Tag Archives: Forget

Adamantly Wrong

4 Feb

We are intelligent and capable, and can accomplish just about anything we want to do. We know what we want and when there are problems, we solve them. It’s good to be confident and sure when we’re pushing toward a goal, and being focused on success will always help us. We often make great decisions, but we aren’t perfect, and there will likely be times when we’ll be wrong about something. Many times, our decisions may impact others and even if we try to hide them, will be apparent. Learning from mistakes teaches us a lot about ourselves and the world around us. There are valuable lessons to be gained in our missteps, but if we deny them and adamantly insist everything is fine, we learn nothing, and the mistake persists. We’re all human and perfection may be the goal, but we probably won’t achieve it. We are going to stumble, and when we do, if we hold fast to our plan, despite the fact that it’s failing, we will never end up where we want to go. Digging our feet in and refusing to see the truth will only hold us in place. It’s humbling when we falter, and it can be very hard to face up to what’s happened, but honestly facing the situation and doing what is needed to fix it will move us closer to the destinations we desire. We can reach every goal if we’re willing to do what is required to get there. If we fall, we can get back up. If we take a wrong turn, we can revise the way forward. We can be honest in all our dealings and modify our trajectory to get to any goal. Every success is there for us, and with determination and focus, we will reach them.

Despite everything we’ve done so far, there will always be many more things we want to accomplish. Each success gives us tools and skills for the future, and we carry all the knowledge forward with us to help unlock our goals ahead. If we ignore and try to forget the mistakes we make along the way, all the information we may gain from those missteps is lost. We don’t have to dwell on things that have gone wrong, but we can glean every benefit by learning as much as possible from them. Our lives are cumulative, and if we take advantage of every lesson possible, we will be embellished and enriched moving forward.

Truth is truth and cannot be denied. We can try to hide it, and keep it from coming out, but truth is the most powerful force in life. It will always rise and nothing can hold it down. Denying what is real will never help us find success. Even if it’s painful and difficult, accepting reality as it is will benefit us in many ways. We are stronger when we are honest with ourselves, and will find great blessings when we live openly, facing things as they are. We are wise and intelligent, and nothing is beyond our grasp. Every success is possible, and we will prevail.

Today if you’ve made a mistake, face it openly and honestly. You are strong and intelligent, and nothing can keep you from your goals. Look at everything openly and decide on the best way forward. Modify your direction and move ahead with confidence. Every success is still there for you. All your dreams are possible, and you will reach them.

Fuel for the Fire

27 Nov

Life is unpredictable and even when we plan well and do everything we can to make sure our plans are set, something may happen that throws everything off course. If we can’t continue forward, and the goal we wanted to achieve is no longer possible we may feel frustrated or even angry. Big disappointments are powerful and can stop us in our tracks and we may be confused about what to do next. We may feel defeated and begin to believe all the dreams we have will never come true. However, there is always another road ahead and when things go wrong, we can change our perception of what has happened and start again. Instead of allowing disappointment to stall us, we can use it to fuel our focus and push us forward. There is always another way ahead and we are never without hope. It doesn’t matter how much has broken, how many things have gone wrong, or how many times we’ve had to try again. There will always be another road and another chance to move forward. Trouble brings information and we learn more about our situation and what works with each experience. Everything that happens, even when it all falls apart, helps us refine the way forward. There is great fuel in experience and we can use it to find the road that will take us where we want to go. Life is filled with promise and no matter how complicated things get, we can still reach any goal we desire. With each step forward, we get closer to where we want to be and if we’re determined and continue pushing ahead, we can make every dream reality.

It sometimes seems there is only one way to do something. Maybe its only been done a certain way in the past and it’s hard to imagine doing it differently. Those around us may tell us it can only be done one way, and if we can’t accomplish it that way, we can never achieve it. There are some situations where there is only one option to move forward but those instances are very rare. Most of the time, despite what we may see and hear, there are many options possible if we reach beyond what we already know. If we trust ourselves to open new doors and explore new options, we’ll find the answers to even the most complex issues.

When things go wrong and the road we planned to travel is no longer available, we can throw our hands up in despair and walk away. We can forget about our goals and decide they aren’t worth the effort or we can stand still and look around at all possibilities before us. There is never only one way to any goal and anything can be accomplished if we’re willing to see other options. We can fuel our decision with what we’ve learned so far and step forward in a new direction. Every dream is possible and with determination and focus we can reach any destination we desire.

