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Mirror Image

1 Feb

We meet a lot of different people as we go through our lives. Some of them may be very attractive to us, and if we meet someone we admire greatly, we may look up to them and desire to be like them. If they have a lot of influence over us and are doing things we want to do, we may begin to copy their behaviors and mannerisms, associate with those they are close to, or even begin to dress like them. We may think if we do all the things they’re doing, we’ll end up with the lives they have. They say imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, and that may be true, but imitation will never be reality. Even if we act and dress just like someone else and copy everything they do, we are still ourselves. We can do what is required to achieve everything they have but we will still be living in our own skin. We are all individuals and there is no way to clone ourselves into a mirror image of someone else. We have unique and precious gifts to present to the world that nobody else can give. There is no need to try to become someone else and attempt to capture their gifts and talents to be successful. We have everything we need to define and find our own personal success. We can be ourselves and do things our own way. We have so much to offer and nobody else can bless the world with the gifts we have to share.

We all face all kinds of comparisons and judgements, and there may be times we don’t feel we measure up. Maybe we’re not as financially secure as we’d like to be, or aren’t as tall or beautiful as we want to be, or despite our efforts there are achievements we’ve been unable to conquer. There are millions of people in the world and there will always be someone with more of something we want, but our experience is exclusive to us and we are exactly where we need to be. We can change anything we like and continue to grow and learn as we go forward. Every goal is possible and there is nothing too far for us to reach. Every accomplishment is within our grasp.

There isn’t only one road to happiness or one perfect destination. There are endless possibilities to do what we want and go where we want to go. One person may choose one road, another may choose a road going in a completely different direction and both may find great success. If we’re on the road that takes us where we want to be, we’re successful. There are countless destinations ahead and which we choose, and how we get there is up to us. We don’t have to follow someone else’s path, and we don’t have to go at their speed. We can customize our lives to fit us perfectly and find success.

Today if you’ve been following someone else’s ideas and copying their choices thinking it will bring you success, remember your success is defined by you. It doesn’t matter how anyone else lives their life. Your life is yours to design and nothing is out of reach. Choose the roads that will take you where you want to go. You have so much to offer and the world is blessed for the gifts you bring. Do it your way. Every success is there for you and you will reach it.

Never Happened

16 Jan

Life has a lot of ups and downs and nobody gets a free pass from problems. Things go wrong and we may have to change what we’re doing, where we’re going, or how we’re moving forward. There are unlimited possibilities for complications and detours, and rarely will the road ahead be without some sort of compromise. When there is something very important to us or someone we really want in our lives and the situation changes in unexpected, sometimes disastrous ways, it can be difficult to accept. If the thought of letting go of a dream is too devastating to face, we may decide to ignore what has happened and pretend everything is fine. Denial only makes acceptance impossible and when we refuse to accept what is real we are living in a dream state. It is better to understand whatever reality we are living, even if we must adjust our plans, and find our way through. There isn’t anything too difficult for us to manage, and we can face any disappointment and continue forward. Sometimes things don’t work out. Sometimes we are going to lose and when that happens, despite the disappointment and sorrow, we can find our way. There will always be another step we can take, and there will always be another road to travel. We can accept whatever comes and still find success. We have everything we need to be happy. Nothing is powerful enough to hold us back.

Love is a powerful emotion. When we love someone, we want to be near them and share our lives with them. If they feel the same about us we may find great joy in our interactions with them. But it’s possible to fall in love with someone who doesn’t return our affections. It can be heartbreaking to realize our fondest dreams of them will not be realized. If we must walk away from a relationship we want badly it may be hard to find our footing. But there is always another road ready for us. We can accept what is real, face the situation openly, and find success going forward.

When our lives take a difficult unexpected turn and it’s hard to face the changes before us, the temptation to stay in place may be strong. We may convince ourselves that if we stay where we are things will change, and despite what has happened, everything will work out the way we want it to. We can only control our own choices and waiting for happiness to come to us is futile. Our happiness is our responsibility. We can modify our way forward to accommodate whatever changes have occurred and find our way to the destinations we desire. Our lives belong to us and we can be happy no matter what developments we must face.

Today if your road has suddenly turned and what you were hoping to achieve is no longer available, look at all your options and choose the best way forward. Happiness is there for you and you can modify your course to reach it. Accept whatever changes you must and continue forward. You already have everything you need to succeed. Keep your eyes focused ahead and you will reach the destination you desire.

What is Real

15 Jan

Life is filled with all kinds of distractions and complications. When we’re unhappy with where we are, those distractions and complications may allow us to keep our eyes off what we don’t want to see and help us ignore things we don’t want to face. It’s not hard to look away or pretend a disappointing situation is different than it really is. All we have to do is focus on something else and we can defer what we don’t want to address. But what is real is where we are and looking the other way or ignoring anything will never make it change. If we’re unhappy with our appearance we can avoid anything that reflects our image and just keep moving. If our personal relationships are disappointing, or worse, we can go through the motions and make believe they will improve even if there is nothing indicating any change will happen. We can live in a make-believe world and we may convince ourselves that what we imagine is really happening. That might work for a time but reality has a way of breaking through and eventually we must face things as they really are. What is real is where we are. We have everything we need to create lives that are fulfilling and satisfying on every level. Pretending will never take us where we want to go. It’s like living in a house of mirrors, each one bending the truth to something that isn’t real. We can find true happiness and success when we look at everything openly and truthfully. We can take the blinders off, face any situation before us and determine where we want to go. Success is always available to us and we will have it.

