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Tangled Up and Confused

3 Jan

People are complex. They may willingly share their lives with us but still keep some things to themselves. Even people we know well may hold back and act in ways they think we’ll accept that may not be their true character. It’s possible to get involved with someone and see them entirely differently than they really are. If they say all the right things, flatter us, or in other ways ingratiate themselves to us, we may not be aware of what’s really going on. If someone says they love us but then don’t show up when we’re scheduled to meet, we may be confused and demand an answer. If they want us to stay connected to them, they may say whatever it takes to hold us there despite our disappointment. If this continues, and they let us down again and again, we may find ourselves tangled up in a relationship that sounds great, but doesn’t make any sense. Words are powerful, and if someone wants to, they may try to hold us close despite what they’re doing by continuing to say the things we most want to hear. Everyone wants to be loved. It’s incredibly rewarding and satisfying to know that someone really loves us. When that happens, we feel great and fulfilled, but sometimes the situation isn’t what we imagine and we may get hurt. We never have to stay in any relationship that isn’t working or makes us feel bad. We deserve complete happiness, and no matter what someone says, what they do is who they really are. By stepping back and looking at everything clearly and objectively, our vision will clear and we will know how we want to proceed. We are in complete control of our lives and can change anything at any time. We know what we want, and with focus and determination, we will have it.

It’s good to have friendships with those around us. Many people will come in and out of our lives, and some will be friends, and others will be passing acquaintances. Real friendship and close connections require time and effort. There’s no such thing as a part time friend – we’re either there or we aren’t. If someone we thought was a friend betrays us or lets us down, we can re-evaluate the relationship and make any changes we desire. We are the most important people in our lives, and by keeping our eyes open, and seeing things as they really are, we will find the happiness we seek.

Most people are good and want to choose the right as they move forward. Complicating our lives with lies, fictitious tales, misdirection or other types of manipulation will never make us happy. We can do anything we like, and if we want to create havoc, distrust and disharmony, we can, and we may fool those around us for a time. But eventually truth always rises and if we’ve been dishonest or deceitful, we may be left standing alone. There is greatness in us all. By choosing the best roads ahead, and being honest in all our interactions, we can have the life we want the most.

Today if you’re tangled up in a relationship that’s confusing and doesn’t make any sense, step back and see everything clearly. You deserve the very best of everything and complete happiness. Change what isn’t working and step forward in a new direction. You are amazing and more powerful than you imagine. Trust yourself and be confident. Every happiness is there for you. Move ahead and claim it.

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Counterfeiting

23 Mar

In this day of information overload, virtually everywhere we go we are bombarded with advertisements with pretty pictures telling us how we should live our lives, what we should do and how we should look. They are filled with scenes of happy people loving life, the suggestion being if we do what they say, we’ll be happy too. However, all those pictures are just actors playing a role. Doing what others think is best might bring us happiness, or it might not. We can play any role we like, pretend we’re something we aren’t, and dress up any situation to appear different than it really is. Counterfeit money looks real from a distance. By simply making Xerox copies of bills, we could fool anyone if they were far enough away. But upon closer inspection it will be obvious that the paper isn’t right, the ink is all wrong and it’s completely fake. If we haven’t yet achieved the level of success in our jobs we desire, or made all the money we think we deserve, or if we’re not as informed as we want others to believe, we may use counterfeit measures to convince them. We can dress up, act out, and manipulate others until we’re sure we’ve convinced them of whatever it is we want them to believe. We might fool them for a while, but just like getting a closer look at counterfeit bills, eventually our true selves will emerge and the truth will rise. It’s impossible to keep up false appearances forever. Instead of pretending, we can work to gain the attributes we desire. By living openly and honestly, we will gain the trust of those around us and make good, strong connections. Nobody is perfect and we all have things we want to change. We can show our true selves and be confident in who we are, and where we stand. Every success is possible, and with determination and focus, nothing can keep us from the goal.

