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Pernicious Anger

25 Jun

Pernicious – Causing insidious harm or ruin; ruinous; injurious; or hurtful.

There are ups and downs in all our lives.  Things go right, they go wrong, disappointments happen, people let us down and there are endless other outcomes.  Anger is a normal part of life.  If someone does something that affects us negatively or our experience is far from what we want or expect we may get angry.  There is nothing wrong with feeling anger but how we express it can affect what happens next.  If we lash out at others and say or do things that are beyond what the relationship can bear, we may damage it beyond repair or lose it altogether.  Pernicious anger may ruin our connections going forward.  We are always in control of our lives and if we allow angry emotions to determine how we act we may end up somewhere we don’t want to be.  If we feel ourselves getting carried away in a wave of disappointment or anger, instead of acting out we can step back and allow ourselves to calm down before we react.  The fight or flight reflex is very strong and powerful but generally we neither need to fight nor run away to find resolution.  We can take a breath, stop and think and give ourselves a moment to see everything before we respond.  Learning to act on disappointment instead of react to it will help us find a positive outcome.  No problem is improved by adding intensity and anger to it.  We can control our actions and responses even in times of duress and navigate anger effectively.  There is always a possible positive outcome and if we take our time we’ll find it.

Self-control is a learned response.  Children express anger by crying, screaming or pouting but as we grow and mature if we want to be successful adults we must replace those instantaneous responses with something more thoughtful and successful.  There are few things more disagreeable than an adult who acts like a child.  We can learn the skills we need to be patient in disappointment and tolerant when things go wrong.  We are mature enough and wise enough to find the best way forward no matter the situation.

It’s impossible to listen to other perspectives if we’re concentrating on smashing the opposing point of view.  If we over react every time something goes wrong or someone disagrees with us we may end up burning bridges and ruining relationships.  We might win the current battle but lose the connection going forward.  We can align our priorities and address conflict in ways that protect our sincerest interests.  Maturity and wisdom come with practice and we can choose wisely in difficult times to help us become the people we most want to be and preserve the relationships we value.

Today if feel intensely angry over something, before you react take a moment to look at the situation objectively.  Determine what is most important before you move forward and then choose the path that will take you there.  You are wise and strong and what you want most is possible.  Every positive outcome is there for you and with patience and clarity you will find it.

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Not the End

25 May

When things go wrong and all our plans go up in smoke, and the one thing we’ve wanted to accomplish has seemingly moved further away, we might feel like we’ve reached the end.  We may be tired from trying hard to move forward, disappointed because nothing has gone the way we hoped, and overwhelmed at the idea of starting again.  When everything stops and the goal we want is nowhere in sight it’s tempting to give up and walk away.  When we’re sure we’re done and have reached the end of the road, and we’ve decided enough is enough, we can stop.  We don’t have to keep trying to accomplish anything difficult if we don’t want to.  There are unlimited roads available and limitless chances possible.  We can change direction or continue to take another step forward and determine to stay the course until we reach success.  We have all the courage and wisdom we need to accomplish anything we desire.  We need only decide if the goal is worth the cost, and if it is, move forward.  All our dreams can come true but they will not simply be given to us because we desire them.  They will require work and diligence even when things fall apart and if we’re willing to do what it takes we will make them real.  We can do anything.  Nothing is too difficult for us achieve if we’re determined to win.  All options are possible and we can always find success.

When we’ve been working diligently toward a difficult goal it’s normal to tire.  Even if the goal means a lot to us fatigue may make us re-think our plans.  No battery runs forever and there is no way to push hard endlessly.  When we feel the wear and tear of the struggle, we can take a break and find refreshment.  It’s good to stop when we need a rest and put everything on hold while we recharge.  When we’re ready to begin again we can continue forward with renewed conviction and confidence.  Sometimes the only difference between success and failure is taking time off.  We can be wise and pay attention to where we are and choose what we need to ensure we reach our goals.

