Tag Archives: Blame

All Your Fault

12 Feb

There are billions of people in the world and we all have our own opinions and decisions to make each day. When we connect with others and build our lives around them, their ideas become part of our every day experience. Sometimes they may make suggestions about what we should do, and where we should go. We can listen to their advice, and if we decide to do what they suggest, we never know what the results will be. Sometimes things may go well, and we may be grateful for the help. But if things go wrong, our feelings may be far different. If we’re suffering because we did something someone else thought was a good idea, we may blame them for what’s happened and tell them our troubles are all their fault. After all, if they hadn’t suggested the idea, we would never have done it. While it’s true they may own the idea, it’s also true that once we decided to follow through with it, it became ours. We own all our decisions, even the ones that don’t work out. If we follow along, what happens is on us. We are in control of everything we do. There is no way to place the blame for a disastrous decision we make on someone else. Nothing is permanent and no matter what goes wrong, we can change direction. Mistakes are a natural part of life and teach us a lot about our world and ourselves. Accepting a wrong turn and then doing what is needed to correct our course will help us find success. Every destination is possible. Even if we get lost a time or two, we can reach any goal we desire. We can be confident we will prevail, and step forward with clarity and assurance that we will succeed.

Some people feel very confident they are right and when decisions are looming, may challenge those around them. If we don’t agree with their position, we may feel intimidated trying to get our point across. If we sit back and keep our thoughts to ourselves, deciding it’s easier to follow along than take a chance, we own what happens next. Every viewpoint has value and we can voice our opinion with confidence. We are in charge of our lives, and can choose the way forward.

Nobody is perfect and there will be times when we turn the wrong way and things go south. There will likely be someone else who was involved in some way, and if we like, we can point the finger at them and say it’s their fault. Placing blame will never fix our situation, and if we’re being dishonest, may make it worse. We are where we are. How we got there is no longer germane. The best we can do is look ahead and decide on the best road moving forward. Life is filled with all kinds of complications. We can learn from every experience, and make excellent decisions that will take us to our goals. Nothing is out of reach, and with patience, and wisdom, we will succeed.

Today if everything has gone wrong, own your decisions and decide on the best way forward. Mistakes don’t define your life. You are intelligent and capable. Learn everything you can from what’s happened and determine your next step. Every success is still there for you. Be strong and confident. You know what you want, and you will prevail.

Not Me

7 Feb

Nobody is perfect and although we try to always make good decisions and choose well, sometimes we’re going to make mistakes. It’s the normal course of life. We might decide to do something that seems good at the beginning but turns into a complete mess, screwing up our lives and anyone else involved. It happens to everyone and nobody is exempt. We’re going to go the wrong way from time to time, and what we do after that will determine what happens next. When the bottom falls out and we’re left holding the bag, we can try to deflect the blame onto someone else. We could say it wasn’t us, we weren’t involved, nobody told us about it, and a million other excuses that won’t change anything. Pushing the blame for something we’ve done onto someone else will never help, and will reflect badly on us going forward. Many times, everyone already knows who was involved when things go wrong. Pretending to be invisible or making sure we’re somewhere else when it all hits the fan won’t fix anything. We’re accountable for everything we do and every decision we make. Hiding, deflecting, pretending or trying to dodge our involvement will only delay the inevitable. It’s far better, no matter how bad things are, to stand tall and admit our involvement. It’s only a mistake, not the end of the world. Nothing is permanent and no matter what’s happened there will be a way to correct our course. We are intelligent and can find the way forward no matter how convoluted the situation may seem. With confidence and courage, we can address any misstep and make whatever changes are needed to point us in the right direction. Every destination is possible and we will find the way ahead.

It’s impossible to know everything about everything. When we’re making decisions, there may be something we can’t see or some fact we don’t know about. We can only use the information available to us at any time, and if we discover later there is more to the story that affects the way forward negatively, we can modify our plans. If we’re flexible and open, we can still find our way to the goal despite any complications. Life is filled with possibilities and there will always be another way ahead. With focus and planning, we can reach any destination we desire.