Sometimes it can seem others have it easier than we do. They seem to get what they want and don’t struggle. We may think they have no idea how hard life can be, but we may be way off base. There is no way to know the personal dealings of anyone’s life unless they share the details with us. There may be hidden sorrow and disappointments we cannot see from the outside. Nobody gets a perfect life filled with rainbows and butterflies. We all face challenges and trials, and roads filled with rocks and detours. By keeping our eyes focused on our own journey and not comparing ourselves to others, we will ensure our success and reach every destination.

Many people prefer everyone to be on the same page, doing the same things, and agreeing as a group. Peer pressure is real and we may be asked to conform to something we don’t want. We can do anything we like, but we all have specific gifts to offer that nobody else can give. We can choose what works best for us and take our own path, no matter what others are doing. We have so much to offer, and by being true to who we really are, we can bring great light and blessing to the world.

Today if you’ve been pretending or following someone else’s path, remember you are important and have your own gifts to give. Be yourself and choose the road that takes you to the goals you desire most. There is greatness in you and you can set an amazing example for us all. Be strong and confident, and step forward focused on your own journey. Success is waiting and nothing can keep you from it.

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Clearing It Away

16 Nov

Our lives are busy and there is often a lot that needs our attention. We have relationships to nurture, jobs that need our time, chores to take care of, people to consider, and the list goes on and on. Every experience we have teaches us something, and they may also leave us with unfinished business. Unresolved issues will linger and hang onto us until we face them, and do what is needed to take care of them. We can try to avoid thinking about them but like static electricity, they cling to us and continually remind us they are there. There may be unresolved feelings from a former relationship, or conversations we need to have in an unsettled situation. Whatever the issue, carrying it around will never bring us freedom or peace. Until we clear it away, we may feel burdened and get stuck unable to move ahead. It’s not easy to open painful doors and look inside, but the only way to let go of whatever is holding us down is to bring it all out in the open and address every unfinished aspect. We have everything we need to face anything we must, and already possess all the courage and wisdom necessary to find our way through. By being completely honest with ourselves and those around us, and taking the time to work through any issue, we will find great release and satisfaction. All the answers we need will be there for us, and we will find the road ahead. Success is waiting, and by looking at everything clearly, and stepping forward with confidence, we will reach it.

There is an old saying, “Out of sight, out of mind.” That works with some things but simply looking away from trouble will never fix it. Hiding from something we don’t want to face changes nothing. No matter how long we look away and pretend things are different than they are, the problem we’re avoiding will wait until we turn back around. There is no need to run from trouble. We have all the courage and wisdom necessary to solve whatever comes. By trusting ourselves, and taking control, we can solve any complication and find the road ahead.

We may face an issue that is so complex and difficult we struggle to get through. Everyone has different experiences and chances are someone around us will have information and ideas that will assist us in finding the answers we need. By reaching out to others, and being open about what’s happening, we can get the help needed, and reach success. Nothing can hold us in place, and we will prevail.

Today if you’ve been holding onto unresolved feelings and conflict, stop and look at everything openly and objectively. Let go of any unfinished business and clear away any unsettled issues. Close the books on the past, and start again. You are amazing and capable, and bring great light to the world. Trust yourself and be confident. There is great success just ahead, and nothing will keep you from it.

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What We Know

27 Aug

People continually come into our lives. We meet them in passing, from others we know, as business associates, or just by saying hello. There are billions of them on the earth and no matter where we go, or what we’re doing, chances are they’ll be around us. As we develop personal bonds and relationships, we get to know them on a deeper level. We start to understand how they think and begin to expect how they’ll react to certain situations. But we can never know everything about anyone and sometimes things happen that make us see them in a different light. We may find they have a hidden volatile side, or a raging temper if they’re crossed, and we can step back a bit to see them more clearly. If they’re very important to us or we have strong feelings for them, if we see behaviors that are destructive or demeaning, we may ignore them and pretend they don’t exist. Knowing something doesn’t always mean we’ll acknowledge it openly. As we look the other way, we may be able to continue our relationship with them for a while, but eventually everything will be exposed and we’ll have to decide how we want to proceed. By facing the situation clearly and accepting the way things really are, we’ll be able to choose the best road forward. We’re all responsible for our own lives, and we can only solve our own problems. If our relationship is negatively impacted by bad behavior, and the other party is unwilling or unable to change, what happens next is up to us. We deserve happy, fulfilling lives. We can make choices that will move us forward toward the goals we want the most, and create the lives we desire. Nothing can hold us in place. We are in control of our lives and by choosing well, can find great happiness and peace.

