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Second Guessing

10 Jan

In difficult and complicated situations when we’re making decisions about what we want or need to do, we want to make the best choice going forward.  If we need to confront someone about something they did or apologize for something we’ve done it might be difficult to decide how to proceed.  We can objectively review all the facts to clarify exactly what we want to say and how we want to address our concerns.  Once we determine what the best course of action is we can proceed with confidence and do what is needed to amend the situation.  But sometimes after we’ve decided what needs to be done we might second guess our decision.  What if things don’t go the way we want them too, what if our interaction goes awry and things get worse, what if the other person refuses to see us, the list of possibilities is endless.  Second guessing may hold us back from doing what we need to move forward and hold us in place somewhere we don’t want to be.  If we need to do something to fix a situation and default to doing nothing because we are afraid or unsure about what might happen, the situation will remain unresolved.  We will carry it with us going forward.  The only way around any problem is to solve it. There is no way to know how anything will work out when we’re trying to move forward, but one thing is certain, if we do nothing everything will remain the same.  Addressing our problems head on and facing them instead of looking away will help us continue forward toward our goals and bring us confidence.  We don’t have to hold onto any issue longer than we want to.  All the answers are there for us.  Taking control of the issue and facing it will help us find our way forward and bring us happiness and satisfaction.

There are endless “what ifs” if we think about them.  Lots of things can always go wrong but lots of things can also go right.  If we try to address a problem or situation with someone else and they don’t want to settle the issue, it then belongs to them.  Once we’ve done all we can to resolve the problem we don’t have to carry it forward.  We can’t control what anyone else does and if they will not agree to work things out, we can let it go and hope things will improve over time.

In our lives we will have the opportunity to solve many difficult situations.  Some answers will come easily and others will take time and serious thought.  There is no problem without a solution.  We can be confident in our ability to understand any situation clearly and find the answers we need.  Nothing is impossible and we are wise and capable.  Our happiness and comfort are our responsibility, and when things go wrong we can take control of our decisions and choose the best path forward.

Today if you need to solve a difficult problem and have been second guessing the way forward, choose the best solution and move ahead.  You know what needs to be done and you are wise enough to find the answers you need.  Be confident and brave.  You have everything you need to succeed.  There isn’t anything too difficult for you to resolve.  Make your decisions and move forward.  Success is there for you.

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Wasted Years

4 Jan

There are few times in life when we go from one place to another in a completely straight line with no interruptions or detours. Every journey we take has many twists and turns. We don’t live in a vacuum and are subject to all kinds of outside influences. There are others around us making all kinds of decisions we aren’t aware of which may affect the road ahead. We can adjust our direction with each new situation and in time, find our way to any destination. If we get stuck and years go by before we are able to see clearly and shake free to begin again, we may feel we’ve wasted our time. Looking back over years struggling with something that was never going to work can undermine our confidence and we may believe we’ve ruined our chances for success. Even if we don’t move forward, the time is never wasted. Whatever we’re focused on, and whatever we’re doing teaches us something new. There is no need to worry about what we haven’t accomplished. The future is ahead of us and we can begin again. Time spent spinning our wheels gives us time to grow so when the right moment arrives we are ready to move. We can change anything we desire and move forward. There isn’t any goal we can’t reach. The whole world is there for us when we’re ready to take it.

When we’re on a road trip and reach a stop sign it’s our signal to wait and watch before proceeding. In our lives we come upon many stop signs but sometimes we miss them because we are busy or distracted. If we forge ahead on a road that isn’t ready for us, or isn’t complete, we will not be able to proceed. We all face situations that are not good for us, places we shouldn’t go if we want to succeed, and people we should avoid. But if we miss the signs that warn us to stop we may not realize it until much time has passed and we are lost. Getting lost will not end our journey. Once we understand the situation, we can change our trajectory and find the right way forward.

Time is valuable and irreplaceable. Nobody lives forever or knows how much time they have. We can never change the past but we have complete control over our futures. If we’ve lost time doing things that haven’t moved us forward, we can modify our choices and begin again. We have all the wisdom, strength and power we need to change any situation we desire. We can let go of what is holding us back, and be free to find our way ahead. Every moment is a passage to the next. Choosing what we want the most, and heading toward the destinations we desire will bring us satisfaction and success. We can do anything. Nothing is out of reach and the best roads ahead are there waiting for us.

Today if you feel like you’ve wasted years doing something that distracted you from where you really want to be, straighten your journey going forward and begin again. You can achieve any success you desire and go anywhere you want to go. Shake off what has held you back and start forward. All your dreams are attainable and you will reach them. Trust yourself. You already have everything you need to succeed.

 

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Unlimited

17 Nov

“Find a way.”  Diana Nyad

There are many inspirational people in the world who have faced incredible odds and overcome them.  At the age of 64, swimmer Diana Nyad swam from Cuba to Florida, a journey of 110 miles.  When asked how she faced the many challenges of this quest including sharks, jelly fish stings, extreme fatigue and damaging sun burn she said every time things looked impossible she would determine to find a way forward.  Her desire to succeed was so great that no matter how hard things looked she knew she could find a way – and she did.  We may never face a physical challenge as great as this but we will endure difficult situations that test our resolve and willingness to go forward.  Sometimes we may be confident of success but other times we may doubt our ability to survive.  There really isn’t anything we can’t overcome and there are no problems without resolutions.  We discover hidden courage and resilience when we walk through turbulent and threatening trials.  Everything we need is already there within us.  We can reach deep and capture all the strength necessary to win.  No matter what comes we can find a way to move forward and get to the other side.  We are stronger than we realize.  Nothing will hold us down and we will succeed.

