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I Can’t

4 Sep

Life is sometimes easy and everything moves along without much trouble. We sail through our days without much travail or stress, and feel confident about the future. It’s great when things come together easily and we don’t worry about what’s next. But those moments will never be permanent and in time, however much time that takes, things will change and trouble will come. We can’t control the decisions of others or much of what goes on around us and eventually there will be complications and trials. If the situation is intense and we don’t feel confident we may believe we can’t get through. It may feel too hard, too painful, too serious or just too much for us to deal with. The urge to run and hide or simply ignore the entire predicament may be great. We might look the other way and refuse to talk about it, but one thing is certain, ignoring a problem or pretending it doesn’t exist will never solve it. We all have limits to what we feel we can do but those limits are not set in stone and each trial teaches us something new that stretches what we can tolerate and understand. It isn’t fun to suffer or feel the pressure of trouble in our lives but we always have what we need to not only endure but to overcome. When we think we can’t do it, we can stop and think again. There is nothing we can’t manage and no problem is too complex for us to solve. We can dig deep and the resources we need will be there. All things are possible and we are strong enough and wise enough to continue forward and do anything we must to find success.

There are limitless ideas and experiences in the world. We’ll go through things we don’t imagine will happen and face complicated and confusing situations that may confound us and make us wonder how we will ever get through. But with each step we take, more information is revealed and as we move forward we’ll find all the answers we need. We’ve learned many things already and can trust in our ability to understand what is happening and believe we will prevail.

Some problems are very complicated and take considerable time to unravel and resolve. If we’re tired and weary of the struggle, we can stop and take a break. Fatigue will only make the situation more difficult and taking time away will often open up new ideas for moving forward and help us uncover the answers we’ve been seeking. We can do things our own way and in our own time and find success. There isn’t anything we can’t handle and we’ll find our way through no matter what we’re facing.

Today if you have a serious situation to navigate and feel it’s too much for you to handle, remember how strong and capable you are. It doesn’t matter how hard the problem is, you will solve it. It doesn’t matter how difficult the road ahead, you will find the way. You are amazing and strong, and nothing is too hard for you to manage. Be confident. Push ahead and trust yourself. All the answers are there and you will find them. Keep moving forward. Success is only one step away.

Standing Alone

31 Aug

It’s great to have the support of others when making difficult decisions.  Knowing there are those around us who understand our situation can make it easier to choose and help us find the right way forward.  But sometimes we may make a decision nobody else agrees with.  Perhaps there is something they don’t want to face, or they feel they know the situation better than we do and have a more effective solution than we’ve chosen.  Or they may simply dislike the direction we want to travel.  We don’t need agreement or support for any decisions we make, and we don’t have follow everyone else if we want to turn another way.  We are the only ones who know ourselves and our situation completely and are perfectly capable of making excellent choices.  However, in a difficult situation where the road ahead may have serious complications, if our decision doesn’t go along with what others want, we may stand alone.  It’s not easy to be the only one who wants to go in a different direction and if we’re criticized because of our choice we may lose some personal connections.  We should always be true to what is most important to us and value the standards and choices we make.  If we differ from those around us we are strong and confident enough to take any push back that comes our way.  Our lives belong completely to us and we can live them any way we desire.  We can make our dreams come true by choosing the roads that take us to them, even if we must go alone.

People are often most comfortable around others who are like them.  If we’re different, the pressure to conform may be great.  It will always be easier to go along with those around us than to forge our own path forward.  There is comfort in the herd but we can never completely be ourselves if we’re simply doing what everyone else is doing.  Breaking away and taking our own personal road is the only way to reach our goals and make our dreams come true.  We don’t need to worry about being alone.  We know what we want and where we want to go, and nothing can stop us from finding success.

Everyone defines success their own way.  For some it’s simply getting through the day without trouble.  For others it means to reach for the highest peak possible.  The ideas of others belong to them and need not become ours unless we want them.  There are infinite possibilities in every life and we can decide where our priorities lie and what is most important to us.  We can make any decisions we like and take any road we desire.  There may be others traveling with us or we may take a solo journey.  In either case, our determination and courage will take us to the destinations we choose and we’ll find the success we seek.

Today if you’re standing alone because you’ve chosen a path others don’t want to take, be confident.  You know where you want to go and you have everything you need to move forward.  You have endless potential and nothing is out of reach.  Have courage, and remember how wise and strong you are.  You can do anything.  All your dreams are possible and you can make them come true.

Passing

27 Aug

There are unlimited opportunities to try, new things to experience and different activities to participate in throughout our lives.  We may be eager to take on some of them and others we may do simply because of where we are and what’s going on.  Our choices are ours to make but sometimes because of the situation we’re in we may feel pressured to do something we don’t want or go somewhere we’d rather avoid.  Those around us may suggest something because they think it’ll be good for us or will move us forward toward a goal we’ve been seeking.  They may be right but ultimately we know ourselves better than anyone else and if we don’t want to participate, we can pass.  There are all kinds of opinions out there and we can listen to them and take whatever we feel is helpful, letting the others go.  We are always in control of our lives and can go along and take all the suggestions offered, or stay where we are and determine our own road forward.  It’s good to participate with others when that participation gives us something we desire or need.  But if we want to go a different way, we can step back and choose our own path.  We don’t always have to swim upstream but sometimes going in a different direction than everyone else is the only way to our goals.  Our lives are ours to design and we are responsible for every decision we make.  If we go along when we don’t want to and end up somewhere we didn’t want to go, we own it.  We’re wise enough to know how we want to proceed.  Every choice we make will take us somewhere.  Making the choices that take us where we most want to go will bring us satisfaction and happiness.

