The Gift

8 Aug

We have all kinds of responsibilities and tasks to get done. Some are routine and we’re used to managing them, but other stuff comes up and if we’re facing something difficult or unpleasant, we may put it off and try to avoid it. We don’t want to look at it, we don’t want to deal with it, and we would love someone else to volunteer to take it off our hands. When we have a lot to carry, it would be very convenient to hand everything that’s weighing on us over to someone else and walk away. Just leave it with them and let them deal with it. We can try that and we might be able to get rid of a few things but nobody is going to forget the little gift we gave them, and in time, they may bring us an even bigger one to deal with in return. Fair is fair, and if we expect others to take care of our crap, we have to be willing to take care of theirs. Since there is no way to know how big their issues might be, it’s better to stand firm, and manage the issues we have on our own. It doesn’t usually work to push our problems off on others but that doesn’t mean others won’t try to push their troublesome tasks off onto us. If we’re open and welcoming, they may simply hand them off and ask us to take care of them. We might be okay with that once in a while, but if it becomes habit, it might seriously impact our time and our relationship. Everyone is responsible for their own lives and their own responsibilities. We don’t have to solve anyone else’s problems or carry their burdens for them. Our lives will bring us enough to manage, and if we manage it well, and take care of things as they arise, we will feel great satisfaction as we move forward. Our confidence will rise and we’ll find great success.

Some people need more attention and help than others. They may be unsure of their abilities, need more information, they may be confused, or they may just be lazy. Whatever the case, if we’re asked to help, we can certainly step up and try to assist. But helping with an issue isn’t taking ownership of it. The problem does not belong to us and we are never responsible for solving it. We can help where possible and offer any advice we may have, and allow those who own the problem to find the answers they need.

There are all kinds of problems and complications in life. Nobody can solve them all or save anyone else. We can take care of our own issues and, when possible, help those around us take care of theirs. We are strong enough for anything our life brings, and can solve any problem or face any trial that arises. If asked, we can help those around us, but we can never carry the load for everyone else. We can be considerate and try to assist, but the responsibility for the success of others lies with them. We can take care of our responsibilities, share when we can, and find great success and happiness moving forward.

Today if someone has asked you take on a problem that belongs to them, you need not agree. Be helpful, but let others manage their own issues, and give the gift of self-reliance. You are incredible and wise, and we’re all enriched by your presence. Set the best example moving forward and the whole world will benefit.

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Caught Up

7 Aug

Every choice we make is a reflection of where we are and where we’re headed, and if we choose well, will move us closer to the goals we desire. However, there are a lot of people around us and some of them may influence us in ways that take us off course. They may convince us they have the answers we’re seeking and if we follow them and do what they suggest, we will reach the destinations we desire. It’s possible someone else might have the inside track to where we want to go, but nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. Strong willed, and highly self-directed people may be very convincing, and we may be attracted to their confidence and believe everything they say. Everyone has something to offer, and it’s helpful to take good advice, but our lives belong solely to us. What we do and where we go is our choice. If we’re impressed by someone else and get caught up in their ideas, we may give up our own decisions and simply do what they suggest. If we do, we may end up living a life designed by them. Living someone else’s idea of what we should do may bring us success of some kind, but will never allow us to live the lives we want the most. We only get one life and it’s up to us to design it in ways that bring us fulfillment and complete happiness. Following someone else’s directions will take us to the destinations they’ve chosen. We deserve to live our lives authentically and unique to our own personal choices. We can go exactly where we want to go, and do exactly what we want to do. There isn’t anything we can’t achieve, and by choosing our own steps forward, can have the lives we want the most.

Spiders spin sticky webs in order to catch food so they can survive. Although we don’t spin actual webs, it is possible to create a psychological web in order to control someone close to us. We can be manipulated into believing we need another’s influence or we’ll never succeed. If we get caught in someone else’s web, we may feel helpless and unable to move. We’re always in control of our lives and no matter where we are or what’s happening, can step away and change direction. We are smart and capable, and have all the power we need to do anything we want.

