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False Start

13 Jul

There are times in everyone’s life when we desire a change.  Maybe we want a new location, a new job, a new situation or just a new attitude.  We always have the power to change anything at any time but all changes require discipline and determination.  We can’t just wish for something to be different and expect it to happen.  If we really want the change we must make a plan and work to move toward the goal.  If what we’re seeking requires us to alter patterns in our lives that we’ve held for a while, it may be difficult at first to adapt to new behavior.  It’s always easy to simply return to what we know and let go of the idea for something new.  If our first attempt at change fails and we really want to achieve the goal we can try again.  There is no limit to the number of times we can try to change anything and a previous false start doesn’t mean we can’t find success.  We can have the lives we want the most but chances are they won’t simply fall into our laps.  Every possibility is available if we’re willing to do what is needed to make it happen.  Dreaming about how our lives could be will never bring them to us.  We must decide what we want, determine what it will take to achieve it, and then begin forward working to accomplish what we must to find success.  If we get distracted and step off the road we can re-route our way back again and continue forward.  It doesn’t matter how long it takes us to reach the goal.  We can move a little closer every day and in time we’ll succeed.  Anything is possible.  Our lives are ours to design and we can create them in ways that bring us complete happiness and satisfaction.

Sometimes we fall into routines we don’t plan on simply because one thing leads to another and before we realize it we are in a position we didn’t expect.  If we don’t control our lives, other situations will.  We can go along for the ride for as long as we like but if we aren’t completely happy where we are we have the power to stop and change direction.  We deserve the lives we want the most and with focus and determination we can achieve them.

We can dream about how our lives would be if everything went our way, and we can hope somehow our dreams will come true.  If all we had to do to reach our goals was think about them we could have anything we wanted at any time.  But this is real life and few things will fall into our laps without effort.  We can have the lives we dream about but we must be willing to work for them.  If we try and fail, we can try again.  There are endless roads before us and with determination we can find the one that will take us to the destination we desire.  Every dream is possible and nothing is out of reach.  We are strong enough and smart enough to achieve anything.

Today if you feel like a failure because you tried to make a change and didn’t succeed, don’t give up.  Failure just means you haven’t yet found the right way forward.  Try again.  The possibilities are endless and you will succeed.  Every dream is possible. You are capable and amazing.  Begin again and you’ll reach the goal.

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Defining the Deal

12 Jul

Every single person on earth is different. There are all kinds of personalities and temperaments, endless expressions and ideas, and no two people are exactly alike. What one loves, another despises, what brings pleasure to one, brings frustration to another. We may believe our interpretations are right but actually they are only right for us. When we’re growing up in our first family, the patterns and traditions we learn seem to be the only way to live. But as we grow and are exposed to the world we learn that everyone has their own ideas about how life works and what they do. When we must face an extreme difficulty and are having trouble finding our way it may be a big deal for us to process. We may struggle to find our footing and reach out to those around us for advice and help. Someone may look at our situation and feel it’s ridiculous and our worries are unfounded. Perhaps what we’re going through seems insignificant, and it might be if it happened to them. But it’s not happening to them, it’s happening to us and everybody’s life experience is different. What’s meaningless to one may be crucial to another. We are the only ones who know how important any issue is to us. We are the ones who define the deal and decide if it’s important and far reaching or something less we can manage and move on. It doesn’t matter if everyone around us sees things differently, we can define any issue in ways that make sense to us and find our way through.

When we’re struggling it doesn’t help to have someone diminish our feelings. Telling us we shouldn’t feel one way or another is futile and ineffective. Our feelings often come unbidden and may be intense and painful. While we may not always be able to control how we feel we can control what we do. We can listen to whatever advice we deem helpful, learn as much as possible about the situation and then decide how to move forward. We have all the intelligence and wisdom we need to figure out any issue and find the answers we need.

When we’re facing a big decision or our situation is fraught with complications and it’s hard to see the way ahead, doubts may creep in and we may find it hard to move forward. When there are a lot of things going wrong we may get jumbled up in the noise and confusion and struggle to figure out what to do. We never have to solve everything all at once. We need only look at where we want to begin. Every problem has a solution and even if it’s a big deal and very complex we can solve it. We are smart enough and strong enough to do anything.

Today if you’re facing a big challenge and feel daunted and unsure, decide on the first step you want to take. You don’t have to find all the answers today. Simply determine how to begin and take the first step forward. The solutions are there and with patience and diligence you will find them all. You are amazing and nothing is too difficult for you. Be confident. You know what you want and you will prevail.

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Covering

9 Jul

We are all responsible for our own lives and what we accomplish.  There may be times when we interact with someone who has a fluid idea of what their responsibility means.  They may let things slide they aren’t interested in or may manage their time in ways that prevent them from being as effective as they could be.  If we depend on them to complete something that impacts what we’re doing and they drop the ball it may stop our progress.  If the issue is important or time sensitive and hasn’t been done, we may jump in and do the job in an effort to keep things moving forward.  It’s good to be helpful but if we find we’re always covering for someone else and picking up the slack because they don’t follow through, we may create more problems for ourselves in the end.  If others begin to rely on us to cover for them there will be no reason to change their behavior.  Why should they do something they don’t want to do if we’ll come in and do it for them?  It can be hard to let something slide because someone didn’t do their part when the task is important to us, but letting others own their responsibilities and be accountable for them is appropriate.  If we stop cleaning up other people’s messes they will remain for them to address.  If something doesn’t get done we can always re-route our way forward.  There are plenty of alternatives for every situation.  We don’t have to wait indefinitely for anyone to do their part.  Instead, we can go right around them.  Our lives are ours and we can do anything we want to do.  It’s great to get cooperation from those around us, but if that’s not available, we can find the way on our own.

