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Going Through

16 Feb

As we go through our lives we experience many new things.  Some experiences are easy, make us happy and move us forward, and others are more difficult to navigate and may leave lasting scars.  If we’ve been through a very intense and unpleasant event, and we’ve been hurt deeply or our way forward has been completely altered, we may feel the pain for some time.  Everything we go through teaches us something, and not all lessons are positive.  When we’re overcoming a difficult passage and must find a new way forward, we may feel bruised and uncertain.  We may even begin to believe we will never succeed again, and choose to stand still and hold tight to what is familiar.  We can live our lives any way we like and there is always the option of staying in the same place.  But we are capable of achieving even our highest expectations and if we stand still we will never know how far we could go.  There is comfort in familiarity and if we’re recovering from something difficult, staying close to what we know may help us feel strong again.  But once we’re back on our feet and things have settled, we can start on a new road and begin once more.  Life is filled with opportunity and there is nothing we can’t do.  We can be courageous enough to let go of pain from the past and move forward with confidence.  The road is long and we have much to learn.  Walking forward and pushing ahead will help us become the people we really want to be.  We are stronger and braver than we realize.  There is nothing we can’t do.  We can move forward and overcome any obstacle.  Our lives belong to us and we will find happiness and success.

If we’ve been through a traumatic event and our lives have changed dramatically, it can feel like we’ve fallen into a deep well that is impossible to escape.  The only constant in life is change.  No matter where we are or what’s happening now, it will change.  There is no way to hold anything in place forever.  When it feels like everything is out of control and we are held down by pain or fear, we can step back and trust that soon things will be different.  We are capable of managing anything that comes to us.  Time will turn the tide, and we will find our footing again.

We cannot control what others do or what comes to us but we are always in control of our own lives.  Our decisions are always in our power and even if we feel lost we can make our own choices going forward.  There will always be another road to walk on, and another way to get where we want to go.  Nothing is strong enough to hold us in place or take our choices from us.  We can decide how we want to continue forward.  Success is always there for us and no matter where we are now, there is a road that will take us to it.

Today if you’ve been through a difficult passage and are holding yourself in place, remember how strong and capable you are.  There isn’t anything too complicated for you to overcome.  Your life belongs to you alone and you can make excellent decisions.  Look ahead and choose the road you want to travel.  Be confident and begin forward.  Everything you dream of is waiting for you and you will reach it.

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Beginning

21 Sep

We all experience loss as we go through our lives. Sometimes it’s minor and easily forgotten, but other times the loss may impact us greatly. If we lose a loved one, the friendship of someone we value, a personal relationship or something we want very much to keep, we may suffer greatly. Loss is a difficult process and we may seriously grieve for a time. Learning to live without what is gone may feel nearly impossible at first but as time passes we find a way to move forward and adjust our understanding of where we are. Endings can be painful but each ending brings the gift of a beginning with it. We may not see anything new at first and may hold onto hope that somehow, we may restore what has passed. All endings have beginnings attached to them and in time we will see them. We are not frozen in place and every time we end something we start something else. If the loss is great we may struggle to navigate for a while and the future may seem dark and bleak. But as each day passes we gain strength and eventually acceptance. Once we accept that our lives have changed and we are on a new road we can begin to plan the way forward. Loss is a natural part of life. Even when it’s very difficult we will find a way through. There isn’t anything strong enough or difficult enough to hold us in place. We will begin to walk forward again and find joy.

We have all the power we need within us to do anything. No matter what is happening we know what we want and what we need to do. The lessons and challenges of our lives have taught us how to survive and find our way. All the experiences we’ve had already will come forward and help us navigate a new road ahead. We’ve been successful many times already and will be successful again. If we trust in our abilities to overcome trials and remember how strong we are, we will prevail. There isn’t anything we can’t do. We can trust ourselves to find the way forward and start again.

If we’ve suffered a sudden extreme loss we may be stunned and unable to move. It’s okay to stand still when we need to and we can take time to think and process what’s happening. There is no rush and we can go slowly. Healing takes time and we can move at our own pace. We can allow ourselves the space we need to understand our situation and look at our options going forward. We have everything necessary to begin again and when we’re ready we can take the first step. The future is still there for us and we will find our way.