If we’re unsure about where we’re going or are struggling to find the way forward, someone may step in and offer advice. We may certainly listen to any suggestions we receive, but the choices we make belong to us. Suggestions are not directions, but simply ideas we may consider. We already know what we want to do and where we want to go. We have everything we need to plan the way forward to reach the goals we desire most. Nothing is beyond our reach and we have all the wisdom and courage needed to go anywhere and do anything.

Today if you’ve been caught up in someone else’s ideas about how you should live, remember you are smart enough to do things your way. You are stronger and wiser than you realize, and nothing is too difficult for you to manage. Trust yourself and begin moving forward. The whole world is there for you. Every dream is possible, and you will succeed.

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Escape

6 Aug

Life is full of options and opportunities. Every single day brings something new into our lives, and new people will come and go as time passes. Sometimes we make lasting relationships and spend significant time with someone, getting to know them well, and incorporating them into our lives. If our values are similar, and we’re interested in the same things, those bonds may be very strong. It’s good to make close connections but it won’t happen with everyone we meet. We may have passing interactions with people we see once and don’t see again. As we’re getting to know someone and begin to build rapport with them, we learn more about them. We might find we have lots in common, or we may discover their true attributes are nothing we want to be involved with. Maybe they’re dishonest, or make horrible decisions that bring grief and destruction to everyone around them, or they have deep, hidden hatred for others. We never have to stay in any situation or relationship that makes us uncomfortable. We can always step back, and step away. There is no reason to continue an association that isn’t working or that will bring us discomfort. Escape is always an option in every circumstance, no matter what’s going on. We can choose another path and go our own way. We are never inexorably tied to anyone else. Our lives belong to us and we can manage them in ways that are positive and work well. If someone around us is doing things we don’t want, or is making decisions that don’t work for us, we can walk away. We’re all responsible for the lives we live. Every choice we make takes us somewhere, and we can ensure where we’re headed is where we want to go. Every blessing is possible and there are unlimited roads to travel. We can have the lives we dream about and find great, abiding happiness.

Most of us try to be helpful and want to be patient with others who are struggling. We can be supportive but it’s impossible to change anyone but ourselves. It never works to try to fix someone else’s life for them. Everyone owns their own problems and must find their own solutions. We’re not responsible for saving anyone else, and we need not accept or excuse bad behavior, or go along with bad decisions. We can set an excellent example for success, and step forward with confidence and clarity.

We may be asked to help when someone has twisted their lives up and don’t know what to do. We can be kind and offer any advice we feel appropriate, but they must solve their problems on their own. Getting tangled up in the confusion of someone else’s mistakes will not help them find resolution. We can be supportive and still allow them to do what is needed to resolve their situation. We all have everything we need to find the way forward.

Today if you’re in a situation that’s uncomfortable, and you don’t want to continue, you can step away. You know what’s best for you and how you want to proceed. Take control and do what is needed to change direction and start again. You are valuable and important, and can go anywhere. Make the best decisions moving forward and you will reach your goals. Nothing can keep you from the life you desire.

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Two Wrongs

5 Aug

Every decision we make takes us somewhere. If we’re mindful and careful, and take time to see the road ahead before we choose, we have a better chance of ending up somewhere we want to go. There’ll always be unforeseen complications and details we don’t know about, and sometimes things will go wrong. But most of the time, if we consider all our options, we can make excellent choices that bring us the results we desire. If we get involved in a situation where someone has a lot of influence over us and asks us to do something we aren’t sure about, we may hesitate. If they’re forceful and determined to push us their way, despite our concerns, we may acquiesce and go along. Sometimes other people’s decisions will work out for us but other times we may end up headed for trouble. We always have the choice to change direction and start again, but if we’re swept up under someone’s influence, we may feel powerless to turn around. One bad decision may lead to another, and then another, and before we know it, we’re in foreign and difficult territory, far from where we want to be. Two wrongs can never make anything right. They don’t cancel each other out, and continuing on the wrong road in the hopes that somehow it will magically turn into the right one, will never work. We’re always in control of our lives and no matter what others choose or how much pressure they bring in an effort to take us along, we can make our own decisions. We don’t have to agree to anything we don’t want. Nobody knows more about where we want to go than we do. We can have the lives we desire most by making careful choices that lead us to the destinations we want. Every blessing is possible and with patience and determination, we will find true happiness.