Helping others accomplish their tasks opens the door to learning new skills.  Each time we do something new we learn a skill to take forward with us.  It’s great to have a broad scope of understanding in the areas important to us or in arenas we enjoy.  We can offer to help when needed without taking on the full responsibility of the task.  Sharing the load can move things forward more quickly but sharing is only taking on part of the work.  We don’t have to take over the entire project simply because we want to help.  We can allow the others involved to do their part and work together to find success.

Some people don’t like to teach others about their responsibilities.  They may feel if they are the only one who knows how to do a task they will always have a place in the project.  There is security in being the only one who knows how to do something but being willing to show others how to accomplish the task will open new doors for us going forward.  We are all valuable and important and we can be open to working as a team to get things done.  All options are possible and working together will help us achieve every goal we desire.

Today if you’ve been covering for someone again and again, step back and look at your responsibilities clearly.  Do your part and let those around you do theirs.  If they don’t move forward, move around them.  You can do anything and nothing is strong enough to hold you in place.  Choose the best way forward and you will find success.

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Fabricating Happiness

3 Jul

We interact with many different types of people on a daily basis. We connect with them as we move through our lives and build relationships with those we enjoy, those we love, and those on whom we rely. Many times, those connections bring great pleasure and security to our lives but sometimes we may build a relationship with someone who makes choices that bring us disharmony and confusion. If we want strong and healthy relationships there must be complete honesty in our interactions. But some people aren’t consistently honest and bend the truth to suit their needs. It’s not pleasant to confront a lie and we may choose to give them the benefit of the doubt despite their choices. It’s difficult to be in a relationship with someone who lies or pretends that things are different than they really are. Truth is truth and the only way to live successfully is to face it openly and completely. Wanting to believe in a lie will never make it the truth. Looking the other way in the face of dishonesty will never bring us happiness. Everyone makes their own decisions and we are all accountable for every choice. We can choose to be honest in all our dealings and build strong relationships based on real trust. We never have to go along with a lie. We can live straight and true to the values we honor and choose the right at every turn. When we do we will find happiness and peace going forward.

Few things in life are constant. Things change continually and just when we’re sure we know what will happen next, something turns us around and everything is different. Our situations are constantly in flux and if we want to reach success we must be clear and honest about our intentions and desires. We can’t control what may happen but we are always in control of our decisions. If we are honest and up front in our interactions we will more effectively find the path we need to travel and reach the goals we desire.

Honesty doesn’t come on a sliding scale. There is no such thing as being somewhat honest, or honest most of the time. We either are honest is our dealings or we aren’t. If we bend the truth, color the facts to get what we want, or pretend that things are different than they are, we are lying to ourselves and those around us. Lies may bring us immediate gratification but they will never bring us lasting happiness or success. We can face our lives as they are even if they aren’t where we want them to be. Change is always possible and if we aren’t happy we can truthfully and honestly do what is needed to modify our course to reach the happiness we desire. Our lives are our responsibility and our choices make us who we are. We can choose well and find great contentment and success.

Today if you’re dealing with someone who isn’t honest with you, look at the situation openly and completely. Let the facts show you the truth and decide how you want to proceed. What you choose tells the world who you are. Show us your best and lead the way to success.

 

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Waiting and Hoping

28 Jun

The world is filled with opportunities and we can do anything we want to do. There are endless activities and goals to achieve and if we’re determined we will reach success. There is no end to what we can accomplish and every dream is possible. We can plan and move forward step by step until we reach the destinations we desire. Although anything is possible it’s highly unlikely we’ll achieve our goals by standing around and waiting for them to appear. Coasting along and simply hoping what we really want will present itself will never work. While it’s true that sometimes things fall into our laps with little effort, those instances are rare and unusual. We can’t expect the world or those around us to give us what we want simply because we desire it. We must work and push our own way forward to get to our goals. Our lives are our responsibility and we own every decision we make. We can wait for things to happen until the end of time and maybe some things will come our way. But if we really want the life we dream about we have to take charge and do what is necessary to make it happen. Sitting around and waiting will only give us exactly what we have right now. If we want something more we have to work for it. It takes effort to change our lives and energy to take us where we want to go but we have sufficient drive and ambition to find success. We know what we want and we can figure out how to get it. We can make a plan, work hard and reach any goal. It’s all up to us but if we apply ourselves and continue to move forward, every destination is possible.

There are no fairy godmothers waiting in the wings to make our dreams come true. There are no magic wands or genies languishing in bottles eager to turn our lives around. If we aren’t where we want to be we can decide on a new road and begin forward in a new direction. Nothing is permanent and if we aren’t happy we can change our circumstances and move toward the lives we want. Nothing is too far to reach and we can do anything we desire. All options are possible and with effort and planning we can make them ours.

Waiting for our lives to change and happiness to arrive is like waiting for snow in July. It’s probably not going to happen but we have complete control over our lives and can do anything we want at any time. If we don’t like where we are, we can move. If we don’t like what we’re doing, we can change. We can have the lives we dream about by taking the steps needed to make them ours. We deserve complete happiness and with determination and persistence we can do anything.

Today if you’re not happy where you are and want a change, take the first step in a new direction. You can go anywhere and do anything. You are stronger and braver than you realize and there isn’t anything you can’t accomplish. Take control and turn your course toward the goals you most desire. Everything is possible. You deserve complete and full happiness. Move forward and make your dreams come true.

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