Tag Archives: Tradition

Programmed

17 Mar

When we’re children, we see what our parents and other adults around us are doing and watch the decisions they make. We may begin to pattern our lives around their example because we don’t have much to compare them to. As we get older and begin to step away from the family unit more and more, our understanding of different ideas and interpretations broadens, and we begin to see that not everyone does things the same way. Everything we see changes us a little and we start to form our own ideas about how we want to live our lives and what we want to do. As we mature, we may think we’re on a completely different road than the one our parents taught us, and then we realize we’ve made a decision exactly the same way as they would. We may believe we really haven’t changed at all, and think we’re programmed to continue making the same choices and the same mistakes we saw our first family make, and there’s nothing we can do about it. While it’s definitely true that what we learned and saw as a child may have influence over what we do as adults, nobody is destined to repeat history. We all have our own agency and can do anything we like, but we must consciously decide what that will be. It takes effort to live “on purpose” instead of just going through the motions. Each of us is an individual and we can all design our lives any way we like. There is no destiny keeping us from making our own choices. It’s all up to us. If we want to turn in a different direction, we can. If we want to go down a new road, we can. Everything is possible. Nothing can keep us from achieving any goal we desire. By deciding what we want, and then doing what is needed to make it ours, we can have the lives we want the most. Great success is possible, and we will prevail.

Some families stay very close to tradition. They follow the same rules the generation before followed and hold firm to the habits and customs of the past. Just because something has always been done one way doesn’t mean it cannot be done differently. Despite tradition, we are in control of our own lives. We can continue to follow the traditional behaviors if that’s what we want, or we can forge our own way forward. We know what we want and have everything we need to achieve it.

It takes courage to live our lives according to our own personal desires and aspirations. The pressure to follow along with the norm can be great, but it’s impossible to make our own dreams come true by following what others are doing. We are entitled to complete fulfillment and happiness, and by following our personal desires and doing what is needed to make them ours, we will achieve it. Every single dream is possible, and nothing can keep us from success.

Today if you want to move in a different direction but have hesitated, decide what you want the most, and take the first step forward. Every destination is there for you and you have everything you need to reach them. Be confident. You are amazing and powerful, and have all the courage you need to succeed.

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No Thanks

17 Sep

There are unlimited options available to us at all times. We can travel on endless roads, go anywhere and do anything we desire. There will be few times when there is only one possibility for the way ahead, and we can design our journey any way we like. Unless we live on a deserted island, we share our world with lots of other people. They come and go in and out of our lives constantly, and we are rarely, completely alone. Everyone has their own ideas about how things should go and what should be done, and we may get lots of advice and opinions about how we should proceed. We’re all individuals with our own choices to make but if those around us are powerful or insistent, we may decide to follow their lead, even if it’s not what we really want. If we have a personal relationship with them, their influence may be great, and we might find ourselves doing things they suggest and patterning our lives after them. That’s fine if what they’re doing and where they’re going is what we want, but if not, we can step back and choose another path. We can listen to any ideas and recommendations others have to offer, and then make our own decisions. We don’t have to agree to follow someone else’s plan, and can politely decline any suggestions we don’t desire. We don’t have to go to the concert just because our friends want us to. We don’t have to ride along if we aren’t interested in the destination. We are in control of our lives and can decide what we’ll do and where we’ll go. There is no need to seek permission or agreement. We are strong and capable, and can do anything we like. Our lives are ours and we can create them in any way. By doing what is most important and seeking the goals we most desire, we’ll gain great satisfaction and happiness. Every single dream is possible, and with focus and determination, we can achieve anything.

Peer pressure will often be a factor in the choices we make. How much influence it has over us depends on how focused and confident we are in our ability to choose well. If we’re unsure, we may bend to someone else’s ideas. If we don’t trust ourselves to make a good choice, we might let others choose for us. We can bend in the wind and let things roll out as they may, or stand firm and make our own decisions. Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. We know what we want, and have everything we need to get it.

