometimes we may find we’re headed toward something we don’t want.  Maybe our personal circumstances have changed since we started out, or maybe the destination isn’t exactly what we thought it was at the beginning.  Whatever the reason if we determine the path we’re on isn’t right for us we can stop, reverse engines, and turn around toward something else.  If we’re traveling forward with others who still want the goal ahead we may face push back if we decide to step away.  Many people like things to stay the same and don’t want change to interfere with their plans.  If they have authority over us or we esteem them in some way, we may continue forward to keep the peace but our personal desires are important and will constantly niggle at us.  Doing things we don’t want will never make us happy.  Our personal desires are important and by choosing the roads that take us where we really want to go we will find peace and contentment.  Time spent in pursuits we don’t care about is precious time wasted.  We can choose what’s best for us and re-route our direction at any time.  Every choice we make takes us somewhere.  It’s up to us to ensure the choices we’re making today will take us where we want to be tomorrow.  If we’re on the wrong road, we can step off.  If we’re going in the wrong direction, we can turn around.  We are in control of our decisions and our happiness depends on making them well.  Everything is possible and we can go anywhere we want to go.

If we’re timid and unsure we might allow someone else to tell us where we should go and what we should do.  Those around us may have good suggestions but the only person with true inspiration and insight into our lives is us.  We know ourselves better than anyone else.  We can listen to the advice of others and then choose what we want most.  Every road is possible and nothing is out of reach.  We are strong enough and wise enough to make excellent decisions and accomplish anything we choose.

Nobody is perfect and there will be times when we make a choice that doesn’t work out.  If we choose a path that doesn’t bring us success, we can choose again.  There are many roads to every destination.  We can choose and, if need be, choose again until we reach the goal.  The possibilities are endless.  We know what we want and we can find our way to any destination we truly desire. Life is a great blessing.  We can live each day fully and do everything possible to make all our dreams come true.

Today if the road you’ve been traveling isn’t going where you really want to go, step off and redirect your course.  You know what you want.  Be fearless and choose the path that will take you to it.  Every option is available.  You are strong and powerful, and nothing is too far to reach.  Move forward toward success.  There is nothing you can’t do.

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Boomerang

3 Apr

We go through all kinds of experiences and changes as we navigate through our lives. Each day brings us new lessons that teach us and give us tools for success. Our understanding of life deepens as we experience many different situations and scenarios, and we decide what we want as we move forward. Sometimes we progress exactly as planned and move continually ahead toward our goals. But other times things happen that turn us back around into a situation we thought we had left behind. Something happens that reels us back in and before we know it we find ourselves back at the beginning where we don’t want to be. People are complex and sometimes we make decisions that take us off the road leading forward and loop us back to where we’ve been. Even if we want to change our lives, the pull to return can be great. It’s possible to go back and revisit situations from our past and still continue moving forward, but if we cling to them it will be more difficult to head to the future. We don’t have to sever our connections to where we’ve been but if we want to find success moving forward we can’t hold onto situations that keep us in place. We know what we want and are capable of every success we desire. No dream is out of reach. If we find ourselves stepping back we can step forward again. The road ahead is always there for us and we can achieve any goal we desire.

We are responsible for the lives we live. If we’re unhappy, frustrated, or unfulfilled, it’s up to us to change the situation. We deserve complete happiness but we are the ones responsible for bringing it into our lives. If we want to change we can. There may be pressure from those around us to keep things the same, we may be afraid to alter our course because we don’t know what will happen, or we may be lazy and decide we can deal with things as they are. But there are unlimited possibilities around us and we can do anything we really want to do. We can choose the path that will take us exactly where we want to go and find complete contentment knowing we are in control of our future.

It’s easy to stay in a routine, even if it’s not what we want. We know where we are and what to expect. We may step away for a moment, but if we aren’t committed to change we may be quickly pulled back. We are in charge of our lives and nothing is strong enough to hold us down when we want to move forward. We can do anything we desire and no destination is too far to reach. We can step away from situations we don’t want and open all the doors ahead. Our lives belong to us and we can design them any way we choose.

Today if you find yourself looping back to what you left behind and want to continue forward, be confident and turn around. The whole world is there for you and anything is possible. Let go of anything that holds you in place and move ahead. You are strong and capable and nothing will keep you from success. Step forward. The future is there for you and you will reach it.