Nobody knows everything about everything. It’s possible to find ourselves in difficult and complex situations because of decisions made by others that have nothing to do with us. If we’re suddenly somewhere we don’t want to be and didn’t plan on going, we can stop and change direction. We’re not inexorably controlled by anything. We can turn around and step away from any situation that isn’t working for us. We know what we want, and have everything we need to get it.

People sometimes hide personality traits from others. If they’re selfish, they may pretend to be kind and giving. If they’re intense and angry, they may pretend to be easygoing and polite. It’s possible to fool others for a time, but nobody can keep up pretenses forever. When we’re getting to know someone new, if we take our time getting close to them, we’ll have the chance to see them as they really are. Once we can see them clearly, we can decide how we want to proceed. Our happiness is important and valuable. We can keep our eyes open and see everything objectively, and create the connections we want the most.

Today if you’re entangled in a relationship that isn’t working, remember your happiness is important. You deserve the very best of everything and never have to stay in any situation that’s uncomfortable or difficult. Decide what you want the most, and then begin moving toward the goal. Every happiness is there for you, and you will have it.

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Meaning It

31 May

We can tell people all kinds of things about ourselves, use any positive adjective we like to describe us and create any image we desire. We can say anything but who we are is reflected not in what we say, but in what we do. Words are cheap and easily manipulated to express ideas that may or may not be true, but actions show our real character and display to the world what is real. If we’re honest about ourselves, our actions will reflect what we’ve expressed. If not, another reality will show itself. There is no way to gain the trust of others if we’re insincere or untruthful. If we mean what we say and follow through on our promises, people will learn we are trustworthy and that they can rely on us to keep our word. We don’t have to agree with everyone or do everything that’s requested. If we don’t want to do something, we can say so and move on. But if we say we’ll be there, and then don’t show, nothing else we’ve said will matter. Once those around us lose faith and trust in us, it will be hard to re-establish. It takes a lot of time to overcome personal disappointments when they involve our integrity and honesty. If we’ve been untruthful in the past or dropped the ball when we said we’d take care of it, there’s no reason to believe we’ll handle things any differently in the future. We can choose to be noble and valiant, and always keep our word. We can hold fast to the values we cherish and choose to be the best we can be. Our lives are a reflection of our actions. Every decision takes us somewhere. We can choose wisely to ensure we reach the destinations we desire most.

When we’re in an uncomfortable situation and want to escape, it’s easy to lie to get away from the issue. We can make up a story that will enable us to step back, or pretend we’re not involved and just walk away. Even if nobody ever finds out about the dishonesty, it will mar our character going forward. Like a chink in the armor, the surface will never be smooth again. We will always know we let our principles slide and it may affect our confidence going forward. Nothing is worth endangering our future success. Even in times of duress, we can choose well, and hold fast to what is right.

Everyone forgets things from time to time. If we’ve agreed to participate in something we later decide we don’t want, we can simply pretend we forgot we were committed and let it go. That may work and we may get out of our responsibility and move on. However, the stain of the lie will remain with us. It’s far better to simply be honest and decline our involvement before its expected. We may be uncomfortable for a moment, but our integrity will remain strong and we will walk forward knowing we did our best.

Today if you’re tempted to lie to get out of something you don’t want to do, remember your honesty and integrity are priceless and worth protecting. Tell the truth and clear the air. You are in control of your life and can make excellent choices. Choose well, and stand tall. Every success is there for you and with determination and honesty, you will reach it.

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