Family pressures and traditions are powerful. When everyone is on the same page, doing the same things the way they’ve always been done, it’s easy to get agreement. We can follow what others are doing and keep the boat steady, but every option is available. If we want something different, we can choose our own way forward. Accepting the choices of others doesn’t mean we must follow them. We can be respectful, and polite, and go our own way.

Today if you’re being pressured to do something you really don’t want to do, decide what you want the most. You are important and valuable, and can have the life you desire. Every single blessing is already there for you and with determination, and persistence, you can make every dream come true.

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Fresh Air

10 Aug

There are endless things we can accomplish as we move through our lives. The world is huge and there are millions of places to visit and much to see. Although there is lots of opportunity to do anything we want, we have responsibilities, and ties where we are may be hard to break. It’s easy to get into a routine of doing the same things every day and forget that there are unlimited experiences waiting for us. Our jobs, our families, our friends, and all that goes with them give us a great foundation, but they can also hold us in place. We can design our lives any way we like, and if we’re comfortable and content staying where we are, we can. But we are in control and if we want something more, it’s there for us. If we’re in a room that gets stuffy and close, we can open a door and let fresh air in. The same is true in our personal lives. If we’re in a rut and are ready from something different, we need only open a new door and let fresh, inviting new experiences into our lives. There are unlimited things we can do and places we can go. We are the only ones who can keep us from the lives we desire most. Once we decide what we really want, and then commit to doing what it takes to make it ours, we can do anything. Every single dream is possible and nothing is out of reach. The lives we fantasize about and wish for can be ours. There are lots of doors and endless roads to travel. We have all the courage and wisdom needed to do whatever we desire. We can take care of our needs, be responsible, and still move toward what we want. It’s all there for us. We need only step forward, and make it ours.

Tradition is powerful and if our families have done things a specific way for a long time, they may not be supportive if we want to change. Routines make life easy – we know what to do and pretty much know what to expect. Just because something has been done the same way for a while, doesn’t mean we must continue doing it. We are never restricted to any behavior or pattern. When we’re ready to move on to something new, the road will be there for us. Our lives belong to us, and we can live them any way we like. Every door can be opened, and we can find great happiness and success.

Nobody can read the future and it’s hard to see what lies ahead. Stepping toward a new goal may take us into foreign territory. When everything is new and unknown, we may feel unsure at first. But with each step forward, we will gain more confidence, and with determination, if we stay the course, we’ll reach the prize. We are stronger and more capable than we imagine. There isn’t anything powerful enough to keep us from what we want. We can trust ourselves, and go anywhere we desire.

Today if you’re ready to open a new door, decide what you want and take the first step. There are unlimited destinations waiting for you and you have everything you need to reach them. Trust yourself and be confident. There isn’t anything you can’t accomplish. Nothing can hold you in place, and you can have the life you desire. Every dream is possible, and with courage and determination, you will make them yours.

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Tattoo

16 Sep

We make millions of decisions as we go through our lives. Much of the time which choice we make won’t matter and we’ll be able to continue forward unrestricted. But sometimes we may face a monumental decision that may change the course of our lives and affect those around us. When that happens, we try to choose the best options possible. It helps if we aren’t hindered by pre-conceived notions and unwavering ideas about how things should go. Getting at tattoo is a serious decision. Once the ink has been applied, it will remain. If we later decide we don’t want it, the process of removal may be difficult and painful. When making a decision, if we decide we will only accept one answer or one way forward and will not bend, we may remain, like the tattoo, permanently stuck in place. It’s good to have a strong sense of what we want and confidence for the road ahead, but if we draw a hard line in the sand and refuse to acknowledge or even look at different options, we may find we are unable to move. Moving forward is the only way to accomplish our goals, and there is no way to move forward and be stuck in place at the same time. We can have strong opinions and still be open to seeing other options. There are countless roads to every destination and never only one way to get to any goal. Allowing ourselves to consider each possibility will enable us to make the best decisions and find the most positive outcomes. Our lives are a reflection of every choice we make. We can go anywhere and do anything, and by seeing every option before us, we can make the best decisions moving forward. Nothing is out of reach, and we can have the lives we dream of.

