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Make Me

29 Sep

We know what we need to do and there may be times when we need someone else to accomplish something before we can move forward.  If they aren’t as motivated as we are we may have to wait.  We can only control ourselves and our decisions and even if we ask again and again, we may have to wait until the other party decides to complete the task.  It’s maddening when what’s important to us is reliant on someone else’s actions and they are not moving forward.  There is no way to make anyone do anything.  But if we cannot continue forward with a project or plan because someone else has stopped our progress we have options.  We can look for a way around the action we’re waiting for, we can develop another plan to move forward without the cooperation requested, or we can set the plan aside for now and work on other projects.  We don’t need to be held hostage any longer than we desire.  We are always in control of our own lives and if things don’t move forward in our first plan, we can create another one.  We don’t need to give up control of our progress forward.  There are always many ways to every goal.  If we must set the plan aside for now, we can, and return to it when everything is in place.  We are smart enough to find the way to any destination we desire.  We can adjust our trajectory and turn our course to find the way forward.

Some people are very internally focused.  They only want to work on their personal goals and if asked to help with someone else may agree, but then set it aside until they decide to address it.  Since their objectives revolve around their personal desires they may not recognize the importance of completing tasks to help others.  We don’t have to wait indefinitely for them to comply, and when we’re ready can find another way around the issue.  We can work around any obstacle and reach any goal.

There may be times when others don’t agree with a goal we’re seeking.  They may not believe it’s the best choice or feel it’s too difficult to achieve.  If we must work with them to get the job done we may face many obstacles if they question every decision we make.  Everyone has their own viewpoint about the road ahead and we may ask for their suggestions for ways to accommodate everyone’s ideas about how to move forward.  Bringing all the voices together may help us advance and find success even if there is dissention.  No goal is out of reach and we can patiently and thoughtfully move forward through complications and problems as they arise.  There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish.  Success is always available to us and we will achieve it.

Today if you’ve been waiting for someone to do something that will allow you to move forward and nothing has changed, review your options and find another way around the issue.  There are many roads and directions available and you will find the right way ahead.  Every goal is within your reach and you will achieve it.  Keep your eyes open.  All the answers you need are there for you.  Success is just ahead and you will find it.

Owning It

26 Sep

Nobody is perfect and although we try to get things exactly right, sometimes we falter. There are a million reasons why our plans may go awry and many of them may be out of our control. When things go wrong and we don’t want to look foolish, we may look for someone or something else to blame. We can blame anything we desire for what went wrong but nothing will ever change the truth. If we’ve made an error, and our best laid plans have failed and the whole thing went up in smoke, we own it. Blaming everyone else will never solve the issue and pushing the responsibility off will never change what happened. Things sometimes go wrong and we stumble. It happens to us all and when it does, the best we can do is step up and take responsibility for our actions. There isn’t anything so disastrous we can’t face and find a way around. When we own our actions, even when they blow up in our faces, those around us will learn they can trust us to be truthful and honest. Facing our lives as they are and continuing to move forward will bring us greater confidence and clarity. We are strong and capable and if we fall we can get right back up again. Life is filled with challenges and problems. We have everything we need to find the best answers and continue on. Success is always available to us and we will find our way to it.

Nobody can read the future and know everything that will happen ahead of time. If we plan well and do everything we can to ensure a good outcome, and still things don’t work out, we can try again. We have unlimited chances for most things we face in life. There is rarely only one time we can make a decision for any challenge or issue we’re facing. If the first choice doesn’t work, we can choose again. If there is a timing issue, or we need more information, or something out of our control changes unexpectedly and things go awry we can alter our course going forward. We are resilient and intelligent enough to find another path ahead until we reach the desired goal.

It’s okay to make mistakes. They don’t mean we can’t choose well or succeed. We make decisions based on information available to us at the time. If we don’t have all the facts or there are complications of which we are unaware, we might choose a path that fails. But failing does not mean the end of the journey. It’s just a detour we can navigate around. There are endless bumps and complications in life but no matter what we face we can see our way around it and reach our destination. There is nothing too strong for us to overcome or powerful enough to stop us. We will continue on and succeed.

Today if your plans have fallen apart and nothing has worked out like you anticipated, instead of blaming others find another way ahead. There are endless roads to every destination. Look at all your options and choose the best way forward. There isn’t anything you can’t do. You know where you want to go. Chart a new course and begin again. Success is always there for you and you have everything you need to achieve it.

Auto Pilot

30 Aug

Often our lives are very busy and we have lots of things to get done.  We might have a list of tasks to accomplish or be in situations where there are constant developments that need our attention.  When we’re working hard moving forward and accomplishing things we may step into a sort of auto pilot role.  We may finish one thing and then immediately begin the next without much thought.  If we aren’t paying attention to what’s going on we may make mistakes and take turns that bring complications and problems.  We can’t go back in time and if we create an issue that complicates our way forward we will have to solve it before we can continue.  The time spent correcting our course and cleaning up a mess cannot be recaptured.  Auto pilot is great when there are parameters set up to allow things to go well but in our lives if we don’t pay attention we may falter and stumble.  Even when we’re busy and pressed to accomplish much we can step back for a moment to ensure we plan our next steps effectively.  The old saying that “haste makes waste” can apply.  We don’t have to hurry to be successful.  We can be wise and careful, and still accomplish everything we set out to do.

Some people are great planners.  They may have several calendars to post their projects and tasks on, electronic reminders to alert them when something is due, or composed daily schedules that allocate time for each endeavor.  Planning is great and is a useful tool but planning is just a way to organize our tasks and doesn’t allow for unforeseen complications.  Nothing is set in stone and often things happen that impact even the best designed plans.  When complications arise, as they inevitably will, we can adapt to the changes and modify our course going forward to complete the task.  Change is constant and being willing to adjust our trajectory will allow us to address our needs and find success.

