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Control

7 Nov

There are all kinds of people in the world. Most of us are nice, try to follow the rules and be considerate of others. We’re all entitled to make our own decisions and can design our lives any way we want. Although we can make our own choices, there are some people who like control. They tell others what to do, how to do it, when to do it and where. While controlling others may make them feel more confident and secure, it’s very uncomfortable for those with whom they interact. Nobody wants to be told how to live their lives. It’s annoying and awkward to get directions from an outsider regarding our personal choices. We already know what we want and don’t need someone else revising our plans. If we must interact with someone who wants to be in control of everything we do, it may be difficult to move ahead. Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. We can make our own plans and determine every step we take. If others try to move in and take command over our lives, we don’t have to comply. We can step back and turn in another direction. We never have to do anything that makes us uncomfortable or takes us away from the things we most want to achieve. Nobody can live our lives but us, and we are responsible for every choice we make. We can go anywhere we choose, but if we sit back and let others direct us, we will end up where they want to go. What is perfect for them may not be what we want at all. We never need follow along no matter who is involved. It doesn’t matter how powerful someone else is, or how much influence they have, we can take charge and make our lives our own. We know how we want our lives to be, and with confidence and determination, we can achieve everything we desire. Nothing is too difficult for us to overcome and we can reach every goal we choose. Our personal success is important, and with focus and persistence, we will reach it.

It’s inappropriate to try to control other people’s choices. If we’re sure we’re right, we may try to influence them, cajole them, entreat them and plead with them to do things our way. However, directing others to follow us will not bring us real satisfaction or  lasting happiness. We have our own lives to manage and we’ll never move forward if we insist on directing traffic. We can trust others to make their own decisions and travel their own journeys.

Nobody is perfect or has all the right answers. Even if we have a genius IQ, we can’t know everything, but we can share what we know to embellish every situation. We can contribute without trying to control. Everyone has something wonderful to give and by honoring each individual and respecting their choices, we will find the best answers moving forward.

Today if you’re sure you have the right answers and want others to do things your way, remember everyone has something to share. We are all valuable and important. Be confident in your abilities, and allow those around you to contribute to your success. You are wise and thoughtful, and we all want to work with you. Every goal is possible, and together we can make our dreams come true.

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Worthless

6 Nov

Life is complicated and we never know what will happen next. There are endless twists and turns that may appear without warning, and in an instant, everything may change and we may find ourselves alone and lost. Storms will come, darkness will fall, and we may wrestle with serious problems and disappointments. When everything is going wrong and nothing we do makes anything better, we may feel helpless, impotent or even incompetent. Our feelings of worth may be damaged, and we may conclude that because we can’t fix things, we’re failures. However, failure isn’t determined by what goes wrong in our lives. Things are going to go wrong, mistakes will happen, plans will fail, and there may be times when we may end up with nothing. Our personal worth is not a reflection of what happens to us, but how we handle what comes and continue to move forward. We can’t predict the future and unexpected developments may stop us for a time. But we are strong and intelligent, and even if every single plan collapses, and every turn we can see is blocked, we will find our way. We can stand still and process everything that’s happened, and then take the time we need to think about how we want to proceed. There will always be a way forward, and every answer we need will be there. We are powerful and wise, and nothing can hold us down indefinitely. We can be courageous and trust ourselves. We know what we want and we know where we want to go. Nothing is permanent and we can adjust our plans and start again. Life is all about learning, and unexpected changes bring lessons in stamina and strength. Every success we desire is still possible, and each step we take moves us closer to the destinations we desire.

Our lives are defined by our actions and choices. Some people are born to wealth and privilege, some to a more modest life, and some to poverty and hardship. No matter how we come into the world, the type of life we lead is our responsibility. Each choice we make defines the person we become. If we’re compassionate and wise, and choose well, our lives will reflect honesty and nobility. There is greatness in all of us, and when we express it through our actions every day, the whole world is blessed.

Some people are critical, and judge those around them by standards they set themselves. Their opinions belong to them and have no impact on the choices we make. Our lives are ours to design, and we can do anything we like. Our self-worth is reflected in everything we do. We are unique and valuable, and we can be confident moving forward on the roads we choose. Every option is open to us, and we can have the lives we dream about.

Today if nothing is going right, and you feel hopeless and alone, remember how wise and powerful you are. There isn’t anything strong enough to hold you in place forever. Look around at all the options possible, and take a step forward. Be confident. Every success is possible and you will reach them. You are worth more than you can imagine and we’re all blessed because you are here.

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Down and Out

24 Oct

Life is filled with all kinds of experiences. Some days are great and everything moves along well, but other times things go wrong, sometimes terribly wrong. We may experience serious loss, intense grief, and fierce disappointments. There may be moments we feel overwhelmed by sorrow or sadness, and it’s hard to look ahead. Things happen and when something happens that takes our breath away, it can be hard to manage. However, each moment that passes, as we continue on, we gain more strength and confidence. The world isn’t going to end just yet. Time will help us process whatever changes have occurred, and we will recover. Just how much time that takes depends on many factors. We don’t have to push faster than we’re comfortable and if we need time away, we can take it. Our lives are valuable and we are a blessing to the world around us. We can sit things out for a while and when we feel stronger, can step back up and move forward with renewed confidence and courage. When we break a bone it’s painful and it takes time to heal. But after the healing is complete, the bone will be stronger and more resilient than it was before we broke it. The same is true of our spirits. We may go through terrible trials and have to face very hard challenges. They may test our mettle and push us to the limits of what we think we can handle. But in the end, after we’ve survived everything, we will be stronger and more secure than we were before everything happened. We can trust ourselves to face anything and prevail. We are powerful and nothing is strong enough to hold us down indefinitely. No matter what happens we can continue forward and find success.