Today if things have suddenly changed and you’re disappointed and confused, use the knowledge you’ve gained so far to help you find a new road going forward. There will always be another way to get to your goal and you are wise and creative enough to find it. Be confident. There isn’t anything you can’t do and every dream is waiting for you. Step forward and you’ll reach every goal you desire.

Just As You Are

8 Sep

We all have things about ourselves we want to change. Maybe we want to lose weight, exercise more, eat better, read more often, learn more about world events, be stronger, become more patient – the list is endless. Maybe we’re working on what we want to change now, or maybe we’ve put it off because of other priorities. Whatever we’re doing, there’s a chance we may be critical of ourselves because we haven’t yet accomplished all we want to. We’re harder on ourselves than anyone else. We push and push, and when we don’t accomplish all we think we should, sometimes we’re critical. We may expect to be perfect even though we know we can’t be. Unfortunately, that kind of thinking undermines us as we go forward.

I recently got a letter from a relative who included an old picture of me they had found from many years ago. When I looked at it, I was surprised at how good I looked. I remembered when that picture was taken feeling homely and undesirable. Looking at the picture now, I see a very attractive and appealing person. But that’s not how I felt at the time. I was highly critical of my appearance, and looking back I can see I was mistaken. We expect so much of ourselves, always seeing the imperfections, and wanting to be more than we think we are. We spend a lot of time looking ahead, trying to fix this or that, hoping that one day we’ll achieve whatever will make us the way we think we should be.

But what if we accepted ourselves today? Just as we are. Nobody is perfect – we all know that, but somehow it seems we make exceptions to the rule with regard to ourselves. We know nobody is perfect, but somehow we think we should be. The truth is we’re fine exactly the way we are. We’re the right size for where we are now, we have everything we need for what we’re doing, and we’re doing the best we can for the moment. We can change things in time, but for now, we’re exactly where we need to be. There’s a lot of press about loving others and that’s important, but it’s also important that we love ourselves. We’re here, we’re living our lives, and we’re exactly as we should be now.

Today if you’re feeling like you aren’t enough, like you should be better somehow, stop and see how wonderful you are right now. You do many things well and some things very well. Recognize those, and remember today is the best day of your life because you’re living it. Be happy with who you are, and what you’ve done. Work on the things you want to change, but as you go forward don’t forget how far you’ve come already. You have a lot going for you. Embrace that and be confident. You really are all that.

Learning to Forget

22 May

Many years ago, I had an elderly friend that was always cheerful, and happy. I was fortunate to be able to spend time with her, and talk with her about her life. Once we discussed a difficult time when her husband made some choices that hurt her deeply. I asked her how she coped, and she said, “I distinctly remember forgetting about that,” and she laughed. She said she had forgiven him for his decisions, had forgotten about them, and moved on.

We hear the saying, “Forgive and forget,” frequently. For many of us forgiving someone who has hurt us is possible, but the forgetting can be another story. It’s hard to let go of something that has really caused us pain, and truly forget about it. We learn from it as we go forward, and sometimes we want to hang on to it. We’re not really sure that forgetting is in our best interest. After all, if we forget what they’ve done to us, they might do it again.

Is it possible to truly forgive someone without forgetting what they’ve done? Shouldn’t we remember what happened so we are wiser the next time around? What does it actually mean to forget? Is it possible to completely un-remember something? According to the dictionary, to forget can mean to “disregard intentionally” or to “overlook.” Using those suggestions, we don’t have to pretend what hurt us never happened, but can choose not to focus on it anymore going forward. We can disregard it. We can let it go. We can overlook it. Perhaps this is the most effective use of forgetting when we are trying to forgive.

I am sure my friend from long ago well remembered what her husband had done when he hurt her. But she chose to let it go. She decided not to focus on it, or bring it up again. She moved on. If we can do that when someone offends us, forgive them the affront, and then let it go, we can still learn from the experience. We don’t have to completely wipe it from our minds, but we can move on, and not obsess over it. In that way we will be successful in forgiving, and forgetting.

Today if someone offends you, hurts you, or makes you feel bad, you may choose to forgive them. If you do, forget what happened by letting it go. Look at it, learn from it, determine how you’ll manage it, and move on. Keep moving forward.