Life is unpredictable and sometimes something we want to accomplish isn’t possible now.  Perhaps the timing is wrong, or others who need to be involved are otherwise occupied, or we don’t have all the information to proceed.  There are few times in life when we are subject to unchangeable deadlines.  If we need to set something aside for now, we can.  It doesn’t mean we’ll never get it done, it just means we plan to accomplish it at a later time.  Being willing to adjust our timeframes and continue forward will help us complete all the tasks we desire and continue forward with success.  We can be flexible and change our parameters whenever we need to.  Things will change and the opportunity to complete every task will arise.  When it does we’ll be ready and able to move forward.

Today if you’ve got a lot to accomplish and you’re rushing from one item to the next, take a moment to think about how you want to proceed.  You are capable of doing great things and accomplishing much.  Give yourself time to plan your next step forward and be confident and aware.  You can do anything and do it well.  Success is always there for you and you will gain it.

Cleaning Up

21 Aug

We make countless decisions as we go through our lives.  It’s not always easy to make the best choices and we can create a mess by making them quickly and without thought.  We all take a wrong turn once in a while but if we’re lazy and pass things off, choosing to let things happen as they will instead of purposely making a considered choice we may end up with a life filled with unnecessary complications and difficult scenarios that may have been avoided.  Instead of moving forward we may spend a lot of time cleaning up messes we’ve created by making bad choices.  The time spent turning things around again is time lost and cannot be used toward achieving our goals.  Deciding to live our lives thoughtfully takes effort but when we do we have a better chance of things going the way we want them to.  We can live our lives any way we choose.  If we like conflict and disharmony, it’s easy to create but both require time and energy to repair and keep our eyes from the road ahead.  Learning to live in ways that bring harmony and cooperation, and choosing to make choices carefully will take us closer to the goals we’re seeking and bring us satisfaction and happiness.

Our emotions lag behind our intellect.  When something happens that triggers a negative emotional response instead of taking time to think we may jump.  Instead of taking of moment to evaluate our next move, we may simply charge right back and make the situation worse.  We may allow our emotional reaction to decide how we’ll act.  Emotions are important and help us understand our world but when we let them decide how we’ll respond to conflict we may not get the best results.  We can step back for a moment and think about what’s best going forward before we act.  It isn’t easy to step back when we feel threatened or hurt but we have all the strength and wisdom we need to accomplish it.  Taking a moment to think first may save us additional duress going forward and help us resolve conflict before it gets out of hand.

If we choose to go through our lives reacting to things instead of taking time to respond in ways that help we may end up in situations that are heated and difficult to navigate.  Reactions are normal and when things happen that upset or confuse us if we don’t take a moment to stop and think we may do things that elevate the situation and make things worse.  We are always in control of our lives.  We can choose ways that make the road ahead easier instead of react in ways that make it harder.  There will always be conflict but how we manage it is up to us.  We can choose what’s best and make decisions that will prevent a mess going forward.

Today if you’re in a situation that is filled with conflict and you feel the tension rising within you, take a moment to step back and think about your options going forward.  You are in complete control of everything you do and you can make excellent choices that will bring harmony and peace into your life.  Choose the way forward that helps you keep your eyes on your goals.  There isn’t anything too difficult or complex for you to figure out.  You have everything you need to succeed.  Take your time and choose success.

Life Sentence

10 Aug

Life is a continual process of learning. Every step we take and every decision we make teaches us something. Although we may try to make the best choices possible, sometimes important details are disguised or we may be distracted and choose something that turns out badly. There is no way to know everything and we all make mistakes from time to time. If we’ve made a choice that has had terrible results we may need to work hard to fix it. Bad decisions happen and if they are extreme we may feel we’ve ruined our lives. We may be sure there is no way to repair the situation and we are lost, but everything is transient and nothing is permanent. There is no life sentence pronounced upon us when we fail. We aren’t doomed to remain in pain and anguish forever. It’s just a mistake. Even if it feels like a terminal disaster, it’s just a mistake. And mistakes can be amended. We can figure out what is needed to correct our course going forward and find the right road. If others have been hurt by our decision we can do what is required to apologize and turn things around. Nobody is perfect and there is no guide book to warn us before we make decisions. We will often choose wisely and generally find our way, and if we stumble we can adjust our direction ahead and start again. Life is all about learning. We learn everything we need to know as we move along. Detours may happen and we may falter, but we are capable of regaining our footing and continuing forward to success.

If we make a bad decision that impacts a personal relationship in serious ways there may be long lasting consequences. If the damage is great we may lose the connection with the other person completely. They may choose to walk away from us and leave us behind. We can try to repair the situation but we cannot make anyone continue forward with us against their will. We can learn as much as possible from the experience and take that information forward to help us in the future. Sometimes things break and can’t be repaired but we can remain open to starting again if the opportunity comes.

We are free to choose anything we like but we cannot control the results of those choices. Sometimes things will go exactly as planned and other times they may work against us. Learning to see things openly and objectively, and being willing to look at all sides of every problem will enable us to make the best choices. We are capable of making excellent decisions and have everything we need to succeed. We can trust in our ability to choose wisely and if things go awry, we can choose again to correct our way forward.

Today if you’ve made a bad decision and have caused yourself or others pain or discomfort, look at the issue completely. See the best options going forward and choose the path that will correct your course. You are intelligent and wise, and can do amazing things. The road to success is there for you. Seek it, and find it. There isn’t anything you can’t do and do well. You have everything you need right now to succeed.