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Programmed

17 Mar

When we’re children, we see what our parents and other adults around us are doing and watch the decisions they make. We may begin to pattern our lives around their example because we don’t have much to compare them to. As we get older and begin to step away from the family unit more and more, our understanding of different ideas and interpretations broadens, and we begin to see that not everyone does things the same way. Everything we see changes us a little and we start to form our own ideas about how we want to live our lives and what we want to do. As we mature, we may think we’re on a completely different road than the one our parents taught us, and then we realize we’ve made a decision exactly the same way as they would. We may believe we really haven’t changed at all, and think we’re programmed to continue making the same choices and the same mistakes we saw our first family make, and there’s nothing we can do about it. While it’s definitely true that what we learned and saw as a child may have influence over what we do as adults, nobody is destined to repeat history. We all have our own agency and can do anything we like, but we must consciously decide what that will be. It takes effort to live “on purpose” instead of just going through the motions. Each of us is an individual and we can all design our lives any way we like. There is no destiny keeping us from making our own choices. It’s all up to us. If we want to turn in a different direction, we can. If we want to go down a new road, we can. Everything is possible. Nothing can keep us from achieving any goal we desire. By deciding what we want, and then doing what is needed to make it ours, we can have the lives we want the most. Great success is possible, and we will prevail.

Some families stay very close to tradition. They follow the same rules the generation before followed and hold firm to the habits and customs of the past. Just because something has always been done one way doesn’t mean it cannot be done differently. Despite tradition, we are in control of our own lives. We can continue to follow the traditional behaviors if that’s what we want, or we can forge our own way forward. We know what we want and have everything we need to achieve it.

It takes courage to live our lives according to our own personal desires and aspirations. The pressure to follow along with the norm can be great, but it’s impossible to make our own dreams come true by following what others are doing. We are entitled to complete fulfillment and happiness, and by following our personal desires and doing what is needed to make them ours, we will achieve it. Every single dream is possible, and nothing can keep us from success.

Today if you want to move in a different direction but have hesitated, decide what you want the most, and take the first step forward. Every destination is there for you and you have everything you need to reach them. Be confident. You are amazing and powerful, and have all the courage you need to succeed.

Dump Site

4 Mar

Most of us want to be kind and helpful to those around us. We might offer to lend a hand when someone is in a bind or take on another’s chores when they are overwhelmed. The old saying, “Many hands make light work,” is true. When we all pitch in, even huge, difficult tasks become easier. Being open to giving our time and efforts is generally appreciated by those around us. We can be there when needed and share a part of the load. But there is a difference between being helpful and becoming someone else’s dump site. Some people may try to take advantage of our kindness and take all the stuff they don’t want to do and just dump it on us. They can do whatever they like but we don’t have to take on more than we want. We aren’t responsible for completing anyone’s tasks and responsibilities but our own. Just because someone hands us something they don’t want doesn’t mean we must accept it. Everyone is responsible for their own stuff, and if they try to push all the unwelcome and difficult tasks over onto us, we can politely and firmly decline, and step back. Being a team player means just that – being part of a team. It doesn’t mean we have to carry the entire load or do all the heavy lifting by ourselves. If we get into a situation where we’re expected to do more than is comfortable, we can decide how we want to participate. We’re always in control of our own lives and know what works best for us. We can be charitable and help in ways that benefit those around us and don’t wear us completely down. There is always more to do than one person can accomplish. By carefully planning our time, and doing our part, we can feel confident in our assistance, and ensure the success of any project. By doing what we can to help those around us, we can share our light with others, and make the world a better place.

Some people are very forceful and demanding, valuing their own importance, and diminishing the time of others. If we must interact with them, they may push projects onto us that require serious work and effort to accomplish. If they have authority over us, we may need to comply, but if not, we are not compelled to complete anything they arbitrarily assign to us. We can decide what we will and will not do, and express our decisions with grace and clarity, choosing the best road forward.