Today if you’ve suffered a difficult loss and are confused and unsure how to move forward, give yourself time to think and take things slowly. There is no rush and you will find your way. Your future is still secure and you will find success. The answers are there for you and you will find them. You have everything you need to face anything you must. You are stronger than you know and perfectly capable of overcoming anything. Trust yourself. Every good thing is there for you.

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Moving On

11 Jul

There are all kinds of people in the world. Some embellish our lives and bring us fun and happiness. Others may bring complication and drama. There are limitless experiences and we might face times when we get hurt because of our association with someone. The human race is a mixed bag and from day to day we never know what we’re going to see. When we have painful experiences with others and are hurt deeply we may want to get as far from them as possible, and sometimes we can do that. But if we must continue to interact with them because of professional alliances or personal connections we can’t break such as family relationships, it may be hard when they are near us. If the pain is raw it may be difficult to breathe when they appear and very hard to navigate the situation. Even if we’ve been successful in staying away from them for a time, if they unexpectedly re-enter our circle it may be hard to get through. The memory of the pain from our previous experience may come flooding back and we may feel we’re suffering through it all again. Even if it feels we’re right back where we were it’s only an illusion triggered by memory. We can take a breath and remember how far we’ve come. We need not re-live anything that is painful and if old feelings wash over us we can see them objectively and let them go. Old wounds always heal if we let them and memories only have the power we give them. We have so much to offer and can keep moving forward no matter what has passed. Each day brings a new promise and we can create happy and successful lives going forward.

Deception is a destructive tool. It can be used to create convincing mirages that mislead us. If others use deception to pull us in we may find ourselves walking foreign territory, unsure of what is real and where to go. Often there is much confusion and misdirection but we may miss the cues if we value those leading us along. When the deception is revealed, as it inevitably will be, we may feel lost or shame that we fell for the lie. But there is no fault when we have faith and believe in others. The blame and responsibility belong to those who deceive and not those who are taken in.

Honesty is an all or nothing position. We’re either honest or we aren’t. There is no sliding scale or gray area. When we are honest in all our dealings our lives are easier to manage and clearly understood by those around us. If we manipulate the truth to suit our needs, or pretend to be something we aren’t, in time our deception will be uncovered. Hurting others through deception will never bring us lasting happiness. It’s far better to live cleanly and openly, even when the truth is difficult. Using dishonest plans, following those who deceive or reshaping what is real to fit our personal desires will only bring us hardship. We can live noble and honest lives and choose what is best at every turn and when we do we’ll find lasting happiness.

Today if you must face a situation that carries with it bad memories from the past, remember who you are and how far you’ve come. You are strong and resilient and capable of living an excellent and successful life. The past is behind you and has no power over your future. Go forward with confidence. There isn’t anything you can’t do.

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For Us

23 Aug

We interact with all kinds of people as we go through our lives and as we develop relationships we learn new things and understand more about who we are. Sometimes our friendships and close relationships bring us happiness, and sometimes we struggle with conflict. It’s inevitable that we’ll be hurt at some point. Someone will do or say something that is offensive and we feel the sting of pain. If the damage is great enough it may threaten the relationship or even sever our ties completely. When that happens we may carry the pain forward with us. How long we hold onto it depends on what we do. Sometimes we are able to let it go and move forward but sometimes it stays with us and we struggle trying to find our way. If a relationship has been severed, we may grieve for the loss. It can be hard to get over a deep disappointment or devastating personal injury. We may be angry at the person who hurt us and we may find it hard to forgive their actions. We may get stuck unable to move forward as we try to understand what’s happened and how to cope with the loss.