We all want lives filled with sunshine and roses, but that’s not how it works. Bad things are going to happen and we are going to be tested. It’s the nature of life. Unexpected developments may knock us off course and at first, we may fall down under their weight. Being down will give us a moment to rest and adjust, and when we’re ready we can rise and begin again. Nothing can overcome us. We will always have everything we need to move forward.

Everyone has their ideas about how things should go, and when we’re suffering, we may get lots of advice and direction for getting through it. We can take any advice we like and follow any prompting we think might help, but the way forward is our decision. If we need help, we can find it. Every answer will always be there for us, and with patience and determination we will find them and be able to continue ahead with confidence and faith.

Today if you’re overwhelmed with despair over something that’s happened, give yourself time to think and process everything that’s occurred. You are wise and capable, and will find the next steps forward. There isn’t anything you can’t manage. You are amazing and strong, and every success is there for you. Deep breath. Success is still possible and you will reach it.

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Stand Still

22 Oct

There are all kinds of people in the world. Many of them are nice, and we make a lot of friends and acquaintances as we go through our lives. Most people try to do their best and are helpful to those around them, but some have an agenda that doesn’t include being kind to others. If we come in contact with someone who is mean or rude, who despitefully uses us to get something they want, it will be difficult and unpleasant. We may try to navigate the situation with grace but we don’t have to stand still and let someone abuse us. We’re in control of our lives and if we’re in a situation that is uncomfortable, we can step away. We never have to remain anywhere we don’t want to be. No matter who we are, what we do, where we live, or what our roles are, we are important and deserve respect. If someone around us isn’t honoring that respect, we don’t need to stand still and endure it. Walking away doesn’t mean we’re weak or can’t handle conflict. It means we value our worth and will protect it. We are responsible for ourselves and know what we need and where we want to go. Being proactive when problems occur and doing what is necessary to ensure we manage the best way possible, will move us forward and help us reach our goals. There isn’t anyone else like us in all of creation. We are unique and have gifts to offer nobody else possesses. We can ensure the connections we build take us where we want to go and provide positive influences that help us move ahead. Every goal is possible and we have everything we need to manage whatever comes and find success.

Some people are very strong willed and internally focused. They have great confidence in their decisions and choices, and want others to follow along. We may certainly go along with anything or anyone we choose, but we need never sacrifice our own initiative and creativity. Nobody knows everything and we can offer our ideas and suggestions to those around us. We are wise and capable, and can find the road to any destination we desire. Others may choose their own roads, and we may choose ours. All the answers we need to reach success are always available to us, and we will find them.

When we’re around a powerful person who dominates the situation, if we don’t agree we can speak up. Power doesn’t always equate to success. Being loud and forceful doesn’t mean we have all the answers. If our choices are being constrained and held back because someone else wants us to do things their way, we may decide to step out on our own. Our viewpoint is important and if we can’t express it where we are, we can move. Our lives belong to us and we can do anything we want. We can have the lives we dream about and reach every goal we desire.

Today if someone is telling you how to live your life and you want something different, step away and begin again. You know where you want to go and have everything you need to get there. Trust yourself and move forward. Nothing is out of reach and you can make all your dreams come true. Be confident. You’re amazing and we’re all blessed because you are here.

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Crap Happens

15 Oct

Nothing is permanent in life. No matter what’s happening or what we’re going through today, it’s guaranteed to change. We go through good times, bad times, upheavals, and placid moments, and each day brings us something new. Everything is continually moving forward toward something else. That’s a great blessing when we’re going through difficult periods or facing a terrible crisis, but when things are going well, we may wish everything would stay the same and time would stand still. However, holding our lives in stasis is never an option. We can’t read the future and it’s impossible to prepare for something we can’t predict. When something terrible happens or our lives turn in ways that bring disharmony and distress, how we react will often determine how well we manage the problem. If we jump to anger or hysteria, it will be harder to concentrate on the issue and fully understand what’s happening and what we should do. We will all face difficult days and unfortunate challenges. When they are extreme, we may feel overwhelmed and completely lost, but in fact, there isn’t anything we can’t manage and manage well. If we keep our heads when disaster strikes, we have a better chance of finding the answers we need. Nothing can be gained by screaming and kicking, or refusing to look at what we feel is intolerable or unacceptable. Crap happens and sometimes it happens to us. When everything turns and we’re in the dark and feel buried alive by trouble, we can be still and allow ourselves time to think and process what’s going on. Nothing will come that we can’t handle. We are stronger and more courageous than we think we are, and in our darkest moments, can find the way ahead. We can trust ourselves to be wise and careful, and step forward with confidence. Trouble may come, problems may confound us, but we will prevail.

If we like routine, we may try to set our lives up in ways that prevent too much change from entering the picture. That might work in some ways but we aren’t in control of anything but our own decisions and behaviors. Everything else is out of our hands. Others may make choices that impact us, our situations may change instantaneously without warning, and we may end up somewhere we never planned to go. With patience and faith, we can process any changes that come, and continue forward with determination and certainty.

When we’ve been struggling with a problem for a while and it feels like nothing is changing, we may begin to believe we will be stuck forever. But even when we don’t notice, change is happening. Each step we take moves us closer to where we want to be. There may be many steps necessary before we’re in the clear, but as we press forward, success is assured. We are powerful and wise, and will always find our way forward.

Today if you’re in a terrible situation, and you’re struggling to find your way out, remember how many times you’ve already prevailed. Continue to press forward and all the answers will come. You are amazing and strong, and nothing can keep you from success. Be confident. Every blessing is waiting for you, and you will win.

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