Offering our time and effort is noble, but we don’t have to give ALL our time and effort to serve those around us. Every moment we give is valuable, and we can determine how much we may offer. We can serve others and still have time for ourselves and what is important for our personal well-being. Sharing what we can, will benefit those around us and enrich our lives and experiences moving forward. We have so much to offer, and our gifts bring great light and goodness to the world.

Today if you’ve been helping others but the requests are more demanding than you can manage, determine how you want to continue. Whatever you can offer will be a blessing to those around you. Be wise and confident. You know what you need and where you want to go. You are a great gift to the world, and we’re all better because you are here. Make the best decisions moving forward, and you will find great joy.

Even Keel

2 Feb

We have complete control over every decision we make. We can do anything and go anywhere, and at times our plans go exactly as hoped. But we don’t have control over everything. There are millions of people making all kinds of decisions we know nothing about that may impact our lives negatively. We may be sailing along thinking everything is fine and then boom, it all falls apart because of something out of our control. It takes effort to keep everything in balance, but no matter what we do, there will be times when unknown forces will prevail. Everything may go sideways, and the road we were on may suddenly come to a full stop. When sudden changes happen and keep us from moving forward, it can be hard to figure out what to do next. There are unlimited roads to every destination but finding the right one in times of stress isn’t always easy. It’s like going to the old-fashioned video store. When we walk in, we know we want a movie but after seeing the thousands of options possible, it may be so overwhelming, we may walk out with nothing. When we suddenly must decide on a new way forward, we may have no idea how to proceed. There may be lots of suggestions from those around us and we can certainly listen to any advice given, but in the end the decision is ours. Trying to keep things on an even keel when everything is up in the air can be quite a trick. No matter what happens or stands in the way right now, every destination is still there for us. We are smart, and by taking our time and looking at everything objectively, will find the way. There isn’t any problem so complicated or complex we can’t figure it out. There isn’t any goal too far away or too hard to reach. We can trust ourselves to find the answers we need and reroute our course until we’re back on track. We know what we want and have everything necessary to get it. By stepping forward with confidence and clarity, we will succeed.

Nature is consistently balanced. There are no planets wobbling around the universe in uncontrolled motion, and nothing happens before its time. Green leaves don’t start sprouting in the fall, and the sun doesn’t rise at midnight. When facing a difficult situation, we could try to re-invent the wheel in an effort to slip through and take the easy way out. That might work, but if we align our decisions and actions around what is possible in our current circumstance, we will prevail.

We’re often busy and it’s easy for our personal lives to get out of balance. If we give too much away, we may struggle from personal neglect or fatigue. If we take too much from others, our relationships may suffer. By being mindful and keeping our priorities in sight, we can be successful at accomplishing much and still maintaining an even keel. There will always be more to do than we can complete. We can use wisdom and patience, and keep moving forward toward success.

Today if everything has suddenly changed, and all your plans are no longer possible, look at all the options possible. There will be a way to continue forward to your goal and you will find it. Trust yourself and choose the best road ahead. There isn’t anything you can’t accomplish. Success is there for you and you will reach it.

Nirvana

29 Dec

Our lives are ours to design and we can do anything we like. Every option we desire is possible but the things we want won’t suddenly appear or fall into our laps while we sit and dream. Although we may wish for them, magic genies who can grant our wishes will never be real. We can have every single dream we imagine but making them come true is up to us. There might be a fairy godmother somewhere but it’s unlikely she’s going to appear any time soon. Instead of wishing and hoping that our lives would change into our fondest desires and dreams, we can objectively look at what it will take to make it happen, and then set forth to accomplish the task. Some things take a lot of work and will require a lot of time, but everything worth having is worth working for. By deciding what we want the most, and then doing what is necessary to make it ours, we can create the life we dream about. We can create our own Nirvana and find complete happiness and satisfaction. Or we can sit around and dream about what our lives could be like and do nothing. Complaining because we aren’t where we want to be, or shrinking back because we lack the confidence we need to get there won’t move us forward. What we do is our choice and responsibility. We don’t have to know everything, or have all the tools we need before we start the journey. Taking a step forward will give us more information to move ahead, and the confidence to take another. Step by step, staying focused on the goal, we’ll move forward until we reach it. Every dream is possible, and nothing is too difficult for us to accomplish. We can plan effectively, and then stay on course until we find success. The lives we desire most are waiting for us, and with determination we will make them ours.