Some people like to control others to get what they want. If we have something they want, they may do all kinds of things to try and make us give it. If we don’t agree, they may manipulate the situation to pressure us into compliance. It’s very difficult and unpleasant to deal with situations like these, and if being honest and straightforward doesn’t work, we may consider something underhanded in an effort to escape. We’re always accountable for everything we do, and there is no excuse powerful enough to turn bad behavior into good. Choosing well will always bring blessings. We have all the courage and wisdom we need to make decisions that reflect our high standards and hold fast to what is noble and right.

If we go along with a bad decision that complicates and negatively impacts our life, we can stay with it and hope things will improve, or stop and rethink the way forward. No decision is written in stone and we can change direction at any time. We don’t need permission or agreement to correct our course. Every road is possible and with determination and focus, we can move toward the destinations we want the most.

Today if someone is pressuring you to make a choice you don’t agree with, stand firm and choose what’s best for you. You’re in control of your life and can go anywhere you desire. Every option is available and you will find the right way forward. Choose roads that will take you where you want to go, and make your dreams come true.

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Treasure

2 Aug

Everyone has their own opinions about everything in life. We like certain things, we understand other things, and we deal with what we don’t appreciate. We make our own personal judgments and we’re entitled to our own ideas and interpretations. We’re all unique and see things through individual filters. What one person sees as a benefit another may view as a problem. There are endless perceptions and the world is filled with differences. We may find ourselves in a situation where someone sees us in a negative light. They may not appreciate our point of view, or how we look, or present ourselves, and they may deride or criticize, telling us we are worthless. Their comments may pierce us deeply and hurt, and if we aren’t confident, we may believe what they say. Everything we do and everything we say expresses who we are, either positive or negative. Some people find satisfaction in belittling others and making them feel small and insignificant. They like to muscle over them, deriding and humiliating as they push them aside. People may do and say anything they like, but they can never change the truth. No matter what someone may think or how demeaning they may be, we will still be valuable and worthwhile. Nothing can change that. We are unique treasures, here to give gifts to the world only we have to offer. There are no words or actions that can take that away. The opinions of others don’t diminish our influence or our goodness. Each of us is priceless and of unlimited worth. We can be confident and strong, and bring light to those around us. The world is blessed because we are here, and nothing will ever change that.

There are all kinds of people and there will likely be times when we interact with someone we don’t like. Maybe they grate on our nerves, or annoy us with their behaviors, or we don’t understand their views. It’s normal to have differences from time to time, and it may be difficult to deal with someone. We’re all unique and we won’t always blend well together but even when we don’t, we can still honor them. There is nothing to be gained by pointing out flaws, or demeaning anyone because they don’t match our way of thinking. We can be respectful and kind, even when we disagree, and extend the hand of friendship.

If someone has made it clear they don’t think much of us, and takes every opportunity to explain how we don’t measure up, it’ll be hard to interact with them. They can have their own views, but we don’t need to internalize them and make them ours. We can remember how valuable we are, and continue forward with confidence, trusting that we are making a positive impact on the world around us. There is greatness in all of us, and we are worth more than we imagine.

Today if someone has made you feel insignificant and worthless, remember there is nobody else like you in the entire creation. You are a unique and valuable treasure, and we’re all blessed by your influence. Your voice is important and you bring richness to the whole world. Be strong and go forward with confidence. You are a gift to us all, and everything is better because you are here.

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