Forgiveness means to be able to stop blaming or be angry with someone else for something they’ve done. When we’re hurt and feeling bad our lives are impacted and we may be stalled as we try to navigate through. If we feel betrayed and sad it’s hard to find happiness. The disappointment may control our focus and we may get stuck trying to find our way. When we’re able to forgive we can begin to let go of the pain we’ve been carrying and move forward, and any guilt or sorrow may be assuaged. We all understand that forgiveness is a blessing for the person who commits an offense. But when we are able to forgive it changes the situation for us as well. Forgiveness brings relief from pain and anger. We can let go of the sorrow and start again. In the end, forgiveness is as much for us as for those who hurt us.

We deserve every happiness and success. Our lives belong to us and we can strive for all our dreams. But things will go wrong from time to time and we will be hurt. Getting derailed by pain and loss can hold us back and prevent us from moving forward. As long as we allow the pain to have control over us we will be stuck. When things go wrong, we can’t change what has happened but we can determine to do what is needed to release us from what is holding us back. Forgiveness is the key that will unlock the gate and let us move past. It’s a gift we give to ourselves to set us free. We can choose it and allow the pain to recede so we can walk past it and onto to our goals. We have everything we need to find happiness. We can do anything. Learning to forgive will help us accomplish everything.

Today if you’re hurt from something someone has done, and if you feel stuck and are suffering, you have the power to change it. Consider what has happened and learn what you can, and then forgive. Let it go and move into the light again. There are so many wonderful gifts waiting for you. Open the gate to forgiveness and walk toward them. You can do anything and you have all the power you need. Move forward. Happiness is there for you.

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Locked Away

8 Feb

When things go wrong in our lives, and we get hurt, it’s sometimes hard to see past the pain. We may become cautious going forward, fearful of what could happen. Things can always go wrong, but they can go right too. If we’ve been hurt and are afraid we may forget that. Sometimes after a big disappointment we might determine in order to be safe from additional pain, to lock ourselves away. It seems reasonable that if we don’t allow people to get close to us, they can’t hurt us, and we can protect ourselves going forward. The problem with that thinking is our greatest pleasures in this life come from the close relationships we build with others. If we lock ourselves away, we might prevent getting hurt, but we’ll also prevent getting close. In the big overall scheme of things, that’s a huge price to pay for emotional safety. Is it worth it? Only we can answer that, but it seems the price is greater than the reward it offers. There is no doubt that getting hurt is painful, but living a life on the periphery, unable to connect to others is a superficial existence. If we want a deep, rich, experience here, we have to be willing to get close to others, and face the possibility of getting hurt.

There are no guarantees in this life. We can try our best to know those close to us, and understand them, but people don’t always show us everything. Sometimes we may be fooled by someone who has an agenda, or wants to keep secrets. Other times we may be hurt by someone close to us because they don’t tell us the whole story. People are complex and sometimes they aren’t as forthcoming as we would like. Anytime we open our lives, or our hearts to someone else, there is some level of risk. If we’ve taken the time to know them well, that risk may be minimized, but if they are adept at hiding facets of their personality, we may still be surprised. We all have personal choices to make. We can’t control anyone but ourselves and if someone close to us chooses to, they may hurt us. We are strong enough to accept that and still choose to build close relationships.

Having courage to move forward and trust others after a difficult and hurtful experience may take time. We don’t always want to jump back into the pool after finding a shark there. We can take all the time we need to heal, and there is no rush. But if we really want to move forward, we can’t close the door and lock it. We need to leave it open, even if only just a tiny bit. If we are brave enough to think about the possibility of new relationships, we will be open when they arrive. Being open takes courage, especially after a bad experience, but it’s the only real way we can move forward and grow. If we shut ourselves off we will be stuck where the damage was done, and being stuck doesn’t allow us to grow. It might seem wise and safe at the beginning, but it will not bring us happiness in the long run. Just because one person deeply hurt us doesn’t mean everyone will. We can be cautious, and careful, and still let others in, and in time can learn to trust again.

Today if you’ve been hurt badly and don’t want to risk opening up going forward, remember there is no guarantee that the next relationship you build will hurt you. Every relationship is different. Some relationships are wonderful and a great benefit to our lives. It’s not worth missing out on those because of one bad experience. You have a lot to offer and are worth every happiness. Trust yourself. There is a lot of good in the world. And a lot of it is waiting for you.

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