A road that has been well-traveled is much easier to navigate than one we have to cut ourselves as we push forward. We can always do what everyone else is doing and settle for what’s common and easy. But if we want our own dreams to come true and have lives filled with rich experiences and success, we’ll have to reach further than what’s easy. We can reach beyond where we are and strive for more. By moving toward the dreams we really want, we can reach every goal and find true happiness and satisfaction.

If we don’t take control of our lives and push toward the goals and dreams we really want, time will roll on and we’ll simply go where life takes us. It’s impossible to go where we want to go if someone else is driving the train. Instead of coasting along, we can proactively take charge of our decisions and move toward the goals we want the most. We are intelligent and strong, and nothing can keep us from any destination. Every dream is possible, and we can make them ours.

Today if you’ve been kicking back and letting things just roll out as they will, remember your dreams are important. You know what you want, and already possess everything you need to make it yours. Take charge of your destiny and move toward your goals. Nothing can keep you from anything you desire. You are amazing and powerful, and you will prevail.

Information Please

10 Dec

We’re all unique and our perceptions vary depending on the life experiences we’ve had. We might all live in the same place, and speak the same language, but that doesn’t mean we really understand each other. It’s possible to misinterpret what others are saying, or frankly have no idea what they mean even though they are speaking clearly and using words we understand. Misunderstandings happen but the problem is we don’t know what we don’t know. When interacting with someone else we may agree to do something we are sure they are requesting, and end up going a completely different direction than they asked for. How is this possible? We all have our own paradigms and viewpoints. What is obvious to one, may be completely invisible to another. That doesn’t mean anyone is stupid or wrong, it just means we’re looking at the situation through a different window. There are endless ideas and interpretations of every situation. We can always just plow ahead and hope somehow, we’ll get it right, or we could stop before we start, and ask for clarification. Asking for more information isn’t weakness, it’s wisdom. It’s hard to see through fog, and if we aren’t clear of the expectations, instead of bumbling forward, we can ask for more information until we’re sure what’s expected. Once we know where we’re headed and what the goal is, we can proceed, confident we’ll reach it and achieve success. Life is filled with challenges and trying to find our way in the dark will only make the journey longer and harder than it needs to be. We can pave the road ahead by getting all the facts before we start and ensuring we understand the objective. We are intelligent and capable and can accomplish anything we set out to do. Every goal is possible and with clarity and focus, we can reach any destination.

If we’re concerned about the opinions of others, and want to appear smart and capable, we might rush to accomplish a goal without getting all the information we need beforehand. Looking good is one thing. Being successful is another. It does no good to look confident and capable, and then fail at the task because we didn’t ask for help. The destination is the goal, not how we look accomplishing it. By getting all the facts before we begin, we can make all our dreams and goals reality.

Everyone gets lost from time to time. Losing our way or going in the wrong direction doesn’t mean we’ve failed. Taking the wrong road gives us more information and teaches us what doesn’t work. We can use that information moving forward to find the best road to the destination we seek. Nothing is complex enough to keep us from our goals. We are intelligent and can achieve anything we desire.

Today if you’re struggling to figure out which way to proceed, get all the information you can and look at all the possibilities. Every option is there for you, and you will find the right way forward. You have already accomplished so much. Nothing is too difficult for you to manage. Be confident. Success is waiting, and nothing can keep you from reaching it. Step forward and proceed. You will prevail.