We are always changing and sometimes our ideas about our goals going forward change with us.  If we decide we no longer want to continue on any road we can always change direction.  There is nothing wrong with revising our plans.  Change doesn’t mean failure.  Our lives are ours to design and if we no longer want something we’ve been working toward, we can change our plans and redirect the way forward.  We don’t know what we don’t know and sometimes we must get closer to a goal to see it clearly.  We can do anything we want and go anywhere we desire.  By taking the time we need to decide what’s next we can have the lives we dream about and make all our dreams come true.

Today if you’ve reached an impasse pushing toward a goal you’ve been seeking, decide how you want to proceed.  You’re in charge of your life and can go anywhere you choose.  Take a moment to think about what you really want and then move forward closer to your destination.  You are amazing and strong, and can do anything you desire.  Every dream can come true and you will find your way forward.

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Finding Balance

22 May

Life is busy and there are always a lot of things going on. No matter what we’re facing we can center ourselves and stand strong. The middle of anything must be stable in order to find balance. If it leans a little to one side or is weak, everything will fall over. We understand this when it comes to physical things we are trying to settle but the same is true within ourselves. When we’re in the midst of turmoil or stress, or a storm is raging around us, the only way to stand strong and straight is make sure we’re centered and focused on the way ahead. Distractions will always be a factor and if we look away and drop our focus we may falter and lose our balance. If we’re off kilter and leaning far in any direction but forward we may fall and take ourselves far from where we want to go. Learning to balance the many things we deal with every day takes practice. We must prioritize what is most important and find a way to accomplish them to keep us moving forward. There isn’t any destination we can’t reach and planning and concentrating on the goal will ensure we get there. No road is paved in gold and there will always be complications and unforeseen developments that tangle us up and muddy the way forward. They may push against us and require our time and effort to resolve but they need not knock us off course. We are capable of managing anything that comes and still continuing toward the goal. We can strengthen our resolve, settle our concerns and regain our balance. Every goal is possible and nothing is complex enough to keep us from success. We can stand strong even when the winds are heavy and push forward with confidence.

When we’re in a difficult situation and there are a lot of things going on we may feel we’re being pelted by an unlimited number of issues and begin to lose our balance. It can be hard to find the road ahead when all we can see is confusion and complication. There is no way to solve many problems at once but by standing firm we can solve one at a time until the situation is manageable. There isn’t anything too hard for us to unravel and we will always find the answers we need. We can be confident that we’ll find the way through and reach success.

Life teaches us something new with everything we experience. We carry those lessons forward with us to help us navigate new situations and challenges. We can rely on our personal strength and confidence to anchor us and help us when things become difficult and the winds start to blow. We’ve overcome many difficulties already and have all the wisdom we need to move forward and reach any goal we desire. We know who we are and what we want. Nothing can keep us from any destination we choose. We are powerful and wise and will always prevail.

Today if you’ve lost your balance because of what’s going on around you, remember how powerful and strong you are. Stand straight and step ahead. There isn’t anything you can’t understand and overcome. You are wise and courageous and nothing is out of reach. Be confident. All options are available and nothing is too far away. Every success is possible and you have everything you need to win.

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Walking Away

17 May

There are times in everyone’s life when what we want to happen simply won’t come. We may try and try and try again to move forward but the result we’re seeking is out of our hands and no matter what we do we can’t achieve it. At some point we must decide if we want to continue pressing ahead or turn and walk away. They say hope springs eternal. We can hope for anything but hope is only the expectation that what we want to happen will come, and sometimes our expectations aren’t met. We can work toward any goal we desire for as long as we choose but if nothing we do moves us closer to it we may need to rethink the way forward. There is nothing wrong with changing our plans and walking away from something that doesn’t work. There is much to accomplish and spinning our wheels and staying in place isn’t helpful. Setting a goal aside doesn’t mean we have to give it up completely. What we can’t achieve today may come easily in the future when our lives have changed and we’re in a different place. We can look at a difficult situation objectively and choose the way forward that will bring us success. Life is filled with endless opportunities and we are capable of achieving many things as we move forward. Being wise about how we spend out time and choosing the most productive roads will open all the doors we’re seeking. Life is long and we can revisit anything we’ve set aside and try again. Everything we want to do is possible in time. We can choose what works today and plan for new destinations tomorrow.