There may be times when we might be blamed for something we didn’t do. It’s difficult to feel the scorn of others for something we’re not responsible for and we may certainly stand up for ourselves and protest our innocence. If doubt still remains, we can continue forward making the best choices possible, and in time, truth will prevail. We can make excellent decisions that show the world who we are, and that take us where we want to go and help us achieve our most valued goals. We are strong and powerful, and we will prevail.

Today if things have gone wrong from a decision you’ve made, own your part and do what is needed to correct the situation. Mistakes happen and you can change direction. Look at everything openly and decide on the best course of action. You are wise and intelligent, and all the answers are there for you. Trust yourself. You will prevail.

Swimming Upstream

20 Sep

Everyone has their own opinions about how things should go and what life should be like. There is no one, perfect way to live and our interpretations are just as valid as anyone else’s. Some people like to put judgments on things and label other people by what they see and think they understand. If they don’t agree with choices we’re making or how we’re living our lives, they may mock or disparage us. We’re entitled to do anything we like and can express ourselves in ways that reflect who we are and what we want. We’re unique, and don’t have to follow anyone else’s ideas about how we should look or what we should do. But differences are hard for some to accept and they may criticize us when we don’t fit their model or ridicule the decisions we’re making. We can believe what they tell us and try to change to fit in, but our choices are important. We can always continue on the path we desire. Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves, and every choice we make tells the world who we are and where we’re headed. Our lives are ours to design and we never have to modify them to go along with someone else. We deserve to make every decision confidently and with purpose. Swimming along with everyone else brings conformity but does not ensure happiness. If we want something different, we can turn around and swim upstream. Even if we’re the only ones going our way, we can continue on with confidence and determination. We are responsible for our own happiness. We can pursue any goal we desire, and have the lives we dream about. We don’t need permission or agreement to move forward, and every possibility is there for us. Nothing is too difficult or complicated for us to overcome, and every success is waiting. All options are possible and we will prevail.

Lots of people will give us their opinions and advice, whether we ask for them or not. We can listen to every perspective but the roads we take are ours to choose. We already know what we want, and have everything we need to achieve every single dream. Each decision we make will take us somewhere. If we choose the paths that lead to the destinations we most desire, we’ll find great satisfaction and happiness.

It’s easy to follow someone else’s lead. If we let others make decisions about our lives and they don’t work out, we’re not to blame. However, letting others design our lives will never take us where we want to go or bring lasting fulfillment. We have everything we need to create the lives we want, and have all the courage and wisdom necessary to go anywhere we desire. We can be confident and step forward with clarity and determination. Every blessing is possible and we can make them ours.

Today if you’ve been going along with everyone else because it’s easier and you don’t want to rock the boat, remember your dreams and desires are important. You deserve complete happiness. Decide what you want most and then step forward toward the goal. You are amazing and strong, and nothing can hold you in place. All your dreams are possible and you can have the life you desire. Be confident. Nothing is out of reach, and you will succeed.

Paying the Piper

16 May

We make all kinds of decisions as we go through our lives. Everyone wants to make good choices that bring us the results we’re seeking. Often, we’re successful but sometimes, because we don’t have all the information or we’re pressured by someone or something to go a certain way, we may falter. If we persist in making foolish choices out of habit or laziness, or if we just don’t pay any attention before we jump, we may find we’ve complicated our lives and have no idea how to correct them. There is an old saying, that if you call the dance you have to pay the piper, meaning for every decision we make, there will be an inescapable consequence. If the result is something we don’t want or can’t face we may deny we made the decision or try to hide from the ramifications of our choice. Denials and running away will never work. In the end, we are accountable for everything we do. Once we have chosen the first step on the path, we also must accept the last. Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes. If we’ve stumbled and chosen badly, we can stand tall and face whatever happens as a result. We can admit our mistake and then do what is needed to correct our course. If others have been hurt or impacted negatively, we can address each situation and amend our actions. Life is all about learning and we never know what lies ahead. We don’t know everything and each step we take opens our vision a little further. We learn more about where we are, who we are, and where we’re headed as we move ahead. In time, any doubts will clear and we’ll find our way step by step. We can do anything and go anywhere, and we can make excellent choices. The whole world is there for us and with wisdom and patience, we can make it ours.

