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Tag Archives: Skill

The Dark Side

18 Sep

Life is filled with ups and downs. One minute everything is sailing along fine and we’re comfortable and then a ringer gets thrown into our plans and everything goes awry. Everyone wants their days to be easy and fun but unfortunately, we don’t live in paradise and there will be problems. As we go through one complication after another we learn to be flexible and hopefully gain increased patience and understanding. We can keep our wits about us when the road ahead gets dark and trust we’ll find our way through. Many times, we’re able to see what needs to be done so we can accomplish the task at hand, but sometimes if the problem is very serious and we’re intensely impacted we may struggle to stand, much less move forward. Bad things happen. People do things that hurt us, plans fail, sickness comes, and there may be times when we have to completely change where we’re headed. When darkness falls and it’s hard to see, we may get discouraged. But the light is still there. It’s still shining over us above the clouds and we will reach it. We can trust we’ll be able to manage and survive. We’ll learn many things through trial and take them with us to help us going forward. Life is an incredible blessing. If we remember how strong and capable we are, in the midst of trouble we’ll feel more confident and find the answers we need.

It seems like life would be so much better if everything would just go the way we wanted it to. If we could get up each morning knowing nothing would go wrong we would feel more comfortable and happy. However, if all our days were perfect there would be nothing to strive for. We would have no reason to learn anything new or try to improve ourselves. Everything would be the same every day and we would remain exactly as we are. Trials open new horizons for growth and teach us more about ourselves and the world around us. We gain new skills and depth as we overcome each problem and become wiser and more patient. Struggle brings great blessings to our lives. We can take those blessing with us to enhance the way ahead.

We may face a time when many things go wrong all at once. It can be overwhelming to figure out what to do when the ground we’re standing on is shaking and unsure. If we’re stunned to our very core with an issue that has knocked us down, we don’t have to jump up right away. We can take a moment to settle and see the situation openly. We have everything we need to face anything that happens and every answer is there for us. We don’t have to solve everything at once. We can take one step at a time and open each door as it appears. We are stronger than we think we are and nothing can hold us down. Every success is still waiting for us and with patience and persistence we will reach it.

Today if you’re in the midst of a very difficult situation and have no idea what to do next, stand still for moment and take everything in. The answers are already there for you. Take one step forward and the road will open up ahead. You are amazing and strong and nothing can stop you from gaining every success you seek. Be confident. You will prevail.

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Covering

9 Jul

We are all responsible for our own lives and what we accomplish.  There may be times when we interact with someone who has a fluid idea of what their responsibility means.  They may let things slide they aren’t interested in or may manage their time in ways that prevent them from being as effective as they could be.  If we depend on them to complete something that impacts what we’re doing and they drop the ball it may stop our progress.  If the issue is important or time sensitive and hasn’t been done, we may jump in and do the job in an effort to keep things moving forward.  It’s good to be helpful but if we find we’re always covering for someone else and picking up the slack because they don’t follow through, we may create more problems for ourselves in the end.  If others begin to rely on us to cover for them there will be no reason to change their behavior.  Why should they do something they don’t want to do if we’ll come in and do it for them?  It can be hard to let something slide because someone didn’t do their part when the task is important to us, but letting others own their responsibilities and be accountable for them is appropriate.  If we stop cleaning up other people’s messes they will remain for them to address.  If something doesn’t get done we can always re-route our way forward.  There are plenty of alternatives for every situation.  We don’t have to wait indefinitely for anyone to do their part.  Instead, we can go right around them.  Our lives are ours and we can do anything we want to do.  It’s great to get cooperation from those around us, but if that’s not available, we can find the way on our own.

Helping others accomplish their tasks opens the door to learning new skills.  Each time we do something new we learn a skill to take forward with us.  It’s great to have a broad scope of understanding in the areas important to us or in arenas we enjoy.  We can offer to help when needed without taking on the full responsibility of the task.  Sharing the load can move things forward more quickly but sharing is only taking on part of the work.  We don’t have to take over the entire project simply because we want to help.  We can allow the others involved to do their part and work together to find success.

Some people don’t like to teach others about their responsibilities.  They may feel if they are the only one who knows how to do a task they will always have a place in the project.  There is security in being the only one who knows how to do something but being willing to show others how to accomplish the task will open new doors for us going forward.  We are all valuable and important and we can be open to working as a team to get things done.  All options are possible and working together will help us achieve every goal we desire.

Today if you’ve been covering for someone again and again, step back and look at your responsibilities clearly.  Do your part and let those around you do theirs.  If they don’t move forward, move around them.  You can do anything and nothing is strong enough to hold you in place.  Choose the best way forward and you will find success.