There can be a lot of pressure to go along when we’re in a group.  Sometimes if we’re in a situation where they have authority over us we may need to comply.  But most of the time we can choose our own path.  Even if everyone else wants us to go along, if it’s not something we desire, we can go another way.  We can let others make their own choices and move forward without us.  Our experiences are unique to our personal lives and we determine our personal destinations.  We can be in control and make the decisions that take us where we want to go the most.

It’s nice to have others around us as we navigate through our days but there may be times when our desires require us to move forward alone.  We all chart our own courses and have all the courage and determination we need to succeed at anything we choose.  We can find the way forward by ourselves and reach any goal we desire.  We determine what our lives will be even if it’s different than what others want for us.  The roads we take are ours to choose and every destination is possible.  We can make all our dreams come true by focusing on what’s most important and then doing what it takes to get there.

Today if you’re being pressured to do something you really don’t want to do, remember you know yourself better than anyone else.  You know what you want and what you need.  Be confident and choose the paths that will open the doors to your goals.  You can do anything.  The whole world is there for you and every dream can come true.

Getting Experience

21 Aug

There are all kinds of ups and downs in all our lives. Sometimes everything runs along smoothly with little disruption or discord, and other times it seems every step we take brings more problems and trouble. In the midst of trials and confusion when it seems nothing will go right, it can be hard to understand how the experience is helping us and what we could possibly be gaining as we struggle. Nobody wants trouble in their lives and we try to avoid it whenever possible. But trouble will come no matter what we do and when it does, how we manage and overcome it broadens our understanding of life and who we are. It’s not fun to suffer and if the trial is intense and the burden heavy we may believe it’s impossible to get through. We may want to quit, give up and walk away rather than face what we must to resolve the issue. It’s always easier to surrender rather than work through our problems but if we do, we can never prevail. No matter how hard an issue is, no matter how complicated the situation, we have everything we need to navigate through it successfully. It may take serious thought and pondering and it may take a lot of time, but we can find the way. Every experience teaches us something of value. Each trial brings worthwhile understanding and every lesson enriches our lives in some way. We grow and mature because of the experiences we go through. Up or down, easy or hard, each step teaches something new. Complete happiness and satisfaction are possible if we’re willing to work through everything that comes. We are stronger and more capable than we realize and nothing is too difficult for us to manage.

There may be times when it seems our lives are out of sync. We can’t find the right path, nothing is working and we may feel beset and confused. When we can’t advance, we can stop and stand still for a moment and look at all the options before us. There will never be a time when all the roads ahead are closed. If we widen our vision and see all the possibilities, we will find the way. We can untangle any confusion before us and find success.

Life is all about change. The only real guarantee we have is that what we’re going through today will be different tomorrow. No road stays the same forever. Things will turn and we will find the way. What we learn as we travel becomes part of us and helps us as we move forward. The wisdom we gain enriches us and deepens our understanding. Life is an incredible blessing and if we’re patient in suffering and trust our ability to overcome whatever we must, we will find great joy and satisfaction as we move forward.

Today if you’re in the midst of trials and confusion and can’t see the way forward, if every step seems to complicate the situation further, have faith. Walk with confidence and remember how strong and capable you are. As you gain wisdom and insight you are getting closer to the person you really want to be. Nothing is too difficult for you to manage. You are amazing and powerful, and every blessing will come.

Choosing the Ending

17 Aug

There is a popular children’s book series where there are several different endings to the stories.  After reading the basic story in the book, the reader can choose the ending they want from a few at the end.  It’s a great and creative idea that allows us to imagine how it would be if we could decide how things end up.  In our lives it would be wonderful – amazing even – if we could decide where our decisions would take us and design how everything would come together.  We could do the things we wanted without concern for the result because we could always change the ending if we didn’t like where we landed.  But life is reality, and we have all the freedom and power to make any decisions we like but no control over where those decisions take us.  Sometimes everything works out exactly as we hope and other times we may end up in a place that is nowhere we want to be.  There is no way to predict the future and all we can do is look at the options available and make the best choices possible.  Life will take us places we never dream we will go and sometimes we may end up somewhere that isn’t comfortable or easy.  We don’t have to stay anywhere forever and always have the power to change our situations, whatever they may be.  If we land in foreign territory and don’t like the scenery or the players involved, we can move.  Although we can’t control everything, we can always control our own lives.  We can change our location, our relationships, our job, or anything else that isn’t working.  We deserve complete happiness and can do whatever we need to achieve it.

There are all kinds of opinions about life and how we should be living.  We can listen to all the advice we’re given and decide how much of it we want to take, if any.  Some people have very strong ideas about how things should go and if we’re different from them they may try to persuade us to change our ways.  We are responsible for our own lives and can follow their example if we like, or continue to do things our own way.  We know what we want and who we want to be.  Our expressions are ours alone and never have to mimic anyone else.  The unique gifts we bring are ours to offer and enhance the world in ways nobody else could.

When we make decisions that take us far from where we thought we were headed we can choose to go back and start again, or investigate our new situation and see what it brings.  Change offers us new insights and a wider vision of our world.  Foreign territory may be intimidating at first but we can learn about it and make it ours.  There are countless roads to explore and endless locations to find.  If we end up someplace new, instead of running back to home plate, we can see what the new landscape offers us.  There are great blessings just waiting to be discovered and we can be confident and sure we will find them.

Today if a choice you made took you somewhere you had no intention of going, before you retreat, take a look around.  You may find great pleasure and unexpected benefits as you get to know something new.  The world is filled with possibilities and they are all open to you.  Be confident and open all the doors.  There are blessings waiting for you.