There isn’t anything we can’t change. Nothing in life is permanent and if we’ve made a mistake in judgement – even a huge one – we can change direction and correct our course. We aren’t doomed forever because we took a wrong turn. Even the direst of situations can be modified and amended until we find resolution. The world won’t end because we made a bad choice. Life will continue and we will survive. Nothing can keep us from success. If we’ve gone the wrong way, we can turn around and start again.

Some people like to play the blame game. When someone does something wrong, they continue to hold it against them and refuse to trust them again. That is their decision and belongs solely to them. If they cannot move beyond what’s happened, we can still continue forward. Blame belongs to those who carry it and cannot keep us from progressing. We can continue on with confidence and make choices that will take us where we want to go until we reach the destinations we desire.

Today if you’ve made a big mistake and it’s caused serious disharmony and disruption, look at the situation clearly and change direction. Mistakes don’t control your life. Correct your course and forgive yourself. You are wise and capable, and can make excellent decisions. Every challenge is manageable and you will find your way. Be confident. You have so much to offer. Step forward and find success.

Small Things

25 Apr

We make countless decisions as we navigate through our days.  Many of them are trivial and have no lasting impact on our lives, but some have far reaching consequences.  Sometimes the simplest, seemingly innocent choices can turn our lives toward something we don’t want and never planned on.  There is no way to read the future and many things are out of our control.  If we don’t pay attention we may choose quickly and move on only to end up with complications we never wanted and aren’t prepared for.  Small things may combine to become big issues and before we know it we’re tangled up in ways we never imagined.  It’s easy to coast through our lives and ignore cues that something may change.  We’re busy and sometimes don’t take time to review all the facts before we move forward.  Rushing through in order to move on in a hurry may work against us.  It does no good to do something quickly if it results in a situation that takes time to clean up.  We are capable of making excellent decisions but they require thought and preparation.  We are responsible for every decision we make and we can take a moment to look ahead and do our best to ensure we are choosing well.  We can’t blame a negative choice on those around us, bad timing, or any other convenient excuse.  We own it.  If we’ve chosen poorly and now have a mess to deal with we can face it head on, do what is needed to correct our course, and continue forward.  We can have any kind of life we desire and our choices are what create it for us.  We are wise enough to choose well and make decisions that take us where we want to go.

When things go wrong because of something we’ve done it’s easy to shift the blame.  We can say we were influenced by others around us, were having a bad day, or didn’t have all the facts before we decided.  All of these things may be true but we are the only ones responsible for the choices we make.  We have enough wisdom and patience to see any situation clearly.  We know how to make good decisions and when we do the chances of things going our way are increased.

There will be times when we’re not sure of the road ahead but if we make the best choice possible we will be able to manage any complication that arises.  Confidence comes over time as we make choices that bring us the results we’re seeking.  There isn’t anything we can do and do well.  We can trust ourselves to choose wisely and fearlessly move forward toward our goals.  Complications may come but we have everything we need to untangle any problem we must face.  We can move forward with courage and make excellent choices.  When we do, all our dreams can come true.

Today if you’re tangled up because of a choice you’ve made, take your time and see everything clearly.  You know how to correct your course and you will find the way forward.  You are amazing and strong.  Think about your next step and choose the road that will take you to your goal.  Nothing is too far away for you to reach.  All options are possible.  See the way ahead and move forward confidently.  You are wise and capable and all your dreams are there for you.