Our dreams are personal and unique and we have everything we need to make them come true. It takes courage to decide to live our lives our own way and do the things we dream about. It takes determination to find the right roads and stay focused on the goal. We have all the courage and determination we need and once we decide we deserve the lives we dream about, we can make everything reality.

There will always be a reason to stay in a situation that isn’t working for us. If it’s a relationship that isn’t working we may think we have to stay to prevent hurting the other person. If it’s a job that’s unfulfilling we may think we owe something to our boss. If it’s a personal change we want to make we may hesitate worried we won’t succeed. We deserve true and complete happiness and nothing is more valuable than living our lives authentically, in complete harmony with what we truly want. We have everything we need to do anything. It’s all there for us and we can take the steps needed to find success.

Today if you’re in a situation that isn’t working, or you want to make a personal change you’ve put off, afraid that you’ll fail, be brave. Take the first step today to move forward toward where you really want to be. Your life is yours and you can live it exactly the way you desire. Be strong and confident. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Take control of what you want and go get it. It’s all there for you.

Not Happening

11 Jan

There are lots of opportunities available to us in life. We can try new things, accomplish any goal we desire, and move closer to a destination we seek. Most of the time if we are willing to do what is needed we can succeed at any endeavor. We simply decide how we want to proceed and begin. However, the world has its own timetable and we can only control what we do. Sometimes because of the situation we’re in, decisions made by others, or circumstances out of reach, we may not be able accomplish something we desire when we desire it. Sometimes no matter what we try nothing works and we get stuck. The world is complicated and there are many things going on all around us all the time. We may be in a situation where outside circumstances infringe on our life in ways that hold us back. When that happens, we could continue to try to force our way forward. We could keep pushing, hoping that with enough effort we’ll be able to break through. That works sometimes but if we’re in a place where all the doors forward are closed we can rethink our plans. Nothing ever stays the same forever. Change is the one constant we can count on in life. If things aren’t working now, we can set our goal aside, and later when circumstances have modified we can try again. We can do anything we like but sometimes we have to wait for the right moment to find success. It’s hard to wait when we want something badly but we have enough patience to hold back for now and try again later. Everything will change in time and our opportunity to advance will arrive. When it does we can be ready to pursue our goals, and continue our journey forward.

They say location is everything. If there is something we want to accomplish but we’re in the wrong place to get it done we may spin our wheels. The wrong place isn’t always a physical location, but may be where we are emotionally. Life is a continual journey and we’re always on our way to someplace else in one way or another. If we need to learn more about a situation or ourselves before we can move forward, we can take the time we need to accomplish whatever is required. Patiently understanding where we need to be to find success will help us get there.

Learning to wait isn’t easy. When we want to move forward and are held back from the next step we may feel restless and frustrated. Timing is important and it doesn’t help to keep pounding away on doors that will not open. If we are stopped and cannot move forward we can focus on other priorities and wait until the situation changes. Eventually all the doors will become available to us and we will find success. With careful planning and patience will can accomplish anything we desire. The whole world is there for us and we will have it.

Today if you’re stuck and no matter what you do can’t move forward, focus on something else until the situation changes. You don’t have to accomplish everything at once. You can wait and prepare for the opening you need when it arrives. All the doors will open for you and you will reach your destination. Be patient and wise. You can do anything and nothing is out of reach. You can be ready and success will come.

Second Guessing

10 Jan

In difficult and complicated situations when we’re making decisions about what we want or need to do, we want to make the best choice going forward.  If we need to confront someone about something they did or apologize for something we’ve done it might be difficult to decide how to proceed.  We can objectively review all the facts to clarify exactly what we want to say and how we want to address our concerns.  Once we determine what the best course of action is we can proceed with confidence and do what is needed to amend the situation.  But sometimes after we’ve decided what needs to be done we might second guess our decision.  What if things don’t go the way we want them too, what if our interaction goes awry and things get worse, what if the other person refuses to see us, the list of possibilities is endless.  Second guessing may hold us back from doing what we need to move forward and hold us in place somewhere we don’t want to be.  If we need to do something to fix a situation and default to doing nothing because we are afraid or unsure about what might happen, the situation will remain unresolved.  We will carry it with us going forward.  The only way around any problem is to solve it. There is no way to know how anything will work out when we’re trying to move forward, but one thing is certain, if we do nothing everything will remain the same.  Addressing our problems head on and facing them instead of looking away will help us continue forward toward our goals and bring us confidence.  We don’t have to hold onto any issue longer than we want to.  All the answers are there for us.  Taking control of the issue and facing it will help us find our way forward and bring us happiness and satisfaction.

There are endless “what ifs” if we think about them.  Lots of things can always go wrong but lots of things can also go right.  If we try to address a problem or situation with someone else and they don’t want to settle the issue, it then belongs to them.  Once we’ve done all we can to resolve the problem we don’t have to carry it forward.  We can’t control what anyone else does and if they will not agree to work things out, we can let it go and hope things will improve over time.

In our lives we will have the opportunity to solve many difficult situations.  Some answers will come easily and others will take time and serious thought.  There is no problem without a solution.  We can be confident in our ability to understand any situation clearly and find the answers we need.  Nothing is impossible and we are wise and capable.  Our happiness and comfort are our responsibility, and when things go wrong we can take control of our decisions and choose the best path forward.

Today if you need to solve a difficult problem and have been second guessing the way forward, choose the best solution and move ahead.  You know what needs to be done and you are wise enough to find the answers you need.  Be confident and brave.  You have everything you need to succeed.  There isn’t anything too difficult for you to resolve.  Make your decisions and move forward.  Success is there for you.