Our personal relationships may be very important to us. There may be someone we want to get closer to but no matter what we do they remain elusive and out of reach. We may try to pursue them indefinitely but our time is valuable and if things aren’t improving we can move on to something else. We never have to stay stuck in a holding pattern waiting for something to change. We can step away and walk in a new direction. Our lives belong to us and what we do is our responsibility. We can be successful and accomplish many things, and we can direct our lives in ways that move us forward.

Patience is a beneficial attribute. It’s good to be able to wait and we can be patient with others when they need time. We can wait for as long as we like but if we want to succeed eventually the situation must improve. If it doesn’t, we can walk away for now and move on with our lives. It will never work for us to keep waiting for something that doesn’t change. There may be an opportunity in the future if we want to try again. We can move ahead and if things are different later we can revisit our previous plans.

Today if you’ve been waiting for something to happen and nothing has changed, think about how you want to move forward. There are countless opportunities for you and you need not wait indefinitely for anything. Move forward and step on the next road. Your time is valuable and your life is precious. Seek the things that bring you happiness and move toward success. All options are possible. Open all the doors and step ahead. Every happiness is there and you will achieve it.

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Aspersions

16 May

People have all kinds of ideas about everything.  We’re all different and the way we see the world may be completely different than those around us.  We interpret what we see and hear through our own personal filters.  Different ideas may work against us at times if what we say or do is interpreted to mean something entirely different than what we intend.  Aspersions may be unjustly cast on our character due to incorrect interpretations and may cause us great discomfort as we try to figure out what happened.  If someone says something about us that has no basis in fact or reality but is merely based on their translation of something we did, we may find ourselves trying to untangle a mess we didn’t create.  The truth will always rise in time but in the interim we may be twisted around defending ourselves even if we’ve done nothing wrong.  The world is filled with all kinds of people and we have no control over what they think or do.  They may cause us considerable grief because they mistakenly believe something untoward about us.  If that happens, we will have to work through the situation until we find resolution.  It’s frustrating to feel persecuted unjustly and it may complicate our lives until we find the way through.  Truth is truth and will always rise.  No matter what has happened we will find the answers and correct any situation necessary.  We can stand firm and confident that our personal integrity and excellence will shine through.  We will find the answers and reach resolution.

No matter how nice and friendly we are, not everybody will always be our friend.  There may be times we meet someone who doesn’t like us or with whom we find it difficult to interact.  Perhaps their temperament is unpredictable, or they are angry or judgmental.  We have no control over what others do but we can control our response to anything they bring.  We can be gracious and kind in the face of anger, and polite and calm if things get out of control.  We are always in control of ourselves and can choose the best road regardless of what is happening around us.

Some people are dishonest and unethical.  If we have high personal standards it may be difficult to interact with them.  If we must work with them and they do things that are not in keeping with our values we may be very uncomfortable.  We don’t ever have to compromise what is important to us.  We can express our personal views and walk away from any situation that isn’t in keeping with them.  Our lives are ours and we may hold fast to what is important to us.  Opinions vary but our standards are ours to keep.  We can live true to the values we cherish and stay focused on what we want the most.

Today if someone has said something about you that isn’t true, remember your actions express who you really are.  Words mean nothing when they don’t represent what is real.  Continue to hold fast to the values you cherish and be the best person you can be.  Set an example of honesty and truth to the world around you.  You are amazing and nothing can diminish you.  Be confident and strong.  You know who you are and nothing will hold you back from achieving every goal you desire.

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