A Thousand Miles

8 Sep

We all have ideas about how our lives should go and what we want to do.  If we were all alone in our pursuits and could keep anything from blocking our way forward, success would come easily.  But there are billions of people sharing the planet with us and some of them can get right up in our faces.  Despite our best efforts to dodge obstacles we may get waylaid and find that we are nowhere near our goal.  We may feel like we’re a thousand miles away from it.  Getting pushed off course by something that happens over which we have no control or going along with someone else’s plans may take us far from where we want to go.  People can be very persuasive and if they want us to participate in something important to them we may step away from our chosen path to follow them.  It’s important to find ways to get along with others and we all want to be helpful and kind, but we don’t have to forsake what is important to us.  We can set personal limits on our time so that we have the resources we need to pursue our own goals.  People will take all the time we’re willing to give and it’s up to us to determine where the lines are.  We can always redirect our course and redefine our priorities.  If we want to change our direction we may change it.  We are always in control of our lives and can move closer to our goals by taking steps in the direction that will lead to them.  Nothing is out of reach and we can always achieve success.

It’s easy to blame others or situations when we lose our way.  While there are times in our lives when we must do things that take us off our chosen path, we can continue forward by modifying our journey and continuing to focus on our goals.  No matter what we’re doing we can take another step forward.  There is great reward and happiness when we find ways to work successfully around any obstacle.  We deserve to have all our dreams come true, and by keeping our eyes focused on the way forward we can achieve anything.

There are endless distractions in life.  There are things that are fun and enjoyable, developments that complicate our lives over which we have no control, and even some mindless distractions that do nothing but waste time.  We can engage in any activity we choose at any time but if we want to achieve our personal goals we must value the time we give them.  The road forward is always there for us.  We can procrastinate our choices but we will never complete any journey we don’t start.  Every destination is available to us and we can do anything we desire.  Choosing to work toward what we want most will bring us happiness and satisfaction, and make our lives fulfilling and joyful.

Today if you know where you want to go but have been distracted by activities around you, think about your way forward.  Take the first step on the road that will lead you to success.  There isn’t anything you can’t accomplish and all your dreams can come true.  Focus on what’s most important to you today, work around any obstacle in your way, and begin the journey.  The destination is waiting for you and nothing will keep you from it.

Paying the Bill

5 Jun

There is an old saying that there is no such thing as a free lunch, meaning no matter what we do or what we seek there will always be a price to pay.  Everything we do has a consequence.  We are not isolated living on a desert island alone and every choice we make, everything we say, and every action we take will have a result that may impact others.  We are accountable for everything we do and if we create stress or problems we will have to correct the situation.  If we are wise and careful in all our dealings our balance sheet may be easier to manage than if we simply do anything we like without regard to what may happen afterward.  We know how to make excellent decisions and for the most part try to do our best, but complications come to us all and sometimes the way forward is cloudy and hard to decipher.  When that happens we make the best decisions with what we have and if things go awry we can do what is needed to turn things around.  Being accountable for our actions is not optional and is required in everything we do.  We can make positive decisions and plan our choices carefully so they bring us the results we are seeking.  We can pay our bills as we go and move forward with confidence taking all we’ve learned along with us.

Some people are careless and thoughtless.  They make decisions based on how they feel at the moment with no regard to consequence.  There may be issues with self-control, temperament, or personal discipline and when things go wrong they often blame others or circumstance.  We can do anything we like and if we don’t care about others we can make choices based simply on our personal desires.  Whether we acknowledge it or not we are accountable and must pay for every choice we make.  We can make excuses and blame others but in the end we own our decisions.  If we are selfish we may lose connections with others, if we are insensitive we may lose relationships with those we care about and if we are careless we may hurt those around us and ourselves in the end.  Like a pebble dropped in a pond, every decision we make may have many ramifications.  Remembering those possibilities will help us make the best decisions possible and prevent problems as we move forward.

Even when we’re careful and plan wisely sometimes things go wrong.  When they do if we’ve been wise in our decisions we will find the way through.  There are always lots of factors we can’t control and there may be situations of which we are unaware.  When problems develop we have all the courage and wisdom we need to find the answers and re-direct our way forward.  We can see all the options available to us and choose the best road ahead.  There isn’t any complication too complex for us to manage and we will find success.

Today if you’ve made a mistake in judgment and the consequences are difficult to manage, look ahead and find the best way forward.  You know where you want to go.  Choose wisely and move ahead with confidence.  You are strong and smart, and there isn’t anything you can’t do and succeed.  Keep moving.  The best is yet to come.