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Upstream

30 Mar

We live in a world with billions of other people.  Each one is unique and different from us in some way.  There are all kinds of ideas, beliefs, patterns, laws, rules, and interpretations.  We may understand and agree with some of them and others may escape our comprehension altogether.  There is a lot of diversity in everything and it can be difficult to understand it all.  If we get tangled up in a situation where others are doing things we aren’t comfortable with we may be concerned about what will happen next.  If they are doing or saying things that make us unsure, we don’t have to remain in place.  We can always step aside and walk away.  Everything is continually changing and the world may seem crazy at times like everything has turned upside down and nothing is right.  No matter what others are doing we can hold onto what is important to us.  Even if nobody else agrees we can continue forward according to our own personal convictions and desires.  We may need to swim upstream against a current of people going the other way, but we are strong enough to continue toward our goals.  Our decisions are ours to make and we don’t need approval or agreement to make them.  We can do the things we want to do and go where we want to go.  Every destination is possible even if we’re the only one who wants to go there.  Our uniqueness is what brings blessings to the world around us.  We can be exactly who we are and find happiness.  Swimming upstream takes more energy than going with the flow but we are strong and capable, and can make all our dreams come true.

Societal norms and family traditions can define how we live our lives.  It’s easy to go along with what everyone else is doing and comply with traditional patterns.  Many people find comfort in conformity and there is historical strength in tradition.  Those roads are well paved from constant travelers and on them our roles are clearly defined.  Doing what is expected may work for us but predictable roads will only take us to predictable destinations.  If we want something different we must change direction and forge a new path.  There are endless roads we can choose and unlimited destinations before us.  We can determine what we want the most and then begin forward on the road that will take us to it.

Blending in is much easier than being different.  If we do things and basically look like most of the people around us it may be easier to find acceptance and navigate forward.  But every one of us is unique and have specific and exclusive gifts to offer.  If we keep them hidden in an effort to conform, the world will miss out on our particular influence.  We have so much to offer.  We can be confident in stepping forward as we are and truly expressing our individuality.  The world needs our viewpoint and is blessed because we are here.

Today if you feel like you’re swimming upstream and are tired of pushing ahead, remember how much you have to offer.  You bring a light that no one else can share.  Let us see who you really are and show us your strength. Everyone wants to share your life and know you.  Be confident in being yourself.  It’s the very best you can be.

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Doing Laundry

28 Mar

Learning to navigate through conflict isn’t always easy.  When we disagree with someone and things escalate it can be hard to stay on the subject at hand.  If we are passionate about our position and afraid we are losing we may decide to bring other issues into the conversation.  We all have a laundry list of things that bother us, and if we feel our position is slipping we may pull it out and begin sharing all the things that bother us.  They say the best defense is a good offense and that works in some situations but in our interpersonal relationships going for the throat and hitting with all our might may cause damage we don’t want.  It’s normal to get mad sometimes and there may be moments when the person we are closest to drives us nuts.  We can always do the laundry and tell them all the things we don’t like, or we can wait, allow time to calm down, and then talk about what we want.  Words are powerful and once uttered are permanent.  There is no way to go back and erase something we’ve said.  When we lash out in anger and say things that hurt others we may win the battle today but the lingering pain of what we’ve said may last indefinitely.  Instead of doing laundry when we feel overcome, we can look at the situation more objectively.  Many things we disagree about are insignificant in the scope of life.  We can step back, take a breath and see the situation more clearly.  Our relationships are important and take precedence over any difference of opinion.  We can choose to value them and even in disagreement, take care of them.  Every happiness is possible.  Choosing well will help us achieve it.

We would never use a cannon to kill a fly.  A fly swatter is sufficient for the situation and it’s absurd to consider anything more but sometimes in conflict we may choose a cannon when all we need is a fly swatter.  When we feel we are losing we may want to stop everyone in their tracks and take the biggest weapon we can find.  But it’s not helpful to choose something that will destroy when all we really need is a little more influence.  We have all the wisdom we need to make excellent decisions, even in conflict.  We can be appropriate and careful, and still prevail while protecting our relationships.

When we get hit our first reaction may be to hit back.  We don’t have to take abuse without responding but how we respond often determines what happens next.  We can diffuse any situation and find a solution more easily by addressing the affront with patience and clarity.  Communicating calmly will end conflict more effectively than fighting back.  We can choose the best roads going forward.  We can be in control and make decisions that will bring us peace and success.

Today if you’ve had it and want to pull out the laundry list of things you don’t like, think about where that will take you.  Your relationships are precious and more important than any disagreement.  Step back and decide the best way forward.  You are strong and powerful, and nothing is too difficult for you.  Think clearly and choose well.  You’ll find greater happiness and peace ahead.

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