In baseball, when a hitter swings and misses the ball a strike is called.  After three strikes the hitter is out and can no longer continue to try.  Although we may stumble, there are no strikeouts in our lives.  We have unlimited chances to find the answers we need.  There is no scorecard and we will never be out of the game.  If we don’t succeed with the first choice, we can choose again.  If our second choice fails as well, we can continue.  We learn as we go and each fumble teaches us something new and gives us more information.  Nothing will keep us from finding the solution and with each step forward we will get closer to the goal.

After trying several options that don’t work we may become discouraged and believe we will never succeed.  There are rarely times in our lives when we must find the answers within a given time frame.  We can take all the time we need to find the best way forward.  There is no one right way to do anything.  We have unlimited options from which to choose and we will find the answers we need.  If we trust ourselves and take the time necessary to see all the options available we will find a way.  There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish.  We are strong and capable and nothing is too hard for us to overcome.

Today if you’re facing a difficult situation and feel like you can’t figure it out, step back and take a moment to see everything clearly.  You are smarter than you think you are and you know what you need to do.  The answers will come and you will find the way forward.  Everything is already there for you and you will succeed.  Trust yourself.  You are amazing and you will find the way.

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Vipers

13 Oct

There are all kinds of people in the world.  Although most of us try to be the best we can be, there are some who have other ideas.  They think nothing of lying, or cheating or displaying other forms of unethical and difficult behaviors.  They may be ruthless having no feeling or compassion for others.  Their reasons are their own and have no effect on our lives unless we let them close to us, unaware of their true nature.  If we fall into their game we may develop connections with them not knowing the full story.  We may end up in a nest of vipers without even knowing what happened.  But truth is very powerful and will always rise.  Nobody can fool everyone forever.  In time we will know the real story and if we want to change our situation, can do what is needed.  We are very intelligent and perceptive.  If things don’t add up, and there are continual doubts and questions about what someone is doing, we will uncover the truth.  Snakes are certainly sly and can be very sneaky but we can see everything clearly when we’re ready.  We deserve the best relationships possible and if we find we’re in a situation where we’ve been manipulated to believe things that are not true we can correct our course.  We can turn away from those who are disingenuous and dishonest.  Our lives are ours and no matter what connections we’ve made, if they are not what is best for us, we can disconnect and begin again.  Every success is possible for us.  By wisely choosing with whom we share our lives we will reach every desired destination.

Beautiful packaging can be interpreted as value.  Lovely words, compliments, and seemingly sincere offers to help can draw us in and make us believe we are cared for.  If the person offering these is honest and ethical we may develop a close and lasting bond.  But if they are merely playing a game to get something from us they desire, believing in them may bring us trouble in the end.  If things are not as they seem, we may question the situation and find the truth.  It’s good to trust others but if we discover that trust was misplaced we can step back and reroute our course.

If we discover someone we’re very close to hasn’t been honest and we have believed in a lie, we may be devastated.  We may blame ourselves for falling for them and decide we will never trust anyone else again.  Bad behavior belongs to those who use it and not those they hurt.  Believing someone and trusting them is appropriate.  If we find they have been dishonest, we are not at fault.  Every experience teaches us more about our lives and those with whom we associate.  We can learn as much from the situation as possible and take that knowledge forward to help us discern truth more effectively in the future.  We are capable of making excellent decisions, and using what we learn as we move forward will enhance our ability to succeed.

Today if you discover you’ve been tricked into believing something that isn’t true, step back and see the entire situation clearly.  You are smart and strong and can discern what is real.  Determine how you want to go forward and correct your course.  Be confident and wise.  Every success is available to you and nothing will keep you from it.

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Make Me

29 Sep

We know what we need to do and there may be times when we need someone else to accomplish something before we can move forward.  If they aren’t as motivated as we are we may have to wait.  We can only control ourselves and our decisions and even if we ask again and again, we may have to wait until the other party decides to complete the task.  It’s maddening when what’s important to us is reliant on someone else’s actions and they are not moving forward.  There is no way to make anyone do anything.  But if we cannot continue forward with a project or plan because someone else has stopped our progress we have options.  We can look for a way around the action we’re waiting for, we can develop another plan to move forward without the cooperation requested, or we can set the plan aside for now and work on other projects.  We don’t need to be held hostage any longer than we desire.  We are always in control of our own lives and if things don’t move forward in our first plan, we can create another one.  We don’t need to give up control of our progress forward.  There are always many ways to every goal.  If we must set the plan aside for now, we can, and return to it when everything is in place.  We are smart enough to find the way to any destination we desire.  We can adjust our trajectory and turn our course to find the way forward.

Some people are very internally focused.  They only want to work on their personal goals and if asked to help with someone else may agree, but then set it aside until they decide to address it.  Since their objectives revolve around their personal desires they may not recognize the importance of completing tasks to help others.  We don’t have to wait indefinitely for them to comply, and when we’re ready can find another way around the issue.  We can work around any obstacle and reach any goal.

There may be times when others don’t agree with a goal we’re seeking.  They may not believe it’s the best choice or feel it’s too difficult to achieve.  If we must work with them to get the job done we may face many obstacles if they question every decision we make.  Everyone has their own viewpoint about the road ahead and we may ask for their suggestions for ways to accommodate everyone’s ideas about how to move forward.  Bringing all the voices together may help us advance and find success even if there is dissention.  No goal is out of reach and we can patiently and thoughtfully move forward through complications and problems as they arise.  There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish.  Success is always available to us and we will achieve it.

Today if you’ve been waiting for someone to do something that will allow you to move forward and nothing has changed, review your options and find another way around the issue.  There are many roads and directions available and you will find the right way ahead.  Every goal is within your reach and you will achieve it.  Keep your eyes open.  All the answers you need are there for you.  Success is just ahead and you will find it.

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