Every experience we go through teaches us something. When we have difficult experiences, we may carry painful scars forward that influence how we proceed. Nobody wants to suffer and if we’ve been hurt, we may try to avoid anything that resembles what we’ve been through. If we alter our decisions based on something from the past, it may prevent us from moving forward toward the goals we desire. No matter what’s happened, we can move forward with confidence and clarity, and reach any goal we desire.

Tradition and pattern are strong influences. If we’ve always done something the same way, we may be reticent to try something new. Doing the same things over and over again will only take us to the same places. It’s impossible to go somewhere new and stay where we are. New destinations and roads can be intimidating. We can’t see the end from the beginning, and we don’t know what lies ahead. However, we have all the courage and wisdom we need to make excellent choices, and step forward with confidence and certainty. Nothing is beyond our reach and we can go anywhere.

Today if there’s a big decision ahead and you feel uneasy stepping forward, remember all the excellent decisions you’ve already made. Nothing is too complex or difficult for you to manage. Decide what you want and step forward with confidence. Every goal is within reach and every dream is possible. Nothing is too difficult for you. You are fierce and unstoppable, and you will succeed.

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Winning the Lottery

11 May

We’ve all heard stories of people who have won the lottery and seen them smiling for cameras holding the big check.  It’s exciting to think about winning and getting all the cash we think will improve our lives, and we may dream about it and persistently buy tickets in the hope that the dream will come true.  Someone will win the lottery and it might be us but the odds are currently 1 in 292 million that it’ll happen.  Those are long, long odds.  To put it in perspective, the odds of being struck by lightning in our lifetime are about 1 in 5,000.  We can buy all the lottery tickets we want but instead of wishing and hoping for something so remote and out of our control to change our lives, we can actively pursue a path that will take us where we want to go.  We have a far greater chance of success when we’re in control of where we’re going than waiting for something to simply fall in our laps.  We’re in charge of our personal destiny and we can determine where we go and what we accomplish.  Success is always possible and once we define it we can chart our course forward to achieve it.  Our lives are ours to design and we can do anything we truly want to do.  If we want great financial success and are willing to do what it takes to accomplish it, we will succeed.  Nothing is out of reach but we must achieve success ourselves.  Nobody is going to give us everything we desire simply because we want it but with determination and persistence we can get it.  Nothing is out of reach once we decide what we want.  We can do anything and reach any success we desire.

It’s important to have dreams and they inspire us to do great things.  We can dream all we want but until we do something to make our dreams come true they are like clouds sailing across the sky with no substance or direction.  All the hoping and wishing in the world will never make them a reality.  We must plan for success and then move forward toward it to make it happen.  All our dreams can come true when we do what is required to achieve them.

We can spend our lives unhappy and bemoaning where we are, complaining we never got the chance to do what we wanted.  We can blame our circumstances, those around us, the pressures of family or tradition, and anything else.  We always have the power to change our lives.  There isn’t anything we can’t do but if we are afraid, or lazy or simply don’t want to try, nothing will happen.  It’s easy to stand still.  It requires little effort and even less thought.  There is greatness is all of us and we are more powerful than we realize.  We can do anything, go anywhere and achieve any dream we desire but it’s up to us.  Nobody is going to hand us the perfect life.  We must create it for ourselves.

Today if you’ve been hoping you’ll win the lottery to finally change your life and give you what you want, remember you’re in control of where you go and what you do.  You can change things and do anything you desire.  Be strong and remember how powerful you are.  Nothing is beyond your reach and all your dreams can come true.  Step forward.  Every possibility is waiting for you. Happiness is just ahead.

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