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Carrying It With Us

27 Jan

We all want an easy life filled with happiness, comfort and fun. It would be wonderful if everyday brought something good to us, and we never had to worry or stress about anything. It’s good to dream about, but that isn’t reality. Life is filled with all kinds of experiences, and we never know what will happen next. We may face a serious time filled with trouble and sorrow. Pain is a natural part of life, and will likely come and go many times as we navigate ahead. Anything can happen, and if we’re surprised by something difficult and troubling, we may feel overcome and lost. Nobody wants to suffer but if we must walk through the fire of pain or loss, we have everything we need to survive. The pain may be intense while we’re going through it, but nothing can last forever, and in time, things will improve. After the situation is behind us, how we manage moving forward is up to us. We can hold onto the disappointment, take it with us, and allow it to color our lives indefinitely. If we do, every choice we make moving forward may be impacted by what’s happened in the past. There is no way to go back and change anything, but we don’t have to let painful memories influence our next steps and prevent us from finding happiness in the future. Letting go of sorrow and grief doesn’t mean we won’t remember where we’ve been. We will always carry every experience forward with us, but they don’t have to control our next moves. We deserve to be happy and can make choices that enrich us and take us where we most want to go. Our lives are important and we can make them any way we like. We can set our sorrows down, and move forward with confidence that we can succeed.

Painful experiences may take time to overcome. If we’ve been deeply hurt by someone or something, we may need to step back for a while until we know how we want to proceed. There is no rush, and we can take the time we need. Nothing is insurmountable, and even when we feel overwhelmed, can trust that we’ll find our way through. We are stronger than we think we are, and nothing can hold us down forever. We will find our footing again, we will know what to do, and be able to stand and walk forward. No matter what’s happened, our dreams are still there for us. We’ll find the answers we need, and prevail.

When we’re going through a difficult time, it may seem nobody could possibly understand what’s happening to us. We’re all individuals and feel things in unique ways specific to our own experiences and understanding. But we never have to suffer alone. There will always be someone willing to help and offer encouragement. We can reach out and get the help we need. Trouble comes, and when it does, we need not worry. We are wise and capable, and will always find the way forward.

Today if you’re going through something difficult and feel overwhelmed, remember how many times you’ve prevailed in the past. You are intelligent and strong, and nothing can overcome you. Have faith and step forward. Your dreams are still there, and every success is possible. Be confident. You are amazing, and you will win.

Not Joining In

30 Nov

Although we try to associate with friends who respect us, and people we can trust, there are unfortunately times when we may find ourselves in the company of those who are neither respectful nor trustworthy. Perhaps they lie, manipulate, cheat, or do other things to hurt us and make us doubt our worth. It’s not easy to have interactions like those and if we do, we may be intensely angry or feel emotionally destroyed. We may struggle with unbelief, especially if we thought we were valued. But if those that hurt us don’t really care, when we learn the truth, we can be devastated and lost. “How could we be so blind?” we may ask. We wonder how we could have missed the signs that must have been there. Sadly, people who don’t really care may be so adept at hiding their true nature, it may have been impossible to know the truth until it was too late. But no matter how long it takes, eventually the truth comes out. And when it does we may feel like fools, and have no idea what to do next.

There is an old saying, “If you can’t beat them, join them.” If we believe this, we might feel justified in taking revenge, and finding a way to hurt those who’ve hurt us as badly as we can. We may feel it’s fair to make them miserable and do everything possible to destroy them. It’s certainly one way to cope with the pain, but joining them in their hateful behavior will not help us. It seems like it will, but all it will do is add personal disappointment to the pain. It’ll be a “two fer.” We’ll get to suffer from their actions, and then feel worse from our own. And that isn’t in our best interest. It might make us feel better in the short run, but in the end it’ll just make things worse. If we’re already devastated, making things worse will never help.

Although those who have acted badly, who have hurt us on purpose, or who have manipulated us, certainly deserve retribution, we don’t have to compromise our ideals to make sure they get it. We must remember that our lives belong to us, and we are in control of our decisions. If we lower our standards and become as viscous as they are, we give control to them. If we react poorly instead of respond well, we will lose. And if we’ve been badly hurt, we’ve lost enough already. However, if we stay strong in our standards, and hold tight to our ethics, and instead reach for the noble path, we prevail. There is nothing that can diminish integrity and wisdom. There is nothing that can triumph over excellent judgment. It isn’t easy to hold fast to what is right when we’ve been wronged. It isn’t easy to look up when we’re hurt, but that is the only way to win. We don’t have to join in bad behavior to prove we are right. We can stand strong, choose virtue, and honor ourselves and our values. When we do that, we always win. Our personal respect stays intact and we overcome everything. We have the courage and the ability to choose well. We can handle anything that comes to us, and handle it with dignity and greatness.

Today if you’ve been hurt badly by someone you thought you could trust, remember who you are. You are good, and you will choose what is best. Stand strong for what you know is right, and be the very best you can be. Nothing can diminish you. Hold tight to the truth. You are so much better than this. Be brave, and make decisions that support the excellent person you are. Be confident. You are worth the best of everything.